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solitaryschizoid · 13 days

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neurotypicals be like if you have a personality disorder you're either a Cluster Asshole, Cluster Bitch, or a Cluster Cunt

#personality disorder safe #npd safe #bpd safe #aspd safe #cluster b safe #cluster a #cluster a pd #cluster b #cluster c #hpd safe #szpd safe #ocpd safe #ppd safe #stpd safe #avpd safe #dpd safe

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alostlittleriverlotus · 4 months

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not in a good mood cause my friend's boyfriend is dealing with his abusive mom. And after a recent issue they had of her verbally abusing him, he found out about narcissistic abuse and ow. Ow. Thing is, he's autistic/adhd and has BPD and DID. I just. I fucking hate how easy it is. He repeated that "autistic and adhd people attract narcissists."

NO!!!!! Luckily he's very open minded and chill and is trying to understand when my friend tells him. But still. The fact that someone with equally demonized disorders and BPD which can be very commonly comorbid with NPD and then demonizes narcissists cause of how widely available that information is hurts. Just...no. Just no.

That is how easily accessible the information on "narcissists" is. He learned about it that easily when that ableism stems from the same place as the rest of hatred of mental health. There are people that believe you can't be in a relationship with someone with ADHD without it being emotionally abusive. People think meltdowns from autistic people are intentional emotional abuse. There are people that still believe that stuff.

It is so important for the rest of the mentally ill to not fall into this hole of demonizing narcissists. That ableism stems from the same place that ableism against autistic people and depression and anxiety and all stem from.

Narcissism doesn't make someone more likely to abuse. They do not have unique patterns of abuse. It is just abuse. It is emotional abuse, verbal abuse, mental abuse. Just because someone that may have NPD is abusive does not make it narcissistic abuse. And also: if your abuser, especially if you are genetically related to them, has NPD then that raises the chance YOU would have NPD. It doesn't guarantee it, but personality disorders are a mix of trauma and genetics.

Anyone with any disorder can be abusive. People without disorders can be abusive. The majority of abusive people most likely don't have a personality disorder. It's the same as assuming that "all serial killers are schizophrenic" which is something my brother said to me recently. It's the same as believing all criminals are "psychopaths" when that just isn't true.

Anyone with or without disorder or neurodivergency has the ability to abuse and hurt others. A lot of the time, abusers may be just neurotypical. Narcissists aren't more likely to abuse than anyone else. Their disorder does not make them abusive. Any disorder can affect their treatment of someone.

I have dealt with many people who used their depression as a way to abuse me. It does not make it depression or depressive abuse. The disorder is irrelevant, the abuse is not.

If you lump in narcissists with abusers, you are lumping in other people that have been abused and traumatized with their abusers. I have been compared to a rapist, to a child sex offender, to a serial killer for being a narcissist. I have seen people saying to kill every narcissist since it would be better for people. I have been told I am lying about my abuse and actually my abusive ex boyfriend didn't abuse me, *I* abused *HIM.*

Narcissistic abuse does not exist. It is not a different or unique pattern. It is not "different than NPD cause the word narcissist existed before NPD" (when it is heavily associated with NPD and many resources say it is about NPD.) It is not a special type of abuse done by people with NPD. It is bullshit. You don't need "narcissistic abuse" to be able to understand your own abuse. Narcissists are not everywhere and looking to harm you. It keeps you scared and traumatized. It is not healing, it is not helping.

I'm just so upset cause my friend's BF is such a cool dude and I have faith he will learn over time, but it was so triggering. I split so fucking bad. So yes. Here's my rant and the reminder that: Narcissistic abuse is bullshit and just demonizes people with NPD and the mentally ill and people they often claim are narcissists aren't and are just privileged and entitled and shitty people and often have to do with more systemic problems that are normalized and accepted by society rather than, you know, icky mentally ill person.

Oh and btw. If you're gonna fight at all on this, just block me. Either you can listen and learn or not. If you're in the "not" section, just leave. You'll just be blocked anyway. Because I'm not here to have it justified why it's okay to say narcissists are abusive when I am literally a narcissist and this shit has literally worsened me to the point of wanting to die. Fuck off. We are mentally ill people. Some people with NPD being abusive does not make us all abusive. You would never say the same for any other disorder so why say it for us? If you wouldn't say it about autism, depression, OCD, or any other literal mental illness then do NOT say it about us. There are people out there who DO still say that about those disorders. Who DO believe that a disorder makes you inherently abusive. Is that who you want to side with? Cause it's the same fucking logic. Narcissistic abuse is purely pop psychology and popularized by the mainstream rather than even being a real term. Yes, psychologists and other professionals can be wrong and can be ableist too.

I've said my piece. Narcissists and anyone else demonized whether your disorder is widely demonized or not, I love you. A lot of disorders have become more infantilized rather than demonized these days, but there are people out there that still see every mentally ill person as evil. No matter what kind of ableism you face for your disorder, you deserve love and care and support, not to be treated more like an object than a person. And no matter what, no matter how good or bad, You. Deserve. Help. You deserve to be able to have access to help without any bullshit.

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psychotic-tbh · 1 month

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Things I’ve Learned as a Disabled Person

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You did not commit a crime simply by being mentally ill or disabled!

You are not wasting anyone’s time or energy by simply existing as a mentally ill or disabled individual!

Please surround yourselves with love, support, and positivity whenever you find the opportunity!

You deserve compassion regardless of your symptoms or experiences!

You are not a monster or an abuser for being disabled or mentally ill!

You can and will find people who love and understand you, or at least try to understand to the best of their ability.

You can and will find people who support you, regardless of what that support looks like!

You do not have to need the same types of support as others. As long as you do what is best for you, that’s all that matters.

At the same time, it’s okay to need accommodations, no matter the type!

You can always work towards coexisting with others, and I hope that you will be surrounded by those who do the same for you!

You do not have to stretch yourself thin and overextend yourself to make others happy!

It’s okay to advocate for yourself! And, if you cannot do this because of your mental illness or disability, it’s okay to allow someone with your best interest in mind to advocate for you!

While you don’t need to force it (and it probably helps more not to force it), please hold onto the hope that things will not always be at their worst!

If it helps you and isn’t hurting anyone, it is nothing to be ashamed of!

Finding support is huge! It doesn’t have to be folks in your immediate area, online support is acceptable as well! What matters is that we are uplifting and supporting each other and ourselves.

There are so many things I’ve learned as a disabled person. I hope to learn many more

Please feel free to share what you’ve learned as well, or please share if you found any of this helpful! /not forced

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narcvampp · 3 months

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` I don't give a fuck 'cuz I'm a millionare! `

INTRODUCTION POST

Nonhuman nightmare(godkin, vampkin, and therian)

HEAVILY disordered; Npd. Bpd. Hpd. Autism. Did. Ptsd

Memory loss. Psychosis. Depression

Anxiety. Suspected bipolar. Aspd traits. Hypersexual. Paraphile(Anti-contact, have multiple.)

'Obsessive love disorder' . StPD . + more

Proudly 'claimed' /ij, but in all seriousness, do not try to engage in a "friendship" unless we do so first. Our guard dog bites.

Taken² + dating someone in my thoughts tbh

Minor. MDNI blogs can int, but we also do not check blogs before we int/follow back.

CW for some of our posts; we will post/rb shit about drugs, possible sexual content, violence, and ocassionally triggering topics(e.g., self harm, sa)

All of our names + pronouns.

No DNI, block us if we fit yours, we'll block you if we want. However, some of our stances are; anti-endo(of all breeds), anti-transid/radqueer/whatever you call yourselves, anti-contact paraphile for harming or non consenting actions.(e.g., acting on pedophilia or zoophilia)

Tags for posts; #vamp diary - all basic posts, #vamp sillies - responding to asks, #utterly insane - vent posts, #millionare - reblogs, #bf posting - wes asks/posts, #fiancé posting - posts abt fiancé, #holy spirit - The Chosen One™️ aks/posts, #coffinshipping brainrot - exactly whar ir sounds like.

If you have any questions, our asks are open.

(Div creds @/mmadeinheavenn)

14+ npd centered srv

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impunkster-syndrome · 10 months

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What most people don't get is that "narcissistic/borderline/etc abuse" mindsets thrive on ableism and making sure people stay traumatized and hypervigilant. It is inherently anti-recovery by design so it can stay alive.

It thrives on making you scared. Similar to racism, sexism, transphobia, antisemitism, xenophobia, etc. Once this is identified, it's harder to exert control over people.

When you're scared, you're reactive. Everything different looks like it will hurt you. Like how toddlers are often scared of things that most people are not because of how unfamiliar things are. I'm not saying that to call any narc abuse truther a child, I'm saying that when you're traumatized everything around you becomes unfamiliar and threatening.

A lot of these groups are like TERFs. Everything is very black and white. There is no welcoming of any challenge to their views. The longer they stay together isolated from others, the more radicalized they become. The "raised by narcissists" and "raised by borderlines" communities are bigotry factories that go against recovery by telling victims that there are people out to hurt them and that they will be hurt again, so they have to hurt others before they can be hurt.

There's probably a bunch of overlap between that and pseudoscience like body language analysis.

It's all fearmongering.

And yes, I am putting this in their tags because I hope people realize that fear encouraged by groups is not going to help you recover. The world is complex and scary, and yes sometimes horrible things happen due to the actions and choices of others. That doesn't mean that everyone is trying to hurt you or that people are inherently evil or abusive due to factors outside of their control.

#personality disorder #narcissistic abuse #borderline abuse #personality disorder safe #pd safe

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thevoidshere88 · 1 month

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Love it when I'm in pain or sick,

yes give me all the validation and care because I deserve it all 💞

(sometimes even when I feel better I still try to prolong it)

#npd #npd culture is #npd safe #npd stuff #npd supply #pd safe #personality disordered #personality disorder safe #cluster b culture is #cluster b safe #cluster a safe

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aberrati-by-design · 11 hours

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Personality Disorder culture is being baffled by the concept of other people HAVING personalities, a core set of beliefs and behaviors and don’t just morph into whatever the fuck based on who they are with or the alignment of the stars or what they happened to come across on their daily interaction with Others or if Another Trauma happened (ugh not again)

#neurodivergent #npd #npd safe #aspd safe #bpd #aspd #bpd safe #hpd safe #hpd #szpd #szpd safe #personality disorder #personality disorder safe #apd #ppd #spd #ocd #dpd

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pinkxcloudz · 3 months

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one of the things that really bothers me about the treatment of PDs is the age a diagnosis can be recieved. traits start to show in adolescence but they're rarely diagnosed, and if they are, it will usually include Conduct Disorder.

it is basically seeing the ways a child is disadvantaged and saying "you are just a criminal".

i do not think i am articulate or knowledgeable enough to speak on how it disproportionately affects POC, poor, and homeless people, and i also have privilege, so please see other posts on that.

my main problem is that when traits start to show they're usually ignored, unless they warrant action. but action usually only comes when people are violent (or vulnerable, as mentioned). can we please acknowledge the children suffering with the onset of PDs like DPD, ASPD, NPD, HPD... literally all of them.

therapists act like you definitely can't have a PD until you reach the magic number where you are suddenly adult and have a personality disorder now, but symptoms can start at early ages. i *need* more people to understand that. yes, sometimes they're impermanent. but i think nonetheless children deserve support for what they're experiencing. they deserve help and a support system; ignoring them just guarantees that their symptoms will be worse by the time they're an adult.

MH 'professionals' see kids struggling with things that can be called personality disorders, who have childhood trauma and/or predisposed genetics, and decide not to treat them because they're not adults. this can make things worse!! it does make things worse!! yall talk about early intervention all the time! why not for ill kids?!

(i am aware PDs can be diagnosed for children now, but still not ASPD)

also shoutout to the friends that said i didn't have a personality disorder when i was 15 and struggling, fuck you i have 2

#sry if not articulate i am not an articulate person #conduct disorder safe #personality disorder safe #actually aspd #shoutout to the kids waiting for the day they turn 18 to be magically hit by the PD fairy

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sayorispace · 1 year

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Hey hey! I just wanna say something, since I see a concerning amount of ableism around here.

This blog is a safe space for anyone with any personality disorders. Yes, this includes NPD, BPD, and ASPD. Please don't be afraid to interact with me, my blog, and anyone else in my system!

This blog is also a safe space for anyone who is physically disabled. Whether you look able bodied or are bound to a wheelchair, you are welcome here! I myself use a cane for balance and pain!

This blog is safe for anyone with neurological disabilities of any kind. If you have a learning disability, Tourette's, epilepsy, anything like that, you are safe here! We have autism, so we know what it's like to have a different brain! ^^

This blog is safe for people who have mental illnesses! Yes, even stigmatized ones like schizophrenia and factitious disorder! Obviously, we have a heavily stigmatized disorder too (OSDD), so we understand the fear! Please feel safe here!

And yes, you can also interact if you have no mental or physical disabilities at all! If you're just here to learn, or maybe simply read a blog from your favorite character, that's alright! You can be here too!

This blog, however, is not safe for anyone who has an issue with anything I said above. If you find yourself scowling at the fact that I dare support a person with factitious disorder or a schizophrenic or a narcissist, you are ableist. If you pick and choose which disorders are "okay" to have, you are ableist. You have to stand with all of us, not just some of us. If not, you stand with none of us. Have a good day!

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jazzyfrog · 6 months

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HEY GUYS.

#discord server #cluster a safe #cluster c safe #cluster b safe #personality disorders #neurodivergent #cluster b personality disorder #cluster a personality disorders #cluster c personality disorder #pd safe #personality disorder safe #osdd system #traumagenic system #system safe #plural system

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embergalaxy · 2 years

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I finished making my discord server! Rules and link below the cut

1. No explicit NSFW

Occasional jokes and stuff are fine but try not to go too far outside of the mature chats. (No minors in mature chats.)

2. No bigotry of any kind

Zero tolerance for bigots here. That includes homophobes, transphobes, aphobes, terfs, racists, and more.

3. No Non-Traumagenic Systems

The amount of blatant misinformation about DID/OSDD going around right now is dangerous, stay safe and informed.

4. To avoid confusion we ask that systems have a system tag in their proxies and nicknames

To add a system tag on pluralkit type pk;s tag <tag>.

5. Respect people's boundaries

We have roles to set some boundaries but other boundaries still exist outside of those, please just be nice to each other.

6. No spamming outside of #spam and #bot-spam

7. No advertisments

8. No screaming or being a general nuisance in the voice chats

9. The staff team will mute/kick/ban/timeout per discretion. If you feel mistreated, dm me or an admin, and we will resolve the issue.

10. Follow discord's TOS

Hope to see you there!

#discord server #non traumagenic systems dni #personality disorder safe

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solitaryschizoid · 28 days

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Personality disorders are disabilities.

#personality disorder safe

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vilea777 · 1 month

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sorry i cant hang out i forgot how to mimic human like behaviour

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met4lwhore · 2 months

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yall are pro mental illness until they hallucinate

yall are pro mental illness until they dissociate

yall are pro mental illness until they self-isolate

yall are pro mental illness until they're paranoid

yall are pro mental illness until they split

yall are pro mental illness until it's too Scary for your comparatively neurotypical brain to handle

#bpd safe #bpd favorite person #bpd #bpd splitting #dissociative identity disorder #dissociation #self isolation #borderline splitting #paranoia #neurodivergent #mental illness

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worms-in-my-brain · 5 months

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People with psychotic disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with personality disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with substance abuse disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with tic disorders are neurodivergent too.

People with bipolar disorder are neurodivergent too.

People with dissociative disorders are neurodivergent too.

Neurodivergence isn’t just ADHD, autism, anxiety, and depression. (Plus those last two also get left out sometimes!) Neurodivergence is anything that affects your brain.

“Neurodivergent people hate loud noises” is actually just as valid as a statement as “neurodivergent people have delusions,” “neurodivergent people have tics,” or even “neurodivergent people have low empathy.”

#neurodivergent #aspd safe #npd safe #bpd safe #personality disorders #cluster b #cluster b safe #cluster c #cluster a #dissociative disorders are neurodivergencies #dissociative #osddid #did #osdd #tourettes #tic disorders are neurodivergencies #tics #bipolar disorder #substance abuse disorder

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mirroringshards · 3 months

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cute bpd things!!

paranoia

*small inconvenience* BREAK UP BREAK UP BREAK UP BREAK UP

yeah im fine lol look at this meme :D

paranoia

mood depending on them

every text hurts or feels way too good

intrusive thought yeouch okay ouch thats another one yeOOUCH

the 50000+ articles on how youre abusive

paranoia

fp is bad for me but its ok i love them<3

"if i hurt someone its gonna be myself"

becoming completely obsessed with someone the moment they give you the slightest attention

never being able to cut anyone off ever. immediately go running back

cry because theyre talking to someone that IS NOT ME

oh my fp isnt here. okay. oh im dissociating okay i dont have any purpose to continue living without them okay my life literally revolves around them i want to die where are they are they safe i dont know what to do with myself

"just leave. everyone does anyways"

5 minutes later theyre the worst person ever

*looking for an identity* hmmm, where could it be?

dependent on fp like theyre a parental figure you never had

paranoia

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