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moonlit-heartbreak · 2 days

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Love Languages

Xaden, Liam, Bodhi, Garrick x Reader Warnings: Slight spoilers for FW and IF, some suggestive comments and themes but nothing too explicit a/n: I love these men a little bit too much, so now you all get to enjoy my takes on each of their love languages for my first post🤭. It’s a little short and all over the place, but once my finals are over expect some longer works. Definitely let me know what you all think!

Xaden - Acts of Service

Listen, he's an important guy both as wingleader and a lieutenant and now in being on the front lines of a war, so he has to make sure to keep everyone's respect, and of course keep them all a little scared of him, so he can't get all lovey-dovey with you in public

Instead I see him being big on acts of service. Leaving you an extra piece of bread he grabbed at breakfast that morning, sharpening your swords/daggers so you're set to go for training, things of that nature

He would want to be there for you and let you know that he's looking out for you and acts of service is the perfect way for him to do that subtly but still being more involved in directly making you happy

Don't get me wrong though, when you're alone the acts of service definitely don't stop and he's good at what he does. With this I don’t mean JUST sex (even though it’d be amazing), but he would also love to brush your hair, give you a massage, whatever he can do to make you feel loved and cared for after a long day of classes and training

If there’s something specific you liked back home like a specific snack or item just know that once he finds out he’s going to be bribing one of the fliers to get it for him during a supply run so he can surprise you with it just so he can see your face light up

It works out perfect for you because not only is he making you feel like the most special person in the world with everything he does for you and how well he knows you, but getting perks like him keeping you off the schedule for your least favorite chores doesn't hurt either

The moral of the story is that he would literally do anything to make you happy, and despite how tough he acts you've got him completely wrapped around you finger

Liam - Words of Affirmation

For someone who's experienced so much loss before, he still manages to be SO kind and caring and this would 100% come through in the way he acts with his significant other, especially in terms of how he speaks to them

In public this would probably come off more as supportive and encouraging comments, helpful tips for training, or even just a quick compliment thrown in here or there. He's one of the more laid back out of all of the guys, but he still knows not to let his kindness be mistaken for weakness or allow anyone to try and use you against him, so he's careful to keep a good balance of keeping his guard up and being sweet with you

With that though, neither of you really have anything to worry about. He's the strongest cadet in his year and he trusts that you can hold your own so he'd still be pretty open with you in public

He's the type of guy who would never want to say goodbye without an 'I love you" thrown in there, even if you'd had a disagreement or you're (somehow) upset with him. Words are so important to him and he's going to make sure to tell you how he feels no matter what

I mean think about it, with all those letter he wrote to Sloane this man is a master at communication and he knows how to do it well

SO good at reassuring you. Ever doubting yourself or your abilities? Worried you’re not being a good enough partner? Nervous about opening up to him about something? He knows exactly what to say to calm you down or make you feel better every single time without fail. He just has such a way with words, and when he speaks to you in that soft "everything's going to be alright" voice there's no way you wouldn't feel at least a bit better

I have no doubt in my mind that he would have the sweetest nicknames for you and know exactly what to say when you need it, he’s just the sweetest thing to grace the continent and you’ll be reminded of that every time he speaks his sweet words that make your heart flutter

Bodhi - Physical Touch

This man... I definitely see him lovinggg physical touch. He needs you like he needs air to breathe and he isn't afraid to let the rest of the world know it

He's a confident guy so naturally he'd love to show off his significant other; walking with an arm slung over your shoulder or around your waist, sitting right next to you during meals so that your arms and legs brush against each other, holding hands or even just loosely linking your fingers together while you study, he loves it all

You two have definitely been told to get a room once or twice during training when your sparring sessions get a little too intense (gods bless the innocent bystanders who have to bear witness to that, especially the poor boys who are practically his brothers)

Obviously he knows how to balance his leadership responsibilities with spending time with you so he knows when he has to take a step back and get serious, but trust me, every chance he gets he's finding a way to be right next to you

When you guys are alone... oh boy get ready to be next to him all night long. Whether you’re laying together on one of your beds just talking before you settle in to sleep for the night, sitting on his lap while you both work on your own assignments, showering together, he’ll find a way to make everything a team effort just to be as close to you as possible

Don’t worry though, he knows when to give you your space so if there’s ever a day where you simply want a little alone time he would never push any boundaries and would respect whatever you wanted. However, if you’re trying to avoid him because you’re upset or anything of that nature he’s going to figure out what’s wrong and make sure you’re alright

Bodhi Durran the man that you are... At the end of the day he would be such a sweet partner to you and all of his actions, from full on cuddling to just brushing past each other briefly in the hallway, proves to you every day that he adores you

Garrick - Quality Time

Garrick is definitely more on the serious side, especially in public, but don't underestimate him as a partner because this man knows how to make you feel loved

Being close to you serves multiple purposes for him; it lets him keep an eye on you to make sure you're safe, and it simply brings him the sense of comfort he always gets from being near you

He’s super secure in himself and you, not doubting either of your abilities or your love for one another but just getting to be around you makes him happy. Whether it be sitting together to study, you talking his ear off about whatever antics you and your squad got up to that day, or even just training at the same time even if you’re on opposite sides of the gym sparring with different partners. Spending time with you or just being near each other is how he shows that he's there for you and that he loves you so he'll take whatever time he can get

With spending so much time with you and the fact that he’s a very observant guy, he would be able to read you like a book. There’s no hiding how you’re feeling because he’ll pick up on all of your little tells and know exactly how to go about making you feel better

Along with how observant he is and how deeply he knows you, I also feel like he would give amazing advice too. Disagreement with a friend? Not able to get the hang of a new weapon you’ve been training with? Stressed about an exam and not sure how to study? He has advice for all of it, and he knows when to step in and help you but also when you’ll want to be left alone to figure things out yourself

Whenever you both get a day off (which wouldn’t be often, I mean you have a war to prepare for) it’s always spent together. When you’re able to get some time together in Aretia, he’d take you to some tucked away corner of Riorson House him and Xaden would hang out in as kids just so you could get a few uninterrupted moments alone together, which you both cherish more and more as you inevitably get busier

He might be one of the most intimidating out of all of his friends and arguably out of most other riders as well, but underneath that sexy muscly exterior, he’s got a crazy soft spot for you; and while it might not be fully apparent to anyone who isn’t looking closely enough, you know just how much he loves you and that’s all that matters to the two of you

#fourth wing #fourth wing x reader #iron flame #iron flame x reader #xaden riorson #liam mairi #bodhi durran #garrick tavis #xaden riorson x reader #liam mairi x reader #bodhi durran x reader #garrick tavis x reader

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kieonu · 7 months

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boyfie! yuta okkotsu x cosplayer! reader

gender-neutral reader

category: sfw, fluff(?), yuta's a very supportive bf !!

cw: none !!

boyfie! yuta who was surprised when you told him you're a cosplayer. he just came over to your place one day in the early stages of your relationship, unannounced, and had a question mark on his head when you opened the door in full cosplay

boyfie! yuta who admires and compliments you every time you cosplay. sparkles and hearts fill his eyes as he watches you parade around your place in cosplay. he wonders how he's gotten such an attractive s/o

boyfie! yuta who learns the rules of photography to assist you in taking your cosplay photos. he's willing to do whatever it takes to help you get the shots you like ! even if it does make him look silly in public (he's definitely feeling embarrassed), but it's worth it !!

boyfie! yuta who works on creating small photoshoot sets for you. he works as if he's getting paid for quality work and not by the hour. wanna do a simple underwater shoot for just your upper body? he's got you. he's watched enough cosplay tip videos beforehand just for this. although this, there are some times where he physically cannot create an entire set for you, so he'll contribute to renting out a studio just for these shoots !!

boyfie! yuta who gets jealous easily. after the first few times you've cosplayed a couple with another cosplayer, his heart couldn't handle it anymore. he then offered to cosplay couples with you !! he'll cosplay no matter the character and costume details (need me someone like this </3)

boyfie! yuta who feels awkward posing as a couple in character whilst getting photos taken. he eventually warms up and gets used to taking photos, though he's still very shy

boyfie! yuta always attends conventions and cosplay events with you. he's there to hold whatever you purchase (he's your #1 gofer) and have whatever you need. water? of course he's got it. a piece of your costume keeps slipping? he's got tape for a quick fix !! a solo cosplayer wants to take a photo with you? he'll take the photo !! truly the best support boyfriend ever

boyfie! yuta who's eyes widen and feels a little sense of panic when someone asks him for a photo. his nerves calm and agrees when he sees you smile at him, encouraging him to take the photo. if they ask him for his socials (most likely to tag him in the photo once they post it later), he'll give them your social. he's gotta support his partner as much as he can, even if it means giving people a different person's social. close enough though, right?

boyfie! yuta who would slip away while you're in the bathroom at the convention to buy something you were eyeing earlier. he then runs back to the bathroom just so you don't suspect him to have wandered off

"why are you breathing so heavily?"

"it got a little hot here earlier as a large wave of people walked by. it seems to have calmed down though so no worries ("⌒▽⌒) ". totally not because he ran across the cramped artist alley, nooooo.. he would give you what he bought you when you guys get home and have a little haul for the day. he'd also be just as excited over the things you bought

boyfie! yuta who walks behind you to make sure no creeps try to take weird photos of you as they pass by. don't worry about him getting lost though, he's holding your hand :D. for a pretty shy guy, he likes to hold your hand in public to show that you already have a lover and anyone else can back off

boyfie! yuta who secretly takes photos of you while walking or when you're staring off somewhere after the convention. walking to a restaurant nearby? he's snapped a photo of you. your resting on the railing on a balcony? he took the perfect photo that he'll later set as his lockscreen

boyfie! yuta who loves his s/o so much and would do anything for them. he loves supporting you in anything you do !!

nsfw edition here

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gaslysainz · 8 months

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Lost (PG10) pt.1

Summary: The world is utterly unfair. He was her most prized possession, her life, her first ever commitment of love. But to him, she was just a mere person lost in his big world.

warnings: ; unrequited feelings; Pierre is a douche , arrange marriage, angst, heartbreak.

Author's Note~ Heya guys! So I had put out a post about getting motivation to write something up, so thank you to all for commenting and encouraging me! Love You All 😘

Here's my first ever story for you guys. As soon as I finish this one, I'll start taking requests maybe! Till then please show your love and support for "LOST".

Journal Entry -1

LOVE....It's something that i have always yearned for.

Even if it's fake. A little bit of admiration, a simple compliment can make my day.

It's been like this ever since my brother, Isaac Conti left the world. I started living with my step mother Annie Conti and my step sister Julia Conti. Yes, Isaac was my step sibling too but he never made me feel like i'm not his own sister.

My brother was the only one who actually loved me and admired me to the fullest in this family. My mother was an Indian and was forced to marry my father after she saved him from an accident when he was travelling in India. I was a part of a mistake. Ever since my maa died everyone except my brother treated me like shit. Even my father.

But then i met him. My love of my life, the most important person in my life. My husband Pierre Gasly, the playboy of the F1 track!

Once again life played a merciless game with me. The man that i'm committed to, married to , bound by vows is in love with someone else. To be more clear he's in love with my sister Julia Conti.

How pathetic am i to have a life like this huh! We've been married for about 7 months now because that was my brother's last wish before leaving us. Pierre was his friend and he thought that getting me hitched would've been the best thing to do, but to think of it , it was his biggest mistake. He knew i've always had feelings for a certain blue eyed boy, thus, his decision, but what he didn't know was that Pierre has always been in love with my sister and married me only to get close to her. Pierre cleared everything out for me once we came back from the reception right after our wedding.

Now it's been a few days, two months to be exact that they've been dating , oh! and also sleeping around. What's sad is that i've caught them a few times during action in his bedroom. The only thing that i could do is simply go up to the terrace, look up to the sky and cry my eyes out calling out my Maa and my Brother. I don't blame Isaac for anything. It's all my fate.

I'm a pathetic excuse of a human as my husband likes to call me, who does not deserve anything in this world except for tears and sadness.

If you're wondering if Pierre had always been like this? Then let me tell you No!

It all started after 1 month of our marriage when he started talking to my sister more and giving her more attention. The lies that had been fed to him by my Step Mother and Step Sister about me is what he believed at the end of the day.

Life has always been a mockery for me. I am not allowed to speak to anyone, it's not like i have any friends to talk to. The only thing i am useful for is to tag along with Pierre to a few of his races or a few other important events as his trophy wife just cause it's an obligation.

No one really knows what happens in our life everyday, not even his grid mates. I'm sure it wouldn't have made any difference seeing they are his best friends. I'm not even allowed to talk to them even if i've seen them around at parties and races. I think my attitude has probably led them to think that i'm a snobby little bitch just like my Step sister. Oh yes! I do use bad words sometimes cause why not? I'm supposed to be able to do at least certain things in life right?

It's not like Pierre is going to read what i'm writing here?

I've given up everything, every little dreams of mine, SO if you ask me if i think that Pierre is ever gonna love me back , then my answer is No!I would never even dream about thinking that he's gonna love me back.

But there's one person who always looks out for me, he's my only friend I suppose, and that's a certain ferrari driver with a charming smile that always lifts up my mood.

Anyways,I'll just sit aside and keep loving Pierre forever, even after he leaves me for my step sister after a year of our marriage. Just 5 more months to go. 5 more months to be with him. 5 more months to stay by his side as trophy wife when he goes out for parties and races.

His world is a big one. Where he has got his grid mates, his family, his fans, his work people , my step sister even my step mom...... Everyone except for good ol' me....

I, Mrs. Y/n Gasly is just a LOST case in his big world...

Let's see where the upcoming 5 months take us....

PS - Please lemme know what do you think about LOST and also let me know if you wanna be added to the tag list ❤️

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stormblessed95 · 6 months

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https://www.tumblr.com/stormblessed95/733070094082736128/the-thing-about-yoonmin-that-fascinates-me-is-how?source=share

umm does anon live in some alternative universe of army fandom where people are calling Yoonmin fanservice? Cause from my 4 yrs of experience what i know is tkkrs occupies around 80% of army fandom and #THEY love to call jkk fanservice and since they want jm to stay away from jk they ship him with yg like not even jkk posts get's so much like from armys the way yoonmin get's. There's decided ships for this fandom since beginning and that's taekook, yoonmin and namjin. These are the most popular ships in the fandom so idk where that fanservice came from.

the thing that irks me about yg is how easily he can praise jk and Th who are also maknaes but it takes special efforts for him to praise him. When someone tries to praise jm here comes my man yg saying "yeah but jungkook does it better", "yes but jm can you stop doing that", "yes but why did you have a guitar when you don't know how to play" , "yes but why were you getting emotional that wasn't the time" there's always a but when it comes to praising jm but see how effortlessly he does it for jk and TH. The whole tom and jerry dynamics being him constantly saying something to jm idk how that's fascinating to y'all.

I remember how armys were dragging that one grp which i think was seventeen or something else i don't remember but yeah they were saying that the members needs to have some sense cause they were teasing one member over his weight but yg saying "i don't why you were shirtless when you're body wasn't even that great" like yes king show us how tom and jerry works. It actually gave me a small heartattack when in today's suchwita yg said something one good line about jm. Anyways jm loves him so i have no right to feel bad or anything on his behalf.

Anon didn't say anyone was calling yoonmin (or any one else) fanservice, so 1. Calm down over THAT part. 2. There have also been jkkrs and vminners and sope (hopeminers? Lol) since 2013 as well, so relax there too. Not that it's a competition?? Because that's weird...

And 3, and most importantly.... the thing that irks me about you is that you are speaking in fact about yoongi not complimenting jimin ever, when Yoongi praises Jimin just as much as he teases him. And for all the bickering and teasing Yoongi gives Jimin, Jimin gives it right back JUST AS MUCH. SO GOD DAMM, chill out and look at the whole picture there. Like my god, the man can barely breathe without praising Jimin in some way... Jesus.

A whole Compilation for you...

Always encouraging him and believing in him

Just spoiling him

1. Question: what is Jimin to you?

Yoongi: person I want to take care of

2. Question: to yoongi, jimin is __?

Yoongi: important person

Just loving on him all the time

The other boys always making Jimin be the one to ask Yoongi for things because he always gives Jimin what he wants

The man just cannot help himself, here is a whole thread to look through!

"It actually gave me a small heartattack today when Yoongi said one good line about jimin"

Is doing nothing but exposing yourself as ignorant. Because like cmon have you watched ANY content? Not just yoonmin bickering compilations?? Lol Jimin didn't talk about how much Yoongi gives him love, support and encouragement ever since their trainee days until now for you to act like he doesn't do anything but dote on the man. The bickering is something they both ENJOY and doesn't upset them. Jimin doesn't need your protection. He especially doesn't need it from YOONGI of all people.

"Anyways jimin loves him so I have no right to feel bad or anything on his behalf"

They say after writing an entire essay doing exactly that... better luck next time I guess?

Do yall forget that yoongi is my man? My bias? Everything to me? That trashing him in my inbox is NEVER going to get your a sympathetic ear? Lol especially when you are just laughable wrong??

#antis #akgaes #imma defend all their bonds #every single time #leave yoonmin alone #yoonmin love

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yourbookcouldbegayer · 10 months

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heya! i'm planning to write my characters (queers and allies) going to a pride parade, but i have never been to one so i'm wondering if you can help me describe the atmosphere and how people interact with each other during the parade? or are there any resources i can look into about pride parades?

tysm!

I highly encourage you to go to one if you are able, but I know it's not something everyone can just do. My experience under the cut

First, it's my impression that they vary vased on how accepting the setting is. I live in the US in a very liberal area, and that influences my experience a lot, given that a) it's 80% either organizations or buisnesses of some kind showing support, and b) I don't encounter a smidgen of hate/counterprotest.

So my Pride starts as a parade down the street and into the park, where it settles and becomes a festival. I personally enjoy the festival far more.

Most people going , who aren't part of the parade, wear something with a flag on it, the rainbow being the most common. But more and more you'll see flags you don't recognize. People give out stickers-- either rainbow flags in different iterations or hearts with several of the most common flags. Wearing pride flags is very common.

There are usually a couple people with shopping carts so full of flags, boards displaying stuffed animals, large pins, and other things for sale. They start going around the parade area early on. This if good is you want a flag before the parade, but I usually avoid them-- usually these are not queer sellers, and are simply reselling products they bought elsewhere. That said, it was the only place last year I found a 7 stripe sunset lesbian flag.

People there are generally freindly, complimenting pride themed outfits and stuff. There are families with kids there as well as young adults.

The parade, for me, is mainly organizations supporting us-- the grocery store, churches, local politicians, the police (🙄🙄🙄 I went stony silent for them), ect. Groups that I loved tto see though was the local POC Queer group, Planned Parenthood, and my absolute favorite, a local social liberation group. I loved that last one so much because someone was shouting protest chants and there were signs calling for change in trans rights and stuff-- 90% of pride is a parade, not a protest, and feeling the protest energy made me so so happy.

Most people marching are in tshirts associated with theor organization that say something about pride. But you also see a lot of people with pride flags, rainbow butterfly wings. There is usually at least 1 float full of, plus a few other, drag queens. There's the gay bar's float with mostly men dressed in very little. There's giant bubbles or bubble guns. People in the parade will toss out candy, flags, support bracelets, ect to the audience-- also condoms, but I didn’t see any this year. But that might've been because I was near a lot of kids.

At the festival you have:

All those organizations have a booth. There is usually free stuff and sometimes spin to win (pay to spin)

However, you also have local small businesses! There's a good amount that make queer stuff, usually a metaphysical booth, jewelry, pins (fun pronoun pins), flags, umbrellas, fans, pretty much anything you can think of that can have a pride flag, including homemade stuff

The shopping carts are around still

There's a whole bunch of food, like food trucks and stuff. Usually these have nothing to do with pride, theyre just not actually homophobic, and are there to sell food. But there was a local cafe these 6 trans owned and operated that I was super happy to see bc I've been meaning to go.

STD testing somewhere

A stage with a band. I think a drag queen from ru paul came to ours (I go to a big one in a state capital). It's very loud so I don't usually linger here but a lot of people go and enjoy the music and whatever else performance happens.

Ours had rides! A swing ride (so popular I skipped it even though that's one of my favorites) and a carousel. Also face painting. We didn't even have those at the biggest local festival of the year

Free Mom Hugs! I learned recently that this is a group and not just shorrts that are worn, but mother+ aged women wear tshirts saying Free Mom Hugs (or Dad hugs, therre are men too).

As for the people... my pride is crowded. People are usually drressed pretty lightly-- gentials are covered but that's about the only rule. Think rave rules-- boobs usually have their nipple covered. Being covered up is just as common though. No matter what the no-kink-at-pride people claim, this largely isn't sexual. It's queer, it's body positivity and acceptance, it's just being yourself. Also it's usually hot out. People are generally freindly, will compliment especially rarer sexuality representation or cool slogans on shorts. You'll see people in drag, a lot of androgeny, mixing feminine and masculine, ect. And there are plenty of people dressed more normally, too.

People don't necessarily act like everyone there is family or are that much more freindly/familiar with each otther than anywhere else. But mostt people there will respond positively to compliments, most people know far more flags than the average person. People assume pronouns slightly less, definitely still do (my enby gf, wearing all trans colors, no pronoun pin, was misgendered a few times) but it's a much safer environment to correct or ask for one's pronouns or respect ones they see.

Only other pride I've been to is in Provincetown, an extremely gay place. From what I remember, this was much more the common folk, much more an assortment of people marching and cheering and not as directly associated with an organization wanting support. I also went to a leather march there, also basically pride, except mainly... y'know. Leather.

There's a post on heere somewhere of someone watching someone on the bus after pride (idk if ot was a freind or stranger) who lookeed so happy and like themselves, theen having to peel off the stickers, hide the rainbows, ect., as they returned home. This will be an experience that still happens for likely a very long time.

That's about all I can think of. I welcome anyone else to share their experiences! I feel like I talked more about the festival than the parade but I like the festival better.

Unlike what people claim, there is no gatekeeping. The idea of people feeling like they aren't allowed is so weird to me because like. There's so many straight people giving support. There's so many people who you don't know theor sexuality. No one is at pride judging anyone for not belonging. If you look like a bunch of straight people there to party, maybe people will think that and move on. But for the most part no one would notice. You don't know someone's sexuality unless they have a flag, or if someone is there with a same-gender partner or not unless you see them kissing. And no one is performing sex scenes, that picture used in the no-kink-at-pride discourse wasn't at pride, no one does that. Did a freind once tie a bdsm knot on a ripe over my shirt at pride once? Yeah. So what? People there show some pride for their sexaulity, that's different.

Good luck with your story!

Mod Emma

#pride #pride parade #pride festival #disclaimer: this blog is inactive due to mod inactivity #sometimes I answer questions anyway #mod emma #long post

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phtalogreenpoison · 10 months

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Reynie Muldoon Part 3

Hullo hullo friends, and welcome to the third part of analysis on Reynie Muldoon. As you probably can tell, I tend to follow book canon because that’s what I’m familiar with, but feel free to theorize as you please. Now I have less brain juice present with me right now, so hopefully I will be able to elucidate clearly on what I’ve been wanting to.

And while I don’t think this is an uncommon take, I would argue that Reynie has parallels to both Mr. Benedict and Mr. Curtain, and in addition to this, they both provide mentorship in a way (although Mr. Benedict is far more direct, and Mr. Curtain does really only in the first book indirectly). First off, Mr. Benedict is a pretty clear parallel, with how Reynie is at the center of his friends among the Society. He also has the mind of a leader, complimented by a strong heart, and is very perceptive and good at making plans, and he is charming in a kind, personable way. While he is often the one to make the critical decision, he relies upon his friends for constructive criticism and their opinions. He acknowledges that he is fallible, and Reynie is often the one to reach out to a friend that is struggling in some way. But how much of this does he parallel in personality to Mr. Benedict by being raised in similar circumstances? They are both orphans who were raised in an environment with not a ton of support and few friends, were uncomfortably smart or perceptive to those around them, and they love to read. A portion of their capabilities come from having an uncertain childhood, and they often doubt their own skills and decision making from a lack of self-esteem. They also have the tendency to doubt whether they are good people, particularly in a very intrusive thought kinda way (if I do say so as a haver myself).

And Mr. Benedict provides good mentorship to Reynie as well! He encourages Reynie’s ability to trust his own decision making AND his ability to think in a team and trust his friends, almost providing the reassurance that Mr. Benedict could have used throughout his life before he found his family. A key example of this kind of mentorship occurs during the mirrors and windows conversation, which happens early on in The Perilous Journey (the chapter title for those interested is Beyond the Glass, or Windows for Mirrors). Here I would like to interrupt my analysis to give credit to @mvshortcut for providing me with the full conversation in pictures. Carrying on, the analogy they start with is that Mr. Benedict says to Reynie, “where most people see mirrors, you, my friend, see windows. By which I mean there is always something behind the glass” (Stewart 37). While he praises this ability, he points out it can be both a blessing and a curse, that being perceptive can allow you to see things you aren’t meant to know just yet (or are ready to know) or to read too much into everyday things. From here, he segues into the serpent dream conversation, where he tells Reynie, “But if you find that serpents are all you see, you may not be looking hard enough” because as he says earlier, “wickedness stands out, as it were” (Stewart 38, 37). By pointing this out, he points out that without trust in others, this can lead to paranoia and the kind of decision making that leads one down a path more similar to his brother Mr. Curtain.

On the other hand, Reynie also parallels Mr, Curtain for many of the same reasons. Going by book canon, we don’t know a whole lot about Mr. Curtain’s childhood, but we can probably assume he had a lot difficulties from his disability. While this same disability pushed Mr. Benedict to find a support system so he could be his best self as he saw it, Mr. Curtain instead felt control was the answer. Reynie, while still very flexible as a person, could probably relate to the value of this, and getting a taste of this as a Messenger probably influences why he even worries that he might betray his friends in the first place. After all, if you can’t trust anyone, you might as well use your friends right back? Right? If they’re there only for a goal and not you as a person, you might as well have your own goal. You might as well get the recognition for what you are from a person who sees your potential, right? It doesn’t matter how others persons perceive the truth or not, just who plays the game best to get their vengeance of living best, RIGHT? This is a big part of why Mr. Curtain’s influence is such a tipping point one way or the other for Reynie and how he decides to grow as a person and in what direction. In fact, I appreciate that Reynie stews on the option of betrayal, as it shows how human and hurt he is, and his decision to stick to the mission becomes that much more powerful through that lens. And while Reynie decides not to go on Mr. Curtain’s route, he still indirectly learns the power of mind games and power struggles and how this happens in the world. He learns what intimidation can do, and he is that much more powerful if he chooses to only to use it to protect people instead of hurt them.

#reynie muldoon #mysterious benedict society #mbs #the mysterious benedict society #tmbs #character analysis #theorizing #i just love him 🥺#he's such a guy (affectionate towards blorbo)

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nocturnal-birb · 1 year

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*Slides you a 666 dollar bill*

The Ghouls with a chubby reader (fem)? Also could you elaborate for each one?

*Hands you a slice of buttered bread, and then runs away giggling like a maniac*

I think the bread would have me covered ngl. I'm a whore for bread

I don't usually have hcs for ghouls sadly, but I think I got a few!

Taking the fact that the ghouls (we're going for era 5 here) have ghoulettes and one that chubby, I think they'd love a chubby partner too even if they're not a ghoul/ghoulettes but here are some hcs under the cut

The Ghouls:

Dewdrop: as spicy as he is like a spicy cat, I do think he definitely love kneading his claws on his partner- of course not too hard, maybe just cat kneading tolerance type. He's not particularly affectionate cause he's feral but he'd be so down on just laying with his partner and kneading them and purring even- probably with a cute pout cause he's jealous they have rolls they can squish.

As feral as he is, he doesn't want to bite on them cause he wants to be careful with them so he kneads instead as affection.

Aether: as someone who is also chubby, I think he'd be having fun with a chubby partner. Like he would not only squish and touch his partner but also even convince his part to touch his so it's like a mutual squishing but he'd definitely prefer yours since human flesh is softer albeit fragile- it is soft and he loves that.

Rain: he would straight up cuddle his partner like a stuffed toy and even compliment how soft and warm they'd be- probably won't even let go when their partner needs to do errands and all. He likes having them around for comfort and warmth since he is a water ghoul and human warmth plus the softness of flesh just feels right with his.

Swiss: personally, somehow I feel like he'd be feral with a partner that is chubby cause he can not only squeeze them but bite on them- affectionately unlike Dew who is careful, Swiss would definitely bite at least softly.

The Ghoulettes:

Cumulus: as someone who is on the chubby side, I think she'd be ecstatic having a partner that has the same body type as her. Plus she gets to wear their partner's outfits too! Either dresses or pants, she'd love to wear them with her partner. Not to mention there's also an underlying intimacy and understanding between two beings who has the same struggle regarding themselves, things just click, you know?

Cirrus: oh she would pamper her partner with dresses and all other clothing she finds cause she would love seeing them- regardless of gender, she would give them dresses lingerie and other clothing and even encourage them to try it cause she knows they would slay it.

Sunshine: oh she'd be her partner's number 1 supporter like, this ghoulette is feral as Dew or even more that she'd just want to pounce on her partner and just cuddle and squeeze them. Definitely the most enamoured out of all of the ghouls cause their partner is just so cuddly shaped.

#i hope these are to your liking anon ;w;#you ask me sumthin’ and i answer a lil sumthin sumthin

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Could I please request a level 3 ship for the Merlin, Peaky Blinders and Lord of the Rings fandoms? I'm so excited to see someone writing for Merlin bbc (also special shout out for including all the knights, it's nice to see).

(Also sorry for the repetitive reblogs on both my main and my hwritingreblogs side blog, it's just the second is a archive of all the stuff I like to read but it only has one follower and I thought your writing deserved more attention than that 😅).

My pronouns are she/her and I'm heterosexual.

As for me personality wise; I'm more on the quiet side, but with people I'm close to, I'm a lot more open, friendly and jokey with a touch of sarcasm, though I still need my quiet time at times. My traits would be: creative, a dreamer, loyal, compassionate, conscientious. On the bad side I have a tendency to sometimes give up too quickly and sometime swing between being too guarded because of things in my past to suddenly being open, before swinging back to guarded.

For my hobbies I enjoy creating art, gaming, chilling with my pets, brain puzzles and reading. I also sometimes cross stitch and I'm a bit of history geek. I love going to old castles, forts and that kind of thing.

My love language is acts of service (I'm always randomly making people cups of tea even though I don't drink it myself) and words of affirmation.

Other random things I like: the sound of cats purring, people stroking my hair, the smell of the fresh rain, autumn, daffodils, foxes, cheesecake, cooking new recipes, daydreaming.

Thank you, please send me an ask if you need anything else.

Want one? Here be the rules 🦋🌈

𝑾𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒆𝒂𝒄𝒉 𝒔𝒉𝒊𝒑 𝒉𝒂𝒔 𝒊𝒏 𝒄𝒐𝒎𝒎𝒐𝒏: ✧ Witty ✧ Good-hearted ✧ Curious

𝐌𝐞𝐫𝐥𝐢𝐧

𝐷𝑒𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛

You're such a sweet person and seem to have a really caring side. Merlin is very similar in that aspect! Whenever you feel like giving up, Merlin would either encourage you verbally or have you do things in a fun way like - who could finish something first or who can race to the stables quicker...

𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑛𝑜𝑛𝑠

・Watches you secretly as you dance around the room, he always gives himself away because you can hear his laughter

・Likes your smell, and will carry around one of your possessions because it smells like you

・Gets jealous quite easily

・ Relationship Tropes:

↬ Dumbass x Oh My God That’s My Dumbass

↬ Shy/Insecure x Thinks The Other One Is Incredible

𝐋𝐨𝐫𝐝 𝐨𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐑𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬

𝐷𝑒𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛

I was thinking of someone smart, someone who'd be able to keep up with this witty and sarcastic aura that you have. And obviously, with his smarts and determined traits, he'd be able to do that. While also be very entertaining and make you blush 24/7

𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑛𝑜𝑛𝑠

・Gives you SO MANY COMPLIMENTS!!!

・Loves when you scratch his head with your nails, it feels like heaven

・Always greets you with a flower, even if he picked it from one of the neighbour’s gardens

・Laughs at all your jokes, and whenever you’re talking he’s always listening intently, even if it’s in a big group

・ Relationship Tropes:

↬ Childhood Friends To Lovers

↬ Aggressively Supportive

𝐏𝐞𝐚𝐤𝐲 𝐁𝐥𝐢𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬

𝐷𝑒𝑠𝑐𝑟𝑖𝑝𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛

I ship you with Michael Grey because I think he’s the most emotionally aware out of all the men. He’ll actually listen to you when you have a problem or want to talk about your day. He’s the most sensitive in terms of others out of Tommy, Arthur, John, and Alfie.

𝐻𝑒𝑎𝑑𝑐𝑎𝑛𝑜𝑛𝑠

・He would love to travel to castles and historical buildings with you, maybe he isn’t as interested as you are. But he’ll do his best to keep up.

・Calls you pet names like: “darling,” “love,’ “sweetheart.”

・A bit of an ememies to lovers type of relationship - you didn’t like Michael at first. But once you got to know him, he didn’t seem so bad. It was just the reputation of the Peaky Blnders that influenced your perception of him

・ Relationship Tropes:

↬ “Shut Up” x “Make Me”

↬ Rescue Romance

#match ups #ships

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texasmadehustler · 1 year

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Psychology Questions

I hope these questions start a conversation about mental health that you’ll continue to have with your best friends. Thank you!

•Show your concern for someone who is struggling

•Open up a dialogue about their mental state

•Trigger them to reflect on their overall wellbeing

•Prompt or encourage them to seek professional help if it is necessary

Practical

People with the Practical love language feel loved when their partners chip in with everyday duties and responsibilities. They feel cared for when their loved ones do chores and offer help.

Intellectual

People with the Intellectual love language like to connect through the mind. They feel loved when their partner values their intelligence, respects their opinion, and takes part in thoughtful discussion of important issues.

Financial

People with the Financial love language feel loved when their partner is generous with resources, and sees value in spending money to bring their partner pleasure and joy. This love language may be expressed through gifts, or just making space in the family budget for your partner’s enjoyment.

Emotional

Those who focus on the Emotional love language feel loved when their partner is able to connect with them and support them through difficult and scary emotions. Being present for the highs and lows is very important to those with the Emotional love language.

Activity

People who focus on the Activity love language feel special and valued when their partner takes an interest in their hobbies and activities and makes an effort to enjoy hobbies and interests together.

Appreciation

People who focus on the Appreciation love language feel loved when their partner gives them compliments, praise, and thanks. They appreciate hearing explicitly what their partner likes and admires about them.

Words of affirmation

Words, both oral and written, can affirm those around us. Some prefer private communication, while others value being praised in front of others. It is a rather poignant quote and applies simply to any relationship. Say nice things to people. Whether it’s a romantic relationship, parental, sibling, professional, or otherwise, giving compliments is a no-brainer way to show love. But, what if that’s not their way to feel love? Take Amy for example, Words of Affirmation doesn’t do it for her. She was raised to say thank you and telling someone when their hair looks nice is just second nature to her. So, for Amy, giving people a compliment or verbal appreciation is just something people should do. It’s not really anything extra for her. Words of Affirmation is not her love language. Someone who does love to hear these things regularly though, someone like Mark Twain who could live two months on a good compliment, they may be able to claim Words of Affirmation as their love language.

Quality Time

People enjoy different types of time — “hanging out” with coworkers, working together on a project, or having someone take time to listen to them. Quality Time is all about giving your time to your partner. Chapman is specific with this one, that he’s not talking about watching TV together. He’s talking about the mushy kind of quality time. The staring deep into one another’s eyes, contemplating the universe together kind of quality time. This is undivided, you’re the only person here, kind of attention. Let’s be honest, everyone wants this at some point in their relationship. But, if you want this regularly to feel most loved, Quality Time may be your love language.

ACTS OF SERVICE

Assisting a colleague in getting a task done can be quite encouraging to them. Help them “dig out” from being behind on a project or just work alongside them on a task. Another one that is a bit more complex than it sounds is Acts of Service. Acts of Service are expressed by doing things to show your love. As far as marriage or couples counseling goes, this is a love language that can be easily missed by a couple who is having trouble connecting. This is the everyday, the nitty-gritty, the life part of the life you live together. It’s when he empties the dishwasher without being asked or when she takes care to fold his laundry how he likes. It’s the stuff that can so easily go unnoticed without trying. The idea is that it becomes an Act of Service when we go out of our way to do these things specifically for our partners, not just because they must get done to be checked off the to-do list. If you feel most loved when your partner takes a task off your plate for you, Acts of Service may be your love language.

Gift Giving

Take time to notice your colleagues’ hobbies & interests, and the food they enjoy. Buy them a small gift to show that you are getting to know them and what they enjoy. There really are not any complexities to this one. However, Chapman does make a point to mention that the gift itself does not matter and that it can also be a “gift of your presence.” You can give money, a stick (an example from the book), expensive diamonds, extravagant well-thought-out gifts, or just the gift of yourself being there (not to be confused with quality time). No matter, what the gift is, it is a visual representation of your love. If you feel most loved by receiving gifts, this may be your love language.

Physical Touch

Physical touch in work-based relationships is usually an act of spontaneous celebration — a “high five,” fist bump, slap on the back, or congratulatory handshake. Everyone automatically assumes this is every man’s first love language. It’s a bit more complex. . The first thing Chapman mentions in the book is how babies respond to physical touch. Parents of NICU babies are encouraged to touch their children to promote healing and better development. Children who are hugged and kissed by their parents are said to develop a healthier emotional life than those who aren’t. Then, of course, there is physical touching in a romantic relationship. We show love with hand holding, putting our arms around one another, and sexual activity. If this is how you feel most loved, the idea is that Physical Touch is your love language. People with the Physical love language feel loved when they receive physical affection—hugs, holding hands, and snuggles. They want their partners to show they’re attracted to them and initiate loving touch.

What is the most interesting thing you heard this week?

What’s the one thing you really want to do but have never done, and why?

Would you take a shot if the chance of failure and success is 50-50?

Which one would you prefer; taking a luxurious trip alone or having a picnic with people you love?

If your life was a book, what would the title be?

If you could be any animal, what would you be and why?

What is your favorite day of the week and why?

What do you do when you’re bored?

Shoe size?

Favorite color?

Favorite band (or artist)?

Favorite animal?

Favorite food?

One food you dislike?

Favorite condiment?

Favorite movie?

Last movie you saw in a theater?

Last book read?

Best vacation?

Favorite toy as a child?

One item you should throw away, but probably never will?

Superman, Batman, Spiderman, or Wonder Woman?

Chocolate or vanilla?

Morning person or night owl?

Cats or dogs?

Sweet or salty?

Breakfast or dinner?

Coffee or tea?

American food, Italian food, Mexican food, Chinese food, or other?

Clean or messy?

What is your favorite breakfast food?

What vegetable would you like to grow in a garden?

Tell about a childhood game you loved.

What’s your favorite dessert?

What’s your favorite month of the year and why?

Who is your favorite celebrity?

Which celebrity do you most resemble?

If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go and why?

Share about one of your hobbies.

What’s a unique talent that you have?

Introvert or extrovert?

Describe yourself in three words.

Tell about a happy childhood memory.

Name three things (or people) that make you smile.

On a scale from 1 to 10, where are you at in your recovery and what does that number mean to you?

Tell about a healthy risk you have taken this week.

What brought you to treatment?

How has your life changed since getting clean and sober?

What do you miss the most about drug/alcohol?

What would your life be like if you weren’t addicted to something?

What makes your addiction possible?

What are your triggers?

Name at least three ways you can cope with cravings.

Name three of your relapse warning signs.

Tell about someone who is supportive of your recovery.

What’s one thing you wish everyone knew about mental illness?

Is it okay to take medications if you’re in recovery?

Is it possible to get clean/sober without AA or NA?

Do you have a sponsor? What’s helpful and what’s not?

Do you think you’re going to relapse?

What’s the difference between helping and enabling?

Tell about a time you were in denial.

Do you have an enabler? Explain.

Is it possible for someone in recovery for drugs to be a social drinker?

How have drugs and alcohol affected your health?

Is addiction a disease?

Are you doing what you truly want in life?

What are your aspirations in life?

How many promises have you made this past year and how many of them have you fulfilled?

Are you proud of what you’re doing with your life or what you’ve done in the past? Explain.

Have you ever abandoned a creative idea that you believed in because others thought you were a fool? Explain.

What would you prefer? Stable but boring work or interesting work with lots of workload?

Are you making an impact or constantly being influenced by the world?

Which makes you happier, to forgive someone or to hold a grudge? Explain.

Who do you admire and why?

What are your strengths?

What are your weaknesses?

Are you doing anything that makes you and people around you happy?

Tell about a short-term goal you have.

Tell about a health goal you have.

Tell about a long-term goal you have.

Tell about a value that is currently important to you.

What do you like most about yourself?

What do you like least about yourself?

What in life brings you joy?

What are you grateful for?

Who is the most influential person in your life and why?

Tell about one dream you have always had, but are too afraid to chase.

What is something you want to change about yourself and what are two things you can do to accomplish this?

Describe your perfect world. (Who would be in it, what would you be doing, etc.)

Where were you one year ago, where are you now, and where do you want to be a year from today?

Share about a character flaw you have.

What kind of a person do you want to be?

When is the last time you helped someone and what did you do?

Tell about a problem you have right now. What can you do to solve it?

Have you ever failed anyone who you loved or loved you? Explain.

Who is your favorite person?

What was it like growing up in your family?

What makes someone a good friend?

What happens when you’re rejected?

What makes a relationship healthy or unhealthy?

Would you rather break someone’s heart or have your heart broken?

As a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?

Tell about something you do well.

What’s your dream job?

What are your career goals?

What classes would you be most interested in taking?

Tell about a job you would hate doing.

Would you prefer to work with people or by yourself?

Would you ever do a job that was dangerous if it paid a lot of money?

Would you still work if you didn’t have to?

What do you want to do when you retire?

If you have a job, what do you like about it? Dislike?

How do you deal with difficult co-workers?

What qualities would you like your supervisor to have?

When was the last time you laughed, and what did you laugh at?

If happiness was a currency, how rich would you be?

How do you express happiness?

What are three healthy ways you can cope with anger?

What are three healthy ways you can cope with anxiety?

What does being happy mean to you?

If your mood was a weather forecast, what would it be?

Tell about a time you were happy.

Tell about a time you were heartbroken.

What is the difference between guilt and shame?

Is guilt a healthy emotion?

Can guilt be excessive?

Is there a such thing as “healthy shame”?

What makes you happy?

What makes you mad?

When do you feel afraid?

When do you feel lonely?

Share about the last time you felt guilty.

What embarrasses you?

How does one practice forgiveness (of self and others) from a religious point of view and from a non-religious point of view?

What does it mean to forgive?

Do you have to forgive to move forward?

What brings you meaning in life?

How do you define spirituality?

What’s the difference between religion and spirituality?

When do you feel most at peace?

Do you meditate? Why or why not?

If you could travel to the past in a time machine, what advice would you give to the 6-year-old you? Would you break the rules because of something/someone you care about?

Are you afraid of making mistakes? Why or why not?

If you cloned yourself, which of your characteristics would you not want cloned?

What’s the difference between you and most other people?

Consider the thing you last cried about; does it matter to you now or will it matter to you 5 years from now?

What do you need to let go of in life?

Do you remember anyone you hated 10 years ago? Does it matter now?

What are you worrying about and what happens if you stop worrying about it?

If you died now, would you have any regrets?

What’s the one thing you’re most satisfied with?

If today was the end of the world, what would you do?

What would you do if you won the lottery?

If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

How do you think others see you?

What is your biggest fear?

How do you get someone’s attention?

What masks do you wear?

Tell about a poor decision you made.

When is the last time you failed at something? How did you handle it?

Have you ever experienced a terrible occurrence that has impacted you significantly? Examples may include being the victim of armed assault, witnessing a tragedy happen to someone else, surviving a sexual assault, or living through a natural disaster.

Do you ever feel that you’ve been affected by feelings of edginess, anxiety, or nerves?

Have you experienced a week or longer of lower-than-usual interest in activities that you usually enjoy? Examples might include work, exercise, or hobbies.

Have you ever experienced an ‘attack’ of fear, anxiety, or panic?

Do feelings of anxiety or discomfort around others bother you?

Questions of this type were related to feelings such as agitation, restlessness, sleep, pain, and somatic symptoms. Examples of prompts to investigate this domain could include:

Tell me about your sleeping habits over the past X months. Have you noticed any changes? Difficulty sleeping? Restlessness?

How would you describe your appetite over the past X weeks? Have your eating habits changed in any way?

These questions looked at feelings of anxiety, distress, motivation, and energy. The ‘absence of negative feelings of ill-being

Could you tell me about any times over the past few months that you’ve been bothered by low feelings, stress, or sadness?

How frequently have you had little pleasure or interest in the activities you usually enjoy? Would you tell me more?

Questions about independence and autonomy were related to quality of life aspects such as pride, dignity, and privacy. Potential questions might include:

How often during the past X months have you felt as though your moods, or your life, were under your control?

How frequently have you been bothered by not being able to stop worrying?

Self-perception questions were related to patients’ confidence, self-esteem, and feelings of being capable of doing the things they wanted to do. Counselors might want to use the following prompts:

Tell me about how confident you have been feeling in your capabilities recently.

Let’s talk about how often you have felt satisfied with yourself over the past X months.

These questions ask about the patient’s view of the future, their hopes and goals, and the actions they were taking toward them.

How often over the past few weeks have you felt the future was bleak?

Can you tell me about your hopes and dreams for the future? What feelings have you had recently about working toward those goals?

These questions consider how the client felt they ‘fit in with society,’ were supported, and possessed meaningful relationships. Examples include:

Describe how ‘supported’ you feel by others around you – your friends, family, or otherwise.

Let’s discuss how you have been feeling about your relationships recently.

The more purposeful, meaningful, and constructive a client perceived their activities to be, the better.

Tell me about any important activities or projects that you’ve been involved with recently. How much enjoyment do you get from these?

How frequently have you been doing things that mean something to you or your life?

Depression – e.g., How bothered have you felt about tiredness or low energy over the past two weeks? How bothered have you felt about thoughts that you’ve let yourself or others down?

Anxiety – e.g., Over the last two weeks, how bothered have you been by feelings of fear or dread, as though something terrible might happen? How often have you been bothered by so much restlessness that you can’t sit still?

Over the last 12 months, how frequently have you felt so worried about something that you were unable to sleep at night?

Over the last 12 months, how frequently have you felt alone or lonely?

Over the last 12 months, how often did you seriously consider attempting suicide?

Over the last 12 months, did you ever plan how you might attempt suicide?

How many close friends would you say you have?

How do you feel about the story you just heard? What was your first reaction? How about as the story unfolded?

What were your thoughts regarding the signs and symptoms of this mental health issue? Have you experienced any of these yourself or in someone you know?

How would you react if you noticed these in someone you care about?

How might taking action benefit you and the person you care about?

What actions could you take to help someone who is exhibiting these signs and symptoms?

What do you believe is important for anyone to be aware of if they know someone with this mental health issue?

What experiences have you had that are related to this story? What was similar? What differed?

What is your experience with treating others with my mental health condition?

Will you be able to collaborate or liaise with my physician on an integrated care plan?

What does a typical appointment with you look like?

What treatments or therapies are you licensed to administer?

Are there benefits or risks that I should know about these therapies?

What is the general time frame in which most patients will see results?

How will I know if the treatment is having an effect?

How long does this type of treatment last?

What does research say about this type of treatment?

Sense of self questions– e.g., I see myself as a good person. I feel that others respect me, yet I can still feel fine about myself if I disagree with them.

Sense of belonging questions – e.g., I have others around me who support me. I feel positive about my relationships with others and my interpersonal connections.

Sense of meaning or purpose questions – e.g., I get satisfaction from the things I do. I challenge my perspectives about the world and what I believe in.

Emotional resilience questions – e.g., I feel I handle things quite well when obstacles get in my way. I accept that I can’t always control things, but I do what I can when I can.

Enjoyment and hope questions – e.g., I have a positive outlook on my life. I like myself for who I am.

Contribution questions – e.g., The things that I do have an impact. My actions matter to those around me.

Have my sleeping habits changed? Do I wake up and fall asleep at regular times? When I sleep, how would I describe the quality of my rest?

How has my appetite increased or decreased recently?

Am I having trouble focusing at work or school? Can I concentrate on the things I want to do? Do I find pleasure in things that usually make me happy?

Am I socializing with my friends as much as I usually do? How about spending time with my family? Am I withdrawing or pulling away from those around me who matter?

Do I feel like I’m maintaining a healthy balance between leisure, myself, my career, physical activity, and those I care about? How about other things that matter to me?

How relaxed do I feel most of the time, out of 10? Is this the same, more, or less than usual?

How do I feel most of the time? Happy? Anxious? Satisfied? Sad?

What are my energy levels like when I finish my day? Are there any significant changes in my tiredness?

Am I having any extreme emotions or mood swings?

2. When were you the most happy?

3. What people, situations or events caused you to feel sad or depressed?

4. What were the most important things you made happen this year?

5. Did any activities lead to new relationships, partnerships or opportunities?

6. What activities did you spend the most time on?

7. How can you measure if the time spent was worthwhile?

8. What positive changes did you make in 2020 (I know…pandemic, but still…)?

9. What habits didn’t serve you well in 2xxx?

10. What did you do to support your emotional well-being?

11. What made you feel the most alive this year?

12. What did you do this year that you regret?

13. What made you cry the hardest this year?

14. What made you laugh the hardest?

15. Which people have been there for you the most in 2xxx?

16. What are you most grateful for as this year draws to a close?

17. Compared to this time last year, are you happier or sadder?

18. Who were the people who positively impacted your mental health?

19. Was it hard or easy to establish boundaries around mean or negative people?

20. What did you do to take care of yourself this year?

21. Where was the best place you traveled to this year?

22. What did you do for the first time in 2xxx?

23. What did you do for the last time in 2xxx?

24. What did you accomplish this year that you’re proud of?

25. Who did you need to forgive this year?

26. What were you most afraid of this year?

27. Who did you miss the most over the past year?

28. What was the most valuable thing you spent money on this year?

29. What did you waste too much money on this year?

30. What do you wish you’d spent more time doing this year?

31. What do you wish you’d spent less time doing?

32. What were your most bothersome feelings in 2xxx?

33. What thoughts would you like to let go of for the next year?

34. What are healthier thoughts you want for 2xxx?

35. What made you the angriest in 2xxx?

36. When did you feel the most at peace this year?

37. What is the biggest risk you took in 2020?

38. How many days on average per week did you intentionally think about your mental health?

39. How many days on average per week did you avoid people or duties?

40. Who in your life did you look up to the most this year?

41. Did you fall in love this year?

42. Did your heart break this year?

43. Who did you rely on the most in 2020?

44. Who might you owe an apology to at the end of this year?

45. How did you grow as a person over the past year?

46. What made you feel the most stuck this year?

47. How did you unintentionally make yourself more anxious this year?

48. What strategies did you use to calm yourself down?

49. What made you feel the most inspired this year?

50. If you could go back and give yourself a single piece of advice on the first day of 2020, what would it be?

51. What’s the most important thing you learned about your mental health this year?

52. What do you hope will be different for you by this time next year?

Do you lovingly battle any mental wellness or health struggles?

You can’t be a support system for your friends if you don’t know what they’re dealing with. No one can even begin to try and support you if you don’t open up. Gently opening lines of communication by asking if your bestie struggles with anything will not only provide insight into what they’re facing, but will let them know you care.

What things affect your mental wellness?

You know they struggle with something. But why? Knowing what affects your best friend’s mental health can help you support them as they manage it.

How does your mental health struggle manifest for you physically?

No two mental health struggles look the same. My anxiety and depression won’t look like yours. We likely will not respond the same way. This question is about getting specific and really trying to understand what it’s like for your friend to live in the world with their mental health issue.

Are there any signs you’re struggling that I should notice or be aware of?

Even if your friend knows you’re there for them, it might not be easy for them to tell you they’re struggling. Knowing what to keep an eye out for can help you be there for your friend without them always having to say “I need help.”

Is there anything you need from me to feel supported with your mental health?

The answer may be yes. The answer may be no. But you’ve let them know you’re willing to support them if they need you, and that’s everything. Just be prepared to step up if they say yes and tell you how.

You’ve seemed withdrawn lately, is everything okay?

Maybe something happened, maybe work is just hectic. Either way, this question lets your friend know you are paying attention and looking out for them.

Can I support you in seeking treatment if that’s something you’re open to or want to do?

While I personally believe seeking therapy or other treatment for mental health issues is a sign of strength, not everyone feels that way. If your best friend wants to seek treatment but is scared, asking how you can support them in doing so lets them know they’re not doing anything wrong by needing to talk to someone or getting on medication. Maybe they’ll want you to walk them to their therapy session, maybe they’ll ask you to make sure they’re taking their meds, maybe just asking will let them know seeking treatment is not only okay—it’s healthy and strong.

What might progress with your mental health look like?

My therapist gives me homework. It’s helpful to share those assignments and what I’m working on with my mental wellness with my best friends because they can gently hold me accountable. And as great at hearing “Good job!” from my therapist is, sometimes it means more from a friend because they’re around me more and probably saw me talk myself down from an anxiety attack whereas I just told my therapist about it afterward.

Are there physical things you can do to support your mental health? Do you know what they are?

If your friend doesn’t know, they can bring this up in therapy and brainstorm options with their health-care provider. If they do know, again, accountability. I know eating well, sleeping seven to eight hours a night, and exercising help me stay at my best not only physically, but mentally. The gentle nudge from my friends to keep doing those things, or the kind call-in if I’m not, is annoying but helps me stay on track.

How are you doing? Really?

Humans have a tendency to “fine” each other to death. But here’s a challenge from me to you: go deeper. Rarely is everything fine. Life is exciting, boring, horrible… Make space to talk about all of it and don’t settle for a surface-level answer from your best friend.

How is X treatment going?

Letting your friend know they can be open with you about their treatment, the ups and downs, will further reinforce your support for them. I talk to friends and acquaintances about my therapy because I want to lessen the stigma associated with going. We talk about sessions with our trainers at the gym; the work we do to keep our mental right and tight shouldn’t be off limits either.

Are there any topics of conversation we should avoid?

Relationships are a constant exercise in getting to know someone. You might not know every single thing that impacts your friend’s mental health and why it affects them (and you don’t need to). But being sensitive and doing your best not to cause further harm or re-traumatize someone will always be in the dictionary under the definition of “good friend.”

Are there any behaviors I can change or be mindful of to avoid causing further harm?

Do no harm should be an oath we all take in relationships. There may be a perfectly harmless behavior to you that is hurtful or harmful to your friend’s mental health. Knowing what it is can help you avoid engaging in it around them and protect their mental health in the process.

What is it like to live with your health condition?

Empathy, people. Empathy. Mental health impacts life and life impacts mental health. Learning how your friend lives with their condition can be helpful in your efforts to support them and will just help you better understand what they’re experiencing day to day to day.

You know I’m here for you, right?

Because at the end of the day, your bestie isn’t and shouldn’t have to go it alone.

Anger

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•I have serious arguments with my loved one, sometimes for no reason.

•I think most people would think I handle my anger well.

•When I am angry with someone, I am quickly and respectfully able to tell him or her why.

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•I’m very good at being quick to talk to someone who offends me so we can work out the issue.

•I fly off the handle quickly.

•Sometimes it takes me longer than I’d like to get over being angry.

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•I occasionally feel regret about how I express my anger.

•I simply let bygones be bygones.

•I find it very hard to forgive someone who has done me wrong.

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•Little things don’t bother me very much.

•I wish I had some better strategies or ideas for taking care of the anger I feel.

•I take frustration so badly that I can’t put it out of my mind.

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•I've been so angry at times I couldn't even remember some of the things I said or did.

•I consistently find appropriate outlets for my anger.

•I’m usually able to figure out what it is that makes me angry.

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•I don’t generally like being angry with others.

•I have said malicious things about others to get back at them when I am angry.

•I rarely if ever raise my voice in anger.

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•I've had trouble on the job because of my temper.

•My temper has caused problems with loved ones, but we usually seem to work it all out.

•If I have anything to do with it, I don’t let unresolved issues hang in the air with those I care about.

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•I don’t tend to get in many arguments.

•Some people are afraid of my bad temper.

•I’ve blurted things out in anger that I knew I needed to apologize for right away.

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•Though it doesn’t always happen, I usually recognize when I’m angry.

•I have control over how I express my anger in the vast majority of situations.

•I often break things when I’m angry.

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•After getting angry, I’m still able to act lovingly toward those around me.

•I sometimes feel like arguments with my loved ones just lead to more arguments and difficulties.

•My anger tends to come out suddenly in strong bursts that often appear uncontrollable to others around me.

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•I just keep it to myself when I’m angry.

•I am quick to forgive others who have offended me.

•I’m usually able to resolve arguments with other people.

Choose the statement that most closely describes you.

•After an argument, I often find myself wishing I had thought of a better way to respond.

•People tend to think I overreact when I’m angry.

•I work hard to have all the facts before acting on my anger.

Let’s begin with some Couples Therapy Questions for the First Session:

1 – How long have you been together?

2 – What made you seek professional help?

3 – Have you been to couples therapy before?

4 – What have you done or tried before to promote change?

5 – What are your expectations of this couples therapy?

6 – How much are you willing to change to keep your relationship alive?

7 – What would you consider to be your biggest problem? When did it start?

8 – Are there any past conflicts that we need to resolve?

9 – Why did you originally fall in love?

10 – What are the positive qualities which you bring to the relationship?

11 – How would you describe your life together?

12 – How would you describe your relationship in one sentence?

13 – What’s standing in the way of your relationship being as good as you want it to be?

14 – Are you currently happy? What could you do to be happier in your relationship?

15 – Do you feel emotionally close to your partner?

16 – Do you think your partner cares about you?

17 – Do you feel loved?

18 – How do you feel on a daily basis?

19 – Do you fight often? If so, what are the common topics?

20 – How would you describe an ideal relationship?

21 – What are you willing to do to improve your relationship?

22 – Do you truly care about your partner?

23 – Do you feel happy in your relationship?

24 – How would your lives be like if you decide to separate?

25 – How do you truly feel about your relationship?

26 – Do you trust your partner?

27 – What are the things you love about your partner?

28 – What are the things you can’t stand about your partner?

29 – Do you feel accepted by your partner?

30 – What do you love most about your partner?

31 – Are your expectations for each other and your relationship reasonable?

32 – How confident are you that you can solve your current problems and challenges?

33 – What needs and desires are you failing to meet?

34 – Do your arguments seem to come out of nowhere?

35 – Are you arguing about different things or always about the same topics?

36 – Are you often blaming each other for different things?

37 – How would you describe your communication?

38 – Do you feel safe in your relationship?

39 – What do you think is the biggest issue in your relationship?

40 – Are you looking forward to reunions with your partner?

41 – Are you doing a lot of things together that you both enjoy and value?

42 – How would you describe the quality of your sex life?

43 – Is jealousy an issue in your relationship?

44 – What makes you feel stressed? When does it happen?

45 – When it comes to conflicts, do you discuss them or store them up?

46 – What could you do to comfort your partner?

47 – Can you develop a warning signal to let each other know when your feelings are hurt?

48 – How could you show each other your feelings better?

49 – Which rituals of connection could you develop?

50 – What do you like most about your partner?

51 – How would you rate your communication within the relationship?

52 – How could you strengthen and improve the communication in your relationship?

53 – Which result do you expect from this couples therapy? Are they realistic?

54 – Which aspects of your relationship you wish were different? Are these wishes realistic?

55 – Do you feel comfortable bringing up your concerns in your relationship?

56 – Where do you see your relationship in 10 years?

57 – What can you do to improve your relationship?

It's more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I deeply regret having embarrassed you like I did.

•Our friendship is really important to me. Will you please forgive me?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•OK, I admit it- I made a big mistake.

•I want to grow from this experience. •Would you be willing to help me figure out steps to handle this type of situation better?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•What can I do or say to make things right between you and me?

•I had a bad attitude and it showed. I should have thought more about what I was doing.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I don't want to do this again. So I will come up with ways to avoid mistakes like this in the future.

•I apologize for my actions. You obviously don’t have to forgive me, but I hope you will.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•Can you possibly forgive me?

•What can I do to mend our relationship?

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I totally messed up. I could make excuses, but really, I have no good excuse for my actions.

•You have every right to hold this against me, but will you please consider forgiving me?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•I’d like to make things better between us. What can I do to make things right?

•You don’t have to answer immediately, but will you consider forgiving me for making this mistake?

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear these words from someone...

•I want to ask you to forgive to me.

•It deeply pains me to see you hurting like this.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I’ve really messed up this time. We missed the deadline because of me.

•Can we back up and let me try to fix this? I really want to mend the damage I’ve caused.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I am upset with myself over how I handled our disagreement. I cringe when I recall the way I acted.

•I know that what I’ve been doing is not helpful. What would you like to see me change that would make this better for you?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•I know that what I did was wrong.

•I’m so sorry- I feel terrible that I let you down.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•What changes could I put into place so that you might begin to trust me going forward?

•I hope this won’t permanently damage our working relationship. Will you please accept my apology?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•I can see my actions caused you pain, and I feel terrible about what I did.

•Is there anything I can do to repair the damage I’ve created?

It's more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I deeply regret having embarrassed you like I did.

•Our friendship is really important to me. Will you please forgive me?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•OK, I admit it- I made a big mistake.

•I want to grow from this experience. Would you be willing to help me figure out steps to handle this type of situation better?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•What can I do or say to make things right between you and me?

•I had a bad attitude and it showed. I should have thought more about what I was doing.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I don't want to do this again. So I will come up with ways to avoid mistakes like this in the future.

•I apologize for my actions. You obviously don’t have to forgive me, but I hope you will.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•Can you possibly forgive me?

•What can I do to mend our relationship?

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I totally messed up. I could make excuses, but really, I have no good excuse for my actions.

•You have every right to hold this against me, but will you please consider forgiving me?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•I’d like to make things better between us. What can I do to make things right?

•You don’t have to answer immediately, but will you consider forgiving me for making this mistake?

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear these words from someone...

•I want to ask you to forgive to me.

•It deeply pains me to see you hurting like this.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I’ve really messed up this time. We missed the deadline because of me.

•Can we back up and let me try to fix this? I really want to mend the damage I’ve caused.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I am upset with myself over how I handled our disagreement. I cringe when I recall the way I acted.

•I know that what I’ve been doing is not helpful. What would you like to see me change that would make this better for you?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•I know that what I did was wrong.

I’m so sorry- I feel terrible that I let you down.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•What changes could I put into place so that you might begin to trust me going forward?

•I hope this won��t permanently damage our working relationship. Will you please accept my apology?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I can see my actions caused you pain, and I feel terrible about what I did.

•Is there anything I can do to repair the damage I’ve created?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•If I had only thought about what I was doing, I would have realized it was wrong.

•I know that I've caused you a significant amount of trouble. I would greatly appreciate it if you would forgive me.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I am truly grieved and sorry for my actions plus the ways they affected you.

•If I am ever again upset with you, I promise to gather my thoughts and approach you directly and respectfully.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I hope that you can find it in your heart to forgive me.

•I simply should not have done that.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I realize that talk is cheap. I’ll work to show you that I’m changing.

•Is there anything I can do to make up for what I did?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•I really am embarrassed about my behavior—and I'm so, so sorry.

•No if's, and's or but's. I admit that I was wrong.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I apologize. Will you please forgive me?

•Going forward, I will manage my time and prioritize my schedule so that I won’t have the same difficulties.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I want so badly to avoid this type of error again. Let’s talk about what I can do in the future to follow through on my commitments.

•I don’t feel right just saying "My bad." I want to make up for what I’ve done. What would you consider appropriate?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I want so badly to avoid this type of error again. Let’s talk about what I can do in the future to follow through on my commitments.

•I don’t feel right just saying "My bad." I want to make up for what I’ve done. What would you consider appropriate?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•I know that my actions were totally unacceptable. I own that.

•It stresses me out to know that you had to stand there waiting on me. I regret the frustration and worry that I caused you.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I know that I’ve inconvenienced you. What can I do for you that could help balance things out?

•I am unhappy with how I’ve hurt you—I’m enormously disappointed in myself.

It's more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I deeply regret having embarrassed you like I did.

•Our friendship is really important to me. Will you please forgive me?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•OK, I admit it- I made a big mistake.

•I want to grow from this experience. Would you be willing to help me figure out steps to handle this type of situation better?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•What can I do or say to make things right between you and me?

•I had a bad attitude and it showed. I should have thought more about what I was doing.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I don't want to do this again. So I will come up with ways to avoid mistakes like this in the future.

•I apologize for my actions. You obviously don’t have to forgive me, but I hope you will.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•Can you possibly forgive me?

•What can I do to mend our relationship?

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I totally messed up. I could make excuses, but really, I have no good excuse for my actions.

•You have every right to hold this against me, but will you please consider forgiving me?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•I’d like to make things better between us. What can I do to make things right?

•You don’t have to answer immediately, but will you consider forgiving me for making this mistake?

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear these words from someone...

•I want to ask you to forgive to me.

•It deeply pains me to see you hurting like this.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I’ve really messed up this time. We missed the deadline because of me.

•Can we back up and let me try to fix this? I really want to mend the damage I’ve caused.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I am upset with myself over how I handled our disagreement. I cringe when I recall the way I acted.

•I know that what I’ve been doing is not helpful. What would you like to see me change that would make this better for you?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•I know that what I did was wrong.

•I’m so sorry- I feel terrible that I let you down.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•What changes could I put into place so that you might begin to trust me going forward?

•I hope this won’t permanently damage our working relationship. Will you please accept my apology?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I can see my actions caused you pain, and I feel terrible about what I did.

•Is there anything I can do to repair the damage I’ve created?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•If I had only thought about what I was doing, I would have realized it was wrong.

•I know that I've caused you a significant amount of trouble. I would greatly appreciate it if you would forgive me.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I am truly grieved and sorry for my actions plus the ways they affected you.

•If I am ever again upset with you, I promise to gather my thoughts and approach you directly and respectfully.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I hope that you can find it in your heart to forgive me.

•I simply should not have done that.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I realize that talk is cheap. I’ll work to show you that I’m changing.

•Is there anything I can do to make up for what I did?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•I really am embarrassed about my behavior—and I'm so, so sorry.

•No if's, and's or but's. I admit that I was wrong.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I apologize. Will you please forgive me?

•Going forward, I will manage my time and prioritize my schedule so that I won’t have the same difficulties.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I want so badly to avoid this type of error again. Let’s talk about what I can do in the future to follow through on my commitments.

•I don’t feel right just saying "My bad." I want to make up for what I’ve done. What would you consider appropriate?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•I know that my actions were totally unacceptable. I own that.

•It stresses me out to know that you had to stand there waiting on me. I regret the frustration and worry that I caused you.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I know that I’ve inconvenienced you. What can I do for you that could help balance things out?

•I am unhappy with how I’ve hurt you—I’m enormously disappointed in myself.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear these words from someone...

•What can I do to make this situation right for you—immediately?

•It may take some time to rebuild your trust in me—meanwhile, I’ll be working hard on changes to prove that I am trustworthy.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I am so sorry about that. I feel truly awful about having disappointed you.

•Saying "I’m sorry" doesn’t feel like it is enough. What more can I say or do to make this up to you?

It's more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I deeply regret having embarrassed you like I did.

•Our friendship is really important to me. Will you please forgive me?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•OK, I admit it- I made a big mistake.

•I want to grow from this experience. Would you be willing to help me figure out steps to handle this type of situation better?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•What can I do or say to make things right between you and me?

•I had a bad attitude and it showed. I should have thought more about what I was doing.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I don't want to do this again. So I will come up with ways to avoid mistakes like this in the future.

•I apologize for my actions. You obviously don’t have to forgive me, but I hope you will.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•Can you possibly forgive me?

•What can I do to mend our relationship?

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I totally messed up. I could make excuses, but really, I have no good excuse for my actions.

•You have every right to hold this against me, but will you please consider forgiving me?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•I’d like to make things better between us. What can I do to make things right?

•You don’t have to answer immediately, but will you consider forgiving me for making this mistake?

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear these words from someone...

•I want to ask you to forgive to me.

•It deeply pains me to see you hurting like this.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I’ve really messed up this time. We missed the deadline because of me.

•Can we back up and let me try to fix this? I really want to mend the damage I’ve caused.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I am upset with myself over how I handled our disagreement. I cringe when I recall the way I acted.

•I know that what I’ve been doing is not helpful. What would you like to see me change that would make this better for you?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•I know that what I did was wrong.

•I’m so sorry- I feel terrible that I let you down.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone asks me...

•What changes could I put into place so that you might begin to trust me going forward?

•I hope this won’t permanently damage our working relationship. Will you please accept my apology?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I can see my actions caused you pain, and I feel terrible about what I did.

•Is there anything I can do to repair the damage I’ve created?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•If I had only thought about what I was doing, I would have realized it was wrong.

•I know that I've caused you a significant amount of trouble. I would greatly appreciate it if you would forgive me.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I am truly grieved and sorry for my actions plus the ways they affected you.

•If I am ever again upset with you, I promise to gather my thoughts and approach you directly and respectfully.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I hope that you can find it in your heart to forgive me.

•I simply should not have done that.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I realize that talk is cheap. I’ll work to show you that I’m changing.

•Is there anything I can do to make up for what I did?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•I really am embarrassed about my behavior—and I'm so, so sorry.

•No if's, and's or but's. I admit that I was wrong.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear someone say...

•I apologize. Will you please forgive me?

•Going forward, I will manage my time and prioritize my schedule so that I won’t have the same difficulties.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I want so badly to avoid this type of error again. Let’s talk about what I can do in the future to follow through on my commitments.

•I don’t feel right just saying "My bad." I want to make up for what I’ve done. What would you consider appropriate?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone tells me...

•I know that my actions were totally unacceptable. I own that.

•It stresses me out to know that you had to stand there waiting on me. I regret the frustration and worry that I caused you.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I know that I’ve inconvenienced you. What can I do for you that could help balance things out?

•I am unhappy with how I’ve hurt you—I’m enormously disappointed in myself.

It’s more meaningful to me when I hear these words from someone...

•What can I do to make this situation right for you—immediately?

•It may take some time to rebuild your trust in me—meanwhile, I’ll be working hard on changes to prove that I am trustworthy.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I am so sorry about that. I feel truly awful about having disappointed you.

•Saying "I’m sorry" doesn’t feel like it is enough. What more can I say or do to make this up to you?

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I’m confident that everything I’ve learned from this bad experience will prevent me from doing it again.

•I know what I did was inappropriate—no two ways about it.

It’s more meaningful to me when someone says...

•I don't want to do this again. So I will come up with ways to avoid mistakes like this in the future.

•Can you possibly forgive me?

•Is there anything I can do to repair the damage I’ve created?

Quality time Questions

What’s your first memory of meeting me? What sticks out the most about it?

When did you first tell your friends about me? What did you say?

What is your favorite picture of me in your phone? Can you show it to me?

If you had to choose, would you rather give up kissing me or cuddling with me?

What was your favorite date that you planned for us?

What was your favorite date that I planned for us?

How do you think I describe you to my friends?

What do you wish we did more of as a couple?

What was the best kiss (or sex) that you’ve ever experienced with me?

What song reminds you of me the most?

What movie couple reminds you of us the most?

When did you know you were in love with me?

What first attracted you to me?

What do you enjoy the most about our relationship?

What’s your favorite thing that I do in bed?

When did you first tell your parents/family about me?

What was your favorite anniversary gift that you’ve gotten from me?

Are your celebrity crushes anything like me? Or totally different?

Which one of your friends do you talk to the most about our relationship?

What is your definition of romance?

What do you consider your love language? Is it the same as mine?

If we adopted another pet, what would you want to name it?

What do you think our ship name should be?

If you could take me on a romantic getaway anywhere, and money wasn’t a problem, where would we go?

How can I be a better partner to you? Is there anything else that you need?

Did you have any misconceptions about me when we first met that you’ve realized were completely wrong?

What scent do you associate with me?

What book would you suggest that I read?

What do you hate the most about modern dating?

What is the best part about dating me?

Did you ever lie to impress me when we first met?

Do you believe in soulmates? Do you think that we’re soulmates?

What is your favorite romantic comedy? Why?

What quality of mine surprised you the most when you got to know me?

Do you ever picture what our future will look like? What do you see?

What couple do you want to model our relationship after?

What is your biggest fear about being in a relationship with me?

When was the last time that you cried without mentioning it to me?

What are two things that we have in common?

What do you appreciate the most about being with me?

What’s your favorite activity to do as a couple?

What would a perfect day with me look like?

What is the last thing you texted someone about me?

What TV show reminds you of us?

What is your biggest relationship dealbreaker?

What was the best meal we’ve ever shared?

Which celebrities would play us in a movie about our lives?

What was the best wedding you’ve ever attended? Why?

What gift are you most proud of giving to me?

Why do you feel so comfortable with me?

1. What’s your favorite nickname?

Asking about a nickname will not only give you ideas about what to call your new partner, but it will also likely elicit a story about the loved one that coined the name.

2. Describe your family dynamic.

Understanding your new partner’s family dynamic, or at least where they fall in the birth order of their siblings will give you insight into who they are.

3. What’s your weirdest habit or quirk?

Might as well know what to prepare yourself for! Asking about a weird habit or quirk before it comes up will save you the surprise of discovering it on your own.

4. What were you like in high school?

While not all high school stereotypes are true, understanding what your partner was like in high school can give you a general idea of what they were like when they were younger.

5. What is your love language?

Love languages are super important to understand when you are starting a new relationship. Asking your partner about their preferred ways to give and receive love will help you support them in the relationship moving forward.

Gifts, touch, quality time, oh my! Learn more about the 5 Love Languages and discover new ways to connect with your partner on a deeper level.

6. What is your conflict style?

It’s important to understand your new partner’s conflict style so that when conflicts do eventually arise, you are able to navigate them effectively.

7. What’s your astrological sign?

Though not everyone believes in astrology, it can be helpful to know your partner’s star chart so that you can compare compatibility and get a general sense of their personality.

8. What’s your greatest talent?

Let your new partner brag about themselves! Asking them about their greatest talent will give you insight into something that they are proud of.

9. What’s your biggest weakness?

While it’s great to hype your partner up, it’s also important to understand what their flaws are. Asking this question will not only encourage them to reflect a little, but it will also give you a heads up about their flaws.

10. What are your expectations for the relationship?

In addition to light hearted questions, it’s good to establish expectations for the relationship early on. This often won’t come up out of the blue, so it can be important to directly ask your partner this question so that you are on the same page about things moving forward.

11. Why did your last relationship end?

In a mature relationship, you and your partner should be able to talk about your past partners and relationships. Understanding why their last relationship ended can show you what the deal breakers are for your partner.

12. How would you describe your spending habits?

Financial disagreements are often the source of relationship problems. Understanding your new partner’s spending habits from the beginning will help you make sure you’re on the same page, or it will at least give you insight into your different spending habits. In the short term it’s also good to know to help you better understand who’s getting the bill.

13. Are you a competitive person?

Many people have somewhat hidden competitive streaks that come out in full force during certain activities. Knowing if your partner is competitive, or having them admit that they are competitive can prepare you when the streak comes out.

14. Have you ever cheated on a past partner?

This might seem like a serious question to ask at the beginning of a relationship, and while it is serious, it’s ultimately really important to know what your new partner thinks about fidelity and cheating. If they have cheated in the past, this can give them an opportunity to explain the situation and promise that it’s not going to happen again…

15. What are ten things you would bring to a desert island?

This is a great icebreaker question! Hearing your partner reason through this question will give you insight into how they think and it will likely spark an interesting conversation.

16. What’s your dream vacation?

Who doesn’t want to plan out a dream vacation?! Especially these days, when we are all cooped up at home due to the pandemic. Asking about your partner’s dream vacay will prompt a fun conversation and will maybe even inspire your next trip.

17. Do you believe in karma?

This is a fun question to ask if you are interested in your partner’s general life philosophy. Whether someone does or doesn’t believe in karma often provides insight into how they treat people.

18. Do you believe in an afterlife?

While this is a potentially morbid question depending on your partner’s response, it is good to know what your partner thinks about life on earth and the potential of an afterlife.

19. If money didn’t matter, what would you want to do for a living?

This is always a fun question to ask to get an idea of what your partner is most happy doing. Or what their favorite hobby is.

20. What would your superpower be?

This might seem like a cheesy icebreaker-y question, but it’s a fun conversation starter! And it will probably come up during one of those couples dating games that you will inevitably play together, so better just to ask and to know.

21. How would you spend one million dollars?

Let’s say you win the lottery while you’re together as a couple, it’s good to know in advance how your partner would spend the money. Or to at least understand if they are savvy, greedy or altruistic.

22. What’s the best gift you have ever received?

Asking about your partner’s favorite gift will not only give you insight into the kind of things that your partner values, but it will also give you ideas for the next gift giving occasion!

23. Have you ever met a famous person?

A lot more people than you realize have crossed paths with a famous person. Whether it was a good experience or a bad experience, it’s bound to be a good story!

24. Who is your celebrity crush?

Ask who your partner’s celebrity crush is and why! Afterall, it’s always good to know who the competition is.

25. What’s your favorite song?

Superlatives are a great way to get to know your partner better. Whether you’re asking about a favorite song, a favorite artist, or even a favorite movie, superalities are a fun conversation starter.

26. What’s your favorite sport’s team?

Does a disagreement about sports teams count as an irreconcilable difference? Maybe! Better to find out sooner rather than later. Or atleast plan out which games you should spend apart from each other.

27. Do you like to cook?

Before you live with someone, you never really know if they enjoy cooking (or if they know how to cook) unless you ask! Cooking can be a super fun way to pass the time as a couple, whether it’s teaching your partner, learning from your partner or cooking as a team.

28. What’s your favorite meal?

Learn about your partner’s favorite meal and pledge to cook it together as a fun date night activity.

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The 5 Love Languages: Ways of Communicating With Your Child

Did you know that each child—each person really—has their own method of communicating love? According to Gary Chapman Ph.D. (founder of the 5 Love Languages) it’s important to understand how we receive love and also how we give love. Knowing more about this side of ourselves can strengthen all of our relationships by fostering communication, care, and appreciation.

In this article we will explore the 5 Love Languages, and how parents can use the benefits of Big Life Journal for Kids to engage with their children.

Words of Affirmation

Words of encouragement, support, or compliments (as expressions of love) show your child that you are their biggest cheerleader in life.

Examples:

Cheer your child on at their sports came

Hide a sweet note of encouragement in their lunch box

Express your appreciation for them

Acts of Service

Offering help with tasks (as an expression of love) lets your child know they are not alone and can depend on you.

Examples:

Offer to help your child with their homework or a school project

Do chores together with your child

Make them breakfast in bed

Receiving Gifts

The act of giving a gift (as an expression of love) can communicate the idea “I see you, I understand you.” Giving gifts doesn’t have to revolve around spending lots of money; rather it is a kind gesture of thought and appreciation.

Examples

Make a special card or drawing that you can give to your child

Give your child something that helps them foster their talents (i.e. a crafting kit, jewelry making supplies, etc.)

Gift your child a fund experience for the two of you to take part in, such as going to an amusement park or other outing

Quality Time

Spending time with your child (as an expression of love) is another approach for communicating your care. Quality time lets your child know that you appreciate them just for being who they are, and teaches them that future relationships should value their presence as well.

Examples

Plan an adventure and explore a new place with them

Play a sport with your child

Dance around the house and take turns putting on your favorite songs

Physical Touch

Physical touch plays a huge role in the development of your child. When you hug or hold your child it releases oxytocin (the love hormone) that enables emotional bonding. In particular, infants have been found to experience many benefits from skin-to-skin contact such as: temperature regulation, improved weight gain, less crying, fewer breathing issues, and strong immune responses.*

Examples:

Hold your child’s hand

Give your child a massage, helping them let go of any life tension through your physical embrace

Set aside some time to cuddle on the couch and take a nap together

As parents, it’s important to remember that your child needs to receive love in a form they can recognize. Use Journali time to sit down with your child and talk about the 5 love languages, letting them know that love can take on many shapes and forms. Rather than giving your child the type of love you wish to receive as a parent, ask them what they value most and make an effort to express love in their language. While Journali can be used as a Science Journal for Kids, it also invites parents and children to bond through the act of writing. Let this daily Gratitude Journal for Kids encourage you and your child to see the love that is already in your lives!

You can also check out these: -

Daily Journal for Kids

Nature Journal for Kids

Travel Journal for Kids

Want to learn more? Take the 5 Love Languages quiz here, and start spreading the love within your family.

#journalforkids

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the-christian-walk · 2 years

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TWO WAY GIVING

Can I pray for you in any way?

Send any prayer requests to [email protected] In Christ, Mark

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The scriptures. May God bless the reading of His holy word.

Our desire is not that others might be relieved while you are hard pressed, but that there might be equality. At the present time your plenty will supply what they need, so that in turn their plenty will supply what you need. The goal is equality, as it is written: “The one who gathered much did not have too much, and the one who gathered little did not have too little.”

2 Corinthians 8:13-15

This ends this reading from God's holy word. Thanks be to God.

Have you ever been associated with someone who was one-way when it came to giving?

You know this kind of person, right? The one who always wants other people to give to them but never gives anything to others themselves. I’ve been associated with more than a few in my life and like to view them as consumers of people and what they have, consumers because they develop an appetite for charity with others with no intention of ever returning the generosity.

As we see in today’s verses from our continuing study of 2 Corinthians, chapter 8, we find the Apostle Paul addressing what giving should look like between churches but there is a broader application of this principle when it comes to how we should give to one another and especially God. Let’s look again at Paul’s words here:

You will recall that the matter at the heart of this chapter was the collection Paul took up from all the Christian churches he had planted during his missionary journeys for the support of the Jerusalem church. The Apostle had singled out the Macedonian believers for their blessed generosity as they had given up and above what would have been expected and did so eagerly and gladly. Paul extended his compliments to the Corinthian Christians as well because they were first to give out of a deep desire to help their brothers and sisters in Jerusalem. He encouraged the church in Corinth to continue giving as they had done in the year before.

But note that Paul didn’t advocate for one-way giving. He didn’t want the Corinthian believers to think that they wouldn’t one day be helped the same way in kind if there was a need for it. No, Paul expected that the Jerusalem church would be just as quick to help the Christians in Corinth once they were able to financially do so. This was an equitable and cooperative approach which would link and strengthen the bond between all Christian churches in the world at that time.

In first century AD, Paul’s goal was equality in charity and we should see this in the way Christian churches interact with one another today, the way people interact with one another, and most importantly, how people interact with their God. Sadly, I believe we need to do a lot of work in this area. If you don’t believe that, then just take the time to consider the following questions:

1. How many Christian churches connect with other churches around them and truly connect ecumenically, caring for and supporting one another regardless of denomination affiliation?

2. How many people are only interested in receiving giving from others but never feel compelled to give back to the person who helped them or anyone else for that matter?

3. How many times does God give and give and give to His people only to never receive anything in return?

Friends, these are questions that should convict us and challenge us to improve the way we approach giving whether within the church, or in giving to one another or God. The good news is that we can make conscientious decisions to change our giving attitude and those changes start with us allowing God to dictate how we give. For in the end translation, what we have or what we might receive from others is really from God’s provided resources, right? We should allow Him to show us how to use the things He provides to His glory and honor.

Amen.

In Christ,

Mark

PS: Feel free to leave a comment and please share this with anyone you feel might be blessed by it. Send any prayer requests to [email protected]

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dr4kenlvr · 3 years

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MY BABY'S AN ID♡L !! (3)

pairings: mikey sano, chifuyu matsuno, mitsuya takashi, ran haitani x fem!reader

genre: fluff

request: Hellooo ♡ just saw ur post of idol girl crush reader and omg I'm in love 💖 and since u also said that I'm free to rq the other boys,here I am. So same request (heyyyy would be hella cool if u could do some hcs for tokyo revengers boys with a idol s/o who is a rapper on a girlcrush group <3 xoxox), but this time for Mikey, Chifuyu, and Mitsuya 💕💕 add anyone else if u wanna, take care uwu

a/n: v happy you loved them! it's a very fun request to do, so thanks for sending one in again! muahah you know i had to add my baby ran muahahah <3 enjoy! + not proof read ily

part 1 / part 2 /

MIKEY:

is,, sorta nonchalent about it?

"oh? you're in a worldwide famous girl group? woah."

but! that doesn't mean he's not totally impressed at how cool you are, what!!!!

he gets really hyped listening to your group's more upbeat songs- like he'll be jumping around and shit screaming out poorly pronounced lyrics LMAO

when your verses come on though, he doesn't even try to rap along because he knows he's gonna butcher it all

he's already had you and draken laugh at him, he doesn't need more

(imagine him and his pout <3)

"you're too fast! sounds like peh-yan!"

THE LOOK YOU GIVE HIM AFTER HELPPP

he loves watching you perform, he feels entranced every time

you just look so gorgeous up there, hair all done, skin all glowing and your outfit- ugh, he just thinks you're so wonderful

and he's really happy that you're happy- he couldn't ask for more

he buys all your albums btw, and squeals if he pulls your photocard

"KEN LOOK! IT'S Y/N!"

"yes mikey, you've already shown me."

when you're feeling tired or bummed out he'll offer you his entire bed to rest so that you'll be comfortable

he's giving up his bed for you- that's true love right there

but sometimes he'll cave in and cuddle with you on the small mattress because damn has he missed you

CHIFUYU:

you already KNOW this mf listens to kpop religiously !!!!

and he is head over heels for you

he was worried when you first started going out, because of the strict rules on dating in the kpop industry (which is so ass btw)

you told him you had spoken to your company, and that you were willing to go through the troubles if it meant you'd be with him

yeah, chifuyu was sold

he loves you so much, let me just say that

and he is so encouraging and enthusiatic about your career, it's really sweet

he's always there to give you feedback, praise, a person to laugh with, a shoulder to cry on, he is there for you

streams all your music, on youtube, on spotify, anything to improve your efforts of winning an award

and honestly? he loves your group's music- it's so diverse and there's a perfect song for every mood

he gets so hyped when he hears your raps

he's shaking his head aggresively left to right while holding up a rock sign and it's the most hilarious thing you've ever seen

"OH YEAH!!!!!! LET'S GO!!!!!!!!"

he's on cloud 9 when he listens to your music basically

MITSUYA:

is almost always on you with compliments, and he's so so attentive even you can't keep up with it

"y/n! you did amazing tonight, you must be tired though,"

"luna loved your outfit last night, she keeps telling me i should try to recreate it."

"baby have you taken a break yet? that interviewer was so insistent with the questions."

you're so taken aback by how much he pays attention, and it warms your heart so much

you know how much of an already-busy man he is, with school, his hobbies, his sisters, and the gang, you didn't want to add to his load of things to take care of

"what do you mean? isn't this just me being supportive of you?"

you cried, because he's so sweet

every time you see each other again, he can't help but give you a sweet kiss on the lips- you're both so hard working and he's so proud of you

mitsuya loves your group's songs- esp. the more slow calm tracks, they're all added to his downtime playlist

every now and then he'll feel a more upbeat song, and loves to hear your rap flow through his headphones

he'll unconsciously tap his foot or beat his head to your rhythm, completely captivated in your voice

RAN:

ohohho this cheeky fucker

he found himself 10x more attracted to you after finding out you were an idol

is so fucking smug to be your boyfriend because he knows just how many people on the internet are practically in love with you too

posts lowkey couple photos of the two of you with the caption "all mine" and giggles at the fact that your face can't be seen unlike his

(this is self indulgent but- photos where his hand is on your waist or stomach- <333 or like you're laying on his chest and he's stroking your back while you fall asleep on him)

(HOLLERING BECAUSE IM SO IN LOVE WITH HIM NANA X RAN CANON OK BYE)

ran might be prideful but he's careful too!! doesn't want to get you into any trouble, why would he?

likes to listen to your music while on late night rides through roppongi- even better if you're with him ;)

got into a fight once with your songs in the background LMAOO- he's literally beating people up with his baton while you're rapping in his airpod

deadass stops to sway and jam before getting back to it!

it's concerning really, how many times he texts you: "babe i killed someone to your verse"

"HUH."

anyways, i love him, i love this concept, i want to be sexy couple with ran haitani the end <3

taglist: @dai-tsukki-desu @faetarou @kazuhoya (send an ask or dm to be added!)

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kio-may · 2 years

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could you please write Ace, Deuce, Malleus and Jack headcanons when they see the female m/c's face the first time, because she would have worn a mask or sth the whole time like Crowley, and she would have usually said she is quite unattractive and it's not worth the peek when people asked her about it, but actually she is super pretty?

Hello nonnie <3 this request hit a bit close to home 😭 i always imagine my self insert ocs with masks

I hope my bias for malleus doesn't show here QNSKQKSKW

Heres ur request :) i hope u enjoy luv

He doesn't exactly compliment you but rather reassure you in a way

"What? You look fine, you don't need to wear it all the time"

He definitely says you're pretty but he's usually not used to giving out compliments often, so mostly that's what you're getting for the most part

Although he slightly encourages you to take off your mask more often

Doesn't exactly have a problem in reassuring you again and again

He's definitely willing to lend an ear if you want to vent about your insecurities or anything the like

The more comfortable he gets with you the more often he'll start passing small compliments. They're nothing and seem very generic, but he's honest with them.

It slightly irritates him thinking about what might've led you to such a state ー who would influence or comment on your appearance so often for you to resort to wearing a mask? It just sounds troublesome

Homie is ready to hype you up bestie LAKSKAK

Confused boi

"Eh..? But you're really pretty.."

He says it from the bottom of his heart, really

He compliments you often, or tries to, but they come off a bit cheesy QKKSKS

He's so confused ー you look absolutely beautiful, what standards do you have for yourself?

He tries to reassure you most of the time that it's okay to take off your mask and drop everything that covers your face

He's ready to beat down anyone who talks shit about your face

Ever since he's heard about your own opinions of yourself, he'll try to subtly hint that he's always ready to talk with you about what you feel a bit insecure about. He may not be the best but he's trying <3

Like Ace, at first it's hard for him to come up with compliments on the spot, especially if the person is exceptionally new to him

But if MC and him are close, maybe around chapter 5 close, he won't feel hesitant to compliment you at all.

He's also worried about mask acne KQJSKQ

He's also a bit like Deuce, but later on the confusion goes away and he's just irritated at anyone who may have influenced you to feel that way

"Don't feel that way. You don't look as bad as you think"

He's also a bit stiff with compliments, and I doubt it'll change even if both of you are close, but he offers a lot of reassurance and support

He encourages you to take your mask off more, and he's double checking with you if you're comfortable whenever it's off

He offers advice on feeling confident about it, and sometimes he'll ask if you've tried it out

He won't hint it, he'll straightforwardly tell you that he's there to talk to you if you're insecure about your appearances

Whenever you want him to, he'll kinda stand beside you like your bodyguard, if you want to feel safe with your mask off

He's somewhat silently cheering you on whenever you start taking your mask off more often, he won't directly say it, but he'll be proud in a way

Offers to intimidate anyone, or beat them up, who comment negatively on your appearance

He would have probably asked about the mask in your first meeting

"Hm? What a strange thing you wear on your face"

But if you happen to show him your face then tell him the real reason of why you wear a mask when both of you are close, he'll go in deep ponder for a moment before directly looking into your eyes and complimenting you like he's exchanging wedding vows QLSKQKSK

He's very reassuring, telling you about how pretty and beautiful he thinks you are, and tells you that you shouldn't be worried about anything

He's encouraging you, like the others, to also take off your mask often when you're comfortable. He understands and won't bring it up again if you don't want to though.

He wonders what kinda influence you had, and how you got the mindset that you're not attractive. But he never really verbalized it, and when he does, he's clearly a bit hesitant since he also knows he isn't the best with words, or feelings, and doesn't want to get into anything sensitive

Overall he's so supportive, and pities you a tad bit for what you think about yourself

He's always lending 1 compliment every visit, and tells you he'll burn anyone alive who says so otherwise

Also goes to Lilia for advice on how to help you QKJSKS

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thefanficmonster · 3 years

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Love For The Faceless

Corpse Husband x Youtuber!Reader(Female)

Warnings: Swearing

Genre: Fluff

Summary: Y/N is a YouTube gamer who has recently gained a much larger following thanks to the streams she does with her friends. Naturally, considering her faceless and bodiless nature, people are starting to get curious about her. When she finally follows her friend Corpse’s example, a lot more than her hands is revealed.

Requested by anon, you know who you are 😉 Thank you so much for placing a request and hope this fic fulfills the expectations you have for it.

“Hey!“ I greet the lobby as I finally hop into the Discord call after quickly saying ‘hi‘ to my audience.

I’ve been a YouTuber for four years now and I’ve only recently started streaming, encouraged to do so by my best friend Rae. She’s the one who got me in multiplayer games such as Among Us and Phasmophobia which led me to meet her amazing gaming squad that consists of some of the most famous names on the platform. They are all wonderful people and I will forever be in Rae’s debt for introducing me to them. However, becoming friends with Felix, Sean and the rest of the team brought not only a more fulfilled life, but also a small boost in following. Who am I kidding, it wasn’t small. It was overwhelming, terrifying even.

My YouTube channel had a little over a million subscribers at the start of quarantine and now....now it’s closer to three million. Speaking of three million, I’m about to reach it any day now and it’s really hard to believe. I’m a gaming youtuber and I’ve never considered changing my genre despite expecting to not get any attention whatsoever, with all the big names on the platform. I was convinced not even as many as a hundred people would stumble across my videos and now here we are.

My OG subscribers are very supportive of my sudden growth and are defending me when my newer fans ask for a face reveal or whatnot. While we’re on that topic I might have to mention that not even my YouTube friends, and that includes Rae have seen my face. I’ve been faceless and bodiless for the entirety of my time on social media. Some claim I do it to grab more attention or for dramatic effect, but the reason is beyond that. I’m not shallow. Actually, shallow people are the reason I don’t show my face. I’ve never been the prettiest, but my middle school bully thought that I wasn’t lacking self confidence enough. As a result, I ended up with a not so handsome scar on my right cheek that starts from the corner of my mouth and nearly misses my eye. Yeah, it’s a long and pretty noticeable scar that has thankfully become less and less obvious as the years have progressed. Still, it’s not something I’d like to show to my viewers.

Eight ‘hi’s greet me back, each making my smile grow wider. “Sorry I’m late guys. Technical difficulties.”

“Don’t worry.“ Rae’s voice dominates over the rest, “Corpse still isn’t here so we’re waiting for him.“

I mute myself on the Discord call and take a look at my comments. I’m most flattered by the comments about my voice. Seeing as how they don’t have much to compliment about me other than my content, they make the nicest comments about my voice, personality and humor. Those comments are the ones who warm my heart most. Even when people in my day to day life compliment my appearance I can’t find it in me to believe they are being genuine. I’d like to believe these amazing people are being one hundred percent honest when they tell me they like me for who I am and not for what I might look like.

“Sorry I’m late guys.“ A deep voice causes me to even physically jolt, switching my focus from the comments to the Among Us lobby where my eyes land on the newly materialized black avatar.

“Hi Corpse.“ Rae greets him.

“Hello mister who broke Twitter!“ Sean laughs, provoking the laughter of the rest of the players.

“Yeah, congratulations man. That’s a big deal.“ Felix chimes in.

“Thanks guys, but I think you’re forgetting we’re talking about a picture of my hand.“ Corpse chuckles timidly. I have noticed how shy he gets when someone gives him a compliment - like a snail slowly withdrawing in its shell. I find it adorable.

“That’s what makes it even better!“ I unmute my mic, sending my own congratulations.

“While we’re on that topic...“ Rae begins, waiting for the rest of us to shut our traps, suggesting she has something important to say. “Y/N, do you ever plan on doing a reveal like that? Not a face reveal. Just a body part reveal.“

I have no problem talking about the subject with friends but I get nervous when I’m supposed to discuss it with my fans. Seeing as how everyone, including myself, is streaming right now, I get a bit of a stutter in my speech. “Haven’t thought about it yet. But I guess a body part reveal is harmless.” I cringe immediately after letting the words leave my mouth, “That sounds so weird.”

Rae knows that I’m not too fond of my face, but I haven’t told her about my scar yet. I let almost all people I’ve met online think I’m using my lack of appearance for effect. For the mystery of it all. Mysteries attract people which equals attention. Attention equals views and the domino effect continues.

“Just a suggestion. No pressure.“ Rae adds quickly, knowing full well I get anxious when the subject is brought up in front of cameras. “Let’s get this game started, shall we.”

* * *

The idea dwells in my mind, sitting on the back burner even after I disconnect from the Discord call. I’m sitting in my gaming chair, which was a gift for my two million milestone, and weighing out the pros and cons of the action Rae suggested I take.

“It’s a picture of your fucking hand, dummy. How bad can it turn out?“ I say out loud, shaking my head at my indecisiveness. “You’ll be fine.”

In a blur, two pictures are already posted on my Instagram. The first one captioned ‘Took a leaf from my friend’s book. Did I do it right @ corpsehusband?’ and the second ‘Thanks, Rae. These are on you.’

Rae’s POV

As I’m watching a movie in my living room, I get a notification from Instagram, informing me that Y/N has posted for the first time in a while.

I scoff, “More like the first time in forever.”

The first thing that comes to my mind is the possibility of her reaching that three million milestone that’s been long time coming. I bring the glass of water that’s sitting on my coffee table to my lips, taking a sip as I tap the notification. The picture I see makes me hurry to put the glass back down so I don’t drop it. Y/N’s hand. Her fingers are covered with several thin rings each. And here I thought Corpse had too many rings, this girl has at least two on every finger!

Then my eyes land on the second picture she has posted only minutes after the first and my heart drops. I struggle to get the water that’s been sitting in my moth down my esophagus while my mind is struggling with the task to comprehend the picture I’m looking at.

Another hand is resting on top of Y/N’s. A hand also covered in rings but fewer and larger. The nails are painted black.

I think I know who it belongs to.

Before I can even finish the thought, I’m dialing Y/N. She picks up after the second ring, sound cheery as ever as she greets me. “Hey Rae!”

“Don’t you ‘Hey Rae’ me!” I practically scream. I hate being kept in the dark about anything ever so this is just driving me mad. On top of all, she’s my best friend, for fuck’s sake. “Is that Corpse in the photo with you?!”

“Ugh....“ the cheeriness to her voice is all but gone now.

I go on with my rant, not giving her the time to reply. Not that she would reply. I bet she doesn’t know what to say. “So he knows where you live?! Or was the picture taken at his place?! He knows what you look like?! You have seen him! He has seen you in real life but me, your best friend, haven’t!!! You are breaking Covid 19 protection laws to take pictures?! Are you fucking serious, Y/N?!”

There’s a long moment of silence which frustrates me even more but I literally have run out of things to yell and the power to be angry. I mean, I still am, I just can’t express it.

“Rae, sweetheart, please calm down. You’re scary when you’re mad.“ This girl has some fucking nerve! She’s on the verge of laughing!

“Listen here you...“

“Rae, please stop scaring my girlfriend.“ That oh so distinguishable, oh so familiar voice interrupts me.

I am flabbergasted, for a lack of a better term.

“Now that we’ve got you quiet, I can explain.“ Y/N pics up the conversation, “Corpse and I have been dating for six, almost seven months now. We started dating around Easter after talking for quite some time. We moved in together at the end of September. All thanks to you, Rae. You’re the best.” She pauses to breathe in real quick, “There, all caught up?“

I’m in no less shock than I was before she explained. Actually, I think I might be even more confused now. It all just feels like a fever dream. “Yes...no. I don’t fucking know! I need details, Y/N!”

“Details later.“ Corpse makes his presence known once again, “We’re watching Family Guy right now. Talk to you later.“

“Love you, Rae!“ Y/N calls out before the line goes dead.

My arm goes limp, dropping my phone on the couch next to me.

“Motherfuckers” I mumble under my breath.

Y/N’s POV

It’s been a week since Rae has stopped talking to both Corpse and me. I know she just needs some time to cool off. In the meantime, the rest of our friends were informed and, as oppose to Rae, were nothing but supportive and overjoyed. I bet Rae feels the same way though. Sean, Dave and the rest of the gang have confirmed that she’s incredibly happy for us and says she noticed a spark between me and him since day one, but she can’t help but be mad at us, and especially me, for not telling her sooner.

“Any regrets?“ I remember Corpse asking me when we hung up on her after dropping the bomb.

“Not being able to see her face when she saw the picture.“ I beam at him, feeling as content as ever.

He laughs, agreeing with me before leaning down to kiss me.

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DDLC Love Language Headcanons

note: these are just my opinions! if you wonder what the 'love languages' are, here is a website that explains them and has quizzes to tell you what your own love language is!

Sayori

✿ The type of love language that Sayori uses to express her affection the most would definitely be physical touch!

✿ Dating Sayori would include soooo many hugs, and that's not all. She'd be the type to always be clinging onto her significant other (or crush, you in this scenario), probably even not realizing that she's doing it.

✿ Constant little touches like shoulder nudges, head pats, high fives- she would also for sure always be leaning against you, perhaps too much in your personal space sometimes, and she would definitely get her feelings hurt if you commented on it or got annoyed with her.

✿ Interestingly, Sayori is probably a little too shy to initiate hand holding, especially in public settings. But she actually would enjoy holding hands with you the most out of any other physically affectionate gestures, so it would really mean the world to her if you happened to reach out first.

✿ It might not all be super lovey-dovey and cute though- being so close to Sayori all the time would be a recipe for disaster! Whenever she trips, which is frequently, she'll probably end up taking you down with her by accident.

✿ The type of love language Sayori would probably most like to receive from you, aside from physical touch, would be quality time!

✿ As much as she loves to have your full attention though, Sayori could often feel very guilty if it seems like you're brushing others off in favor of spending time with her. When this happens, she might appreciate some words of affirmation to assure her and soothe her worries.

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Yuri

✧ For Yuri, the primary love language she uses to express her love for you would most likely be quality time!

✧ This is one of the more subtle and quiet of the love languages, but can be considered one of the strongest. You might notice that whenever you are around Yuri, she is very invested and focused- you have her full attention, to the point where she would set her book aside in favor of visiting with you.

✧ Although, Yuri would probably appreciate getting to read or write in silence with you. She would appreciate your closeness and the fact that you set aside your precious time to spend with her alone (even if you might find the silence awkward at times.)

✧ This can be a sort of possessive love language in some cases- if you notice Yuri is a bit more sad or quieter than usual, it could be because you haven't made plans specifically to spend time with her lately, even if the two of you chat casually every day.

✧ While she might have trouble voicing it out loud, she would really appreciate it so much if you put in the effort to plan dates together, and bonus points if they're creative/revolve around her interests.

✧ In this case, the quality love language would be both her preferred method of showing that she cares but also the kind of expression of love she wants to receive in return.

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Natsuki

♡ Natsuki's way of showing her love would be giving gifts!

♡ Dating or even just being friends with Natsuki would mean sudden random presents! Cupcakes for when you're sad or just because she was baking and made some extra for you, a random cute hat or some jewelry she saw that she thought would look good on you, a copy of one of her favorite manga so you can enjoy it too, etc.

♡ She actually pays pretty close attention to the object of her affections, and so she keeps a mental track record of your likes/dislikes in order to give you the best possible gifts she can. She takes great pride in her ability to pick out really thoughtful presents for those she loves, but especially for you!

♡ While Natsuki might get embarrassed and pretend to be annoyed if you made a really big deal out of receiving one of her gifts, she'd secretly really be happy.

♡ Natsuki would enjoy receiving gifts from you too, but she would probably also really love words of affirmation from you; this doesn't typically mean giving random compliments, but moreso hearing that you appreciate her or things like that.

♡ She would absolutely melt if you took notice of what an amazing writer she is and gave her the credit she deserves! She doesn't like to be known only for her cute appearance, she also wants recognition for her intelligence and creativity.

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Monika

♥ Monika's primary love language would most likely be a good balance between words of affirmation and acts of service.

♥ She's the type to shower you with supportive words of encouragement, and would be the first to remind you how amazing, smart, and beautiful you are.

♥ If you're the kind of person who isn't used to receiving compliments often or having such a 'cheerleader' on your side, you would quickly grow used to it because of how frequently Monika tries to build up your self-esteem! And eventually you would wonder how you ever lived without her positive influence.

♥ Monika also would constantly be wanting to help you out, no matter with what. Grocery shopping, assignments for school/your job, teaching you how to do something like cook, etc.

♥ It can be a little smothering sometimes, and you may feel as if you have a personal assistant in Monika who reminds you of important dates and helps you prepare speeches and such, but this is only because she really wishes to help you out in life and make things as easy as possible for the both of you!

♥ In return for all of her efforts, Monika would be happy with any of the love languages you could offer her; she has no preference because of how deeply she cares for you.

#ddlc #doki doki literature club #sayori x reader #yuri x reader #natsuki x reader #monika x reader #headcanons #imagines #ddlc x reader #preferences #ddlc headcanons #love languages #wow maybe tumblr can actually make this post show up in the tags #would be amazing aaahaaahaaaaa

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