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Somebody should write one of those goofy self-help manuals that tries to derive a universal life philosophy by overanalysing The Art of War, except instead of The Art of War, it's overanalysing entry-level gameplay advice for bullet hell shooters. I bet you could make "don't aim for where your target is – aim for where it's going to be" and "we're drawn to the focus of our attention; centre your gaze not on the obstacles to your progress, but on the spaces between" sound real deep with the right spin.
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One thing that I have learned is that a great part of my healing is going to consist of learning how to be around people while also maintaining my personhood and self-identity, something that was not extended to me for most of my life growing up. As Dr. Doyle mentions, it sucks, but it is something that I know will be necessary if I want to feel like a person who is capable of establishing and maintaining healthy connections.
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#healing#recovery#growth#Dr. Glenn Doyle#Relationships#feelings#emotions#boundaries#conflict#life#living#self-identity#self-confidence#self-love#self-help#hope
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Subliminal Self-Help Tapes - Audio Activation (1980s)
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What’s in the Little Free Library today?
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Wise words from Comrade Singh.
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— self-love. ❞
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self-love and self-acceptance is very important. i hope you can take this reading very seriously and perhaps even find this accurate and learn some things about yourself. if you need any encouragement on why you deserved to be loved, check this post out! hopefully that helps. i hope you’re having a good day ♡
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how do you see yourself?
- There’s this idea of seeing yourself as someone who cannot love others. You might be what others call a “commitaphobe”. You might struggle with intimacy or getting close to others because you believe it is too much work, or perhaps you are afraid of what comes with it and what the other person will think of you. You might think that you aren’t worth getting to know, and if anyone did then they’d be turned off . This goes from your friends to your family to even your romantic relationships. You might be the type to think that love isn’t for you, which is not true. You view yourself as someone who is only worthy of it for the short-term and nothing more. For some of you, you might be a player or you like to get around. There’s also this vibe of not respecting yourself and your own boundaries.
why don’t you prioritize your own needs?
- You might be a huge people-pleaser. You serve to please others before yourself. You might be used to being around brash, abusive, controlling and arrogant individuals, so you are used to submitting to others. You could struggle with standing up for yourself at times too. I’m seeing a significant figure like a parent that could be an example of this in your life. There’s also attachment issues for a few of you, perhaps to this particular parent. Or even a particular partner. For some of you, you might be in a relationship where your boyfriend/girlfriend isn’t treating you with the utmost respect and could be very condescending and careless.
how can you show yourself that you are worthy?
- You need to learn to listen to yourself. If your soul or body is telling you what you want, you give yourself what you want before you give anything to anybody else. Most importantly, you need to trust yourself and others. If you know someone is a good person and truly wants to care for you and get to know you, don’t push them away and be flighty. Listen to them and get to know them back. I’m also hearing take it slow if that is what makes you comfortable. I feel that most of you also struggle with overthinking things to the point where you self-sabotage yourself from good connections. Taking deep breaths, meditating, or even journaling can get your head in a good place before you make any serious decision.
how can you be more authentic?
- For a certain group, you might be obsessed with materialism. You love nice things and you love feeling as though you have nice things. Who doesn’t? But you might be someone who likes to play an image of someone who has it all. I believe this is telling you to stop. You don’t need to have the nicest car, house, or clothes to be loved and admired by people. You are more than all of that. Show who you really are behind all of that. I’m sure you’re an amazing person. For others, you might struggle with truly committing to people because perhaps you have this idealized version of how intimacy and love should be. Love isn’t perfect, and you need to realize that. There’s going to be ups and downs. Stop running away at the slightest inconvenience, and you’ll be surprised how amazing love really is. Learn to be more comfortable expressing your emotions too. People around you probably think you’re nonchalant because you barely like showing how you feel. A few of you could also struggle with gambling too.
what is something you need to let go of?
- You need to let go of your ego. That ego that stops you from experiencing true love and intimacy. You have this character of not needing love, not needing friends, not needing anyone—when in reality, we all need love. We are humans. We are social creatures. We thrive off of togetherness. You think that showing that you are capable of being on your own entirely will prove yourself to others, but it only pushes others away more and honestly it scares them. Truth is, this ego is only trying to hide fear. That fear of showing who you really are and possible being judged for it. There’s nothing to hide and prove. Just let go of that pride and let others in. Love is a gamble. When you open yourself up, you either get rejected or they’ll open themselves up to you, but I promise you it’s always worth it.
what is something you need to acknowledge?
- You cannot avoid disasters. You cannot reverse troubles, problems, and hick-ups in your relationships. Again, love isn’t perfect. We aren’t perfect. Additionally, you definitely cannot have the good without the bad and vice versa. It’s okay if your friend or siblings talk to you about how you need to open up to them more. They just want to communicate with you so that your relationship with them can thrive. It doesn’t mean they hate your guts and don’t like you. Please stop climbing into your little hole when someone tries to communicate with you about an issue. I promise you the bad parts are always worth it for the good parts.
a message from your spirit guides/higher self
- It’s time for you to step into a new chapter in your life where you are aware of the challenges, know what is out there for you in regards to connections, and be your authentic self. I feel you’ve always known all of this, you just struggled with taking that first leap into the unexpected. Again, life and love is a gamble. You’ll never know what you get, but the bad is always worth it for the good.
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how do you see yourself?
- You could see yourself as someone who is vulnerable. You might believe that you are a pushover and it’s easy for others to take advantage of you, which leads you to feeling pretty worthless and insecure. At the same time, you can be guarded. You are someone who is stubborn and always seem to have a chip on your shoulder towards people. You could struggle with letting go of the past or forgiving people. There’s this energy of feeling as though the world is against you or is out to get you. You are defensive about who you let see your natural self out of a fear of being taken advantage of or judged. There might be times where you are aware of how vulnerable you are and you try to stand up for yourself but it only comes out as extreme aggression. It feels like you are just trying to survive in the world where everyone is against you.
why don’t you prioritize your own needs?
- For a group of you, you may have dealt with relationships in which you were always cheated, taken advantage of, betrayed, or embarrassed by someone. There’s a possibility of a toxic friendship or an abusive/tyrannical romantic partner. You are so used to this feeling of worthiness and having to stay in the shadow of the people you love, you aren’t comfortable with lifting yourself up and giving you what you want or need. You also seem to refuse to move on from these connections, and you have this belief that everyone you deal with will be this way with you. You’re stuck in the past which allows you to keep repeating these destructive patterns of depriving yourself of your needs.
how can you show yourself you are worthy?
- Firstly, there needs to be a realization—you need to move on. You need to move on by forgiving the people who hurt you. Not for them, but for you to carry on with your life. It’s going to be difficult. It’s going to take some uncomfortable moments and a reconciliation with your past, but it’ll be worth it. You need to accept that this is your past. It’s not going to determine your future and the people you meet at all. I also feel you need to cry. There’s so much built-up emotion from the pain you’ve consumed. All of this sadness and betrayal turned into anger towards anyone and everyone you know, and you need to release it. Signing into therapy, journaling, or self-soothing meditations could help.
how can you be more authentic?
- You are familiar with thinking of the past, but it is more important to think of the present and future. Think of who you are now after moving on, and think about who you want to become in the future. All the way up to now, you’ve been lacking in personal development and progress due to focusing on what already happened. It’s time to set goals for yourself in regards to your self-love, career, and true connections to see what life holds for you. It’s time to stop pitying and find what truly makes you happy and satisfied.
what is something you need to let go?
- You need to let go of your personal ideologies you’ve made about people over time. Not everyone is a bad person, and not everyone is someone that is to not be trusted. It is time to let new people have a chance to see into your world. I’m also hearing that if there is someone or some people in your life right now who are trying to becoming your friends, you should let them. They’ll introduce you to a spontaneous world you’ve never been in before. You might go to parties, bars, and be more social often.
what is something you need to acknowledge?
- You need to acknowledge that your life turns in the favor of your thoughts. If you believe in the positive and abundant, then that is what it’ll be. You are not a burden or a curse to this world. You deserve happiness, peace, and love just like anyone else. You’ll soon see that your outer world will change according to your self-image. Good people are going to start coming into your life.
messages from your spirit guides/higher self
- There’s one distinct person who you need to cut off from your life completely. It could be someone you refuse to let go of, and you might know you need to do so. There’s this promise that if you do, your life will improve much more. This could be a masculine figure—a father figure, friend, or someone you are romantically involved with. They seem like someone who serves no purpose in your life and are just dead weight. They could also place unnecessary burdens on you.
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how do you see yourself?
- You could see yourself as someone who needs to be saved or need to be swept off of their own feet. You have this victim mentality occurring. You could feel that you aren’t as fortunate as most people. Perhaps you are in the working class or a part of a minority. There’s this feeling of having the burden of struggling and waiting for someone to come help you. You also kind of feel left out in the cold. This perception of yourself could make you someone who is incredibly hardworking but yet has this pitiful mentality of “I’ve been through the worst and I’m used to the worst.”
why don’t you prioritize your own needs?
- You don’t prioritize your own needs because you are too in your head about things. When you are overthinking, you subtly discourage yourself from taking care of yourself because you feel it’s not worth it due to your status or whatever societal construct you feel is holding you back. For some of you, there could be some underlying insecurities regarding your race, gender, or social class. You are also someone who take things very seriously. You are someone who is always on the defense and ready to attack anyone who you feel threatened by.
how can you show yourself that you are worthy?
- There’s this utter bitterness I feel coming from you—bitterness towards the people who you feel have an advantage over you. I would love to tell you right now that you cannot fight hate with hate, it only makes the situation worse. I’m hearing “balance” and “fairness”. You need to respect others, at least the people who haven’t shown any source of animosity towards you. You also get a bit unmotivated when you are looking at others prosper. You should learn to encourage others in order to encourage yourself. Lifting up others makes you feel ten times better about yourself. Looking at others, especially the people you love, prosper will encourage you to do better. There’s also no need to be defensive at times. I’m getting that being less defensive and accepting will bring in new people in your life who will give you opportunities to go after your goals.
how can you be more authentic?
- You have this strong desire to “go against the grain” all the time. I’m here to tell you that you don’t have to do that anymore. It is okay if you happen to want to do something that others happen to criticize others for, that’s you. Striving to oppose everyone just to stand out or prove a point gets stressful after a while. Do what you want without your socially constructed ego getting in the way of it.
what is something you need to let go of?
- There might be particular goal you have in mind that you truly don’t want to follow through with. Your ego is what is making you go after this goal. You need to let go of that goal because that isn’t what you really desire. If this is a particular career that was forced upon you by your parents or society, most definitely drop it. Follow your true passions. I’m also feeling that you need to quit your current job for some reason.
what is something you need to acknowledge?
- You need to acknowledge that the world isn’t fair at times. Sometimes you won’t get what you exactly want because society has made it to where not everything is made for us. However, create with what you have. Make the best out of what you have, and you are guaranteed success and happiness.
messages from spirit guides/higher self
- It is important to stop putting yourself down. You’re much more than what people say you are. I’m hearing that you know yourself better than anyone, and you know you are more. Take the time to cry. But don’t cry for long, because I feel you might have a tendency to fall deeper into the pit when you sulk too much in your emotions.
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how do you see yourself?
- There’s a sense of confusion in how you view yourself. Perhaps that most of you struggle with your identity and knowing who you are as a person. There could be the possibility that a lot of you use other’s perceptions of you to define who you are, which isn’t healthy. You could be the type of person who receives judgment from others and takes it to heart. You don’t take criticism easily, you’re very sensitive too (there is nothing wrong with that, by the way. please don’t bash yourself for having feelings) You don’t have a clear sense of self-identity, hence you don’t have a clear sense of self-worth. You could be someone who is also a bit selfless too, but in a detrimental way. You could be used to others having the attention and appreciation. You might be the type to avoid being in the spotlight due to the fear of being judged or being perceived as selfish. You are an incredibly humble person though, but it’s okay to shine once in a while. You could also see yourself as someone who is a bit chaotic and all-over-the-place. Your might be confused about a lot of things about yourself—like what you want, what are your goals, etc.
why don’t you prioritize your own needs?
- You do not prioritize your own needs because there is a fear of feeling selfish. You believe that putting yourself over others means you are careless and reckless, which is not true. It is okay to look after yourself. You’re here to survive and live the best life possible for yourself, of course you’re in the center of your own world. You could be easy to control and manipulated into doing the opposite of what you should. Perhaps you have friends who persuade you to help them with their problems instead of the other way around for example. I’m also getting the vibe of someone in this pile being in a relationship or connection with someone where they are being handled like they cannot make decisions for themselves. It seems to me you need to take back control of your life in some way, in some area of your life. For some of you, it could be a career; for the other group of you, your identity and ability to make your own choices.
how can you show yourself that you are worthy?
- You can show yourself that you are worthy by appreciating yourself more, and letting others appreciate you more. It is okay for the attention or spotlight to be on you. If there is something you feel there is worth congratulating for, then best believe it is. Let everyone see you for a minute, let yourself see you for a minute and clap for yourself. This will also help with self-confidence. I’m also feeling you should try to invest in new hobbies. Find what makes you happy. I feel you are so used to dealing with others, you don’t spend time to learn more about yourself. This is the time. Go out to the park, buy a new pet, or start creating art. Have fun and get to know yourself more through your interests.
how can you be more authentic?
- You can be more authentic by taking more risks and truly going after what you want unapologetically. You might have certain goals you’ve always wanted to accomplish but self-sabotage or insecure thinking may gotten in your way. Most of the things you want to do have been halted due to your unsure mindset. In order to truly know what it is you want to do, you need to stop thinking, go for it, and take that risk instead. I’m also getting that some of you want to travel or start a business venture. I suggest you go for it and don’t think twice.
what is something you need to let go of?
- You need to let go of this constant need of serving others. I understand you’re humble and giving, which is great. However, sometimes it can be a bit exhausting considering the fact that you are going to need to serve yourself at the same time too. Once again, it is okay to focus on and provide for yourself once in a while. There’s no need to feel shame for that whatsoever. You are not meant to serve others like a maid or slave, you’re a human being who deserves comfort and security just as much as anyone else. Believe it.
what is something you need to acknowledge?
- You need to acknowledge that you are not inherently “better” than others just because you are selfless and giving towards others. You might have a tendency of looking at people who have a good sense of self as individuals who don’t care about others when in reality you are too invested in others to know that you should be caring for yourself as well. You need to acknowledge that there is nothing wrong with focusing on yourself just as much as there is nothing wrong with caring for others. There can be a balance. It seems to me that you feel this way about these types of people because you are rather envious of the fact that they can shamelessly check up in themselves while you can’t, and also the feeling that being selfless is the “right” thing to be. Both sides can good or bad in their way.
messages from your spirit guides/higher selves
- There seems to be financial or mental hardships in your life right now. Your guides or higher self is calling for you to pay attention to this. This matters the most right now. It’s time for you to take the attention away from others and focus on getting what is tearing down built back up again. Some of you could have lost a job or could be going through a depressive season right now. It is okay to seek a financial advisor or a therapist too. It is okay to talk to others about your issues. Make sure it is people you can trust and confide in, people who won’t take advantage of your insecurities.
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The human mind has an eternal attraction to conclusions
...that are often but confusions. And that is why we suffer.
“Question your thoughts. Question your stories. Question your assumptions. Question your opinions. Question your conclusions. Question them all into utter emptiness, stillness and joy. The keys to freedom are in your hands. Use them.” — Adyashanti
#self help#self-help#self improvement#self-improvement#psychology#spirituality#motivation#philosophy#quote#quotes#selfcare#self care#logic#reason#intelligence#iq#psych
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WHY SELF WORK IS REALLY IMPORTANT (with reference to my own life)
Intro: so, I remember about a year ago i was heavily following YouTubers like Shelly Bullard and Kim Velez who would always emphasise on working on your “self concept”. I would find it so annoying because i was always concerned with manifesting my desire into the 3D because of my attachment to that thing. Lol. Biggest joke. I thought once i get this, i will be fine. And personally saying mere affirmations like “i am perfect” or dis-identifying myself with my unhealed self never did the work for me. Doing things like non-identification comes later, we can’t just bypass all the human stuff. And that’s where i disagree with Sammy Ingram.
The point of doing inner-work: sure, you can manifest a lot of things by simply imagining. And it will definitely come into your 3D. But what’s the point if you’re gonna lose it anyway because of your fears, self-sabotaging behaviours. For example, in 2021 i was in a relationship with the love of my life. However, because of my poor SC, i would be so anxious all the time, that the relationship became hell for me. Because of my own overthinking and anxiety, i would self sabotage, then manifest him again, then self sabotage again and it continued to be a repetitive cycle of emotional abuse and trauma. Until the point came where I couldn’t take it anymore. There was too much resentment to go back there and i ended the relationship for once and for all. I’m sure that’s not the kind of ending you’re looking for, with your SPs lol.
Techniques for inner-work:
1. EFT tapping: my personal favourite. I follow Brad Yates for this. Hop onto his channel to see what EFT is.
2. Meditation: again, this clears up all the worries and it’s good to sit in silence, doing nothing at times. It tells you that you’re consciousness and that you’re so much bigger than your thoughts and worries.
3. Affirmations: I personally don’t find them very effective especially if you have layers of trauma and abuse and self sabotaging tendencies. I think you can definitely use affirmations in the later stages of your inner-work.
4. Identifying with the alter ego: I use this whenever i want to get creative with my inner-work.
Outro:
I know there are some people who tell you inner-work is not important and that you can just manifest it. Btw, manifestation is not magic. The 3D world has it’s own laws. Manifesting healing in itself means you’re gonna be doing things that allow you to heal. It’s really upto you, whoever you want to listen to. I would say ultimately it’s your birthright to be happy, joyful and secure, more than having and SP or any other such things. Take time to truly understand manifestation and realise it’s not magic. Any coach that says something like this, has probably not manifested anything in life lol.
#healing#inner-work#law of attraction#law of assumption#manifesting#self-help#self care#self concept#neville goddard#sammy ingram#kim velez#self esteem#specific person#self love#edward art#affirmations
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You’ve heard of Tumblr moms and Tumblr dads, well I’m your cool but unhinged Tumblr cousin and here’s my little piece of loving advice for y’all:
If a bully is truly intent on making your life miserable, they’re not gonna stop just because you changed how you dress or fixed your speech impediment or stopped talking so much about the things you love. Bullies are always gonna find something. And to me, that speaks a hell of a lot more about their problems than yours. Keep being your funky little self. Keep finding joy in things. There are plenty of people out there willing to tear you down - you don’t have to be one of them. I love you.
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How to Keep a Routine without Motivation.
There are Four Laws of Behavior Change in the book, Atomic Habits. But today, I will be focusing on the Third Law: "Make it Easy".
You need a cue to trigger the habit loop.
It means in order to stick to a habit, you have to lessen the friction. Just like an alarm clock.
Throughout my self-transformation journey, I have had my fair share of trial and error and I will be sharing the system I built that has worked for me to achieve my intentions of the day.
Notion Recurring Tasks
You have probably heard stories about 'Notion being the best productivity app'. Notion is indeed the second-brain system where you can do a lot of things. It is versatile and easy to use since it syncs on both desktops and phones. But I have not seen anyone who talked about this new feature that helped me accomplish all my tasks and gave me more free time to achieve my higher self.
This has been the best system I built that is extremely helpful to my leveling-up journey. I was able to accomplish a lot of tasks and have more free time to achieve my highest self.
GUIDE: HOW TO CREATE A RECURRING TO-DO LIST
First, pick a task that you know you will be doing weekly, monthly, or yearly.
For example, every month you want to create a Monthly Workout Planner:
On your page, type /gallery and click the Gallery view.
2. Click the drop-down arrow on the upper right side and click "New Template"
3. Type your recurring task
4. After that, click "Back" and Click the 3 dots to choose the frequency of the reminder.
5. Your task will appear automatically on the specific day you set.
Note: You should check your daily to-do task every day because the app doesn't have a feature yet to remind you of the recurring task
WHAT SHOULD I PUT ON MY RECURRING TASK?
I do tasks based on the planetary ruler of the day.
Astro girl coming in...
Have you ever wondered why a lot of people don't like going to work on Mondays? It is because Monday is ruled by the moon. The energy of the day is encouraging us to rest and take things slow.
Now, I'm not saying you shouldn't show up at work or sit on your couch for the whole day! It's about doing prioritized tasks intentionally and not putting too much on your plate. However, if you feel like doing a lot of things on Monday then do it and don't waste your energy!
I like doing Yoga, Meditation, and Journaling every Monday to honor the Moon so I put them on a recurring task.
Tuesday is ruled by Mars. It's good to keep things fired up by working out and accomplishing a lot tasks as possible
Saturday is ruled by Saturn so it is the best day to structure and plan for the next week, clean, and change beddings.
and so on...
This is a wonderful guide on how to organize your week based on the energy of the day.
Source: The Blissful Mind
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Christianity is a religion, not of self-help, but of divine rescue. Salvation is provided specifically through the death of Jesus Christ upon the cross.
Samples, Kenneth Richard. ‘Without a Doubt: Answering the 20 Toughest Faith Questions.; p. 148
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Writing a self-help book for footwear who overshare, titled "Put A Sock In It"
#art#doodle#drawing#ratatheart#rat at heart#socks#footwear#self-help#book#writer#me when i overshare
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What's ailing you today?
Ewell, James. The planter's and mariner's medical companion : treating, according to the most successful practice, I. the diseases common to warm climates and on ship board, II. common cases in surgery, as fractures, dislocations, &c., &c., III. the complaints peculiar to women and children : to which are subjoined, a dispensatory, shewing how to prepare and administer family medicines, and a glossary, giving an explanation of technical terms. Philadelphia : John Bioren, 1807.
RC81.E916 1807
#1807#Early 1800's#medicine#illness#self-help#ailments#that title though#first aid#early medicine#table of contents#libraryofva#specialcollections#rarebooks
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Witchcraft and psychology:
there can be a connection between witchcraft and psychology, particularly when it comes to understanding and harnessing the power of the mind and emotions in magical practices. Here are a few ways in which these two fields can intersect:
Mental Focus: Both witchcraft and psychology recognize the importance of mental focus and intention. In witchcraft, practitioners often use visualization and concentration to manifest their desires. In psychology, techniques like mindfulness and positive thinking also emphasize the power of the mind to influence outcomes.
Emotional Energy: Emotions play a significant role in both disciplines. Witchcraft often involves working with emotions to fuel spells and rituals. Similarly, psychology explores how emotions can impact behavior, well-being, and decision-making.
Understanding the Self: Both witchcraft and certain branches of psychology encourage self-awareness and self-exploration. Witchcraft may involve practices like meditation and journaling to connect with one's inner self. In psychology, therapy and self-help methods aim to increase self-awareness and personal growth.
Symbolism and Archetypes: Witchcraft often utilizes symbols and archetypes in rituals and spellwork. Psychology, particularly Jungian psychology, also explores the significance of symbols and archetypes in the human psyche. The two fields may overlap in their use of these universal symbols.
Ritual and Healing: Rituals in witchcraft can serve both practical and psychological purposes. They can provide a sense of structure, comfort, and healing. Similarly, psychological therapies and rituals may be used to address emotional and mental well-being.
Energy Work: Some practitioners of witchcraft work with energy, such as the concept of auras or chakras. Psychology also acknowledges the role of energy in terms of psychological well-being and balance.
Some individuals may find that combining elements of both enhances their personal growth, empowerment, and understanding of themselves and the world around them.
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