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Using narcissist as an insult is stupid, let's start using it as a compliment
🫵 You. You're a narcissist. /Pos.
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what also gets me about people being so adamant about using the word "narcissist" or some form of it to describe shitty people is...there are other words. I was just watching a drew gooden video and he said "If you knowingly take part in something that has the potential to put other people in harm's way and you still do it cause it's kind of fun for you, you are selfish and you suck." (It's the gender reveal party.)
Just seeing how many commentary YouTubers, especially more leftist ones that talk about the heavier side of things like misogynists and seeing them use the term narcissistic or delusional is just. We HAVE other words we can use! We HAVE USED other words for years before narcissistic became a big trend to say and narcissistic abuse really ramped up as a pop psychology trend.
It is literally SO easy to use other words. You can Google similar words. Selfish, self centered, self righteous, egotistical, arrogant, entitled. One of the best words I find is probably entitled. Because a lot of bigots and misogynists and shit that usually get delusional and narcissistic thrown at them are really more self centered, arrogant, and entitled. Self interested, self obsessed. Especially since for abusers, misogynists, other shitty people, the entitled comes from the fact it is NORMALIZED!!!!! It is not a bunch of narcissists harming people, it is a society, a world, that has normalized this behaviour. They are entitled, they are abusive, they are selfish, they are cruel. There are so many OTHER WORDS to describe your abuse, to describe shitty people. Just call them abusers or bigots for fucks sake. And even if some delusional people may get roped into it cause they're vulnerable, typically it is a lot of people who are INTENTIONALLY doing it. It is normalized, it is allowed!
All we narcissists ask is that you not use a word that demonizes us. "There's a difference" yet other people say there isn't, other people say NPD isn't even fucking real, other people say pwNPD ARE abusive. If we used any kind of other word for the more "talked about" disorders, there would be a problem. We ask that you change it, we ask that you use other words, we ask that you not further add to the stigma. The same stigma that BPD deals with, that autistic people deal with, that any neurodivergent person deals with. The stigma and demonization is something ALL neurodivergencies have fucking faced!!! It may have moved away from demonization for a lot of disorders, but there ARE people that DO still believe it.
We fucking ask you literally use any other word. And you refuse to. You refuse to listen to us. You refuse to believe us when we tell you the harm it has and how it actually prevents us from finding resources. You say "of course a narcissist would want that." You see it as an attack on you and your trauma. You are throwing trauma victims at risk of abuse under the bus because you want to feel vindicated in your own trauma. You completely ignore any critical thinking of what we say to turn it against us, to ignore us, to bring up your own trauma as a defense point. Yes, you were abused by someone and it is terrible that happened. So were we!!! My abusive mom probably has NPD, but it did not affect the abuse I faced, it only add strains in our relationship outside of the abuse that still affect us to this day.
It is SO easy to find another word, to literally just listen to us, to not throw us under the same fucking bus. To not group us in with abusers and rapists and child sex offenders and murderers. Would you fucking like to be compared to your abuser? Pretty sure you fucking wouldn't. So why is it okay to do to us?
Some people will never listen. No matter what I say, it does not matter. As with any kind of thinking along these lines. But for those that are still reachable, please. Listen to us. And what would you even do if you found yourself having NPD traits? Wouldn't it be terrifying to see that in yourself? Because I sure as hell thought it was. It made me hate myself and further believe that I could NEVER do any wrong because I wasn't like my narcissistic abusers and worsened my relationship difficulties. A fair bit of narcissists on here had also fallen into that same hole. It doesn't heal you. It keeps you angry, scared, upset. It makes you want to hurt them back. And that will not heal you. It'll keep you defensive. It's keeping you in a victim mentality and preventing healing.
To the ones that ARE reachable, I hope you can learn something from my posts, from posts I reblog, or from any other posts. It starts with narcissists and "psychopaths" (antisocials), but it is the same place the stigma of every neurodivergency and mental disorder stems from. It's why other disorders may still get demonization from some ableists. That a lot of autistic experiences were based around how it affected OTHER PEOPLE like "think of their mom having that autistic kid :(" it is not anything new. It is the same ableism and stigma. It is less demonized for other disorders now, focusing more on treating it as no big deal, ignoring the actual difficult symptoms of such disorders (like if you have poor hygiene, people will judge you regardless), or even infantilization. There IS still stigma, but the stigma was once the same as us, demonization. It comes from the same place. It's things said about other disorders still today even if it is rarer. It's just more well known for the "scary" personality and psychotic disorders since there is a big push to destigmatize things like depression, anxiety, OCD, autism.
Do not throw us under the bus. It will do nothing. It is the same fucking stigma, the same fucking arguments. Like gay people throwing trans people under the bus, they're called the same things even if it seems like they aren't. It comes from the same bigotry, the same place of hatred.
It is not new, it is not different, it just is more common for personality disorders, psychotic disorders, and schizospec disorders. So when we bring up these things, mention how using the term directly associated with a disorder in the DSM V and how it prevents us getting help, how using the term narcissistic DOES correlate to NPD, please fucking listen.
Cause nothing will ultimately benefit you for continuing down that rabbit hole. Narcissistic abuse believers don't help victims of abuse, those articles and questions don't help you heal. It keeps you angry how anyone could do that, it takes advantage of your vulnerability and desire to find meaning and logic out of it. The reality is, you may never know why or at least not until you are away from the abuse.
We are trauma victims as well. We are still at risk of abuse because of our disorder. I would genuinely stay with an abuser just for the sake of narc supply regardless of how they hurt me if I did not have a good support system. For our "toxic" traits, we cannot work on them without help and the idea of narcissistic abuse pushes stigma further which prevents us from even finding free online resources, let alone if we actually tried to seek any fucking help.
Narcissistic abuse is not real and it will never be. Please fucking include us in "mental health matters" and the push for destigmatizing disorders. We are fucking humans that need help. And even if we were all toxic and selfish hypothetically, removing the ability to find resources or get help is NOT the way to go.
Even when I believed in narcissistic abuse, I would search to find answers on why I aligned with NPD if I wasn't an abuser or a bad person. I was terrified to even suspect it despite how much attention and love and supply I needed and how that applied to the very essence of my being. Even when I examined my own actions, all I found was treating it as if they're the utter worst of humanity. Even with my toxic and unhealthy acts because I was a fucking traumatized teen with no experience for relationships of any kind especially not healthy ones, I could not find answers or help. And all that did was reassure me that I WAS the good person, that I was JUSTIFIED in my toxic desires because I was traumatized. It did not help me with my emotional regulation, it worsened it.
Even if narcissists WERE all abusers or toxic and bad, they deserve fucking help and a chance to be able to see their actions in a better light. Some people may never change, but plenty will if given resources and actual professional help. The idea of narcissistic abuse refuses that and just demonizes it and NOBODY wants to be demonized, NOBODY wants to believe they're a bad person. The term narcissistic abuse and the environment and community surrounding it is toxic. It always will be. That is inherently what it is about. It kept me terrified that someone might call me an abusive narcissist because of my emotional difficulties, that someone would take me out of context and turn me into a monster like my family had done my entire fucking life. It keeps you defensive, it keeps you scared, it keeps you mistrustful, it keeps you in those trauma responses. It does not fucking help victims find peace of mind or heal. It keeps you triggered.
Also NPD isn't just a single disorder on its own. It's comorbid or the person could be ND in other ways. BPD + NPD, it has some genetic factors so a narcissistic parent may increase likelihood you have it, there are DID systems with it. You are not just throwing people with purely ONLY NPD under the bus, but whoever else may have it that may also fall under many other categories. I'm autistic and have NPD, I'm a system with NPD, I'm schizospec and psychotic with NPD. I have ADHD and NPD. They may not be directly related and comorbid, but I do still fall under these other categories. So autistics throwing people with NPD under the bus does nothing for the narcissists that are also fucking autistic. So by throwing narcissists under the bus, you are throwing a LOT of people with that disorder that also have other forms of neurodivergency under the bus as well. And the stigma all comes from the same place anyway.
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evilsystemm · 3 days
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NPD with ASPD and SzPD traits culture is needing admiration and attention but being unable to stand being around anyone who could give it because they're so unfathomably annoying.
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princesspreyy · 2 days
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Tell me how my standards for a nice, good man are so high yet I will REGULARLY cry over not being sexually tortured by a mentally deranged narcissist?
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smartestgirluknow · 2 days
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narcs with their own trauma
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cassiecryptic · 3 days
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armchair diagnosing will wood with npd
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bathroomflooder · 1 day
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"noo I can't do that, people are going to think I'm self centred and annoying :(" I say while being the most self centred and annoying person to ever
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castledock · 2 days
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my npd thoughts that also do apply to neurotypicals:
if someone openly asks for attention or praise I think that’s something that should be responded to because everyone is always told to be open about their wants and needs but it still feels like “directly asking for attention when you want it” is some kind of weird taboo thing or whatever and also that thing that’s like “a lot of people probably admire you but are too shy to let you know” well that’s an opportunity for them to open up yknow. I just think that people being open about what they want is important even if it’s for “shallow” things like praise or attention or whatever. ppl are always mocked for “fishing for compliments” so let’s stop fishing and just put up a big sign that says “please tell me I’m cool/pretty/skilled/likeable” and the people who care will do that. yay such a good idea from me. let’s go
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Those easy as fuck mobile games really hit that sweet spot in me
It's so easy to progress and get things done that my stupid little narcissist monkey brain is like "Ooh!!! Oh yes!! Me winning!!! Me good at game!!! Me better than everyone!!!" Like bitch everybody is winning that's the fucking point of this dogshit game design SHUT UPPPPP
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narcatsisst · 2 days
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i survived a narcissist. Myself
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deceiver-of-god · 3 days
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I am convinced that, objectively, I am better than the vast majority of people I interact with, especially in the academic field. No matter how hard I try, there is no one who can compare to me. Nobody has such good ideas, nor works so efficiently, nor is so perfectionist or detail-oriented, nor has so much knowledge, nor creates such correct work. My contributions are impeccable. How sad it seems to me that I have to interact with people with abilities so far below mine. How dare they even be in the same class as me?
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lucithegreat666 · 2 days
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People with low empathy are often doctors, nurses, therapists, etc. They have to understand how empathy works but it’s not required that they have it, and it is actually helpful that they lack it. It’s the reason EMTs and hotline operators can handle emergencies and remain level headed. It’s how a doctor can perform a surgery without becoming sick. It can even be how diplomats are able to find common ground between opposing forces, looking at things logically without attachment to one side or the other.
Low empathy can be caused by a wide variety of circumstances. Empathy or lack thereof has NO direct tie to a person’s morals.
I’m sick of hearing people criticize bad people and claim it’s because they lack empathy. Or say that “no one has empathy for each other these days.” The word you’re looking for is sympathy. Stop demonizing people for a personality trait that is necessary for some people to have in order for society to function.
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npd-narrator · 3 days
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0labyrinthine0 · 3 days
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I've been seeing a lot of hate towards people w/ cluster-b personalities and I just wanted to say that this is a safe space for you guys!! I love yall tbh you guys are some of the sweetest people :D
(Currently doing some research to see if I have antisocial personality disorder.............)
Anyway love yall and this is a safe space :3
- 🕸️
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cassiecryptic · 3 days
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i'm currently working on a big post debunking the concept of narcissistic abuse and the arguments used by believers. however, i need help thinking of the points that narc abuse believers would likely use. if anyone can think of any, please reblog with your ideas.
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solitaryschizoid · 20 days
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neurotypicals will be like "you can't self diagnose" and then diagnose everyone they dislike as a narcissist
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