Happy pride month to aromantics, asexuals, aplatonics and agender people!!

saw an anti ace-spec people post on the asexual tag today so I wanted to make a post:

for anyone who fits anywhere on the ace spectrum, no matter how you define sexual attraction and how often you feel it, no matter your past, no matter your other orientations, and no matter how confident you are in it. Have a happy international asexuality day, this day is for you :)

These angels are ace-spec!!

Happy (Upcoming) International Asexuality Day 2024!

April 6 marks International Asexuality Day, and we’re celebrating by championing books all over the ace spectrum. For even more recs, check past years’ International Asexuality Day/Ace Week posts! To Read Now Middle Grade Just Lizzie by Karen Wilfrid There’s the part of me that doesn’t understand kissing or cuteness or attraction, and then there’s the part of me that feels so lonely. How do I…

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Can someone please explain?

Can someone please explain to me the difference between libido and sexual attraction? I tend to have a problem with mixing them up or not understanding what they mean.

I have a problem understanding what 'attraction' means. Does it just mean being drawn to someone to do [___]? So, like, sexual attraction is being drawn to someone to have sex. It has nothing to do with libido. Thus, an asexual and an allosexual can have a libido. Despite only 1 being drawn to have sex with someone.

If it does mean what I think it means, then I don't feel sexual attraction as much as an allosexual person. For fictional characters or celebrities, I feel sexual attraction for them immediately. But when it comes to real-world people, it takes me a while to get to feel sexual attraction for them (I wouldn't say it's demisexual, but it's hard to explain). And when I do feel sexual attraction, it hits hard. I lust after the person, but it goes away very quickly before going back to feeling very little attraction towards them. Would this be a libido or ace spike?

Inclusionists and Radqueers

(quick note, I use the term "queer community" instead of "lgbtq+ community")

I think that many people need to know the difference between inclusionists and radqueers because a surprising amount of people don't.

One of the main differences is that inclusionists know the difference between valid, good-faith terminology and bad-faith, troll terminology, while radqueers do not (or don't care). This means that both inclusionists and radqueers accept communities such as xenogenders, neopronouns, a-specs (asexual spectrum, and aromantic spectrum), m-specs (multigender spectrum), and m-specs (multi-sexual/attraction spectrum) as valid parts of the queer community. However, radqueers take this many leaps further by accepting (harmful) xenogenders, (harmful) neopronouns (usually nounself pronouns based on sensitive topics or offensive words), and just generally harmful terms (e.g. transracial, z00philes, pokesexual, MAPs), as a part of the queer community.

This again, is one of the largest differences between inclusionists and radqueers. Many inclusionists understand the harm radqueers cause the queer community, and do not associate themselves with them due to this fact.

Gray Stripe Asexual Pride Flag

Gray Stripe Asexual: acespec individuals represented by the grey stripe in the asexual flag.

This may overlap with greysexuality or mesi asexuality.

Waluigi is Asexual

perry the platypus from phineas and ferb is asexual (canon)

submitted by @winterserpent

“Pff. You’re not asexual. You realize they’re a bunch of incels, right? If you think there’s something wrong with your hormones, you should see a doctor.”

“Wow,” Y said, readjusting their glasses. “I never thought I’d find someone like you.”

X smiled. “Someone with common sense?”

“An irl aphobe.” Y started digging in their bag, their face a look of pure excitement. “I mean, don’t get me wrong, I’ve encountered plenty of people with ignorant questions. But I’ve only seen the true, malicious hatred online. You’re the first specimen I’ve found in real life.”

“I’m sorry. Specimen?”

Y pulled out a round metal calliper and started measuring X’s head. “Yes. Now tell me, how exactly would you define ‘asexual’?”

X blinked at the tool. “Uh . . . you know. Someone who thinks being a lonely virgin makes them special. Or just someone with a mental illness.”

“Fascinating.” Y used tweezers to pluck a couple hairs from X’s head.

“Hey!”

Y dropped the hairs in a vile, their eyes gleeful. “Okay, and what about ‘aromantic’?”

“What’s that?”

“Oh my god you’re perfect.” Y had a tiny notebook, and was rapidly scribbling down notes.

“What the hell is going on?”

Y looked up, their attention refocusing on X. “I’m sorry. Where are my manners? You see, I’m a moronologist.” They readjusted their glasses again. “We’re a new field aiming to determine the source of intellectual deficiencies in an otherwise fully functioning brain.”

“Uh . . . what?”

Y looked ready to cry of happiness.

“Oh please,” they said, grasping X’s hands. “Please come to my lab. You are exactly what I need. Are you afraid of needles, by any chance? Or allergic to latex?”

“Uh, I’m not sure. It all sounds a little – ”

“I will buy you all the White Claw you can drink.”

“Deal.”

Y clapped in delight. They were so getting published from this.

People who are on the aro spectrum but aren't strictly aromantic are important to both the aro community and the queer community. People who are on the ace spectrum but aren't strictly asexual are important to the ace community and the queer community. Sex favourable aces and romance favourable aros are important to the aroace community and the queer community. Kinky aces, hopeless romantic aros, aces in sexual relationships and aros in romantic relationships are all important to the aroace community and the queer community.

didn’t have much to do at work the other day, so i made some water puppies for the alphabet soup :-) if you don’t mind the lack of transparency, these are free to use! just to be sure to leave a like if you do~

I want a girlfriend 😭

Happy International Asexuality Day 2023!

Happy International Asexuality Day! Today we’re celebrating books with main characters all along the ace spectrum, so check out these titles and find your perfect next read! As usual, all links are affiliate and earn a percentage of income for the site, so please use them if you can! Please note this roundup only features titles that were not previously featured [with covers] in past…

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*Happy Trans Noises*

My youngest brother got a bunch of bracelet-making stuff for his birthday and he is obsessed with it. He made one with all the siblings' names on it, and it made me feel really bad about myself because that wasn't me. I'm not [deadname]. So I told him to make one with the name Rowan on it, and while he was making it he asked if Rowan was my nickname now, I said it was my name-name, and he said people are going to think Rowan was my boyfriend so I told him it was a gender-neutral name. I then asked him to make half pink, purple, and blue, and the other half, orange, yellow, white, light blue, and dark blue. Without him even knowing, he made a bracelet with my real name on it and the bisexual and aroace flag on it. I feel so HAPPY now! I went to his room and we went through all his beads to see if he had the colors, and didn't have the right pink for the trans flag and the black beads for the non-binary flag. I'm so happy right now. Having my flags on my wrist. I asked our grandma if she had the right bead colors and she didn't have the big beads but she did have the seed beads. I finished making one bracelet with the seed beads with the trans, non-binary, bisexual/romantic, and aroace flag colors! I'M SO HAPPY! I LOVE IT!!!!

Something as simple as beads and string can become so powerful.

Just so you know, I didn’t tell my youngest brother to make a bracelet with the bisexual and aroace flags on it. I just told him to make a bracelet with the colors pink, purple, blue, and orange, yellow, white, light blue and dark blue. But I did tell him that my name is Rowan. 

When I was showing my grandparents the bracelet I even said, “It has my name on it!” and showed them the beads that say Rowan. My grandma smiled but my grandpa didn’t see anything.

The one I made ↓

The one my brother made ↓

Me: Wow I finally feel comfortable in my gender identity and sexual orientation!!

Romantic orientation: :)

Me: Oh no.

Romantic orientation: :) :) is any crush you’ve ever felt real or just a squish that you felt pressured to say you want to date, even though you didn’t want to, in hopes of a romance plot line in your life

Me: Why-