i show up as a recced blog in the aplatonic tag???? this is an honor but Why.

i. i was questioning if i was or not but i guess tumblr has decided for me! assigned aplatonic at tumblr. well. seems i will make more apl content now!

Shoutout to all the a-specs who don't want or need friends (or contacts in general) 💚💜

"but aros can still date!" "but aros can still feel love!"

those things are true but let's just please acknowledge that loveless aros exists and aplatonics exist, keep remembering that aromanticism is a spectrum. it's not all black and white.

can someone explain being aplatonic/afamilial to me??? i literally have questions so, feel free to answer anything or don’t idk?

1. how do friendships/platonic relationships work when you are aplatonic?

2. do u just not want or need friends when you’re aplatonic? do u need them but not want them?

3. what do you feel when you’re aplatonic? when you’re ace like i am you don’t feel sexual attraction and when you’re aplatonic you don’t feel platonic attraction, so if you don’t feel it what feelings do you feel for your friends?

4. how do your familial relationships look like if you’re afamilial? what exactly do you not feel? love for them? if so then what do you feel for them? attachment? also platonic attraction maybe instead?

5. how did you know you are aplatonic OR afamilial OR both.

**IN NO WAY I MEAN THIS AS AN INSULT I AM ASKING GENUINE QUESTIONS ABOUT A TOPIC I DONT FULLY UNDERSTAND! I DONT GET PLATONIC/FAMILIAL ATTRACTION AS WELL I CANNOT PINPOINT WHERE IT STARTS AND ENDS HENCE THE QUESTIONS ABOUT WHAT YOU DO FEEL**

The experience of being allo in one way and aspec in another(s): None pizza with left attraction

Platonic Non-conforming

An umbrella term for friendships (and other similar relationships) and people that don't conform to the typical societal expectations of friendships.

Platonic Non-conforming may include:

Friends who are openly affectionate

Aplatonic people

People on the aplatonic spectrum

Friends who are mistaken for lovers

Exes who are still friends

Friends who kiss or cuddle

And more!

However platonic non-conforming is a self given label, and even if you fit the description here, you don't have to identify with this label.

The acronym is PLANC.

don't repost <3 ask before adding to wikis

this isn't a gender, do not tag as such.

Y'know I identified as asexual for like, a WHILE before eventually realizing I wasn't, and honestly I regret nothing. I mean I was like 15/16 and Mormon (repressed exmo gang eyy✌️) so it's not like I'd be having sex anyway, I wasn't missing out on anything (and aces aren't "missing out" in general, they're doin their own thing and I love that). But in my case identifying the way I did allowed me to step back and just. Get in tune with my emotions and attractions and everything. I'd realized I liked girls at 13 and instantly I thought that meant I had to sexualize them, objectify them even. And that led to a lot of awkward interractions and feeling like shit about myself for being creepy (didn't help that I'm autistic and had trouble figuring out what was too much). So I really think I needed to be ace for a while. I needed that time to let myself desexualize love and attraction in my brain until I was in a place where I could express sexuality in a healthier way. In a similar way I think it was good that I went through so many gender and sexual/romantic orientation labels before settling on what I am now, because it allowed me to analyze why I identify this way and what it means to me. My identity is stronger and more solid because of the way I grappled with it throughout highschool, and I learned a whole lot about other communities along the way!

I hope you live a life you enjoy, with or without love<2

The Diversity of A-spectrum Experiences Zine Submissions!!

Hiya, I'm Fawn (FaeryVoid) Something to know about me is that I'm AroAce and I'm making a zine about the diversity amongst a-spec experiences. I've already made a post about this on my main blog The DazedPuppyDiaries, but I wanna make an updated post here. Before I discovered that I'm aro, I already really wanted to make a zine about the diversity amongst ace-spec experiences and that kind of evolved into making a zine about the diversity amongst a-spec experiences. I'm inspired to make this zine because I feel it's often forgotten that the a-spectrum is just that, a spectrum. I feel that a-spec experiences are often treated as a monolith which I find really frustrating. If you're a-spec and interested in participating feel free to reach out whether that be through commenting, reblogging this, or direct messaging me. I wanna make it clear this zine is for all a-spec not just aces and aros, so if you're aplatonic or asensual for example I'd like to hear from you as well. I do ask that anyone submitting something is 18+. You can be accredited however you like whether that be, your username, your name, your system name, an alias, or anonymous. I'm open to many mediums for this project so if you'd prefer to share your experience through illustration rather than writing that's also fine. I also have a prompt list available so if you'd like that reach out and I'll send you the document, but the prompt list is completely optional. If you're writing a submission try to be conscious about the length of the submission, but it's not too big of a deal. I should note that I might not be able to use all the submissions I get or I might not be able to use a whole submission if it's very long. Also If you don't want to write a submission, but would like to give me feedback about your experience for me to take into account while writing the zine I'd appreciate that as well, please just differentiate if it's feedback or a submission. This project is going to take me quite a while and I'm going to be taking submissions for quite a while too, so submissions are open unless I edit this saying otherwise.

[submissions and feedback are currently open]

I'm trying to think of a way to word this that doesn't sound combative or insulting but if you're aromantic, asexual, and aplatonic does that mean you don't make any kind of connection with anyone at all? Romantic, sexual, and platonic are the only kinds of relationships I understand so what can you have for others if you have none of those feelings at all?

thanks for asking, I totally get it that it's confusing, it is sometimes for me too

so with my aromanticism and asexuality, those are more easily understood and 'mainstream' (so to speak) identities with clearer definitions and larger communities of people, so I can find them for myself more easily

my aromanticism means that I don't desire romantic relationships or actions with anyone, and my asexuality means I don't desire sexual actions or thoughts with anyone

with aplatonic it's a little harder to define. for me, it means that I don't have the urge to make friends or be friends with more people. I do HAVE friends, but it was kind of like an extrovert deciding that I'm their friend now. I don't actively hate friendships if they come my way, and my friends are special to me, but i don't seek out new friends or feel 'fulfilled' by any friendships (because I feel fulfilled just being me). so I don't NEED friends, but they're nice to have if they come my way.

there is connection I do feel though! I'm very picky and VERY protective of my familial relationships, to the point where even though someone might not be blood related to me, I can consider them family. I have a younger brother, and I value him over all other people. sometimes I think of the kids I take care of at summer camp as family.

I have connections with people intellectually and professionally, and I see those as types of relationship dynamics too. I love to talk with people about a shared interest or hobby, and it doesn't necessarily have to be a friendship. I talk with people I work with or professionals in my field of interest, and make connections that way.

as for what I 'have for others' I don't see basing my worth on how I relate to other people or what I 'offer' to them as a good way to live life. if I'm just happy being myself without any kind of traditional relationship, and it's not harming anyone, it's okay. there's no moral downfall in just being happy alone, im whole on my own.

hey aspec ppl!! :> i just thought id give you a chance to rant about aspec stuff that make you happy cause i feel like the prompt to do so dosnt come up alot :> (lables, expiriences, anything!) We aspecs sometimes need some extra positivity this time of year so talk away :>

Aight imma make an intro pin post for this blog because I actually know what I want to do here!

Hi, I’m Dustpan, and this is my aspec blog. I’m a transfem autistic aspec alloromantic who has many interests, but this blog is about aspec shit. I’m going to try to use this blog to reblog aspec shit that doesn’t specifically apply to myself but I find vaguely relatable, funny, or just plain awesome.

You can find my main blog where I post pretty much everything else for now here.

Please leave if you think aspecs are invalid, we don’t want you here unless you’re willing to respect and accept us.

Demiromantic Aroflexible, Plato-Repulsed Aplatonic culture is

Person: So you want this? (Romantic relationship)

Me: Mhm.

Person: But you don't want this? (Platonic relationships)

Me: Correct.

Person: Ok so in order to have this (romance) you need to do this (make friends).

Me: >:'(((

The aspecs communities just hit different than any other queer space.

Intro

This is a blog for people on the atertiary spectrum to talk about our experiences with being atertiary/ otherwise on the atertiary spectrum.

Atertiary refers to a disconnect from tertiary attraction and/or tertiary relationships, or little to no tertiary attraction. Tertiary attraction is any attraction thats not romantic or sexual, it is also called nonrose or eriattraction. Atertiary spec (aterspec) ppl may nor not be on the aro and/or ace spectrums, and may or may not be favorable to tertiary/nonrose relationships.

Some atertiary spectrum identities include aplatonic, asensual, analterous, etc.

Main @entropy-sea-system

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We support all system types, if you don't, this blog is not for you and we will block you. Same goes if you're against atertiary orientations and/or an exclusionist.