#dating advice?
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What'd the guy say?
"I recognize I am a good amount of people type, but I also understand I am not my types *type*. Which is so frustrating!"
I think that's a good encapsulate
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When a woman is consistently spoken to softly & treated gently, she becomes a new woman. You're helping her heal her nervous system, you're helping her heal generational trauma, you're allowing her feminine energy to flourish, you're helping her to remember who she is.
#black women in femininity#goddess energy#black femininity#hypergamy#high value dating#dating advice#relationship advice#self confidence
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Etiquette Problems in Pictures, Lillian Eichler, 1924
#1924#1920s#roaring 20's#jazz age#etiquette#manners#advice#courtship#romance#dating#historic#vintage#history#roaring 20s#1920's
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Types of relationships that look like love but are not:
Infatuation: This is an intense emotional or sexual attraction to someone that can give the illusion of love. However, infatuation is often based on idealized perceptions rather than a deep emotional connection.
Codependency: Codependent relationships involve one person excessively relying on another for emotional or physical needs. This dependency can mimic love, but it is rooted in the need for validation, control, or a sense of purpose.
Unrequited love: This refers to a situation where one person has romantic feelings for another, but those feelings are not reciprocated. It may involve one-sided affection, longing, or an obsession with someone who does not feel the same way.
Limerence: Limerence is an intense and obsessive form of attraction characterized by intrusive thoughts, longing for reciprocation, and an idealized image of the other person. It can feel like love, but it often lacks a genuine emotional connection.
Conditional love: In relationships based on conditional love, affection and care are only given when certain conditions or expectations are met. This type of relationship lacks unconditional acceptance and can be manipulative or controlling.
Trauma bond: A trauma bond forms when two individuals share intense emotional experiences, often negative or abusive. Despite the harmful dynamics, there may be a strong attachment due to the shared trauma, leading to a mistaken perception of love.
Transactional relationships: These relationships are based on mutual benefit or convenience rather than genuine emotional connection. Partners may stay together for financial security, social status, or other practical reasons, rather than genuine love and affection.
Manipulative relationships: Manipulative relationships involve one person exerting control and power over the other through emotional manipulation, coercion, or gaslighting. The manipulator may feign love and affection to gain control or exploit their partner's vulnerabilities.
Fantasy relationships: In fantasy relationships, one or both partners create an idealized version of the other person, often based on unrealistic expectations or fantasies. The relationship may lack a true emotional connection, as it is based on the person's fantasy rather than the reality of who their partner is.
One-sided relationships: These relationships are characterized by an imbalance of effort, care, or emotional investment. One person may consistently give more while the other takes without reciprocation. It can create an illusion of love, but it lacks equality and mutual respect.
Love addiction: Love addiction refers to a compulsive or obsessive pattern of seeking out relationships and being dependent on the euphoric feeling of being in love. It can lead to a cycle of unhealthy relationships, as the person seeks constant validation and excitement without addressing underlying emotional issues.
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25 Life Lessons I've Learned In 25 Years
In honor of turning 25 this month, here are some lessons I wish someone could've baked into my brain by 18. Hope this helps xx
Putting yourself first is not selfish, it is an act of self-care. Actively discounting others is not the same as protecting your peace.
Pay attention to who gossips and keeps to themselves amidst an interpersonal conflict. Insecure people or those in the wrong will speak the loudest and go on the longest in a fight to prove their innocence. Individuals who are self-assured and comfortable with the truth know it's better to communicate their feelings appropriately and then move past it. Confidence is assertive, tactful, and relatively silent.
If you want to know who to believe in an argument, pay attention to how both sides speak about the conflict. The perpetrator will often speak about the individuals' character/morality while the victim will explain their personal experience in the context of the relevant situation.
Display empathy and consideration, but don't live to satisfy others' emotional needs and expectations. Say farewell to anyone who dismisses or guilts you for your own needs, emotions, priorities/life goals & aspirations.
Your needs matter. No one needs to approve or validate your desires. If someone feels they have control over you or tries to persuade you to change your mind to ensure you put their emotions and needs first, cut them out of your life. They do not care about you.
Almost no one deserves insider access into your life and mind. Upholding your right to privacy – especially regarding your finances, dating life, health conditions/concerns, and long-term goals – is the simplest way to protect your peace.
A friend to all is a friend to none. Be wary of those who will not stand up for you behind closed doors. These people do not care about you, they care about what your place in their life does for them and their ego.
Be radically honest and accepting of who you are. Don't apologize for your preferences, aspirations, and values. You deserve to live in a way that makes you happy, not to appease others in hopes of their approval or future favors due to your karmic good deeds.
You deserve happiness, love, and nice things, life experiences, relationships, and opportunities in your life regardless of what others may or may not possess/ be able to experience. Dispel this scarcity mindset ASAP. Jealousy and internalized shame are destructive to your self-esteem and all your relationships.
You are worthy and offer many incredible, unique gifts to the world. Don't allow naysayers, critics, or bullies (of any age) to dim your light or sacrifice pursuing your dreams. Decide you're the leader of your own life. Then act accordingly.
Direct communication is always the way. Remain tactful, but at least when dealing with non-manipulative people, always say what you mean and mean what you say. It will save a lot of trouble and petty disagreements that could've been avoided with clearer communication.
You don't owe anyone an explanation for your feelings, emotions, and actions that don't have a direct, inescapable impact on someone else. "No" is a complete sentence.
Approach conversations as a meeting of the minds. Healthy debate or conflict is about seeking to understand the other person, not prove yourself right. Leaving your ego at the door will allow you to expand your mind and avoid many unnecessary conflicts or arguments.
If it's not a hell yes, it's a no. For a job, date, sex, attendance at a time-sucking social event, family gatherings, an informal meeting not essential for you to keep your job, a wedding, birthday party, holiday invitation, etc. Outside of your contracted hours and time necessary to keep yourself/your home clean & well-maintained, you should spend your time exactly as you please. Doing things you don't want to do will only breed resentment down the line toward yourself and others.
Detangle yourself from any who refuses to self-reflect and take accountability. This person is selfish and will never see you as fully human with emotions, needs, and a complete life/internal world of your own. Cut them out (or at least fully emotionally detach and limit contact with them) immediately.
Speak your truth, but always say a little less than you feel necessary. Overexplaning and oversharing do you no favors. At a minimum, this approach allows you to protect your peace. In the worst circumstances, this tactic can also save you from a lot of trouble in your personal or professional life.
Learn to ask for a little more than you're comfortable with, but do so with grace, tact, and confidence. Whether it's a salary/rate negotiation, flight/hotel/restaurant accommodations, get in the habit of making that slightly higher/up-leveled request like you're expecting a "yes." You can't get something you don't ask for, so speak up and show you know your worth. This habit can bring a lot of great opportunity into your life and builds up your confidence.
Everyone is on their own timeline and path. Don't compare yourself to others' credentials, job titles, relationship status, net worths, or jean sizes. Comparison is truly the thief of joy. Remaining envious of others only takes up the energy that could otherwise be used to elevate or enrich your life.
Become clear on your priorities, and remain diligent with your habits & routines. Set SMART goals. Implement healthy habits and rituals into your daily lifestyle. Be consistent with goal-supporting and wellness rituals (generous sleep schedule, healthful eating habits, daily movement/regular exercise, reading, task time-blocking, cleaning, and life/work admin schedule), so they become second nature. Help yourself by creating these default habits to ensure your brain is wired for success whether you're in an easygoing era or a stressful life season.
Stop seeing other people (especially other women) as your competition in your profession/dating life and within your platonic relationships. Use your immediate criticisms as a tool for self-reflection. Actively deconstruct the patriarchy in every aspect of your life. Other women coworkers, dating prospects, and friends are not your rivals nor individuals who should be evaluated based on their assertiveness, sexual history/appeal, relationship status, or desire to perform traditional maternal/domestic roles.
Understanding how to interact with others in a cordial, tactful manner is significantly more important than having everyone like you. Learn how to positively influence people without seeking approval. What other people think of us is none of our business. All we can do is show up as the best version of ourselves, and remain optimistic about a potential connection.
Acceptance, accountability, and consistent discipline are the holy trinity to creating a sustainable change that you can maintain for the long haul. There's no shame in starting from the bottom, but you need to be honest about where you're at, so you can create a realistic game plan/small behavior-changing habits that stack up over time to help you implement the radical change you're craving.
Let go of any internalized shame. Being the "good girl" does you no favors in life. Set a standard and expectation to be respected, not to be perceived as "innocent" or submissive – this is how you get taken advantage of in professional, platonic, and intimate relationships. Remain ravenous for respect. It's the only way to live life to the fullest.
24. Investing in your appearance is a form of self-respect. Wanting to look & feel your best and present yourself in the best light possible to others is not a superficial pursuit. Remain unwavering about your hygiene/beauty/grooming routines, deliberate styling choices, healthy eating & workout habits, and mindfulness of social graces. You're your #1 publicist, so act like it. Life is all about embracing satisfaction with a sprinkle of reputation management.
25. Be unapologetic about your financial ambitions, priorities, investments, savings goals, etc. Financial freedom IS freedom. The only way to change the system is to break it from the inside out. Leverage is everything. Allocate, and assert your (financial) power wisely.
#life lessons#life advice#girl advice#glow up era#quarter life crisis#femme fatale#dark feminine energy#dark femininity#it girl#healthy habits#self concept#career advice#friend advice#dating advice#fashion advice#beauty and wellness#high value woman#the feminine urge#female excellence#dream girl#queen energy#female power#feminine energy#women's rights#women's empowerment#feminism#intersectional feminism#womanhood#self love#femmefatalevibe
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#respost because i don't want the first one to be connected to me in any shape or form#rhaenicent#rhaenyra targaryen#alicent hightower#rhaenyra x alicent#alicent x rhaenyra#hotd#hotd shitpost#house of the dragon#quality tanked but let's not focus on that#they're so silly#rhaenyra found out why asking for dating advice from daemon 'you're almost as pretty as your brother' targaryen might have been a bad idea#i am a child of divorce
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They are literally raising a child together
#and THEY give Chris dating advice#I love the buckley-diaz family but sometimes I have to laugh#oh christopher you live such a life#911 abc#evan buckley#eddie diaz#christopher diaz#buckley diaz family#buddie
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Haven't posted new elaborated drawings in a bit but yesterday I was busy the whole day 😭
Have this lil drawing I made at school :3
Drawing Nori is so fun I wanna draw her more
#murder drones#n murder drones#nori murder drones#nuzi murder drones#nuzi#n x uzi#nori can't give dating advice#n being in love#amber's kooky art
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This has definitely been done before but
#scout tries to get dating advice again#tf2#team fortress 2#tf2 fanart#tf2 scout#tf2 spy#my art#and then spy watches the entire date over the cameras
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You don’t have to answer, but do you have any dating advice?
Take it easy, don't give all of yourself away, avoid codependency. Love is great, but so is your own individuality ❤️
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"Put this on your profile to attract people"
"Do this in your first messages"
"Make sure to add these types of photos"
Every profile I've ever made is unapologetically me. I am not surprised I get no matches. I am not surprised no one is interested.
Everything I do is full of live for myself and I will not shape to make it fit better for the masses
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Green flags you're looking for in a man
• He is not afraid to show you that he's interested in you.
• He asks you out on a date and pays for your food.
• He makes eye contact and pays attention to you
• He listens to you without judging you
• He makes sure you got home safely and protects you when needed
• He talks to you consistently
• He is calm and assertive when it comes to discussions
• He makes you feel comfortable, happy and loved
#onehundredwishesss speaks#law of attraction#law of assumption#manifestation#manifesting#self love#loa#self confidence#affirmations#advice#relationship advice#relationship#dating advice#dating
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Even at your absolute best, you still won't be right for the wrong person.
Karen Salmansohn
#Karen Salmansohn#love#breakup#heartbreak#moving on#healing#recovery#relationship#dating#relationship advice#dating advice#healthy relationship#conscious relationship#conscious love#quotes
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💗 A Healthy Relationship Should:
Boost your confidence
Encourage you to achieve your goals
Elevate your happiness
Bring you peace
Provide stability & security
Cultivate experiences
Nurture emotional and physical intimacy
Inspire you to take care of yourself
Enhance your life
💗 A Healthy Relationship Should Not:
Undermine your self esteem
Hinder your independence
Limit your growth
Create stress
Promote jealousy
Neglect your needs
Isolate you
Manipulate or guilt you
Be overly dependent
Ignore boundaries
#relationshipgoals#relationship goals#healthy relationship#toxic relationship#sex and relationships#healthy relationships#relationship advice#relationships#high value dating#dating tips#dating advice#self help#love quote tumblr#toxic love#love yourself first#love language#love quotes
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At this point in my life, it doesn’t matter how much I love you, how long I’ve known you, how much we’ve experienced together. If I feel a way about your actions, I’m gracefully removing myself from your life. I can’t change anyone and I don’t want to. I’m noticing now more than ever how people move and there’s just certain things I no longer want to put my energy into. People do exactly what they want regardless of your feelings, advice or opinions. Some people don’t notice your impact until your presence is no longer at their convenience✨
#goddess energy#self confidence#black femininity#black women in femininity#classy black women#leveling up#level up journey#growth#relationship advice#dating advice
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