i feel like im aroace, ive never felt any attraction but im nervous about identifying and assuming too early and also i donr even know if this is the right blog to say this

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We win

aromantic and asexual people are not inherently "miserable" or "unhappier" than other people. we are not "missing out" on something- if we do not experience these feelings to begin with, we have nothing to "miss out" on. the only time that aromantic and asexual people are miserable is when we are forced into relationships or forced to believe we "need" to be in one to be complete. destroy this argument in your mind- aromantic and asexual people define our happiness. we are not inherently miserable, we are doing just fine

Shout out to the people who wake up a woman and go to bed a man. The the people who wear lipstick and have a beard. To the people whose gender is complicated. To the people who need a minute to think about it. To the people who don't really care. To the people who never stop thinking about it. To the people whose gender and sexuality are the same thing. To the people who like people in a way they can't explain. To the people who don't like anything. To the people with a thousand crushes. To the people who never had one.

Aces of tumblr:

I was today's years old when I realized that people actually think that other people are attractive.

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PEOPLE JUST LOOK AT A BODY AND BE LIKE : 'whoa I wanna date, hot, sexy, kiss kiss' ?!?!?

saw an anti ace-spec people post on the asexual tag today so I wanted to make a post:

for anyone who fits anywhere on the ace spectrum, no matter how you define sexual attraction and how often you feel it, no matter your past, no matter your other orientations, and no matter how confident you are in it. Have a happy international asexuality day, this day is for you :)

Even a menace always checks in with their dude while attempting to seduce him.

Some Mild Sauce for you (my friend called it that and it just makes sense. ha)

Caro and Johnny are from my webcomics Seemingly Dark and Mil-Liminal!

Hey btw you’re allowed to be horny if you’re ace. You’re allowed to do sex if you’re ace. You’re allowed to want sex if you’re ace. Ace is a spectrum and all those things don’t make you less ace.

I have a poll that I'm curious about, you can include the context or not

I've identified as asexual since I knew what the term meant (13-14 y/o), but I didn't realize till I was sixteen that it wasn't "normal" to have zero libido. I'm an adult now- and I've never experienced arousal, that specific kind of pleasure, or an orgasm. but I was also diagnosed as intersex a while back, with a common side effect of my specific condition being a low libido. I also know aces with similar experiences to mine without additional factors complicating their libidos, which makes me curious...

aspec people are free to vote as the ace option, ily besties on the spectrum <3

1) I'm asexual with very little/no libido and I think it's 100% my sexuality

2) I'm asexual with very little/no libido and I think it's influenced by something else specific

3) I'm asexual with very little/no libido and I might have something else influencing it (undiagnosed/unsure)

4) I'm asexual with very little/no libido and I have different thoughts about it

5) I'm asexual with a libido

6) I'm not asexual

Kinda curious as to if people prefer to use the umbrella terms or not. Personally I tend to use umbrella terms (for me just ace) out of total laziness since explaining all the time is beyond tedious for me 🙃

after this website decided to attempt to ban porn and ns fw content, it's honestly become a nightmare to navigate as an asexual person w/ sexual trauma. because next to no one uses the mature filter, or tags things as ns fw or even ns ft for fear of having their content or blogs taken down, it means that tumblr has returned to the wild west of random porn flooding your dashboard with next to nothing you can do about attempting to filter it out again

it's not great for a lot of people in general, even outside of asexuality; people with jobs who browse tumblr in their down time, people who have or work with kids, people who spend a lot of time in public, people who are often at religious establishments or events, children and teenagers- there are load of children who lie about their birth date in order to sign up for just about any website ever, the amount of minors are on here is staggering. this is not good many people in general.

as an asexual person with a long history of sexual trauma, i struggle to navigate my dashboard or even certain tags right now. even the act of tagging certain posts will have tumblr suggest 'related' tags that are nsf w even if you are tagging things something simple like "ftm" or "enby" or "butch lesbian". it's great that other people are flourishing and embracing their sexuality, but it comes at the cost of making this website very difficult to browse for asexual people and people with sexual trauma

my heart goes out to the rest of you who are absolutely exhausted and triggered by this. again it's wonderful for the people who enjoy it, but because of how strict the tagging and filtering systems are on this website and how easy it is to get your entire blog deleted just by having a single thing flagged as mature, this website has gotten significantly worse at actually filtering the content they set out to remove in the first place.

As an aspec person who did eventually "find the right person" it didn't suddenly erase my aro-aceness like so many aphobes believe. Being in a happy, loving relationship & feeling genuine sexual attraction for the first time in my life has done nothing to change how I feel alienated from the majority of the world, the panic spirals about not being "allo enough", the constant confusion at how love & sex focused allos can be. If anything, having a proper basis for romantic & sexual attraction has made me MORE aspec, not less. I finally feel confident in actually using these labels for myself. Aromantism & Asexuality aren't something that can be """fixed""". It'll always part of a person even if they don't seem it from the outside.

gonna start saying "kinda hot" at completely random things like the allos do