kebbopulos · 2 days
In my data collection, I was also curious how many of tumblr's top 100 ships were queer!
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Out of these queer ships, I also broke them down to see what percent were wlw and what percent were mlm:
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Keep it Queer Tumblr <3
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kyliegurl · 3 days
A good way to start the weekend ❤️
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babelico · 1 day
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jinxdragons · 2 days
just four queer people staring at each other heheh 🏳️‍🌈
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fayrobertsuk · 11 hours
Making Differences
Long post. tl;dr: you never know where your earnest words may end up, and what they might accomplish, so keep putting them out there. (Also: I wrote a guide to nonbinary identities a little over two years ago and I’m still very proud of it.)
Back in August 2020, I emailed my day job line manager: “Hey, so, I’ll be coming back to work [after the world’s worst-timed unpaid, year-long sabbatical] in three weeks... we should probably have a plan...?”
He agreed, and decided to do a long-overdue video call that week. In our defence, we’d had a lot of Other Things to think about in that period.
Approximately 15 seconds before the call connected, I remembered that my beard had been growing out for about 6-8 weeks by that point and was not something you could pass off as a trick of the light, if you were so minded. What would this nice, supportive, but ultimately cishet, Christian, family man have to say about my incontrovertibly gender non-conforming experience? I’d never even told him about being non-binary, always swerving when conversation got close to the topic.
As the video image expanded, he leaned into the screen, put one hand to his own hairy chin (very different from the clean-shaven man of memory) and said “Huh. It’s not as good as mine!”
Me: “Well, uh, hah, to be fair, you’ve had longer to, uh, develop yours.”
Him: “How long have you been growing yours then?”
I’m not sure that there could have been a better response, if I’m honest.
We moved onto different topics after that but, like a two-ring circus, I was chatting about the departmental shifts, the changes in personnel, how everyone was coping with permanently working from home... and thinking: “Could I finally come out completely at work? Like: COMPLETELY? Would that... I hadn’t even... what...?!” and said, just before signing off, with utter lack of articulacy, that it would be good to talk about, uh, pronouns, and changing them in work, sometime.
“Oh. Okay.”
We worked the mechanism out between us, me slowly revealing my new appearance to close colleagues one at a time, most of whom were either a) relieved that I wasn’t telling them I’d suffered horrendous burn scars (thanks for that very specific leap of imagination!), b) cis men complaining mildly that my beard was better, or c) having to be dragged back a step from the notion that I was transitioning to a man and would be changing my name, etc., d) or some combination of the above. And then we decided to use November 2020’s National Coming Out Day as a good point to aim for. I was already set to write an article about coming out as nonbinary for the organisation’s LGBT+ Network (due to be shared generally with anyone in the business who cared to read it or any of the others for that day – apparently mine made some people cry).
In the meantime, I searched out the announcement that a former colleague’s line manager had made to the business when she came out as trans and forwarded it to mine – here’s a good template, and yes: the annoucement coming from you will help legitimise it. At which point, it became clear that my boss and colleagues were going to need some further guidance from me.
“I was thinking of writing a thing about how to use pronouns...”
“Oh!” He was nakedly relieved. “Yes, pronouns. That would be great. Thanks!”
No problem. I knew how to use my own, and how to communicate that clearly. No worries. One page about ze/zir/zirself, with a general background on neopronouns. Coming right up.
It occurred to me that I didn’t know whether any of my (ostensibly uniformly cishet) colleagues had any idea why why someone would use third person singular pronouns other than she/her or he/him, so I added in a bit about nonbinary identities. A couple of pages should be fine, right? The nonbinary identity section grew, and split into subsections: definitions, history, legacy, how much more common such a thing is in cultures other than “Western” ones.
Maybe it needed more context. After all, to understand nonbinary, you probably need to understand binary trans identities. A new section blossomed.
In order to understand transgender identities, you need to understand gender identity. Okay. Another section. Let’s throw in all the definitions re: sex, gender, cis, trans, nonbinary... with some links to other resources.
You know what this needs? Diagrams (id in alt-text). And a contents page. And a glossary.
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Honestly, I’m amazed it’s only thirteen pages long...
Anyway, thing is: it’s gone a LOT further than any of us ever imagined. It started with people on Facebook saying “Well, I don’t understand [non-binary people/ the need for gender-neutral language]!” in various groups/ on other friend’s posts, so I’d sweetly offer them the guide. (Turns out treating what can look like huffy denial as a good faith request for more information (with bonus diagrams) gets many more positive results than you’d imagine.) Then I idly posted the link in a couple of more friendly places. And THEN it started getting weird. “Can I share this with my colleagues?” Sure. “Can I bring this to my kids’ school?” Go for it. “I’d like to circulate this as a resource at the NHS Trust I work for.” Uh. Okay! “So, I saw [the guide] on Twitter. Can [organisation I greatly admire] use that as guidance for our organisation?” Buh, uh, yeah! Please! “My wife is a prison psychiatrist, may I share it with her?” Blimey. By all means.
And then the more personal stories started coming back: “You made me realise something about myself.” “I shared this with my family and they understood.” “We’re in love and your paper helped me reconcile that.”
This little guide has gone a lot further than I ever imagined it might.
Today a senior colleague told me, in passing:
fwiw I shared your pronoun guide with my (very old white cis hetero) choir and it has generated SO many good questions
so there are choir grandkiddos all over the world thanking you for their grandparents being more awesome
Which, considering I was braced for an awkward business change management conversation, was not where I was expecting to end up this afternoon, emotionally speaking.
If I was doing this from scratch now, I suspect there would be differences (a longer glossary; an excursion into intersex identities, maybe? definitely better diagrams...), but then, a lot of what I know now came from doing the research for the guide, so maybe not so much! But one thing is for sure: I’m never going to take the impact of words shared freely quite so lightly in future.
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gender is such a strange thing i dont want it
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simon: i want to be with you, i dont care if that means we hv to be a secret or anything
i love you
wille: yup. that’s it! i’m telling the world
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fluoritegalaxy · 1 day
Let it be known that I have been dragged unwillingly, and am now frightfully invested, into this British procedural about a couple buying haunted house,
Because the ghost of the British Captain who died before the end of WWII is gay.
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saintyesinner · 1 day
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Come with me..
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noxwithoutstars · 3 days
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✧。:*▹ Cyberglitchen
[PT: Cyberglitchen end PT]
Flag ID: a flag with 7 equal stripes. The outside stripes are aqua and gradient in to purple on top and green on the bottom. The middle stripe is a muddy teal. End ID.
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✧ Cyberglitchen is a gender related to cyborgs , sparks , malfunctiontioning technology , futuristic or scifi technology , glitches , and cybercore.
✧ Day 3 of divinecember - AI / FLESH - @engagekiss
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ID: a white DNI with a panel of the manga Oyasumi Punpun with 5 kids doing a joint pose. Words are black on the right side: “DNI: anti- ‘contradictory’ labels, anti-mogai, terf, gatekeeper, anti-decolonization, believes ‘narc abuze’ is real, demonizes ‘scary/evil’ disorders + labels.” End ID.
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kebbopulos · 2 days
I was curious how a ship being queer interacted with whether it is canon. So I graphed Tumblr's Year in Review top 100 ships based on whether they were canon and whether they were queer
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(the percentage stands for what percent of queer ships each queer column takes up and what percent of straight ships each straight column takes up, NOT percent of all ships)
so queer ships were more likely to not be canon, and grey area ships (such as mutual pining) were more likely to be straight ships
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kyliegurl · 2 days
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Innocent, not innocent
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newpath3432 · 17 hours
Subtle pride holiday lights made in WOMBO dream.
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Rainbow, Asexual, Aromantic, Aroace (purple/green), Aroace (sunset), Oriented aroace, Angled aroace, Aplatonic
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mywitchcultblr · 3 months
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kdinjenzen · 2 months
Congrats to Velma in the latest movie for being a lesbian.
Also a reminder that the company who owns Scooby-Doo, Warner Bros. Discovery, recently:
Laid off countless staff
Is likely doing more layoffs we don’t even know about
Cancel completed projects to get tax breaks
Removed countless animated series with no warning and without telling the staff
Is being sued for inflating HBO Max user numbers by Tens-Of-Millions
Turned beloved IPs (The Matrix/Harley Quinn/etc) into NFTs
Is STILL making “Bad Wizard Lady” projects
I wonder, really, if the staff who made the most recent Scooby-Doo movie where Velma is a lesbian were even paid properly or even still have their JOBS…
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