unwholesomely rottenly divinely aromantic

why is every song romantic somehow. fuck you

"forced representation 🤓☝️" is actually such a bad take because I'd rather have a child see that it's okay to not be interested in relationships in the most stereotypical, forced way than for them to feel like they're left behind for a huge part of their life

The person I kinda-maybe-but-not-really had a crush on: So I went on a date with my girlfriend...

Me *flooded with relief*: THANK THE STARS GOOD FOR YOU. (Now I can focus on becoming friends like the stars intended. )

the double standards are so fucking obvious

why am I not allowed to say that but they are?????

what have they done for you?????

am I not important enough just because I'm not in love with you romantically??

I guarantee you that I love you more than he does - why does its form fucking matter???????

sorry I can't relate to you in that way, but at least I give a fuck about what you're interested in

they don't even know what's going on in your life

I'm just fucking done

that's it

no more attempts at happiness from me

they all fucking fail

alllllllllll the time for him but never any for me

fuck

Hey it's time for me to rant about mildly annoying things about society and being aro/ace! (Long post warning)

Okay so when I was eating dinner with my parents today and we were talking about our grandparents for a bit. Specifically, my grandma getting sick, and how my uncle traveling around all the time but living with them did not help that. Anyway then I was thinking about him, because he's unmarried with no kids and so is my other uncle. So then I brought up the fact that I have no first cousins, making my one joke about the topic that I'm the onliest only child ever. And we laughed about it for a bit, but then my mom said something else.

“See that's why –and I feel a bit like Jane Austen saying this– that's why you have to get married”

And my aroace brain already did not like that, but obviously I wasn't going to tell her that because I'm not out?? And then my dad then butted in with a joke about the reason being that the family line would end if I didn't, which annoyed me, but interestingly, my mother brushed that aside.

Instead, she said “because when you get old you won't have any siblings or cousins to help you.”

I... Had not been expecting that. So I sat there, not liking where the conversation had gone but not doing anything about it. I just put it aside to rant about later (this is that) and moved on with my evening

But I've come back to it now.

I'm not mad at my mom for telling me that I have to get married. I'm annoyed at my situation and our society for existing in a way where she's right.

I don't have siblings or cousins I'm close with who could help me. The only people I have are my friends, and who knows if I'll still be friends with them? Also, I have maybe one actually aro friend, all the others are highly likely to get into romantic relationships and maybe have children. They'll have their own people to be taking care of. I'm just going to be lower priority, that's how our society works. Hell, with the internet the way that it is, there's no guarantee that I would even live in the same area as most of my friends.

And this isn't even just an old age thing. What happens if I need a serious surgery? What person, with their own job and family and life, has the time to spend taking care of their friend for an extended period of time? I mean, I might, but I don't have the whole romance thing getting in the way.

I realize that I'm being pessimistic and that I should probably have more faith in both my friends and the way the world works. I'm just frustrated that because we place so much more emphasis on romance than we do friendships, once people start pairing up the friendships get left behind a little bit. I'm frustrated that you could make an argument that I might have to get married, not because I truly want to, but for the sake of my own health and comfort in the future. I'm frustrated that someone can say something as uncomfortable to me as “you have to get married,” and still have a decent point.

Again, I'm being a pessimist and I'm not mad at my mom. Or my dad.

…I need more irl aro friends.

if men can give each other blowjobs without it being considered homosexual i can kiss my friends without it being considered romantic thanks for coming to my ted talk

Love wins, just not for me :)

Allos can also have QPRs. Btw. In case you thought it was an aspec-only event. Or romance light. It's neither. And you can have one if you want.

"Friends dont look at friends that way" COWARD. I look at my friends with awe in my eyes, my chest is filled with love, im glowing because i get to be near my friends. I look at my friends and i would give them my everything. SO SKILL ISSUE, look at your friends with all the love that you have

i hate amatonormativity.

i hate how being single is considered bad. i hate how the older you get, the worse society treats you if you lack a partner, especially as a woman. i hate how i am not believed when i say i don’t have a crush. i hate how a romantic relationship is seen as the best relationship there is. i hate the relationship hierarchy. i hate how sexualized everything is. i hate how people would just never get it if they knew the true reason i rejected them. i hate being aromantic in a hetero- and amatonormative society, not because i hate my identity, but because i hate the way it is treated. i hate how i am not taken seriously. i hate how i am told i can, or will, be fixed. i hate how i am treated as a broken half rather than a content whole. and i hate romance, by god, how i hate it. i hate seeing a couple on the street knowing i will never have what they do. i hate unnecessarry romance in media. i hate that romance in itself is a plotline. i hate kissing. i hate hand-holding. i hate dates. i hate that i can’t do any of those without it being considered romantic. i hate that romance and sex seem to go hand in hand. i hate the insistence that i will have that one day. i hate that i am ‘too young to know’ and i hate soulmates and i hate those stupid fucking tropes.

i hate amatonormativity.

hey as a local aroace, i want to specify something.

were no strangers to love. you know the rules and so do i (do i). a full commitments what im thinking of. you wouldnt get this from any other guy. i just wanna tell you how im feeling. gotta make you understand. never gonna give you up. never gonna let you down. never gonna run around and desert you. never gonna make you cry. never gonna say goodbye. never gonna tell a lie and hurt you

I want to find out how many people are aromantic and/or asexual on Tumblr so i made this

here's the thing. "ace people can still have sex" and "aro people can still be in relationships" are objectively true statements. this is because people can do whatever the fuck they want forever regardless of their label/orientation. however some of you have GOT to get your shit together and stop using those statements to undermine larger conversations about aspec identity. following up "ace people don't owe you sex in a relationship" with "ace people can still have sex in a relationship though!" is not fucking helpful! yes it's true. yes it's a reality for many people. however if we used our fucking brains for a second and thought about how following up "people don't have to conform to societal expectation" with "but people can still conform!! don't worry they can still conform!!!!" is counterproductive and very frustrating for a lot of people then we could get back to the actual point which is not "aspec people can still have sex/be in relationships" but "aspec people can do whatever they want with their relationships and their bodies". which they can, by the way. they can do whatever they want forever. and you should give them 200 dollars every time you see them for dealing with this shit