Once you realize that ‘taking steps’ is something you do consciously, it’ll significantly lower the barrier for you. You can make the decision to try harder right now. You can choose to apply for jobs and internships. You can impulsively jump into a conversation when you find an opening, as if you’ve got nothing to lose for those two seconds it takes. Changing for the better and growing as a person is something you can decide to do. It doesn’t necessarily have to be something that happens when you’re not paying attention.
Healing is a constant state. You don't have to be "fully healed" to give or receive love, to chase after that dream, or to get yourself to that next level.
Femme Fatale Guide: Tips For Self-Discovery & Mastering Personal Branding
SELF DISCOVERY TIPS: HOW TO FIND YOURSELF
Be Honest With Yourself: What characteristics would you use to describe yourself at the moment? How do you believe you present your current self to others (ask trusted friends, family, mentors, etc. if you need some honest opinions)? How are you with leaning into your interests, expressing your dislikes, and upholding personal boundaries? What values and principles guide your ways of thinking and behavior?
Take Inventory: How would you describe your habits and routines, your general mindset towards influential aspects of life: career, school, intimate relationships, friends, family, etc.? What’s your communication style, and love language? Are you more introverted or extroverted? What are your likes, dislikes, and preferences - academic subjects, careers, food, leisure activities, music, books, TV/movies, clothing and home decor aesthetics, sports/workouts, beauty, self-care activities?
Construct Your Ideal Self: Design your ideal life and every aspect of it. Describe every feature, characteristic, habit, hobby, and preference of your dream girl. How does she move through the world? Use my 'How To Create Your Dream Girl Archetype/Personal Manifesto' post for reference: https://www.tumblr.com/blog/view/femmefatalevibe/694400680358739968
Bridge The Gap: Compare and contrast your notes on your current self and ideal self. Praise the commonalities and overlap. You’re at least a percentage of the way toward becoming your dream girl. Analyze the dissimilarities and begin brainstorming strategies to get from point A to B in a certain area of your life or to refine a certain personality trait/mannerism/habit, etc. What skillsets, routine changes, and self-awareness exercises can you do to help you bridge this gap from where you are now to where you want to be? Who can you converse with about this topic – a friend, a family member, or a mentor? This can be in-person, through books, TED talks, etc.
Regularly Gut Check (And Pivot When Necessary): As you begin your self-discovery journey (and for the rest of time), always make time and space to check in with yourself on how you feel about certain current behaviors and any changed habits. Do a gut check to see if it feels right. Do you have any resistance – is it because you feel challenged or do you truly feel out of alignment? Trust your intuition. Journal about it or speak with a trusted member of your inner circle if needed to articulate your feelings/how you want to move forward.
Honour the little girl inside of you, the little girl that was abused, hurt, abandoned, who felt she was never enough. Let her feel safe, let her know she is loved, tell her everyday. Make her feel so special, she deserves it, keep her clean and warm and nourish her with the nutritious foods. Let her feel free. Let her embrace the things she loved doing, skating in the park, jumping on the trampoline, painting, running, swimming, making sandcastles, girly sleepovers, making stories, playing dressup. It might sound silly, it might sound irrelevant but honouring the little kid inside of you is going to bring you so much joy and fulfilment. That little version of you, still exists, and deserves to be honoured. Give yourself the love and care, and joy that was stolen from you as a child.
I don’t know who needs to hear this right now, but seeking help is not an evil thing. All of us deserve support, care and love.
Sharing these pictures because it’s really special. I officially am a fucking homeowner at the age of 22 with my soulmate. This was one of my major manifestations that I kept hinting at and now it’s finally done. I manifested the perfect home, everything that I wanted, blessing in disguise, with only $1,000 in my account. Literally in fucking tears because I manifested over $16,000 during this process to make this home real. This was one of those manifestations that felt SO dreamy and so big, but throughout the entire process I kept believing, kept persisting, and kept KNOWING that it was already mine. This has been one of the most transformative experiences in my life because it just keeps solidifying to me that manifestation is real and absolutely anything is possible. I’m gonna come out with a podcast explaining how I manifested these major shifts, over $16k unexpectedly to buy this house, and so many other blessings with this process. I finally feel like a fucking manifestation queen and this is how I want every single person in the world to feel. The master of manifestation, the goddess of manifestation, the queen of endless possibilities because it’s always possible. Gender regardless, everyone has the possibility to be a manifestation queen.
I genuinely feel so grateful because I truly feel like my knowledge of manifestation has expanded so infinitely much. I feel like I can really help literally anyone now manifest absolutely anything and that makes me so happy because I always believed in myself but now I feel like I have solid grounds in my resume of being a spiritual manifestation mentor. That’s a personal thought but I’m sharing that with you all because sometimes being in this world with so many teachers and mentors and so many people, it’s a little intimidating to come out with your own experience and affirm that you’re a mentor in this because you’ve had so much experiences. But now I truly feel like I can give my experiences and references to many of you and truly be able to help you manifest absolutely anything.
I’m just so fucking grateful. So fucking incredibly grateful and in awe.
Listen to the podcast here!
🌾 You are allowed to unlearn parts of you that do not align with who you are now 🌾
💌 You are allowed to re-evaluate your beliefs
🍃 You are allowed to change your mind
🦋 You are allowed to redefine your identity
☀️ You are allowed to let go of behaviors and habits that hinder your growth