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the-bar-sinister · 1 day

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So yeah since it's come up I'm just going to say flat out that a lot of our personal whump content-- specifically a lot of our human weapon whump, and our whump recovery stuff-- is reflective of and part of processing our experiences of child abuse.

So if you look at our whump and think "that just sounds like my life."

Yeah, congrats, you got the point. 😩🤝

#whump #blog updates #whump community #abuse survivor

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joryhills · 2 days

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i am young

i didn’t know better

i learned in every house

i am young

young enough to be clueless

but old enough to love you

and i knew you loved me too

you slit your wrists for me

you protect me from my lust

you loved me jealously

that’s how i knew you’d never give up

you loved me with a fist

who knew more than lips could kiss?

you loved me at my parents’

they were home, but you’d insist

and i knew your love shouldn’t be refused

you loved me with power

and so you loved my powerlessness

you loved me so much,

there could be no other love around me

and i am young

mom said love is complicated

and i am young

dad said giving up is a sign of weakness

and i am young

i grew up in a house with this same love

love that is complicated, love with rules

i am young and i don’t know what is good

i am young so i won’t leave even if i could

i am young but her love made me older

it’s broken my body and weighs on my shoulders

taken my spirit, and snuffed out my soul

i am young and i just want to feel full

full of love, poured aimlessly into my

smashed and cracked bowl

#literature #poetry #spilled thoughts #prose #breakup #relationship #abuse survivor #emotional abuse #love

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zeldasnotes · 7 months

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”It is never too late to be what you might have been.” 💘

#self love #self healing #healing #self esteem #starting over #loveyourself #trauma #abuse survivor #sa survivor

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lostmf · 6 months

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neuroticboyfriend · 1 year

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As an adult still living with their abusive parent, I often find that affirmations meant to empower me are unhelpful at best. They often feel like they're overstating the amount of agency I have as an adult; I've spent my entire life being abused. It's all I know and I have a lifetime of conditioning and nervous system damage to show for it.

All that doesn't just go away now that I'm older than 18, and neither do the material circumstances that keep me here. Even though I have more legal rights and have grown since I was younger, I am still not in control by the very nature of being the victim in an abusive relationship. So, for those who relate, here are some affirmations that might hit different:

My abuser does not have my best interests in mind, even if they think they do.

I am my own person; my mind and body belong to me.

My feelings are justified, and I deserve to feel and express them.

I am doing what I need to survive, and that is all I need to do.

I am doing my best given the knowledge, resources, and support I have.

I am the only person who can decide what is best for me.

My situation is unfair and wrong. I deserve to be happy and safe.

I do not have to engage in toxic positivity; that will only hurt me.

As long as I am alive, there is something good in this life for me - no matter how small.

I have inherent rights just because I exist.

I shouldn't have to deal with this on my own; I deserve support and protection.

Everything I need is something I deserve. Everything I deserve is something I need.

If any of these don't resonate, feel free to discard them. Everyone finds comfort and empowerment differently.

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girlblogging9 · 1 year

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#feelings #thoughts #words #writers on tumblr #actuallytraumatized #tw depressing thoughts #trauma #abuse survivor

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aintnopartylikeaprideparty · 3 months

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as someone who has experienced abuse from someone with a personality disorder, it's actually incredibly easy to not dehumanize everyone with a personality disorder. i've seen people do borderline eugenic rhetoric surrounding people who have npd, aspd, bpd or other personality disorders, and then be like "I'M allowed to say these things because i'm a survivor, and if you disagree you are hurting abuse victims."

and frankly? i'm tired of it. as an abuse survivor i'm here to say that you're NOT allowed to turn into a fucking eugenicist the moment you're hurt by someone with a personality disorder.

does hurting and belittling other people who happen to have the same disorder as your abuser, people that are already suffering and that are already looked down on by society, bring you any healing? does it bring you peace?

Being hurt by someone isn't an excuse to hurt others that you feel justified in lashing out on. you're literally in control of your own actions,

you may claim to be making a safe space for abuse survivors, but i will never feel any solidarity with you, and i ESPECIALLY don't feel safe with you considering i might have a personality disorder.

you are excluding a large amount of abuse survivors in the name of "advocacy". a lot of people with personality disorders developed one or multiple due to heavy abuse. in the aim of creating a safe space, you are excluding the ones who need a safe space the most.

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witchyykitten · 1 year

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everyone talks about cutting off a toxic parent

but no one ever talks about the pain of wanting a parent but knowing yours cannot love you the way they should

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brok3nvinyl · 1 year

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Why wasn’t I happy

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tklshtxler · 9 months

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#trauma #manipulation #parents #mental health #abuse survivor #narcissistic abuse #emotional abuse

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chronicsymptomsyndrome · 4 months

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Having survived abuse from people with mental illnesses, I know the urge to warn others to be wary of those mental illnesses. I know how often it can feel like that is your only power in life…the only action you can take against what you went through. But listen. Just because a mentally ill person caused you complex trauma, doesn’t mean you get to generalize and slander and malign every person with that mental illness.

You do not have to forgive your abusers. but you do have to heal without spreading stigma and misinformation. you do have to heal without antagonizing or dehumanizing others who are also just trying to heal. you have to help break the cycle. because nobody can heal alone.

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lousydrawingsforgoodpeople · 1 year

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#child abuse survivor #trauma survivor #toxic family #support #healing #recovery #self love #boundaries #narcissistic mother #abuse survivor #doodles #bad art #lousy drawings #doodle #creature #weird

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nmolesofadrenaline · 7 months

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#childhood #childhood ptsd #childhood neglect #abuse survivor #emotional abuse #toxic family #dysfunctional family #toxic parents #toxic mom #on father #on fathers #fathers

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neuroticboyfriend · 8 months

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a lot of the time, abusers are just regular people. abuse is something we're all capable of - it's a pattern of harmful behavior in which there's power imbalance. we all hold various privileges, connections, and knowledge that can be turned into the power to abuse others. we can all exert our will, thoughts, feelings, etc. onto others in a way that hurts them and takes power away from them.

abusive people have done something horrible and inexcusable, yet they aren't... inherently special. they're people, capable of choosing between right and wrong, capable of change, just as much as others are. i say this in part because i think a lot of people have this lofty idea of abusers that leads them to think they couldn't possibly be a victim of abuse. but abuse can be incredibly mundane - and this also means we all have to watch out for abusive behaviors in ourselves.

abuse isn't just something Obviously Bad People (TM) are capable of... and abuse isn't caused by mental illness, substance use/addiction, gender, etc. etc., even if these things impact what happens. idk. there's no real end point to this post. i just wish people didn't mystify abuse, and realized how (deeply unfortunately) normal and subtle it can be... and often is.

#softspoonie #abuse #abuse survivor #trauma #ableism #sanism #mentally ill #cluster b #cluster b pd #cluster b personality disorder #personality disorders #mental illness #substance use #substance abuse #substance misuse #addiction

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spiritualseeker777 · 7 months

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#introverts #introverted #introvert #you are strong #abuse survivor #trauma survivor

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lefluoritesys · 8 months

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TW: talk about physical abuse

Friendly reminder that physical abuse isn't just hitting or throwing something at someone. It's also knowing that you are injured and making you walk around for hours. It's putting you through physical labour that is causing you physical harm. Anything they make you do that causes you physical harm is physical abuse. Don't put it in a box. (At least for the sake of your own mental health)

-physical protector & external soother

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