Hi loves! I've been getting a lot of questions on personal branding/self-discovery/building your 'dream girl archetype' (I'll get back to you this week if I haven't already!). Who's interested in a short e-book/PDF on this process?
Putting out some feelers to see how I can offer the most value to you all. Lmk if there's another topic you're also interested in. Feel free to share thoughts in the comments/message or DM me xx
🚨 Do NOT Practice on Low Standard Men 🚨
Refrain from using high standard woman mannerisms on low standard men. These men think they can get something for nothing, and they will attempt to take advantage of you if they see you as naive due to your age, job nature or personality.
What you practice on one type of person won’t always apply on the next.
I cannot count how many times I’ve had men try to manipulate me out of what I deserve and guilt trip me for “growing up to be a gold digger.” This goes for other ladies working dusty jobs!
🚨🚨 Please, please don’t allow anyone to negotiate your worth because you’re afraid of hurting everyone else’s feelings except yours! Also, catch yourself if you feel you’re being lead into a dangerous situation! Those mistakes can be fatal!🚨🚨
Let “life lessons” you hear from dusty men go in one ear and out the other. I’ve heard countless stories about “the gold digger” and “the poor man” having his heart broken because she’s soo relentless in taking half of his cardboard box and $5. When they do this, they’re attempting to condition you to go for men like them because they’re smarter than the rich man who’d allow himself to be swindled by a money hungry woman. Those stories are so generic!
Do not sympathize with low standards. If you hear a sentence that begins with “well,” or a sad story, you know your energy will be on a rollercoaster. For ladies that have customer service or retail jobs that cater to people with low standards, any story you hear is a learning lesson on what you don’t want and will never have.
Simply, low standard men aren’t the bullseye I want to hit.
Also, don’t argue over standards online or in person!!
Do not be swayed by money being dangled on a fishing rod. On one hand, someone may be offering you money benevolently while on the other it’s construed as you’ll do anything for money. You ARE NOT desperate for a $20 bill, even $100. Low quality men aren’t your friends, mentor or target.
Do put your self esteem into question. Ask yourself if your self esteem makes you feel if the only things you deserve is $20 and to be a poor man’s fantasy.
Do not seek out compliments. Compliments are not currency. If I hear how nice I look from a low standard person, I am doing something very wrong. I can inflate my ego myself!
Do receive compliments sparingly. Considering your age, compliments can be very flattering and as a result used as a means of control.
Coming out Saturday is “Dressing Like the Paparazzi is Following You,” for ladies who feel their looks of the day aren’t up to par for what they deserve!
Luxury is a feeling!!
Be Luxury, Live Luxury!
I really enjoy elegantly astonishing people when they think I am not intelligent. I definitely fall under the category of “pretty privileged” but 9/10 I am perceived as a ditzy blonde because I am attractive. I am still learning how to small talk because I am naturally introverted, so I mostly listen and observe conversations. This makes people think I don’t have anything to contribute but I’m usually trying to be polite and not interrupt someone else. I’ve always been that way and I am working on it. Then somebody in the conversation or meeting finally decides to ask for my input and everybody involved is always floored. She knows about marketing? She knows about coding? She can handle accounting? Etc… and usually a lot more than people that dedicate themselves to a certain subject because I nerd out and read several books for each subject or take on a course in case something comes of it. Megan Fox always talks about how people underestimate her intelligence because she’s attractive and is labeled as a hot intellect once they take the time to get to know her as a person. I couldn’t relate more. I don’t really ever plan on not continuing to educate myself and constantly experience things that will contribute to my knowledge. It’s like I am always behind the scenes running a show under everyone’s nose until someone decides look past my looks and be genuine (but that is rare). I try to be genuine as well and remind myself that if someone is in the same room for a meeting it’s usually for a damn good reason and I shouldn’t let their appearance convince me otherwise.
Good content. The typos are NOT mine. 😂
Private until it’s permanent.
Love. Career. Finances. All.
Private until it’s permanent.
welcome in a new month ♡
set goals for self development
plan brunch & dinner dates with friends
read 5-10 books
indulge yourself more in your hobbies. do what you love unapologetically.
have more rest days without guilt
reflect on last month. what can you do differently that’ll help your overall state of being? physically, mentally & spiritually
stay off social media
do the butterfly hug method for bilateral stimulation. tell yourself all the things you wish you were/are told. ♡
make slight adjustments to your morning and night routine. keep it interesting.
schedule routine appointments (health, pamper)
get on top of deadlines.
say affirmations every morning & night
be more kind to yourself
stay firm on your boundaries, make adjustments as needed.
stand up and show up for yourself.
walk with your head held up high and shoulders back. don’t cower.
prepare for any upcoming events
learn a new skill
try a new recipe
explore new places. meet new people and make friends.
keep your thoughts in check. what you focus on grows.
declutter your environment (digital, physical space, social circle)
Gaining & Maintaining Power: A Reading List
Power & Manipulation
48 Laws of Power by Robert Green
The Prince by Machiavelli
Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis by Eric Berne
The Dictator's Handbook: Why Bad Behavior is Almost Always Good Politics by Bruce Bueno de Mesquita
Power: Why Some People Have It - And Others Don't by Jeffrey Pfeffer
The Wisdom of Psychopaths: What Saints, Spies, and Serial Killers Can Teach Us About Success by Kevin Dutton
Charisma & Social Skills
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson
How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships by Leil Lowndes
The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism by Olivia Fox Cabane
Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People by Vanessa Van Edwards
Never Eat Alone, And the Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time by Keith Ferrazzi
The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over by Jack Schafer
The Art of Seduction by Robert Green
Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini
Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don't Matter by Scott Adams
Pre-Suasion: Channeling Attention for Change by Robert Cialdini
Win Your Case: How to Present, Persuade, and Prevail, Every Place, Every Time by Gerry Spence
Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness by Richard Thaler
Methods of Persuasion: How to Use Psychology to Influence Human Behavior by Nick Kolenda
You Can Read Anyone: Never Be Fooled, Lied to, or Taken Advantage of Again by David Lieberman
Influencer: The New Science of Leading Change by Kerry Patterson
Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
The Art of Choosing by Sheena Iyengar
Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel Pink
Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions by Dan Ariely
Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Green
Philosophy and Mindset
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
Letters from a Stoic by Seneca
Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
Mastery by Robert Green
The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill
Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder by Nassim Taleb
The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday
Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life by Hector Garcia
Public Speaking, Rhetoric, and Debating
Rhetoric by Aristotle
How to Argue & Win Every Time by Gerry Spence
The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking by Dale Carnegie
The Art of Public Speaking by Dale Carnegie
Talk Like TED: The 9 Public Speaking Secrets of the World's Top Minds by Carmine Gallo
Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion by George Thompson, PhD
Thank You for Arguing by Jay Heinrichs
p.s. a lot of these can be found on z-library.
Never apologize for becoming the woman you're destined to be. Welcome to your dream girl era. It's time to live in your queen energy.
How I Give Back to My Looks
✨ Add chlorella to my water for energy regulation and a brighter complexion; chlorella has a murky taste so shots instead
✨ Pat to apply and swipe to remove makeup
🌺 Not wearing my heart on my shoulder
✨ Listen when my body has had enough junk food
✨ Sitting out in nature/eating from my garden (I’m a plant); I have 6 fruit trees
✨ Finish tasks early to stress less
✨ By going to bed as soon as possible
✨ I feel better the earlier I wake up?? 5:00-5:30am
✨ Go into the day with hopeful intentions
✨ Toasted almond milk in lieu of milk in coffee/tea
🎈I noticed regular milk dampens my mood compared to almond or oat milk!
🌸 Letting anger go; lower blood pressure
The secret to create healthy habits.
Motivation > discipline > consistency > habits. That's the process from start to finish, for changing your life around with healthy choices.
Motivation is only the launchpad to start with, after that you can't rely on it because it comes and goes on a whim! A lot of people make the mistake on relying on it all throughout, and then wonder why they can't stay on track while other people do.
What you need next is discipline: when you commit to something and stick to it even when it's hard, even when you don't feel like it, because that's how you fill the gaps inbetween to create a routine.
And you create a routine by staying consistent. Today, tomorrow, again and again.
When you stay consistent over months, over half a year, it becomes a habit, and when something becomes a habit, it's effortless to keep going because that is now your default setting. It becomes your new normal, the choice that comes easiest to make because you don't even have to make it or think it; you just lean back into it.
Going to the gym regularly becomes like having a meal; if you don't do it, you'll feel restless and off, genuinely craving the movement and the boost of endorphins. When you eat healthy regularly, you feel it right away if you get off track and indulge in too many treats: you'll feel it in your body, in your mental clarity, in your emotional wellbeing and it's so much easier getting back on track because healthy is your new default.
Talk like your higher self. Walk like your higher self. Remember she is you and you are her. She has been calling you, will you answer the call.
requested by @neges 💗
morning routine ideas
making the bed
10 minutes of meditation eliminate the thoughts from your head
30 minutes of yoga
10 minutes of gratitude exercise
10 minutes of exercise
20 minute shower
put on comfortable, nice clothes that make you feel good
prepare a nutritious breakfast
15 minutes outdoors
1 hour without a telephone
read for 15 minutes
write your to-do list
10 minutes of stretching
organize the space around you
write down 3 things you are grateful for
empty your inbox