Even after all this time and awareness, it feels like asexuality is still not treated like a proper sexuality. Recently had a girl tell me that she was at a place where she ‘felt so asexual’ because all the other girls were so beautiful and guys were ignoring her because of it. She didn’t know I was asexual and I didn’t take offence (I know she didn't meant it in a malicious way) but it does feel uncomfortable that people are using ‘asexual’ in lieu of ‘unattractive' or 'lacking sexual appeal.' It's really giving 90's/early 2000's slang of using 'gay' to mean 'lame.' Even shows like Brooklyn 99 which took immense pride in being progressive with their comedy, had an episode where one of the characters says "Oh, and I'm sorry if we implied you're both asexual nerds who can only be friends with service animals."

I have mentioned this before also, when I talked about how I feel like people are more comfortable erasing the identities of canonical aro/ace characters in media but act like it's unacceptable with other sexualities... but it does feel like asexuality (and aromanticism tbh) are still not considered 'real' sexualities. In the case of shipping fictional characters, I understand there is nuance to that issue and so don't want to get into it, but it does kinda add to my point.

Why is it that people treat asexuality like it's not a sexuality? Why is it that when I come out to people I'm met with insistence that I'm wrong about my sexuality, that I'm 'self diagnosing' (it's not a medical condition), that I'm probably 'just inexperienced' or haven't 'met the right person' or have a hormone issue? Why can't people just accept that it's a sexuality like any other??

I am the horniest asexual I stfg I need there to be sex all the time thinking of it looking at it reading it writing it just pls I don't want to be involved

Am I the only person who hates telling other people about my sexuality irl? I'm proud of being aroace and all, it just gets tiring to explain it every single fucking time.

I mean, I can just say I'm not straight or I'm queer, but then people immediately default to thinking I'm gay if I say that.

It usually goes like this:

Stranger: "Are you straight?"

Me: "Oh, no."

Stranger: "Oh, so you're gay."

Me: "...Nope. Try again."

Stranger: "Bisexual?"

Me: "Nope!"

Stranger: "Can you give me a hint?"

Me: *long sigh* "I can, but I don't think you'll like the answer"

Now cue the explaining it for ten minutes and gods forbid they're aphobic (which, unfortunately, a large percentage of the people I've told are) because that's just a whole other fucking rabbit hole

And now, a moment of silence for all the asexual vampires who cannot consume the holy bread of life. Stay strong soldiers 💪

When you say to an asexual girl something like:

-> "You just had bad luck with boys."

-> "Don't worry, you will find the right boy."

-> "You are weird."

-> "Nah, you are just a lesbian."

YOU ARE ACEPHOBIC.

a qpr would be real epic rn

ok but wouldn’t it be so cool if season two actually explored Alastors asexuality? Outside of one little comment? Like don’t get me wrong I love the ace deer man but I feel like the way we’re eating up that one crumb goes to show how little rep we actually get. And I get that everything we get about him in s1 is basically crumbs. He’s SUPPOSED to be mysterious. But I can’t help but worry that his identity is going to be ignored altogether within the story. And there are SUCH cool stories that can be told about this specific part of him. How did his relationship with Vox fall apart? Vox basically stalks him. Does that freak him out at all? Will it scare him in the future? When did Valentino come into the picture? Did that affect their friendship? How did Alastor survive hells hyper sexual environment when he first arrived?

And there ARE issues with the other queer rep in the show, but we have seen both Charlie and angel face homophobia in hell, and we have seen all sorts of sexual and romantic relationships. Ace and aro rep is a bit different, because it’s difficult to tell those kinds of stories without acknowledging the struggles that aspec people face. Very much how early gay rep focused a lot on prejudice. I understand why people just want a goofy silly aspec character who is accepted and just being themselves. I get that. But within the context of Hazbin, having good aspec rep just means acknowledging the struggles that come with it. And there’s so much you can do with that story wise, but I worry that the team will shy away from it as to not piss off the shippers.

Difficult question time for aspec people and people who struggle with intimacy

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Pick the one that troubles you the most.

"But ace people can have sex !/ Aro people can be in relationships !" I know but there was not enough space to specify 'repulsed' or 'people who do struggle with relationships of any type'.

I didn't add "I'm worried people won't accept me" or something similar because I'm asking about problems you have with yourself.

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A note to anyone who wants to read any of my books when they get released but can't order one for some reason: literally ask me and I'll just send you the doc. You don't have to give me anything in return.

Want to read Blind Trust or any future Songbird Elegy, but the price point of a new book isn't feasible, or you're in a place where ordering even a non-erotic queer romance could make things sketchy? Legitimately my DMs are open and I will send you the file myself. Fuck it, I'll send it tomorrow. Consider it an Advance Reader Copy, I don't know.

Is it a good business practice for someone hoping to be a successful writer? I don't know. I don't care. Aspec representation sucks so hard that if it's between me making a few dollars and you reading my book I'd rather you just read the book. In fact I'd be thrilled.

Let Scott and Edgar into your computer. They'll make you snacks and ask you about your day. Meaningful questions, too. They're both good listeners.

My ace experience with media is like my coffee/tea experience as a non hot beverage drinker because a post apocalyptic protagonist would say "oh goddd I miss coffee" and everyone in the room would agree with them and become depressed and I would be like gee this coffee thing sounds unbelievably toxic in the way it rewires people's needs good thing I've never met her

AroAce whose never wanted to fuck anyone and would rather die than experience a crush, but can only verbally express enthusiasm in overtly sexual or romantic ways. Y’know?

"I would have the biggest crush on him" i say as an aroace who never had a crush in her life