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wultgirl · 1 year

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How to Keep a Routine without Motivation.

There are Four Laws of Behavior Change in the book, Atomic Habits. But today, I will be focusing on the Third Law: "Make it Easy".

You need a cue to trigger the habit loop.

It means in order to stick to a habit, you have to lessen the friction. Just like an alarm clock.

Throughout my self-transformation journey, I have had my fair share of trial and error and I will be sharing the system I built that has worked for me to achieve my intentions of the day.

Notion Recurring Tasks

You have probably heard stories about 'Notion being the best productivity app'. Notion is indeed the second-brain system where you can do a lot of things. It is versatile and easy to use since it syncs on both desktops and phones. But I have not seen anyone who talked about this new feature that helped me accomplish all my tasks and gave me more free time to achieve my higher self.

This has been the best system I built that is extremely helpful to my leveling-up journey. I was able to accomplish a lot of tasks and have more free time to achieve my highest self.

GUIDE: HOW TO CREATE A RECURRING TO-DO LIST

First, pick a task that you know you will be doing weekly, monthly, or yearly.

For example, every month you want to create a Monthly Workout Planner:

On your page, type /gallery and click the Gallery view.

2. Click the drop-down arrow on the upper right side and click "New Template"

3. Type your recurring task

4. After that, click "Back" and Click the 3 dots to choose the frequency of the reminder.

5. Your task will appear automatically on the specific day you set.

Note: You should check your daily to-do task every day because the app doesn't have a feature yet to remind you of the recurring task

WHAT SHOULD I PUT ON MY RECURRING TASK?

I do tasks based on the planetary ruler of the day.

Astro girl coming in...

Have you ever wondered why a lot of people don't like going to work on Mondays? It is because Monday is ruled by the moon. The energy of the day is encouraging us to rest and take things slow.

Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't show up at work or sit on your couch for the whole day! It's about doing prioritized tasks intentionally and not putting too much on your plate. However, if you feel like doing a lot of things on Monday then do it and don't waste your energy!

I like doing Yoga, Meditation, and Journaling every Monday to honor the Moon so I put them on a recurring task.

Tuesday is ruled by Mars. It's good to keep things fired up by working out and accomplishing a lot tasks as possible

Saturday is ruled by Saturn so it is the best day to structure and plan for the next week, clean, and change beddings.

and so on...

This is a wonderful guide on how to organize your week based on the energy of the day.

Source: The Blissful Mind

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the-joy-of-knowledge · 3 months

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25 Laws of power for women

Conceal your goals especially the ones that are appealing. Losing weight, reinventing yourself, marrying wealthy. Instead talk about your altruistic goals - to help children, invest in education, this will chase insecure people with vile intentions.

Do not give anyone your source of power: Was is a book that changed your life? a mentor? a movie? Never give up your secret to success. If forced to do say allude to God, the universe, the a random phenomenon

Use the patriarchy to your favor; we live in a world that is, only associate with men who have power, use that power for good.

Never appear too perfect but be selectively vulnerable when needed. Only share something that you will be comfortable saying. You might say “I forget my keys all the time,” “I don’t know how to perfectly park a car “. But never disclose something you are not comfortable with just because you are afraid of being perfect.

Maintain distance in relationships. Friends are the best and you need them. But if you feel that they are becoming too dependent, see them at your own will. But also the reverse could be the case. Your friend may keep a distance, and that is the way of life. You have got to move on from it.

Develop your own style that makes you unique, beautiful, and elegant. Avoid trying to fit in the crowd of people who claim to care less about their style yet have too many opinions about other women’s style

Avoid male friends at all cost, you will have male colleagues, male bosses, male acquaintances, business partners. Keep it that way. You do not want a Truman Capote divulging your secrets to the world. Do not keep a man who does not fit your standard.

You do not have to win at every game. Pick and choose what is best for you and leave room for others. And step down if you have attained that level of success, do not let the society do it for you.

Trust people but remember that we are all humans. So trust with discretion!

Confuse people with kindness; people are not always comfortable with beautiful and intelligent women. That power is too intimidating so confuse them by being genuinely generous, curious, kind, and passionate.

Keep your strong opinions to yourself.. if you support a movement, a way of life, do so silently.

We all have dirty laundry, wash them privately, don’t expose yourself. Remain silent when people try to attack you or shame you. Whatever is not confirmed is not true. You are the only one who knows all the truth about you.

Don’t attract pity or praise: People who pity you do not help you, in fact they might think that you are weak and could mock you at their annual gossipping meeting. And if you are doing things for the sake of praise you are wasting your time.

Choose yourself all the time; never put any one’s feelings above yours.

Trust your own intuition if you feel someone is being malicious towards you, giving you back handed compliments then you should let them go

Never speak bad of another woman. Do not lazy around gossipping. Keep your hands clean and your conscience clear.

Avoid women with low self esteem they will bring you down. For some reason they do not like seeing other women who are doing better than them

Be careful who you seek validation from. Not everyone needs to be pleased. If they are in no way capable of contributing to your life in the ways you prefer, then don’t ask them for their opinions or please them.

Do not compete with other women, if you do you are only putting them on a pedestal. You are making the the standard by which you measure your progress. If you do compete, begin digging your grave.

Do not give unsolicited advice, do not share the inner workings of your mind, If your mouth is very charitable you better start journaling.

Be well-rounded and interesting. It attracts people. It also keeps you busy because you are continually improving and learning. An idle mind is an easily subdued one.

Avoid women who want to live vicariously through you; they want to know who you know, shop where you shop, befriend who you befriend, wear what you wear.

Pay attention to the source of your discomfort; get rid of them. You tell them your dreams and they remind you of all your hindrances. They ask why are you dressed so fancy as though fancy isn’t subjective. They undermine you interests and goals. They will also be quick to bring you down because they are afraid of your potential.

Do not fear power or please power. When we see powerful people we try to hard to befriend them, to be close to them but you need to be comfortable without them. Don’t push yourself in the name of friendship, do not try too hard to be in their inner circle. Your independence of mind is the most important. Instead become a powerful woman, aloof to the presence of power but aware of its importance. Be an ingenious and intelligent and use your creativity to uplift yourself. When you do so it will be hard to ignore you. Even the powerful will become an ally.

Enjoy moments of solitude. Use that time to develop yourself, improve your body, learn new skills, create with your mind, read widely, become more elegant, then launch yourself.

Remember the most powerful women are the most intelligent. Inspired by Robert Greene's 48 Laws of Power. Use at your discretion.

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ivemanifest · 1 year

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Your perspective can change everything.

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theambitiouswoman · 8 months

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11 Lessons from the book Atomic Habits 🌟

"Atomic Habits" focuses on incorporating small, consistent habits into our lives to bring about significant change over time. The book introduces a four-step model for building habits, emphasizing cues, cravings, responses, and rewards. It also guides you in overcoming bad habits and self-limiting beliefs, demonstrating how simple habits can lead to substantial progress toward our goals.

Lesson 1: Habits Over Hobbies: You are not inherently bad at your hobbies. Instead, it's the lack of consistent habits that has held you back.

Lesson 2: Identity Matters: Our self-image greatly influences our habits. While it's important, you shouldn't let it hinder your growth.

Lesson 3: Stacking Habits: The concept of habit stacking involves adding a new behavior to an existing habit, which can help you build a more effective morning routine.

Lesson 4: Embrace the System: Rather than solely focusing on goals, it's important to love the process—the journey itself. It's about embracing the system that leads to progress.

Lesson 5: Something is Better Than Nothing: Even small efforts are valuable. The "Two-Minute Rule" encourages starting new habits that take less than two minutes.

Lesson 6: Overcoming Boredom: Staying motivated in habits requires keeping them interesting and within the right level of challenge. "The Goldilocks Rule" emphasizes that tasks on the edge of our abilities are most motivating. Habits won't always be exciting, and that's okay.

Lesson 7: Bouncing Back from Misses: Missing a habit occasionally is normal, but missing it twice can turn into a new habit. The key is to rebound quickly, maintaining the compound gains from previous good days.

Lesson 8: Shaping Your Potential: Our genes affect what we're good at and the chances we get. Instead of feeling stuck by genes, we should use our strengths. Special traits are like superpowers. Questions in the chapter help us find what we care about. Quotes remind us to focus on self-improvement, not comparing. Genes alone don't bring success; effort matters. Genes give hints, but we shape our success by using our strengths.

Lesson 9: Creating a Supportive Environment: Our surroundings are important. If we change our environment to match the habits we want, we're more likely to succeed. By setting up our space to help our habits, we can make good habits easier. People often limit themselves by thinking they can't do better. He also says that just luck doesn't explain success – hard work does. Whether it's moving stuff around or using visual reminders, these changes can really help us succeed in the long run.

Lesson 10: Creating or Breaking Habits: The Four Steps

These four steps are the foundation upon which many of his ideas are built. They are not only applicable to creating positive habits but also to breaking negative ones.

Cue: This is the trigger that initiates a behavior. It can be a specific time, location, emotional state, or preceding action that prompts your brain to start a habit.

Craving: Craving is the motivation or desire behind a habit. It's the feeling that drives you to engage in the behavior triggered by the cue. It's important to understand the underlying craving to effectively change a habit.

Response: Response refers to the actual behavior that you perform as a result of the cue and craving. This is the action that you take in response to the trigger and motivation.

Reward: Rewards are the positive outcomes or feelings that you associate with completing the habit. They reinforce the habit loop by making you more likely to repeat the behavior in the future.

He explains that these four steps form a habit loop, where each step is interconnected. The loop starts with a cue, followed by craving, which leads to a response, and ultimately ends with a reward. If any part of this loop isn't satisfying, the habit is less likely to stick.

Lesson 11: Success is a product of daily habits and overnight success is not overnight:

Success is not a result of overnight transformations but is instead rooted in the daily habits we cultivate. By recognizing the power of consistent, incremental actions, we can build a solid foundation for lasting success. This perspective challenges the allure of instant success and encourages us to focus on the journey of continuous improvement through daily habits.

#atomic habits #james clear #best seller books #bookshelf #booksbooksbooks #personal improvement #personal development #habits #personal growth #self improvement #self help #self awareness #self love

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iluv4my · 1 month

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thewannabewriter9 · 2 months

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five-flavor-soup · 2 months

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literally begging ppl to treat the atla netflix live action as the adaptation it actually is. it’s like a fanfic, y’all. it’s a canon rewrite au. if you want to watch atla with zero changes watch the cartoon.

#natla #atla netflix #treating bryke like gods as though nickelodeon didnt give them a TEAM OF GOOD WRITERS to make atla as good as it became #they were heavily involved with the horrible movie #remember the comics ruining katara? yeah that’s their influence #remember the issues with tlok? they were the main writers #and their self-insert (aang) had zero character development in book 3 of atla btw #i love aang but he didn’t drive the plot. the plot drove him #cough cough convenient rock cough cough

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isbahstudio · 3 months

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🟣 Warm cups of tea, soft and sweet pastries, and exquisite pieces of literature, the best way to start the day.

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thefeminineurgetobepink · 1 year

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I wish I new the name of this book but I don’t 😭

#books #book exerpt #self compassion #self care reminder #self awareness #self care #self improvement #self development #personal development #main character #selfish era #wisdom #bookblr #level up #level up journey #leveling up #leveled up mindset #it girl #that girl

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cafeblossomss · 1 year

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Weekend activities that cultivate your mind:

go to a local museum or gallery. observe everything — other patrons, the art, the information, whatever you can learn

find a coffee shop along a busy street and order something special. sit at a table near a window or on the patio and people watch

pick up a book from your local bookstore and read it in its entirety. notice how you feel before, during, and after.

clean your space. (happy space, happy mind)

go for a mini-trip. find a new city a few hours away and travel there. while you’re there, do at least one thing you’d not normally do in your own city

eat a meal at a fancy restaurant by yourself.

grab your journal and write down in detail everything about your “ideal self”. act like that person from here on out

have a movie-marathon with a docu-series! really pay attention to what is happening

grab a copy of the local newspaper and read it. staying on top of local news is so important

volunteer for a local food bank or clothing drive

go to the botanical gardens. bring a plant ID book with you and your journal and look up and document the plants you don’t know

spend time with your friends.

call your mom (or anyone you need to catch up with) and ask how they’re doing. really listen to what’s going on in their life. pay attention

go through your closet and donate what you no longer wear. remember, if it doesn’t align with your dream self, it’s not serving you anymore

write a letter or a poem or a short story. really pay attention to grammar and vocabulary. see what you need to brush up on

feel free to reblog and add some of your own!

#cozycore #classic literature #books and libraries #light academia aesthetic #academia #cottage academia #self improvement #self care #self love #personal development #cozy aesthetic #country cottage #cottage aesthetic

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that-one-girls-blog-posts · 1 year

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🤍💗🤍💗🤍💗🤍💗🤍💗🤍💗🤍💗🤍💗🤍💗🤍

#aesthetic #aa #selfcare #self love #that girl #journaling #meditation #spirituality #books and reading #personal development #personal growth #self help #higher self #self healing #thewizardliz

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the-joy-of-knowledge · 3 months

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Common Sense for women in their 20s

Define your raison d'être

Journal regularly, in fact daily

Figure out the right hairstyle for you

Buy clothes that fit your body type

Learn to do you own makeup if you'd like to wear it

Observe, observe, observe

Try to participate in the society

Know that not everything is within your control

Do not live in fantasy or fear, they are distractions

Read books

Learn to form you own opinion

Do not force friendships

Do not stress the small stuff

Spend time getting to know your self

Know women's history & History and use it to your advantage

Have some intellectual rigor

Create your own community

Find a third space

Take your vitamins

Your wellbeing and wellness should be your priority

Have role models for every area of your life

Have discretion

Do not be quick to anger

Have mentors and be a mentor to others

Your social skills will take you far

Be responsible, the world is not so forgiving to women

Know when to stand out

Know when to fit in

Curate your life to fit your goals and desires

Understand strategy and how best to use it to your advantage

Get acquainted with what maks the world go round

You have to climb socially

You need allies in areas where you want to win

Be kind

Be content with what you have, otherwise you will pay the price

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ivemanifest · 6 months

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So much fucking opportunities are existing right now in this moment for you

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theambitiouswoman · 4 months

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Another book recommendation. Read this if you want to stop caring what people think, put yourself first and create the life you want. Once you stop putting other people before you by worrying about their criticism or approval, it opens you up to a lot of possibilities. It opens you up to you living your true life as your actual self. It takes courage to be your self, to choose happiness and it’s probably what you are missing that could change your whole life 🤍

#booksbooksbooks #best seller books #bookstagram #books and reading #selfimprovement #self development #self confidence #self care #personal improvement #personal development #confidence

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coquelicoq · 6 months

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what i love about the Famous Actor Natori Shuuichi of it all is that...it's not just that he's famous and therefore widely recognizable wherever he goes. like yes that is very funny because he was an exorcist before he became a famous actor, which means he CHOSE, on purpose, a day job that would make it harder to hide his double life/secret identity from the hordes of his adoring public, but it's more than that. it's not just that he's famous, it's that he's famous specifically for being an ACTOR, aka a person whose job it is to dissimulate, to make believe, to inhabit roles and emotions other than his own. like he decided he was going to become as visible as possible (which again was literally not necessary! he could have gone into any other career for his day job!!) but in such a way that everyone would see him but no one would see him - they would just see his various made-up personas, including the Famous Actor Natori Shuuichi persona. i can't decide if he's a genius or if he just made so many absurd decisions that they canceled each other out and circled back around to working out. he's either playing 9-dimensional chess or he's eating the pieces. too soon to say.

#the other thing i love about it is that in a very real sense it's his actor day job that is his alter ego #being an exorcist is his normie job. he's just a famous celebrity on the side #which isn't that uncommon in secret identity setups but it's still very funny #natsume's book of friends #natsume yuujinchou #natori shuuichi #natsuyuu meta #my posts #f #i think probably the actual answer is that acting was a very natural career choice because he already masks so extensively #both to hide that he can see things other people can't (and that youkai exist and that he exorcises them)#and to hide what he's really feeling so that no one can use it against him #so if it's already something he has to do & he's good at it...why not have someone tell him exactly how to do it & get paid for it?#and the other part of the answer is that most ppl don't go into acting assuming they'll get famous. the fame was a side effect #so each decision as it was being made probably made perfect sense. but put them all together #and you have this hilarious assortment of elements that seem to directly contradict each other #okay also i would be remiss if i didn't mention the other possible answer which is that the attention came first and was unavoidable #and the acting developed from the need to protect himself from the attention that he was going to be attracting no matter what he did #because he's so beautiful. and (in the exorcist world specifically) because he's the last of the natori #the more i talk about it the more i'm like no becoming a famous actor was the only path that made any sense for him lol #1) he's gonna be watched no matter what bc he's him -> gotta figure out how to hide his secrets -> learn to act as self-defense #or 2) he's got secrets -> he's gotten a lot of practice hiding them -> hey you could make a career out of this!#all roads lead to actor natori shuuichi. and since he's beautiful...all roads lead to FAMOUS actor natori shuuichi #i love it when i ramble so much in the tags that i end up contradicting my own post lol #he's neither thinking ten steps ahead nor is he irrational. he's simply making sensible individual decisions #that follow logically from what is available to him and what his priorities are

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iluv4my · 1 month

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From Isolating to Connecting - How I Changed My Coping Skills

When people get stressed their coping mechanisms often make things worse. Some people turn to drugs, alcohol, or smoking. Others spend all day on social media. It is very important to have healthy coping mechanisms.

My coping mechanisms were not good. I noticed that they were making me worse. I used to spend all day on YouTube. I realized that i was not becoming the person i wanted to be

The first step in my journey was to identify my unhealthy coping mechanisms. I noticed that i would often turn to social media when i was feeling anxious or bored i would spend hours mindlessly scrolling through my feed comparing myself to others and feeling increasingly isolated.

I also realized that i would sometimes binge watch TV shows or movies as a way to escape from my problems. While this would provide temporary relief it would ultimately leave me feeling even more stressed and unproductive

Once i had identified my unhealthy coping mechanisms i could start to replace them with healthier ones. I began by setting limits on my social media use. I decided to only allow myself to use social media for a certain amount of time each day and i made sure to use it in a more mindful way

Then I started doing journaling a lot like a lot i use self discovery journal prompts to get know my self better and i started keeping myself busy to prevent any unnecessary thoughts that could lead me back to my unhealthy coping mechanisms. I realized the importance of continuous learning and trying new things in life so i began to explore various topics i was interested in. I set myself tasks gave myself deadlines and sought knowledge from the internet to avoid overloading my mind. I created a knowledge journal to organize the information i gathered. I started reading self help and poetry books as well as creating my own poetry. I began to learn about paintings, philosophy, literature, and how businesses work. I watched documentaries and listened to podcasts to fill in the knowledge gaps within me. Learning about the history of the world and many other things helped me avoid negative thoughts and instead filled me with knowledge. Now i look at life from a different perspective 🐚🪕🦢

It has been a journey but i am proud to say that i have come a long way in my quest to find healthy coping mechanisms. I am now better equipped to handle stress in a positive way and i am more confident in my ability to overcome challenges.

End note :

I know that i am not alone in my struggles and i hope that my story will inspire others to seek out healthy coping mechanisms. If you are struggling with unhealthy coping mechanisms please know that you are not alone. There are many resources available to help you and it is possible to find healthy ways to cope with stress

And just be Be patient with yourself. It takes time and effort to change.🪷🪞✨

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