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cripplecharacters · 15 days

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What are possible ways an autistic character can recover from a shutdown/meltdown. And how can other characters help them recover without possibly making it worse?

Meltdowns and shutdowns are a possible brain response to overload/overwhelm. That overload comes from not being able to handle stimuli, and that stimuli can be external (like sensory input) or internal (like with emotions), or a combination of both. They're kind of like a fight (meltdown) or freeze (shutdown) fear response.

How an autistic character recovers from a meltdown or shutdown can vary, because what sets people off is different, but also because the cause of the meltdown or shutdown also varies a lot.

For example, once I had a meltdown because there was a helicopter flying very close to my apartment for almost two hours. I was already tired, and the noise was loud and constant and completely out of my control. Ear defenders were not working well. To help me during and after my meltdown, my boyfriend hugged me (because I enjoy physical touch, and especially if it's 'solid' it calms me down, got my weighted blanket for me, and talked to me only when I seemed to respond well. Then he made sure I drank water and got some rest.

These things helped because they generally are already calming to me: pressure, solid physical touch, and affection. But someone who doesn't like physical touch won't have that help them recover.

Universally, though, a meltdown or a shutdown is draining and does not feel good. It can feel a bit relieving, because usually once it's done you feel like you have less tension, but having it doesn't actually feel good – it often feels like completely losing control, and that feels awful. Things that make self-regulation harder, like being tired or frustrated, will make a meltdown a bit more likely, but they also make it harder to recover from one.

Which means that what helps people recover has a couple different elements:

One, that they are no longer in the same situation or environment that caused the shutdown/meltdown, as much as possible. This can mean physically leaving the space, or that a triggering sound is gone, or that a stressor is no longer active. Generally this is part of creating an environment that feels safe, which can often means a space with as little external stimuli as possible at least for the time being. (So quiet, sometimes dark, without asking for a lot.)

Two, that they are doing something that helps them rest and recover. Sometimes this can be a nap, or drinking some water, or having some food, or lying or sitting down as comfortably as possible. If someone's helping, they can say "Hey, I'm here for you,"

Three, that they have or do something that makes them feel good. And just like for non-autistic people, this is the most variable factor of them all. A common one can be pressure, whether that's with a weighted blanket or vest, or with another person like a hug. Having a comfort item or fidget/stim item can help as well. For some people talking can help; for some talking might be difficult or impossible after a meltdown or shutdown.

Four, just straight up time. This can be an hour or three or a whole day. It really varies. Imagine spending a huge amount of mental energy in twenty minutes, on top of being extremely stressed out. Exhausting, right? You might want to take the rest of your day pretty easy to recover.

As to other characters helping, creating a low stimuli environment is a safe bet. A partner, family member, or friend would also likely know what makes your character feel better when they're stressed — a meltdown or shutdown is an extra stress response. They can generally help by staying calm and showing their support.

Hope this helps! :)

– mod sparrow

#autism representation #meltdowns & shutdowns #mod sparrow

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elonomhblog · 7 days

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emotional intelligence

emotional intelligence is your ability to perceive, understand, manage and use your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict. it involves a set of skills that help you recognise, understand, and influence the emotions of yourself and others.

the key components of emotional intelligence are self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills. emotional intelligence is considered a critical factor for success in life because it helps you navigate social complexities, lead and motivate others, and excel in your personal and professional life. some experts suggest that emotional intelligence can be learned and strengthened, while others believe it is an innate characteristic.

an example of emotional intelligence in action is the ability to approach situations in a healthy, curious manner rather than an angry frustrated one. instead of reprimanding when someone is not acting according to standard, you can ask the person if everything is okay and listen attentively, understanding that there can be external factors affecting the other's behaviour.

by managing your emotions, and remaining calm and supportive during similar conversations, you can create a safe space for the other person to open up, and solve issues without further drama or difficulties. after you learn the change in their behaviour, you can offer support and adjust your actions to accommodate for the other persons needs.

if everyone practised a little more emotional intelligence, the world would wholly be a better place.

but let me stress this: emotional intelligence does not in any way mean changing yourself so other people can operate better. it is not being nice, it is having empathy and awareness.

let's further explore the different aspects of emotional intelligence:

self-awareness: the ability to recognise your own emotions and how they affect your thoughts and behaviour.

self-regulation: being able to manage your emotions and adapt to challenging circumstances.

motivation: to harness emotions to stay focused on your personal goals.

empathy: the ability to understand the emotions of others and respond appropriately.

social skills: to be able to build and maintain good relationships through effective communication and conflict resolution.

i already touched on misunderstanding emotional intelligence as simply being nice, but there are several common mistakes that can hinder emotional intelligence.

high emotional intelligence can sometimes be used manipulatively, influencing others without considering their best interests. this is not right! while manipulation may yield immediate results, it can have long-term negative consequences. it creates a toxic environment, hinders genuine connection and stifles growth. not to mention that depending on the context, manipulative behaviour can have legal consequences and lead to social ostracism.

emotional intelligence requires openness and vulnerability, and being too guarded can prevent the development of meaningful relationships. being guarded limits self-awareness, which is a key component of emotional intelligence. it does this by not allowing you to fully acknowledge or understand your own emotions.

to end on a more positive note, here is how you can build stronger emotional intelligence:

practice active listening: pay attention to what others are saying without interrupting. listen to understand, not just to respond.

emotional awareness: acknowledge your emotions, especially the uncomfortable ones. accept them as a normal part of life and learn from them.

identify emotions within others: pay attention to body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions to better understand how others are feeling.

understand your stressors: know what triggers your stress and build strategies to manage it. this can help you to remain calm and clear-headed in challenging situations.

healthily channel your emotions: find constructive outlets for your emotions, such as exercise, meditation, or creative activities. engaging in creative tasks allows for contemplation, giving you the space to reassess problems in your life and make plans.

develop empathy: try to see things from others' perspectives. empathy builds connection and trust.

improve social skills: work on communication, conflict resolution and cooperation. these skills are vital for building strong relationships.

self-regulation: learn to control impulsive feelings and behaviours. pause and think before acting. self-regulation leads to better decision-making and letting you avoid impulsive reactions that you might regret later. it enables you to handle pressures and challenges effectively.

self-reflection: regularly reflect on your behaviour and emotions. ask yourself why you do the things you do and how you can improve.

seek feedback. be open to constructive criticism and use it as a means to grow. ask trusted friends or colleagues for their honest opinions about your behaviour.

remember that emotional intelligence is not fixed; it can be developed and enhanced over time with practice and commitment. by focusing on these areas of improvement, you can increase your emotional intelligence, improving your interactions and relationships in all areas of life.

i hope today's post was helpful! ❤️ nene

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grison-in-space · 2 months

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Is it fundamentally unethical for people to eat publicly indoors, since they can't wear a mask while doing so and no amount of ventilation will prevent them from expelling saliva droplets while doing so?

No, particularly not if they are in a space that is designated for that purpose so that people can plan accordingly with respect to their own risk levels.

My orientation is harm reduction, not virtue ethics. My lens assumes that individual people are modulating their behavior according to their overall circumstances and ability, and that the best way to change behavior is to emphasize evidence based structural practices that make safer behavior easier. These are some of the central insights that we learned from activists during our last major plague.

Shaming people tends to result in all or nothing behaviors rather than an overall reduction in harm, just like increasing anxiety and fear generally in an environment does: fearful individuals may avoid danger by freezing and not engaging in a risky behavior as frequently... Or they may simply engage in a risky but rewarding behavior impulsively, when a potential opportunity seems to arise, and reduce the amount of time that they spend thinking about ways to reduce risk.

I want people, as much as possible, to think about risk as something that can be assessed fairly objectively and to think about their decisions as tradeoffs made subjectively based on individual context and values. And I want them to understand that different people have different trade offs to make. Metaphorically, fearful people freeze in place or bolt across roads without pausing; I want to teach people to look both ways before they cross. Is it ever ethical to cross a road? How many lanes of traffic? Are there lights? Can we put lights in?

Shaming people and blaming them for any suffering also dramatically increases the likelihood of those people experiencing trauma from an extended stress. If stress is a wound, trauma is like a scar: it persists as an understanding of the risks of the world that we can't unlearn, even when the immediate stress is past. The trouble is that we are social creatures, and our bodies weigh the value and strength of our social connections—how safe we feel within our networks—as dearly as they weigh the bread in our mouths, using the same scales to do so.

No human survives alone. Who would stand watch as we sleep in case of leopard? We are all reliant on the social connections and contacts we weave with one another. So when we find ourselves feeling that our fellows wouldn't protect us if we are in danger, we learn that our stressor is even riskier than we thought: we can't rely on our social networks to protect us if they think we deserved it. So we etch the fear into our brains with the vigilance of the human who can't rely on the group for protection and support.

Is it ethical to engage in behavior that might harm my neighbor? Which neighbor? Who can say?

You gotta stop the little Calvinist asshole in your head from doing your thinking for you. It's not about preventing transgression, it's about preventing harm—and harm is multifaceted, contextual and often conflicting. The best I can do is let everyone judge their risk for various things as accurately as they can.

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kitsune-oji · 6 months

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Mission Accomplished

Another fic I had in my notes and thought I'd repost! Can't remember what I called it the first time around so it got a new title

Mephisto & Regressed!Mc (they/you)

Word count: 1'699

Warnings/Tags: positive Age Regression, regressor Mc, involuntary regression in public spaces, fluff, Mephisto is a bit tsundere?, Diavolo & co know about Mc's regression

You yawned, trying to be discreet about it while you continued watching your teacher talk. Really, you should be paying attention but you found that to be harder with every moment passing.

If only you weren't so tired and so incredibly comfortable at RAD. By now, the school, no, academy had basically become a second home to you. But it was also filled with so many stressors.

Of course, the at the House of Lamentation you had to fight for time alone as well and the constant attention and fights from the brothers stressed you out but at least you knew them and got comfortable with them. Here, there were so many people you didn't really know, a good portion being demons who didn't particularly like you either, just for being human.

Then there was the need to cram information into your head lesson after lesson, group projects, tests, presentations-

It was really no wonder you sometimes couldn't keep yourself from regressing on campus. Fortunately, the brothers knew about your age regression and always kept an eye out for you. If you did end up going tiny, there was usually always someone there to take care of you, to excuse you from the lesson and take you elsewhere. Somewhere you could stay and play until you slipped out of your headspace again.

It was sort of embarrassing that there was a corner for you to play in Diavolo's Office but oh well, it was nice having them all support and care for you so much.

That was, usually. Right now, there was nobody around you for once. A rare occurrence but possible nonetheless.

It wasn't like you couldn't navigate and survive the RAD hallways on your own but when you felt yourself gently slipping into your headspace, a low simmering panic gripped you. Desperately, you tried to stay big, blinking rapidly and shaking your head but it was of no help.

It was one of those times when you couldn't control it at all. Had something triggered it? You didn't notice anything that could have but sometimes you don't understand why your brain reacts the way it does.

Anyway, you had to figure out what to do. There were lots of other students in the halls, you were undercover now, they couldn't know you're actually tiny. Your mission was to get somewhere safe without anyone finding out you're not big right now.

Alright, you nodded your head sharply only once, determined to succeed.

It was strange walking like this, so tall, your limbs feeling kind of lanky and clumsy in their movements. You tried to take control of them as best you could but a part of you was worried you looked weird in the way you walked. Did you look like a robot? Maybe, maybe not.

Your lips pursed but then you noticed and quickly tried to stop, pressing them together instead. Subtly, you looked around, seeing a door that wasn't like the others. It looked kind of similar to the one heading into Dia's office and with a spring in your step, you quickly walked over to it, happy to find it opening easily.

In one swift movement, you walked in confidently and closed the door, stopping in your tracks while looking at it. Mission accomplished!

Your facade fell like a heavy cloak from your shoulders, a big grin stretching your lips and a giggle as clear as the sound of bells ringing out. You did it! You really did it!

Euphoric, you turned around, just to see another wall in front of you. No, not a wall, a chest.

Slowly, your gaze wandered up to the face of the person standing in front of you. Tan skin, purple hair, looking a bit haughty... You've seen him a few times before. Mephio-hm mephispophe- no, whatever, Mephi.

He looked a bit scary standing so close and looking down at you in what you guessed was disapproval? Sometimes you guessed expressions wrong but you thought you were probably right this time.

Your hands clasped behind your back, you rocked on the palms of your feet, pressing them together just like your lips again. Should you say something?

"What are you doing in here? Do you know how rude it is to just barge in without even knocking?"

Ah, right. You didn't think anyone was in here but Lucifer did say knocking is important.

"'m sorry..", you mumbled, trying to rub your feet together. It proved a bit difficult with your shoes in the way.

Since you were looking to the side, you couldn't see the frown on Mephisto's face deepen. He was sure you were behaving strangely, the few times he had seen or even interacted with you, you hadn't behaved like a child but now..

"Never mind that now, what are you doing here?"

Mephisto sighed and relaxed slightly. There was no reason to stay mad at something he couldn't change right now. Rather, there were much more pressing matters, such as your behavior and sudden appearance in the RAD newspaper office. You should be glad he was the only one here right now.

"A mission!", you exclaimed much to the demon's surprise, "Gotta get away from people outside cuz they can't know I'm-"

Gasping, you clasped your hands in front of your mouth as your eyes widened. You had almost just told on yourself! The mission wasn't successful at all! He had seen you when you weren't acting big!

But why was that bad again? Mephisto didn't seem dangerous or angry or put off by you, so it should be ok, right?

While you were thinking, he watched your facial expressions change with your thoughts. You really had no filter when you were regressed, it seemed.

Yet Mephisto didn't know the reason for your strange behavior and only watched on in curiosity. The more he saw, the more he was sure that you acted like a child.

Unrestrained, honest, pure. The demon had to admit it was kind of cute, no matter how strange the situation was.

"Can't know what?", he asked after a while, eyes following your hands as they lowered and you fiddled with your fingers, unconsciously pulling at your skin.

Without thinking about it, Mephisto took your hands in his and stopped you from further pulling on your skin, his tone reprimanding when he told you to stop it before you accidently hurt yourself. But apparently he sounded too mean because the next thing he knew, your bottom lips started wobbling and tears gathered in your eyes as your shoulders started to shake.

Eyes wide, the demon let go of your hands and apologised, ushering you further into the room and to one of the couches, asking if he could touch you to soothe you. He had meant to maybe rub your back but instead you sobbed and threw your arms around him in response.

A bit overwhelmed, Mephisto shushed you and rubbed your back until you calmed down, handing you a tissue when you finally let go of him. Though it was surprising, he couldn't really say that he minded.

Was that how he found himself walking with you towards Lord Diavolo's office? You held his hand and walked funnily, making strange sounds the whole way there.

He had asked you if you wanted to go somewhere else, since he had no idea what to do with you right now and thought he heard wrongly at first.

"T' Dia!", you had said, throwing Mephisto off completely.

"You mean Lord Diavolo?"

"Yea, Dia!"

Your open palms flew through the air in your excitement. Since going to him meant play time, of course you wanted to go there, surely Mephi must know that, right?

But of course he didn't know, how could he? Still, Mephisto agreed to accompany you to the prince's office on school grounds.

Part of him was glad that class was currently in session and nobody but the two of them roamed the halls. Hell forbid someone saw him with the human exchange student, while they were acting strangely at that.

Though no matter what Mephisto thought, he started treating you as you were acting. Like a child.

There wasn't much thought behind it, it was almost instinctual in the way he made sure you didn't trip and held your hand without complaint. Perhaps this was the the effects of a curse? That was the only reasonable explanation he could come up with.

Until you arrived at Diavolo's office and you let go of his hand to run up to the future demon King with no warning. Instead of confusion however, Diavolo responded with laughter as he quickly stood up to catch you in his arms and spin you around to lessen the impact of your tackle hug.

To him, it was clear that you were regressed. After the many times he had looked after you, it was no surprise. But Mephisto only seemed more confused than before.

For now, Diavolo ignored his questions and set up the play mat and toys with a flick of his wrist. They flew from the cabinets and found their places neatly, only to be disturbed by your hands the moments Diavolo gently set you down.

Normally, he would have let you explain it yourself but Mephisto wouldn't leave until he understood what was happening and since he had already seen you like this anyway..

After the short but precise explanation Diavolo gave him, Mephisto looked back at you.

He watched the way you looked entertained by stacking smooth wooden blocks on top of each other, trying to make the tallest tower but failing again and again. Sometimes, you even destroyed it yourself, sounds of delight leaving you as you clapped your hands.

Not a curse then, just the wonders of the human brain.

Thinking about it, he wouldn't mind taking care of you again, though vehemently denied it when Diavolo asked. Judging by his laugh however, Mephisto hadn't fooled him at all.

Still, if you came to the Rad newspaper club again while in this state of mind, Mephisto would be sure to help you out.

Just because Diavolo would want him to, of course- !

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nonbinarydeity · 2 years

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I UNDERSTAND LIVING IN THE END + IM PERMANENTLY IN THAT STATE NOW!!!!

Omg so let me explain this in simple terms for everyone, because this is ALL YOU NEED to do to manifest.

AS USUAL, TAKE WHAT RESONATES AND LEAVE THE REST!!!

Living in the end/ feeling the wish fulfilled is a very simple and easy thing to do, it is our natural state and let me explain how I did it, because I did it backwards from what everyone else says lmao.

So I said recently that the way to manifest is to change your thoughts to change your feelings to change your state/ assumptions, and your life will change too! But I did those steps out of order, and instead I called up a feeling, which AUTOMATICALLY changed my thoughts, and now I'm living in the end naturally because I can't imagine going back to thinking the way I used to.

Basically, I started by calling up feelings of calmness, and went to joy and then self love. It took me a total of THREE DAYS to get to the point of the wish fulfilled, which is all you need to rewire your brain and body to think differently! This is a very natural process if you change your feelings FIRST, because your feelings are what your body naturally sends to your brain, and your brain and body are so connected that it feels like something good is happening to you when you feel good.

Another tip I have is to let go of the outside world and just focus on yourself for a moment. Close your eyes and affirm that the outside reality and its stressors don't exist, and that in your mind you are safe. This will create a safe space for you to imagine whatever you desire, which WILL create your reality if you pair it with those feelings!!

This is how I got into the wish fulfilled automatically, without any real effort besides just noticing the good feelings in my body and mind!!

#law of assumption #master manifestor #law of attraction #manifestation #living in the end #manifest #manifesting #self concept affirmations #loa #loassumption

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nikolai-alexi · 2 months

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This just popped into my head but I feel like a marauders band AU, but with anonymous bands, would be super cool. Like yall know how Sleep Token is just I, II, III, and IV? And they wear masks? It’d be fun to do something like that with the marauders, the valkyries, and the skittles. It’d give them the opportunity to be super vulnerable with their music in a way being a regular band wouldn’t.

Regulus and Sirius would be free to express how badly the abuse growing up was without airing their dirty laundry.

James could actually say what he was thinking without worry about someone else’s feelings.

Barty could write about the toll of growing up neglected and ignored and find something healthier to cope with his anger without having to worry about people not taking his ‘bad boy’ act seriously.

Remus (assuming it’s a muggle au) would have a space to talk about anything and everything he wanted without chronic illness being the first, and only, thing people see about him.

Evan could write about his own internalised feelings and have an outlet to actually understand what and why he feels certain ways instead of repressing it.

Peter would be able to talk about his insecurities, feeling inferior to his friends, and learning how to cope with stressors instead of running away from them.

Pandora would have a safe space where people couldn’t marginalise her because she’s “too weird” or “doesn’t fit in”.

Dorcas could use her music to work through her internalised homophobia about herself and unlearn the things she was taught.

Marlene would have a conductive place to release her anger at things in her life without hurting the people around her lashing out.

Lily could have somewhere to put all the issues and heartbreak with her sister and know that there’s other people who know and understand her pain.

Mary would have an opportunity to put people in her shoes and force people to hear her and what she’s saying instead of them dismissing her because she’s a woman of colour.

Idk I just started thinking about how cool an anonymous band AU would be. Like they all know each other but none of them know who the people they’re in a band with or the public know who they are. It’d be pretty cool and it’d probably open a lot of doors for lots of angst, bonding, and ✨therapy✨

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requiemsystem · 4 months

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hi ! did vs osbb 1a & 1b anon here , that was so helpful !! my problem was cause we didnt have amnesia between alters but we're definitely did !! thank you :3 it was really stressing our system out ,, i have another question if its not too much to ask ;

can an introject/fictive form without a current extrenal stressful/traumatic situation ?

we r possibly in our best place safe stability wise / mental health wise with being in a safe space physically yet we split another introject last night while watching stuff about our special interest

alters always have a reason for splitting and cannot split for no reason, introject or not. this reason doesnt have to be a major stressor, though, and can be a more minor life stressor. introjects are no different than any other alter in this regard. if you are sure there was no stressor to cause a split, they could be a former fragment that latched onto the character for an identity. ive heard that can happen - grey

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b1acksh33p999 · 2 months

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April horoscopes:

🔥Aries - This month is going to start off strong and energetic for Aries! Since the last full moon, you’ve especially felt the anticipation leading to a huge shift in your life. Many Aries have taken control over their lives and redefined their role of independence drastically in the last year; yet there is still one major shift left. On April 8th, at exactly 2:18 pm we will have a total solar eclipse [this being the only solar eclipse for the next 20 years that can be seen in North America] and most cardinal signs will be drastically affected in the areas of love, finances, and personal values. The events of the day will cause a forced reflection on temper and anger management skills. My advice to you this month is to ensure you practice what you preach and think before you speak. Practicing these tools while navigating the energy of the day will help ensure you’re the most equipped for success. After the eclipse, the energy is best suited for hard work and consistency on previous set goals, while balancing teamwork and personal independence. Leadership without compassion isn’t moving forward, it’s simply an aged reflection of your past. It’s out with the old and in with the new!

⛰️Taurus - This month might leave Tauruses feeling vulnerable in the days leading up to the solar eclipse! With the hard aspect between the transit north node in Aries and Jupiter in Taurus, this implies that Tauruses could be caught up in family matters and reflecting on the growth made by younger children in the family. For those Tauruses that are parents this could easily be your children; for those Tauruses without children this could be cousins, or nieces/ nephews, children at work, etc. The overall feeling being emotional vulnerability meets deep insightful reflection. Tauruses are feeling tired and can find themselves yearning for retirement more than normal. Keep an eye on finances and make sure you keep track to ensure you don’t have any surprise debts or forgotten bills. Getting ahead of this could easily save you money in fees around this time, it could be beneficial to keep a handle on online shopping, for this could end up affecting financial comfort or stability. My advice to you this month is not to overdo it, and make sure you allot enough time to have a healthy sleep schedule while doing your best to minimize stressors. By the full moon on April 23, the aspects seem favorable for a family outing, or getting together with friends or family. Any emotional conversations can easily be misunderstood until the end of mercury retrograde, but if it’s meant to be confronted then ensure you do your best to control tempers and speak calmly. This month can be very healing to your soul if you allow yourself to slow down and add in more joy and relaxation to your daily schedule; breaks in routine are favorable, especially if they lead to laughing or smiling!

🌬️Gemini - Gemini is going to get even more serious this month about getting what they want! With the harmonious aspects between the Sun, Mercury, Pluto, and the North node this shows that access to the specific directed energy of knowing what you want is easy for you to outline or define. However, those surrounding Geminis may seriously lack the ability to communicate exactly what it is that sets their soul on fire! As annoying as this may be for Geminis this month it’s important for you to help guide those around you to discover exactly what it is that they want out of life; ask questions, invoke monologues, and most importantly provide a safe space for those you want to help guide. By the end of the month, the moon will move into a conjunction with Pluto in sister air sign Aquarius which can easily help give Geminis a platform boost, whether it be online, or in person. My advice to you this month is to be extra observant to who you come across or feel guided to help, many of these individuals will hold characteristics that you have already mastered, or still struggle with. Sometimes the person who always gives the best advice is the one who needs to take it the most, no more self-doubt!

🌊Cancer - This month is going to make you feel like you’re forced to work extra hard for half of the recognition! This is mainly from the most favorable aspect for cancer being the trine to transit Mars/Saturn, which will add a layer of sleepiness or fantasy to your daily life. Avoid setting big goals this month as you may change your mind by the time May rolls around. My advice to you this month is to keep working towards previously set goals that will provide harmony, stability, and love; it could be beneficial for Cancers to avoid alcohol or partying this month because it will only increase chances of falling back into old patterns. After the eclipse on the 8th, and before the full moon on the 23rd will be the most productive time of the month for you so use that energetic boost wisely! If you play your cards right, you can finally receive that recognition and validation you’ve been yearning for from family and friends since this transformation started. Effective leadership and compromising in partnerships are what you should be aiming to balance this month for the most effective outcome. An opportunity for monumental change is coming soon, take it or leave it!

🔥Leo - Leo, this month is going to have you feeling more introverted than usual especially before the solar eclipse on April 8th (however if you have ANY cardinal signs in your intrapersonal planets, or ASC; go read for that sign after this to further clarify how that sign could be affecting your experience). With an itch for summer fun, but the reminder of adult responsibilities and bills, this could easily affect your perspective of “going out”, or socializing for a good portion of the month. With minor aspects in transit favorable to Leo this shows momentum forward and continuing to work on goals previously set; yet Leo isn’t a sign in the spotlight this month, so they are relatively low key with the social aspect or with how big the changes presenting are. On and after the full moon on April 23rd, pregnancy, pets, new property shifts, luxury big trips planned, getting a degree, going back to school, career shifts, or lottery wins are possible; it’s important to note that the change that will present must be a continuation to an already set personal trend. [example: if you’ve never won the lottery = don’t expect to win the lottery] Leo’s shift trends are an addition or expansion of assets so make sure you’re setting yourself up for the kind of future that allows you to shine as your most authentic self. The universe is in favor of Leos leading others by simply being their honest, quirky, responsible, and charismatic selves! Keep creating the beautiful life you’ve always wanted!

⛰️Virgo - This month is starting off with you caught up in the details over a personal injustice. Whether this be something in your life, or someone very close to you, either way it will seemingly take up most of your energy by stress or worry. With Lilith in conjunction with your transit Sun - this provides instances, and feelings sometimes viewed as negative or disarming to make you fight hard for what you deserve. As we approach the eclipse on the 8th this month, these instances will likely play out leaving the remainder of the month to sort out whatever work is required during the transition period. A move of residency is likely, and favorable during this month; especially if the move leads you to feeling empowered. My advice to you this month is to let go of whatever excuses you hold onto to avoid using your high intellect and strong desire to survive to get ahead of these changes and craft an outcome you’d be happy with. If you refuse to speak up for yourself or the ones you love, the harder life circumstances will have to be for you to finally learn that lesson. And don’t allow pessimism to take over control or you’ll never manage to clean up the messes made around you. You can’t give up, it’s time to claim your power back!

🌬️Libra - This month is going to add a level of seriousness and intensity for romantic relationships, partnerships, and coworkers while forcing a need for reevaluation to current plans or goals in place. With the astrological setup for Libra so favorable to the transit south node, this adds an under layer of karmic meaning behind everything being taken from you or sent your direction. In short - the universe is in favor of you adapting and learning from what you will experience this month; nothing happens without a reason. My advice to you this month is to try your best to put yourself into the mindset of giving back instead of preserving all that you have for yourself. If you continue to view your assets, energy, confidence, and money from a place of lack, that is all you will manifest. This month is going to shake up everyone around you, and challenge everything you currently know about your strengths and weaknesses. Get ready to learn exactly what you’re capable of!

🌊Scorpio - This month is going to have you feeling blessed and will validate that you have an incredible group of people supporting you in various ways. Most of this you knew going into the month, now you will continue to feel the rewards of your loyalty, trust, and love from your friends and family. Romantic relationships will deepen, and sex life will greatly benefit from the transit Aries impacting the co ruler to mars which is your sun sign. On the full moon this month on the 23rd - the moon will be in conjunction with your sun sign, with Jupiter and uranus in opposition to your sun sign. This can cause a switch in perspective that may lead you to feeling curious about taboo subjects, astrology, religions, or the occult. Personal, or partnership research is most favorable for Scorpios confidence when going into new territory. Scorpios sociability in April is expected to be balanced, and exciting. Get ready to leave your comfort zone!

🔥Sagittarius - This month is going to feel like more work than most, but the good news is there is a surprise or two in store for Sagittarius! With the main astrological setup harmonious to Sagittarius, and Pallas retrograding in conjunction to your natal Sun sign this is forcing you to take on more responsibilities in the changes you’ve made in your life. The process of this will expose your natural gifts that display when you actively try to balance practicing empathy for others and taking responsibility for yourself. This month is going to set up an opportunity for you to take on a new role entirely which will ultimately bring out the best in your ability to influence and guide others. My advice to you this month is to keep doing the work and be true to who you really are. The people in your life are watching you turn into a leader they would follow! Keep it up!

⛰️Capricorn - This month is gonna start out very busy which will only make you desire to travel even more than you’ve been! With the moon starting out in conjunction with your natal sun sign this will have many Capricorns dwelling on what they feel is limiting them from living the lifestyle their soul craves. Since it’s in a 7° Libra, relationships will be a critical factor this month and may need to be reevaluated and discussed in order to make the changes necessary for long term success and happiness. As we approach the solar eclipse, be careful with your temper for things like anxiety, heart rate, or blood pressure that may become an issue if the details are not addressed and sorted. A highlight for Capricorns comes on April 10th when the transit moon will meet with Jupiter and Uranus leading to possibility of windfall changes in terms of assets, money, luck, or investments. Some Capricorns may feel inspired to start planning an overseas trip, or a big move (across state lines). This is favored by the universe so long as you are remaining practical in terms of finances and responsibilities. With Pisces still in Saturn via transit - this is causing the universe to favor the fulfillment of fantasies so dream big, and find a way to make your dreams a reality!

🌬️Aquarius - This month you’re going to find yourself getting way more attention than you’re used to! Between work and home life, you haven’t found much energy to put back into your appearance, yet now you have more than enough energy to reemerge onto the social scene with an entirely new image. With your ruling planet still in Taurus and combined with Jupiter this shows that many Aquarians have put more effort into self care the last year or so - now it’s time to get out of those comfortable clothes and refine your personal fashion. At the very end of the month the moon will conjunct Pluto in Aquarius which can easily lead to a huge shift that gives you a platform that feels inspired by you. My advice to you this month is to prepare yourself for the spotlight and find a personal sense of style that fits who you are now. You’ve made some huge changes over the last 2 years Aquarius, it’s time to get a new wardrobe to fit who you feel you are now!

🌊Pisces - This month is going to make you put your money where your mouth is! With the transit mars, Saturn, and Neptune in conjunction with your natal Sun; and the heavy amount of mars energy in transit the universe is favorable for you to actively seek out social settings to provide your gift of healing those around you. Throughout the month you will notice an influx in people coming to you for advice, calling you to talk, or offering a social opportunity. Since the mission the universe is asking of you now is to provide your use of empathy and wisdom to guide others around you; this month I highly recommend opening up a bit more than normal in terms of socializing. This doesn’t mean letting people back in who have already hurt you; it means to put forth action on practicing the boundaries you’ve worked on the last year or so understanding completely. My advice to you is do not fear your power, instead use the skills you’ve learned from those who abused your gifts in the past; to navigate what you will and will not tolerate from the beginning. That way if you see any red flags with new people, you can call it early, and distance yourself from that negativity. A special highlight for Pisces falls between the eclipse on April 8th until the full moon on the 23rd, where Pisces intuitive and healing abilities will be more heightened than they’ve ever been. Heal those who will take the time to help heal you!

#astrology #aries #libra #cancer #capricorn #gemini #aquarius #leo #pisces #scorpio #taurus #virgo #sagittarius #eclipse #april

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thottyimagines · 7 months

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hello! My English is not very good but I really want to contact you

I really love, love, love your way of thinking about the Naruto universe, I really feel true joy and emotion for the realistic and charismatic sense of your writing, I feel that you are an author almost in existence for my taste :D

If you don't mind, I want to profess from time to time my eternal love for Shisui with my basic English. I love him and I really have affection for him, I would like to be a person for whom I can give him a space where he can be himself, cry, be happy, I think I would love him as a person for his being and have an interest in making me close to him and honestly know about him, give him my support and love him, comunicattion and love.

So, I don't know if you could do some Shisui headcanons with a girl who has an open and truly sincere crush on him, a little silly but very sincere, she's a little shy but brave enough to talk to him and ask about him, which in she truly wants to be patient and love him, support him, admire him, give him affection and have his affection in return, be close to him even if it's just as friends... even if she likes him as a man, she simply loves him and is in love with him. Also, if it's not too much, even if she loves him, what kind of girl do you think he would like?

I'm sorry if it's a bit strange, I wish I could send more things about him, because I love the little things you've written about him.

I'm sorry if I was a little strange with my love for him, I hope to send some other requirements but slowly to not overwhelm you! I have a lot to ask about him :)

thank you for dedicating yourself to writing

I can't tell you how many times I read this over, your message was so sweet! I'm so very glad that you enjoy my writing so much.

But to get to the Shisui of it all:

I don't think he'd know what to do with a girl who cared for him so openly and selflessly. At least, not at first. Shisui has a very clear, defined role in his life, and it is to use his insane capabilities to further the glory of Konoha and the Uchiha clan. He is a shinobi, a protector, a clown for the sake of his cousin, and a very dangerous man. What on earth has he done to earn this guileless affection?

He'd likely assume it's some sort of ploy for...a very long time. If you're tenacious enough, he could begin to entertain it. He could even begin to trust and rely on it, to an extent. I imagine it would become a reprieve of sorts, where he gets to just be Shisui, sans responsibility. It'd be very special to him, and something he'd keep intensely private, I imagine.

For what kind of girl Shisui would like ideally, I'm not so sure. He's so used to being the most capable one in the room and the onus of protection therefore falls on him; he might be a bit relieved if he had someone who could solidly take care of herself. Then again, being that capable means she's a shinobi in her own right and sent out on missions without him, which is a whole different stressor. But a civilian, while safe within the village walls, is completely helpless to the whims of the shinobi who are also within the village walls.

Ultimately, I think he'd like someone who can love and accept him and, at the least, keep up. She doesn't need to be at his level, but let him not be fretting after her in the dust. It'd be nice if he could learn to trust her and she could prove to have earned it, too.

#naruto #Naruto imagines #Naruto headcanons #shisui #shisui uchiha #praise

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schizoidvision · 4 months

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Why Do Schizoids Get Into Relationships with Emotionally Unavailable People?

The realm of human relationships often presents a unique set of challenges for individuals with schizoid personality dynamics. They are typically found gravitating towards connections with emotionally unavailable people. At first glance, this attraction might appear paradoxical, but a deeper examination reflects the complex interaction between the characteristics of schizoid personalities and the challenges of engaging in a close relationship with another person.

The Allure of Emotional Unavailability

Central to the schizoid personality is a profound preference for solitude and self-sufficiency. The emotional unavailability of another person thus provides a 'safe' environment, echoing the familiar territory of emotional detachment that schizoid individuals find comforting and manageable. Engaging with someone who is emotionally distant reflects the schizoid’s own approach to relationships – a mutual maintenance of distance, ensuring a space free from the intensity of emotional exchanges that might be daunting for someone with a schizoid personality.

Benefits: The Comfort of Controlled Closeness

These relationships offer a sense of controlled intimacy – a regulated closeness that fulfills the need for connection without breaching the boundaries of vulnerability. This dynamic permits the schizoid person to interact without the apprehension of being overwhelmed by the other’s emotional needs and expectations. The boundaries, though often unspoken, are mutually understood, serving as a safeguard against the complexities of deep emotional involvement.

Drawbacks: The Shadow of Superficiality

Yet, such relationships come with their limitations. The preference for emotional distance sacrifices the depth of genuine intimacy. This type of connection, built on the mutual avoidance of depth, can lead to feelings of unfulfillment and ponderings about what might be beyond these self-set limits. Moreover, this pattern can prolong the schizoid individual’s avoidance behaviors and reinforce their psychological barriers against the breadth of human emotions.

The Psychology of Parallel Paths

Psychologically, schizoid individuals and those who are emotionally unavailable may follow similar paths, though their underlying motivations differ. For schizoid individuals, avoiding deep emotional connections serves as a defense mechanism against the overwhelming nature of interpersonal dynamics, often stemming from a heightened sensitivity to such stressors and a natural tendency towards isolation. On the other hand, emotional unavailability in others may arise from various causes, including past attachment issues, current life situations, or unresolved emotional challenges.

Emotional Equilibrium and the Path Forward

For individuals with schizoid tendencies, forming relationships with emotionally unavailable people may represent a state of emotional balance. However, the question arises – is maintaining this balance the ultimate aim, or is it merely a comfortable interim? Growth often occurs at the fringes of our comfort zones. Acknowledging and addressing their own avoidance strategies may mark the beginning of a journey towards richer emotional engagements for those with schizoid tendencies.

In Summary...

Forming connections with emotionally unavailable partners comes with a number of benefits that suit the schizoid individual, yet it also carries the risk of stagnation. The decision to maintain this course or to alter it is deeply personal decision, reflecting the differences in attitude that schizoid individuals possess. This journey involves facing the defenses that have provided security, but are causing relationship restrictions. With insight and support, it is possible for schizoid individuals to discover a harmony that accommodates more rewarding connections while respecting their need for privacy and independence.

Video From My YouTube Channel: 5 Ways Schizoids Avoid Intimate Relationships

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kokomi-ask-blog · 5 months

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Stowaway

(Minerva is owned by @askrobouteguilliman40k and is in no way my character. This writing is strictly for fun and not an official piece for this character or my own.)

The pressure that had built up on Minerva had finally sent her over the edge. How could she live up to the expectations placed on her? It was all just a bit too much. While she wandered the halls of the ship, she overheard a couple of people talking about visiting the planet below and let out a huff. If she was going to be put in such a strenuous situation, she could just jump in the deep end.

Minerva gathered some things and snuck onto one of the valkyries waiting for the others. Surely this was fine. It wasn't until the team loaded onto the valkyrie did she suddenly have second thoughts. But it was too late. She decided to stay quiet until they made it down to the planet getting off after the others taking in the view of the agri-world. Lost in staring at the scenery, she bumped into a rather angry sister of battle.

Lyra was looking down at her with her hands on her hips and a scowl to accompany them. "And just WHAT do you believe you are doing down here?!"

Jumping at the sound of her voice, Minerva gave a nervous chuckle. Lyra mimicked her.

"This is no laughing matter, Minerva. Do your parents know you're here?"

"N-Not exactly... Besides, this planet is safe right?" she replied avoiding Lyra's burning stare.

"Honey, what if this wasn't "safe"? You could get hurt."

"I can handle myself!"

Lyra sighed and pinched the bridge of her nose. "Minerva, honey, sweety. I'm sure you are very capable of handling yourself, but if something happened to you, who do you think would have to tell them?"

"...You'll be fine," Minerva replied waving her hand as if Lyra was overreacting.

Lyra stared at her with a blank expression. "Guys, we have a princess in our midst today. Keep an eye on her. I'm not dying today at the hands of Lord Guilliman and Lady Yvraine..."

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The visit had actually gone well regardless of the additional crew member but Lyra had taken that time to defuse the issue without hovering stressors. When their check-in was complete, they returned to the ship only for Lyra to drag Minerva straight to the primarch's office, the young lady fussing the whole way.

With a knock, she let herself in and presented Guilliman with his daughter. "Lord Guilliman, I do believe this young lady is yours..."

The golden-haired man looked up from his work confused.

"Miss Minerva decided she was going to join my crew for today's "adventure." I figured you would like to know."

Minerva stared up at her in disbelief. "And I thought we had a bond somewhere today."

"...I don't wish to be ejected into space, dear."

#Little fan drabble #Not canon just a little fun writing I wanted to do #The Primarchs Daughter - Minerva

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I've been putting some thought into what various Aftons might be like when seriously panicked, and this is what I've got so far.

Evan:

We have the most canon information for Evan in this area

Fear makes Evan cry. In a panic, he'll cry, have difficulty breathing, pretty standard stuff.

It's not uncommon for him to lose coordination and kind of just fall over

Panics easily, but maintains awareness well enough even at his lowest points

Almost always a freeze response, even though he wants to run. Becomes as small and unnoticeable as possible, aside from occasionally trying to seek outside help. (Nobody ever helps.)

Cries nearly silently.

Shakes like a leaf when he's afraid.

Responds the best to comfort out of any of them. Literally just acknowledge that he's suffering and don't torment him further and you'll make it like 10% less bad

Give him something comforting

Elizabeth

Rarely panics. Getting her to panic would require something to be both extremely distressing and surprising, and not many surprises escape her intellect

That being said, enough stressors piled up will result in a sort of burst of frustration that's identical to what a panic attack would look like for her anyway

Fight response. So much fight response.

Throwing things, breaking things. She tends to end up destroying things she really loves, and it often makes her cry afterward.

If anyone else is present, it's yelling, starting arguements about literally anything, insulting anyone within her sight, etc etc.

It's best to give her space and a safe place to calm down without breaking anything she really cares about. She'd benefit from being given the idea of punching something soft or screaming into a pillow or something like that. Put her into martial arts also maybe?

Calms down quickly when left alone, but it makes things worse if anyone tries to engage.

She would benefit from talking about it after she's already calmed down, because at that point she's tired and sad and could use the comfort

Michael

Michael generally doesn't panic during stressful events. He panics after they've ended.

During actual stressors, Mike will either be eerily calm and rational or dissociated to the point of it being obvious to anyone around him. This is directly related to how much focus is needed to survive a scenario; his brain will protect him in the face of danger by keeping him aware, but he's more likely to have to pay for it later during the inevitable panic

He tends to panic about something small and unrelated shortly after something major happens

And Michael's panic attacks are scary.

There are less severe instances ofc but when they get really bad

It's the kind of presentation that would get emergency services called if it happened in public.

It's the ugly kind of panic attack that makes onlookers think you're actually posessed. That strangled, scream-talking that's difficult to understand, sobbing, choking when he tries to breathe, red in the face, falling on the ground– it's really, really bad. It's a huge scene every time

He's got a fight response turned inward, and he's very likely to be a harm to himself in an actual panic

Because of this, he goes out of his way to avoid any possible chance of this happening in front of anybody. He will legitimately hole up in his room for weeks if he's worried something is going to set him off

Or he'll try to trigger one on purpose so he can control the circumstances and maybe lessen the severity

The really bad ones generally don't even happen that often but they really do fuck with him

Best response for Michael: stay with him and don't act like he's the spawn of satan

The drinking water trick works to steady his breathing somewhat

His attacks generally last <10 minutes anyway just bc of the sheer amount of energy consumed, so they basically just need to be waited out

Bonus round:

William

I cannot think of a circumstance that would cause William to have an actual panic attack

That being said, he's a flight response when he's actually frightened. If he thinks his life is in danger, he'll get shaky and sweaty, and he'll run

He always tries to put on the facade of having some kind of power, but it's not always that convincing. Faced with a life or death situation, he's one of those types who would stumble backwards and fall to the ground rather than find some way to fight back

In order to be conniving, he needs the upper hand. If you want to defeat William, scare him.

#fnaf #michael afton #cc afton #evan afton #mike's actual writing #william afton #elizabeth afton #sh mention #mike has bpd; i will die on this hill #if i have to deal with the scary and ugly symptoms of mental illness then so does he

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cherryrainn · 11 months

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Headcanons about greedler with female S/O who has healing scars and is anxious? :] I’d enjoy seeing that, if that’s okay!

i can do that for you! hope all is well

☽ ༚ ༵ ۰ ✧ ۰ ༵ ༚ ༵ ۰ ✧ ۰

— healing threads

s/o with healing scars x greedler headcanons

despite onceler's confident and cocky demeanor, he understands the importance of providing support and reassurance to you. he recognizes that it can be challenging, and he takes it upon himself to be there for you when you need him most. he's always ready to offer words of encouragement, reminding you of your strength and resilience.

he has a knack for sensing when you're feeling anxious. he's mastered the art of gentle touches, using them to comfort you. whether it's a reassuring hand on your back, a warm embrace, or softly running his fingers through your hair, his affectionate gestures help ease your anxiety and make you feel safe in his presence.

onceler is in awe of your strength and the way you handle the healing scars. he sees them as a testament to your resilience and triumph over adversity. he never makes you feel self-conscious about your scars, instead admiring them as a part of your journey and a symbol of your courage.

he goes out of his way to create a safe and comforting environment for you. he understands that certain situations can trigger panic, so he takes extra care to minimize any potential stressors. whether it's arranging a quiet and peaceful setting or keeping distractions to a minimum, he ensures that you feel secure and at ease.

onceler encourages and supports your self-care routines. he understands that taking care of yourself is essential for managing anxiety and healing scars. he may surprise you with a relaxing bubble bath, prepare a comforting meal, or simply remind you to prioritize your well-being. his presence serves as a reminder that you deserve to take care of yourself and prioritize your own needs.

when anxiousness strikes, onceler is there to listen attentively. he creates a safe space for you to express your worries, fears, and concerns without judgment. he validates your emotions and offers a listening ear, allowing you to release your anxieties and feel heard.

onceler understands that distractions can be helpful during anxious moments. he may suggest engaging activities or hobbies that bring you joy, allowing you to redirect your focus and find solace in something enjoyable. whether it's watching a favorite movie, going for a walk together, or even indulging in some retail therapy, he knows how to lift your spirits.

he sees the beauty in your healing scars. to him, they represent a story of resilience and growth. he finds them fascinating and unique, appreciating the way they tell a tale of your strength and triumph over adversity. he often admires the way they highlight your inner beauty, making you all the more captivating in his eyes.

onceler has a gentle fascination with your scars. when you're feeling comfortable, he might lightly trace his fingertips along the lines of your scars, sending shivers through your skin. his touch is tender and affectionate, reminding you that your scars are a part of you and deserving of love and acceptance.

he has a protective nature when it comes to your scars. he understands that some situations may make you uncomfortable or trigger self-consciousness, so he actively ensures your well-being. he'll shield you from insensitive comments or situations that might negatively affect your self-esteem, fiercely guarding your emotional and mental health.

#greedler #the lorax #onceler #x reader #reader insert #y/n #onceler x reader #fluff #greedler x reader #ask #request #healing scars

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chattingwiththelightkeeper · 9 months

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How Do You Use D/S To Heal And Grow?

The D/S lifestyle is a multifaceted realm that extends beyond its surface imagery. While misconceptions and stereotypes exist, this lifestyle has been shown to offer numerous benefits that facilitate healing and personal growth. Today, we will explore twenty common ways the D/S lifestyle contributes to individuals' journeys of self-discovery, healing, and transformation.

Enhanced Communication Effective communication is a cornerstone of any D/S relationship. Open dialogues help partners express their desires, boundaries, and concerns, leading to healthier connections.

Example: Sarah and Mark discovered that by openly discussing their

desires and limits, their D/S dynamic deepened. This enhanced communication translated into improved communication in all aspects of their lives.

Increased Self-Awareness Exploring one's desires and limits encourages introspection, fostering a deeper understanding of oneself.

Example: Alex's journey into submission allowed them to confront past traumas and understand their motivations better, leading to a stronger sense of self-awareness.

Establishment of Boundaries Clear boundaries are fundamental in the D/S lifestyle, fostering a sense of security and empowerment.

Example: By defining hard and soft limits, Emily and James created a space where they could confidently explore new experiences while feeling safe.

Empowerment Through Surrender Submitting to a dominant partner can create a sense of liberation, as surrendering control becomes an act of empowerment.

Example: David found empowerment in letting go of control in his relationship with Lisa. This translated into newfound confidence in his professional endeavors.

Trust Building Trust is the cornerstone of D/S dynamics. The process of building trust fosters emotional intimacy and vulnerability.

Example: Through consistent honesty and transparency, Amanda and Chris's trust in each other grew, allowing them to address their insecurities head-on.

Emotional Catharsis Engaging in scenes that evoke intense emotions can provide catharsis, releasing pent-up feelings and promoting emotional healing.

Example: Sarah's tearful release during a particularly emotional scene with her dominant partner helped her process a long-standing emotional burden.

Mindfulness and Presence The focus required during scenes promotes mindfulness, allowing participants to be present in the moment and escape daily stressors.

Example: During a sensory deprivation scene, Michael found solace in the present moment, escaping the pressures of his demanding job.

Stress Relief Engaging in BDSM activities can trigger the release of endorphins, offering natural stress relief.

Example: After a challenging week, Laura's pain-play session provided an endorphin rush that left her feeling rejuvenated.

Heightened Sensuality Exploring sensory experiences heightens sensitivity, leading to a deeper connection with one's body.

Example: Through sensual massages and sensory play, Alex and Jamie reignited the passion in their long-term relationship.

Self-Expression The D/S lifestyle provides a space for individuals to explore and express their fantasies without judgment.

Example: Emma's playful exploration of role-playing allowed her to embrace a side of herself she had repressed for years.

Community and Belonging Engaging in the D/S lifestyle often leads to finding like-minded individuals and a sense of belonging within the BDSM community.

Example: Jason and Michelle discovered a welcoming community that supported them as they navigated their newfound interest in kink.

Personal Growth The challenges and new experiences in the D/S lifestyle promote personal growth and self-improvement.

Example: Through facing her fears of vulnerability, Karen developed newfound resilience and adaptability in her personal and professional life.

Embracing Vulnerability Both dominants and submissives must embrace vulnerability, leading to more profound emotional connections.

Example: Mark's willingness to be vulnerable with his submissive partner, Sarah, allowed them to connect on a level he had never experienced before.

Conflict Resolution Skills Navigating conflicts within a D/S dynamic hones conflict resolution skills applicable to other areas of life.

Example: Julie and Michael's practice of calmly discussing issues within their dynamic translated into healthier conflict resolution in their workplace.

Body Positivity The D/S lifestyle celebrates diverse bodies, fostering body positivity and self-acceptance.

Example: Chris's appreciation for Amanda's body, regardless of societal norms, helped her embrace her curves and build confidence.

Overcoming Fear Exploring new experiences in the D/S lifestyle helps conquer fears and insecurities.

Example: James's initial fear of restraints transformed into excitement as he discovered pleasure in pushing his boundaries.

Empathy and Compassion Understanding one's partner's desires and limits cultivates empathy and compassion.

Example: Lisa's genuine concern for David's well-being extended beyond scenes, fostering a more caring and considerate relationship.

Healthy Relationship Models D/S dynamics provide models of consensual power exchange that can inspire healthier relationships overall.

Example: By observing Emily and James's equal partnership within their D/S relationship, friends around them started adopting more balanced dynamics.

Coping Mechanisms Engaging in BDSM activities can serve as healthy coping mechanisms for life's challenges.

Example: Michael found solace in the predictability of his D/S routine, helping him manage his anxiety during uncertain times.

Spiritual Exploration For some, the D/S lifestyle can offer a space for spiritual exploration and personal connection.

Example: Michelle found a sense of spiritual transcendence through the power exchange in her D/S relationship with Jason.

The D/S lifestyle encompasses a rich tapestry of experiences that extend far beyond the surface. The examples provided in this blog post demonstrate how individuals can find healing, growth, and transformation through exploring their desires, surrendering control, and nurturing open communication. While the D/S lifestyle may not be suitable for everyone, it is essential to recognize its potential as a catalyst for personal evolution and empowerment. As society continues to evolve, so too does our understanding of relationships, intimacy, and the multifaceted nature of human desires.

How has the lifestyle helped you heal and grow?

As with all of my thoughts, please see this disclaimer.

©TLK2023

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Having a service animal sucks!

Yup, I said it. While the pros do not outweigh the cons it's pretty close. I do not regret my service animal. I am the first to admit I am not much of a dog person as an adult but that is because our working relationship has ruined that for me. Here are just some of the stressors I have to deal with.

"Where is his registration" While people now do not often ask this ridiculous question outright there are several thousand ways in a day someone makes the implication. This alone is nothing compared to other issues.

Ignorance. That should have been number one but we are here now. The majority of people I encounter daily have absolutely no clue what a working dog is. They may have a slight idea in their mind but refuse to do any work to inform themselves. They do not consider distracting, antagonizing, or interacting with my service animal as a big deal as me correcting them. It is impossible to safely transport my service animal out of the building at the end of the day without harassment.

Constant Corrections. Every day I am constantly correcting people when it comes to interacting with my service animal and sometimes I cave and just let it happen because I am just too drained to keep having these interactions. I work at an elementary school where I get as many as 50 kids calling out to my service animal per minute on a bad day. One child even stood there barking less than two feet from her face. Since this incident, I have put an e-collar on her in case of emergencies because SHE IS STILL AN ANIMAL.

Washing out. Izzy has yet to reach her first year as a qualified service animal and in this ridiculously high-stress environment I've put her in I am terrified she will become washed out and I will have to start over again. People grossly underestimate the seriousness of this and the risk they put us both in with their behavior and blatant disregard for our personal space and safety as well as the safety of the children in their care. This will result in unstable income for myself and my family and would put an intense strain on the relationships in my home.

Constant discomfort. I know my rights and responsibilities as a handler but very few others do. This means I have to ask for permission to do things I do not need permission for. I have to deal with people harassing my working animal knowing full well it is illegal to do so with minimal protection and virtually no recourse. I still pay to have her live with me because it is not worth the fight. And when you have ANY type of job around people with a working animal every person that does not like dogs will do everything they can to make sure you know it.

Every day I am correcting, pleading, and and avoiding. It seems like having Izzy at work is doing the very thing that makes me need her at work. It started with a gang of kids screaming at me and has turned into a gang of kids screaming at me constantly. The adults could help in this situation but for some reason, they don't sense the urgency. I wanted to be able to get through a week without falling to pieces and clinging to anyone I could for support and now I am ending my days crying in my classroom because I am just so exhausted. I don't want to give up because I have been fighting for this for so long but where I live just isn't ready for allowing people with service animals to achieve some sense of normalcy in the workplace. I always wondered why people with service animals weren't visible in the workforce and I see why.

Perspective for those who don't get it

Imagine I am walking through the bus loop and your student is creaming at my service animal. My animal senses my discomfort, mistakes my actions, and begins to task by applying pressure to my legs. Now I trip over her and have hurt myself. I am hurt and confused my kindergarten class is scared, worried, and confused, and now my service animal is so heavily overstimulated from such constant chaos all day that she goes on the offensive thinking that I am somehow in danger. Now your child has been attacked and I have lost my livelihood. Both of our lives are now completely altered. Their family will suffer, my family will suffer, Izzy will suffer, and you could have prevented this by informing your student about the service animal you knew existed in that space and the appropriate behavior when they are sharing a space with her.

Service animals are still animals, not robots. Working animals fail all the time and it is almost never their fault but due to outside factors out of their control. I am so tired but I don't wanna give up. I wanna give up.

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