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borderlineangel222 · 11 months

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i’m afraid that one day my anger will overshadow the little love i still have left for the world

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draculian-accomplishments · 6 months

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Reminder for people with Personality Disorders:

You can be in therapy for years to be able to cope.

You can mask the difficulties you have.

You can cope well with your disorders.

You can function in daily life.

But the day you have a bad day, the day you're so overwhelmed that the mask slips and you simply say one thing, the neurotypicals will use it against you and use it to abuse you.

Abuse is a choice. Abusers make the choice to abuse someone. Not every abuser has a personality disorder. There are plenty of abusers that are Neurotypical. Plenty of neurotypicals will abuse those with PDs due to the stigma and misinformation around them.

Quit using terms like "Narcissistic/Histrionic/Borderline/Anti-Social Abuse"

Quit using "Narcissist" and "Anti-Social" as insults.

Quit justifying abuse towards people with PDs.

Quit armchair diagnosing abusers and assholes with Personality Disorders when you don't know the lived experience of people with them.

Stop fucking appealing to Neurotypicals.

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chronicsymptomsyndrome · 4 months

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Having survived abuse from people with mental illnesses, I know the urge to warn others to be wary of those mental illnesses. I know how often it can feel like that is your only power in life…the only action you can take against what you went through. But listen. Just because a mentally ill person caused you complex trauma, doesn’t mean you get to generalize and slander and malign every person with that mental illness.

You do not have to forgive your abusers. but you do have to heal without spreading stigma and misinformation. you do have to heal without antagonizing or dehumanizing others who are also just trying to heal. you have to help break the cycle. because nobody can heal alone.

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naofaun · 6 months

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it's always “i support cluster b!!!” until someone genuinely cannot even pretend to feel empathy. then you get angry and call us insensitive lol. sorry honey i can only pretend to feel something i can't feel so much before i burn myself out

#{ ♡ } nao : misc . . .#npd #narcassistic personality disorder #aspd #antisocial personality disorder #bpd #borderline personality disorder #hpd #histrionic personality disorder #cluster b #cluster bs #cluster b disorder #cluster b disorders #personality disorder #personality disorders

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ineffectualdemon · 11 months

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It's cool and sexy to care about people with mental illness that are highly stigmatised and to want them to have their rights starting with bodily autonomy and to be treated like the humans they are

#mental health #mental illness #cluster b disorders #psychosis #npd

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sharkaiju · 5 months

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New challenge for 2024: to stop saying "narcissist" when you mean "asshole". I call it the "Quit Being an Ableist Sack of Trash Challenge"

#stop it. get some help #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b #cluster b disorders #cluster b personality disorders #ableism #fuck ableism

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poognthebrainbois · 3 months

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As someone with BPD, I will always reblog posts about

"Having a cluster b disorder does not make someone a bad person/abusive"

I would like to add: that doesn't mean that people with BPD can't be abusive. Just that their disorder is not the reason they're abusive.

There is a difference between explaining that some of your behaviors are symptoms of/exacerbated by your disorder,

and using your disorder to excuse your abusive behavior. You are contributing to the stereotypes/misinformation about your own disorder.

You need to take accountability for your actions, even if they are results of a disorder. Being mentally ill does not give you a free pass to be shitty and blame it on your illness. There is a difference between an explanation and an excuse.

Sorry for being redundant. I am very tired.

#actually bpd #bpd #bpd thoughts #bpd vent #cluster b #cluster b disorders #actually borderline #borderline personality disorder #borderline pd

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adoraboy-moved · 11 months

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if you have a personality disorder i am making out with you (non romantic)

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raincamp · 8 days

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arguing with people who are stigmatized against cluster b disorders is so wild bc they all use the same tactic; first they'll claim you dont know what you're talking about bc youre just a child and havent been in a relationship with a cluster b, and then when you tell them you have they say youve been manipulated and abused into thinking they deserve to be defended, and then when you tell them that you have a cluster b disorder yourself theyll start telling you that you're using your disorder against them, and showing symptoms, and then when you tell them youre in remission and asymptomatic they start telling you that your doctor was gaslighted by you and youre trying to play the victim and manipulate them

all because you dared to tell them that people with cluster b personality disorders deserve to be treated with basic human decency and respect and to be seen as actual fucking humans instead of abusive monsters.

are we sure that pw cluster b disorders are the abusive ones here?

the amount of times ive heard "abusive and crazy is a symptom of your disorder" bestie i will pull out the dsmv right here and show you that neither of those words are in the diagnostic criteria.

#npd safe #cluster b safe #npd #narc abuse #bpd #hpd #aspd #cluster b disorders #cluster b stigma #stigma #mental illness go brrr

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divinerapturesys · 7 months

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I didn’t expect my last AsPD post to blow up so here’s another infodump about it rooted in my own personal experiences

let’s get into fucking PARENTS

aka “primary caregivers”

I touched based on this a little bit on my last post which you can find here

“AsPD is a disorder that is caused primarily (according to current research) by trauma and abuse in childhood; most notably being emotional neglect and absent caregivers that cause a child to have emotional shutdowns and repression episodes in an attempt to self soothe. Primary caregivers who do not bond with their children are also a factor. Children learn how to behave from those around them. If a primary caregiver is emotionally distant and unavailable, children will learn that is normal behavior and that’s how people are. If a primary caregiver does not provide empathy and sympathy during moments of distress and fear, children will learn that aloofness and disregard of others feelings is normal behavior. If a primary caregiver does not keep a child safe, children will learn that they should not prioritize their own safety.”

So let’s break this down:

❌ “Primary caregivers who do not bond with their children are also a factor”

- bonding with an infant is incredibly important; this builds the first imprints of safety and security into a child; when a caregiver consistently and positively responds to an infants needs, this creates attachment and trust.

- Babies are inherently going to try to initiate a bond with their primary caregivers; crying, eye contact, cuddling, grabbing, all of these are ways an infant is trying to connect; these are natural cues asking for comfort and safety

- Not being given those causes children to start out with an unstable baseline; it has been proven repeatedly via research that children who are not held and comforted during the first stages of infancy are more likely to struggle with relationships and struggle with appropriately expressing emotions

🍓 Personal experience:

I did not bond with almost any of my primary caregivers (both bio and adoptive). To my knowledge, I was heavily abused, trafficked and starved the first 18 months of my life before CPS stepped in after I almost died. Being so neglected and left to self soothe, I learned from the start that no one cared for me and that I couldn’t depend on anyone but myself, ever, even in my most vulnerable moments, because when I was at my most vulnerable stage, I was not cared for or protected and was even taken advantage of by my primary caregivers.

❌ “If a primary caregiver is emotionally distant and unavailable, children will learn that is normal behavior and that’s how people are.”

- this is pretty explanatory I think but I’ll still go into it

- children are mimics and copycats; they learn how to act and think based on who they’re with the most

- Primary caregivers who are distant to their children unknowingly ingrain the concept that distance is safety, and that being unavailable is normal, and that it’s a way to be strong

- Children will begin to expect adults to not respond emotionally to them, and will similarly begin to limit their own emotional responses to match their caregivers in an attempt to connect and mirror

🍓 Personal experience:

My adoptive mom was very distant; I was homeschooled until I was 9, my dad worked full time and my mom was a sahm. However she spent most of here time handling their business. Which meant I was left to my own devices, every day, for the majority of the time. I vividly remember that in order to spend time with my mother, I had to write a note asking for her to pick a time slot to hang out and sign off on it. She would then show up at the allotted time and we would do whatever the activity was, and then she’d go back to the other room and I would once again be left alone. Even being homeschooled, I was alone. She taught me skeletons of workbooks and I figured the rest out myself. I learned once again that even when I needed guidance, I was expected to be an adult and figure it out, and if I did, I was praised for competence. If I failed, I was disciplined accordingly. It was very apparent to me as a kid that I needed to be entirely self sustainable, in every way, if I wanted to stay alive and not be drowned in feeling unloved.

❌ “If a primary caregiver does not provide empathy and sympathy during moments of distress and fear, children will learn that aloofness and disregard of others feelings is normal behavior.”

- again, pretty straightforward but I digress

- Children need to be given support and love when they are having emotional episodes

- Children do not know how to emotionally regulate themsleves, they don’t know how to help themselves and they get overwhelmed just like adults when they’re scared and unable to understand what’s happening

- Primary caregivers who do not help set the foundation for how a child should positively navigate emotional disregulation set them up to fail

- Children will think that ignoring others pain is correct behavior, and that disregarding how they make others feel is okay as well

🍓 Personal experience:

My mom thought that beating my crying out of me would for some reason solve the issue. Instead of spanking me a few times to get the point across of the transgression, she would often “spank” (imo it was getting beat) me until whatever she was using broke, or until I stopped crying. Unfortunately this caused me to eventually just.. not cry. I learned very quickly that being emotional and showing emotional distress would not get me comfort and safety, and instead usually caused me to have more pain and to be ridiculed for being emotional. I was basically conditioned into emotional shutdowns, and rewarded for having them. I would get praised for being mature if I stopped crying or having emotional reactions to situations. So I did. I experienced a lot of sensory issues and trauma responses as a child, which caused a lot of meltdowns, and those were consistently met with lack of comfort and connection.

❌ “If a primary caregiver does not keep a child safe, children will learn that they should not prioritize their own safety.”

- this mostly fits in with risk taking behavior tbh

- Children learn self worth and value from adults; if that’s not important and/or disregarded, it’s never going to be a priority and will have to be forcibly learned later on in life

- Children learn that if their primary caregiver does not prioritize their safety, that means they can’t rely on them when they’re in pain, being abused by someone else, or even hurting themselves

- This leads to self destructive and risk taking behaviors; they don’t value their own safety, and they don’t value the safety of others because they were not taught that it’s important

🍓 Personal experience:

Touching back on my early childhood; I was definitely not kept safe and unfortunately I was not kept safe in my adoptive family either; I feel like for a long period of time, I genuinely did not think my safety was important (if I even knew what that meant) and therefore it didn’t matter what I did because if the people who said they loved me the most didn’t want to protect me, why should I try to protect myself? This led to a lot of drugs, self harm, a lot of klepto shit, getting into fights, a lot of sexual abuse, etc, all because I genuinely did not understand what safety was, or what it meant. I put other kids in dangerous situations often because I didn’t value their safety either. I thought no one did.

All in all, interactions with primary caregivers builds the foundation for how your brain builds it’s emotional house.

Unfortunately for people with AsPD, we had to build our own emotional foundation as kids and it was done very shittily bc we were little kids and not fucking architects.

Thank you for coming to yet another infodump abt this disorder lmao I hope it made literally any sense bc I’m writing this at 4am and I am very tired :)

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draculian-accomplishments · 7 months

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Quirky NPD Ask Game!

🥀 - Favorite unusual compliment? (ie "You're crunchy")

💌 - Your biggest accomplishment right now?

💎 - Favorite thing about yourself? (Appearance, personality, etc)

🩰 - What's your favorite supply right now?

🎀 - What character do you feel represents NPD best?

🥧 - Preferred way to treat yourself in a narc high?

🌓 - Any other PDs you have?

🎼 - A song you feel represents NPD?

🗯️ - Favorite NPD meme?

🛎️ - A silly or unorthodox coping mechanism?

🗝️ - Favorite quote you can relate to NPD?

🏩 - What do you love about being a narcissist?

🌌 - Least favorite NPD stereotype? (Can be fictional or real!)

🪄 - Highest D&D stat?

Image ID: DNI Narc "Abuse" blogs, demonize Cluster B Disorders, use "Narcissist" as an insult, Etc. Don't be a dick.

#ask game #actually npd #npd #pwnpd #actually narcissistic #narcissistic personality disorder #narcissism #actually mentally ill #mental illness #mental health #cluster b #cluster b disorders #actually cluster b

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chronicsymptomsyndrome · 3 months

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just saw someone answer an ask with “aw why are you intimidated by me? I’m never mean! <3 well unless you’re weird lol”

sounds like every kid I went to high school with wow what a mean as fuck thing to say

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cemitadepollo · 1 year

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@tragicallyphosphorescent

You see, the thing about "sociopaths" it's that they're not real. If you open a psychology book, as you apparently hint to have done at some point, you'll discover that the term you're using isn't only scientifically inaccurate, but an outdated and harmful term used to refer to people with ASPD– Anti-Social Personality Disorder. This cluster B disorder is developed as a coping mechanism by people who suffer from childhood neglect, so people demonize literal abuse survivors for their little "serial killer abuser sociopath" fantasy that they saw in their favorite true crime movie. I would love to know where did you get the objective fact that most "sociopaths" don't seek treatment and hurt people.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder, otherwise known as NPD or just "narcissists", is a disorder that's classified in the cluster B category of personality disorders according to the DSM-V, this disorder is also developed because of childhood neglect. People love to armchair diagnose their abusers with this disorder under the ignorant belief that narcissistic people are selfish and that's it, it's used as an interchangeable term, which couldn't be further from reality. So no, I don't believe in "narcissistic abuse". Abuse is just abuse, an abuser is just an abuser, there's no need to slap anything else alongisde that label.

Just because a manifestation of trauma is different it doesn't mean it's bad. People with ASPD and NPD are as likely to abuse someone as a person without them. Lacking empathy doesn't make someone a bad person, empathy is just the capability to instinctually feel another human's feelings, but it's not the same as sympathy or compassion. A good person is one who's actions do good.

Now, I'm not invalidating the abuse anyone has gone through. If you tell me somebody, anybody, abused you, I believe you. But there's no need to demonize disorders in order to find support or validation.

You can find a free PDF of The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. 5th edition (DSM-V) easily on the internet, no need to buy the book itself. I suggest you give it a read to clear up that whole "sociopath" thing and to educate yourself more on the narcissistic personality disorder. As a disclaimer, the DSM-V is highly discussed by the neurodivergent community on a regular basis and some individuals, including myself, have a word or two about certain criteria that needs to be met to get a diagnosis, but I'm advising you to read it as a start.

Sincerely, a borderline with fluctuating empathy that's very tired of watching their cluster B siblings get denied treatment and dignity, because in case you didn't know this, lots of us actively seek treatment but get deemed "too hard to treat" or get actively abused by the medic system IF we are even allowed some sort of therapy. As a neurodivergent person, I'd assume you know of the kinds of horrors people like you and me suffer in psych wards, except people with personality disorders and other demonized illnesses still get thrown around and abused since our disorders aren't deemed as "harmless" as people who suffer from depression and anxiety or people with autism.

#ableism #tw narc abuse mention #aspd stigma #tw sociopath slur #s slur #npd stigma #aspd culture is #npd culture is #bpd stigma #bpd culture #cluster b #cluster b disorders #cluster b discussion #neurodiverse stuff #actually cluster b #neurodivergent

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clusterb-pd · 1 month

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bpd + npd culture is splitting on friends cause theyre hanging with ur friends wo u and thinking you hate them and dont need them but then need keep them around for the supply tho u hate them... sigh

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itspixthecrazybitch · 6 months

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Guys I just found someone who managed to demonize npd in order to try and make bpd look better and I’m absolutely disgusted

#bpd #actually bpd #call out post #actually mentally ill #cluster b vent #cluster b disorders #cluster b positivity #cluster b #actually cluster b #actually borderline personality disorder #npd #narcissistic #narcissistic personality disorder #abliesm

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schroedingers-faggot · 10 months

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friendly (or not so friendly) reminder that neuro- and madpunk exist. Political movements to fight for the rights of the neurologically disabled, and/or those with stigmatized "insane" disorders.

These two are communities for us, the mentally disabled, NOT c*punk, that's a space for physically disabled people ONLY. That's why there's a fucking slur in there we able bodied people should NOT use.

It's disability pride month, let's respect each other.

#madpunk #neuropunk #neurodivergent #actually autistic #actually plural #sysblr #adhd #npd #cluster b disorders #personality disorder #disability pride month

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