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femmefatalevibe · 7 months
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25 Life Lessons I've Learned In 25 Years
In honor of turning 25 this month, here are some lessons I wish someone could've baked into my brain by 18. Hope this helps xx
Putting yourself first is not selfish, it is an act of self-care. Actively discounting others is not the same as protecting your peace.
Pay attention to who gossips and keeps to themselves amidst an interpersonal conflict. Insecure people or those in the wrong will speak the loudest and go on the longest in a fight to prove their innocence. Individuals who are self-assured and comfortable with the truth know it's better to communicate their feelings appropriately and then move past it. Confidence is assertive, tactful, and relatively silent.
If you want to know who to believe in an argument, pay attention to how both sides speak about the conflict. The perpetrator will often speak about the individuals' character/morality while the victim will explain their personal experience in the context of the relevant situation.
Display empathy and consideration, but don't live to satisfy others' emotional needs and expectations. Say farewell to anyone who dismisses or guilts you for your own needs, emotions, priorities/life goals & aspirations.
Your needs matter. No one needs to approve or validate your desires. If someone feels they have control over you or tries to persuade you to change your mind to ensure you put their emotions and needs first, cut them out of your life. They do not care about you.
Almost no one deserves insider access into your life and mind. Upholding your right to privacy – especially regarding your finances, dating life, health conditions/concerns, and long-term goals – is the simplest way to protect your peace.
A friend to all is a friend to none. Be wary of those who will not stand up for you behind closed doors. These people do not care about you, they care about what your place in their life does for them and their ego.
Be radically honest and accepting of who you are. Don't apologize for your preferences, aspirations, and values. You deserve to live in a way that makes you happy, not to appease others in hopes of their approval or future favors due to your karmic good deeds.
You deserve happiness, love, and nice things, life experiences, relationships, and opportunities in your life regardless of what others may or may not possess/ be able to experience. Dispel this scarcity mindset ASAP. Jealousy and internalized shame are destructive to your self-esteem and all your relationships.
You are worthy and offer many incredible, unique gifts to the world. Don't allow naysayers, critics, or bullies (of any age) to dim your light or sacrifice pursuing your dreams. Decide you're the leader of your own life. Then act accordingly.
Direct communication is always the way. Remain tactful, but at least when dealing with non-manipulative people, always say what you mean and mean what you say. It will save a lot of trouble and petty disagreements that could've been avoided with clearer communication.
You don't owe anyone an explanation for your feelings, emotions, and actions that don't have a direct, inescapable impact on someone else. "No" is a complete sentence.
Approach conversations as a meeting of the minds. Healthy debate or conflict is about seeking to understand the other person, not prove yourself right. Leaving your ego at the door will allow you to expand your mind and avoid many unnecessary conflicts or arguments.
If it's not a hell yes, it's a no. For a job, date, sex, attendance at a time-sucking social event, family gatherings, an informal meeting not essential for you to keep your job, a wedding, birthday party, holiday invitation, etc. Outside of your contracted hours and time necessary to keep yourself/your home clean & well-maintained, you should spend your time exactly as you please. Doing things you don't want to do will only breed resentment down the line toward yourself and others.
Detangle yourself from any who refuses to self-reflect and take accountability. This person is selfish and will never see you as fully human with emotions, needs, and a complete life/internal world of your own. Cut them out (or at least fully emotionally detach and limit contact with them) immediately.
Speak your truth, but always say a little less than you feel necessary. Overexplaning and oversharing do you no favors. At a minimum, this approach allows you to protect your peace. In the worst circumstances, this tactic can also save you from a lot of trouble in your personal or professional life.
Learn to ask for a little more than you're comfortable with, but do so with grace, tact, and confidence. Whether it's a salary/rate negotiation, flight/hotel/restaurant accommodations, get in the habit of making that slightly higher/up-leveled request like you're expecting a "yes." You can't get something you don't ask for, so speak up and show you know your worth. This habit can bring a lot of great opportunity into your life and builds up your confidence.
Everyone is on their own timeline and path. Don't compare yourself to others' credentials, job titles, relationship status, net worths, or jean sizes. Comparison is truly the thief of joy. Remaining envious of others only takes up the energy that could otherwise be used to elevate or enrich your life.
Become clear on your priorities, and remain diligent with your habits & routines. Set SMART goals. Implement healthy habits and rituals into your daily lifestyle. Be consistent with goal-supporting and wellness rituals (generous sleep schedule, healthful eating habits, daily movement/regular exercise, reading, task time-blocking, cleaning, and life/work admin schedule), so they become second nature. Help yourself by creating these default habits to ensure your brain is wired for success whether you're in an easygoing era or a stressful life season.
Stop seeing other people (especially other women) as your competition in your profession/dating life and within your platonic relationships. Use your immediate criticisms as a tool for self-reflection. Actively deconstruct the patriarchy in every aspect of your life. Other women coworkers, dating prospects, and friends are not your rivals nor individuals who should be evaluated based on their assertiveness, sexual history/appeal, relationship status, or desire to perform traditional maternal/domestic roles.
Understanding how to interact with others in a cordial, tactful manner is significantly more important than having everyone like you. Learn how to positively influence people without seeking approval. What other people think of us is none of our business. All we can do is show up as the best version of ourselves, and remain optimistic about a potential connection.
Acceptance, accountability, and consistent discipline are the holy trinity to creating a sustainable change that you can maintain for the long haul. There's no shame in starting from the bottom, but you need to be honest about where you're at, so you can create a realistic game plan/small behavior-changing habits that stack up over time to help you implement the radical change you're craving.
Let go of any internalized shame. Being the "good girl" does you no favors in life. Set a standard and expectation to be respected, not to be perceived as "innocent" or submissive – this is how you get taken advantage of in professional, platonic, and intimate relationships. Remain ravenous for respect. It's the only way to live life to the fullest.
24. Investing in your appearance is a form of self-respect. Wanting to look & feel your best and present yourself in the best light possible to others is not a superficial pursuit. Remain unwavering about your hygiene/beauty/grooming routines, deliberate styling choices, healthy eating & workout habits, and mindfulness of social graces. You're your #1 publicist, so act like it. Life is all about embracing satisfaction with a sprinkle of reputation management.
25. Be unapologetic about your financial ambitions, priorities, investments, savings goals, etc. Financial freedom IS freedom. The only way to change the system is to break it from the inside out. Leverage is everything. Allocate, and assert your (financial) power wisely.
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drawingden · 1 year
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omnicrafts · 8 months
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There’s a wellilaughed tiktok I have saved in my likes bc its fucking hilarious but I couldn’t help thinking about adult retired hero Danny being asked to give advice to some of the younger generation heroes and he looks at them.
Danny: okay, so here’s the thing about getting a job, they ask you about a gap in your resume what do you say?
Teens:????????
Danny: I’m not able to discuss that time period due to the NDA I signed.
JLA: ??!!!??
Danny: put your three best friends as your references, it’s so easy to fake an email account, google docs edit a paystub.
JLA adult trying to cut him off: !!! Okay! That-
Danny intangible: Be Gay, Do Crime, Charge Phone, Eat Hot chip okay, none of this is permanent. No you can not talk about that time you signed an NDA.
Danny is dodging the chaperone now, low power ghost play fight style: They can’t even ask you follow up questions on it! It’s literally a get out of jail free card.
The teens are loving it, they’re taking notes, several are following the fight to learn the moves, Batman almost wishes he had a two finger glass of whiskey.
Later Tim uses “I signed an NDA” to avoid going into detail about the shit he got up too between becoming Red Robin and Bruce returning from the timestream/death.
Bruce ages three years and Phantom just cackles.
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reasonsforhope · 2 months
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Btw, if you really just Need A Job (tm)
I'd really recommend looking into care work
Care work here is specifically being a home care aid, a care aid or assistant at any kind of residential home.
This for usually for elderly or disabled adults - and those are the ones that tend to be most entry level, from what I've seen, but also for mental health, addiction recovery etc. (With the obvious caveat that some of these jobs will be more emotionally intense than others)
I'm so serious about this guys. I was applying to jobs in care work for just three weeks, starting a couple days before Christmas, and in that time I got three interviews, two jobs offers, and five additional interview requests
Care work needs people CONSTANTLY
because it's a huge sector but very hard for them to keep staff long-term. Partly because it can be high burn-out, and there's definitely toxic places out there you should watch out for. And partly because a lot of people think care work is beneath them
AND they ACTUALLY MEAN IT when they say they're entry level. Because it's so hard for them to get staff that a lot of them will advertise super aggressively that they will train you themselves. A lot of them will straight up pay for your CPR and First Aid certifications, once they hire you, too (and you can get a leg up on applications by getting a CPR/First Aid certification for like. $30 to $80, at least in the US). They also accept experience taking care of elderly/disabled/etc. family members as real experience
Like, obviously don't do it if you hate taking care of people, but if you're open to it, it's probably by far your best shot of getting hired rn, statistically
(eta: Genuinely disclaimer that it can be super taxing emotionally and large portions of the industry are indeed fucked, and def don't take a job in this field if you're gonna be an asshole to the people you're caring for, but sometimes you just need whatever job you can get.)
Seriously, though, the first time I applied for a care work job (in October 2023, yes short timeline, like I said there's some toxic workplaces etc. out there), I applied to like ten or fifteen jobs over the course of a week or so. Within three weeks, I was working.
(And they did provide all of the training, fwiw)
If you need a job and no one is hiring, seriously consider looking into it
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whatbigotspost · 9 months
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I may have already rambled about this, but at some point in my career, I took "yes and" from the improv world and applied to to all professional settings and it's honestly one of the greatest tools for me, of all time.
Someone making an unreasonable request for my time/attention but I gotta play nice? ie, "Hey can you pull thing XYZ together for me today?"
"Yes and I'm going to need until next Friday to complete it w/ everything else on my plate. Thanks for your patience!"
Someone super enthusiastic about an idea w/ a kernel of goodness among a sea of shit?
"Yes, that's a great idea, and I think to make it really work, we need to change..."
In fact, if I'm being real REAL, I use "yes and" here all the time, too, to add stuff that I think is VERY important on a give topic but is missing from a post that otherwise has a good take. Like there's no need to be like, "UGH YOU FORGOT" when instead I can say something like, "Yes, this is awesome, AND I want to add..."
People all have very different communication styles in professional settings and I'm someone who is fairly conflict adverse. I will typically err on the side of harmony, trying to cultivate positive rapport and good team rhythm, w/ anyone else who is also acting in good faith. I haaaate overtly negative conflict, arguing, etc. and frankly it triggers me. Of course sometimes I have to steel my spine for hard convos and I would never avoid productive/healthy conflict.
When there's no need for overt conflict but a gentle redirect will help, "yes and" is a hell of a tool.
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astrobaeza · 6 months
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CAREER ASTROLOGY
potential careers for your midheaven sign! 👩🏽‍💻💼🔎
Astrology can indicate what areas of life you might naturally excel at, your talents, and even your destiny. The Midheaven or MC is a point in your birth chart that represents your public persona, reputation, and how you choose to present yourself to the public. Your MC suggests what most makes you feel alive and your legacy in yor lifetime. Though it will take years for you to grow into your MC sign, you can use your Midheaven sign, ruler, placements and aspects to both to identify what career path might suit you. This is helpful for people especially in their 10th house profection year, where themes of career, reputation, and legacy are significant or even if you just want to prepare for the future.
Disclaimer: These are recommendations for what might be easier or more natural for you! REMEMBER: You can be anything you want in this lifetime!
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(For example, The Weeknd has an Aries Midheaven – he is a trailblazer, leader, and icon in the music industry with a unique sound. Also the first to win many awards and to hold a lot of coveted titles --> very Aries-like)
ARIES MIDHEAVEN --- themes: bold, passionate, self-starting, trailblazing, aggression, leading
☆ ruling planet: Mars
☆ recommended careers: entrepreneurship, athletics, anything where you can lead yourself
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TAURUS MIDHEAVEN -- themes: classy, tasteful, beautiful, talented, artistic, wealthy
☆ ruling planet: Venus
☆ recommended careers: beauty, musician, modeling, makeup artist, fashion designer, arts, photographer, finance, anything involving aesthetics, design, visuals and money
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GEMINI MIDHEAVEN -- themes: good communicator, intelligent, versatile, witty, charming, vocal
☆ ruling planet: Mercury
☆ recommended careers: journalism, performance, teaching, writing, the Arts, design, fashion, sales, public relations, advertising, commentator, observer, translator and broadcaster
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CANCER MIDHEAVEN -- themes: nurturing, kind, sweet, affectionate innocent, intuitive, ambitious, security driven
☆ ruling planet: Moon
☆ recommended careers: health workers, chefs, real estate agents, social workers, ministers, politics, musician, nanny, teacher, doctor
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LEO MIDHEAVEN -- themes: confident, fun, creative, flamboyant, visible, competitive, 'superstar', popular, entertaining
☆ ruling planet: Sun
☆ recommended careers: performing arts, acting, politician, spokesperson, social media influencer, reality TV, anything that allows you to shine
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VIRGO MIDHEAVEN -- themes: precision, diligence, organization, detail-oriented, communicative, practical, moral, skillful
☆ ruling planet: Mercury
☆ recommended careers: medicine / healthcare professional, engineering, hospice care, accountant, HR, manager / administrative jobs
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LIBRA MIDHEAVEN -- themes: beautiful, elegant, charming, social, harmonious, diplomatic, collaboration, communication, aesthetics
☆ ruling planet: Venus
☆ recommended careers: decorating, fashion designer, beauty industry, musician, lawyer, counseling, therapist, law enforcement, customer service, human resources
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SCORPIO MIDHEAVEN -- themes: power, control, allure, mysteriousness, enigmatic, strength, magnetism
☆ ruling planet: Pluto
☆ recommended careers: researcher, psychologist, investigator, finance (tax, banking, investing), scientist, occultist, politician, s3x work, mortician
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SAGGITARIUS MIDHEAVEN -- themes: wisdom, education, knowing, funny, bold, personable, philosophy, energetic, honest, sincere
☆ ruling planet: Jupiter
☆ recommended careers: sales, teachers (specifically university), travel consultants, comedians, preacher / spiritualist, pilot, flight attendant,
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CAPRICORN MIDHEAVEN -- themes: power, status, drive, ambition, respect, honor, recognition
☆ ruling planet: Saturn
☆ recommended career: CEO, doctor, manager, banker, property owner / investor
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☆ AQUARIUS MIDHEAVEN -- themes: innovation, influence, freedom, orginality, service, socialization
☆ ruling planet: Saturn / Uranus
☆ recommended career: scientific or mathematical fields, engineer, innovator, astronomy, astrology, engineering, environmental science humanitarian work
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☆ PISCES MIDHEAVEN -- themes: enchanting, talented, creative, intuitive, dreams, passionate
☆ ruling planet: Neptune
☆ recommended career: musician, director, author, healer, psychic / occultist, spiritualist
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bitchesgetriches · 1 year
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On leaving home for the first time:
Leaving Home before 18: A Practical Guide for Cast-Offs, Runaways, and Everybody in Between
Ask the Bitches: “I Just Turned 18 and My Parents Are Kicking Me Out. How Do I Brace Myself?”
Ask the Bitches: I Want to Move Out, but I Can’t Afford It. How Bad Would It Be to Take out Student Loans to Cover It?
How To Start at Rock Bottom: Welfare Programs and the Social Safety Net
Advice I Wish My Parents Gave Me When I Was 16
Ask the Bitches: How Can I Make Myself Financially Secure Before Age 30?
You Won’t Regret Your Frugal 20s
Master the Logistics and Etiquette of Moving Out
Season 2, Episode 5: “What Do I Need to Know about Moving into My First Apartment?”
On basic finance:
How the Hell Does One Open a Bank Account? Asking for a Friend.
How Do You Write and Cash Checks? Asking for a Friend.
Budgets Don’t Work for Everyone—Try the Spending Tracker System Instead
You Must Be This Big to Be an Emergency Fund
A Hand-Holding Guide to Getting Your First Credit Card
How to File Your Taxes FOR FREE: Simple Instructions for the Stressed-Out Taxpayer
Dafuq Is Credit and How Do You Bend It to Your Will?
How to Save for Retirement When You Make Less Than $30,000 a Year
Dafuq Is Interest and How Does It Work for the Forces of Darkness?
What’s the Difference Between Savings and Checking Accounts, and How Should I Be Using Them?
Dafuq Is a Down Payment? And Why Do You Need One to Buy Stuff?
Dafuq Is Insurance and Why Do You Even Need It?
Investing Deathmatch: Investing in the Stock Market vs. Just… Not
Dafuq Is a Retirement Plan and Why Do You Need One?
Do NOT Make This Disastrous Beginner Mistake With Your Retirement Funds
On managing your household:
How the Hell Does One Laundry? Asking for a Friend.
How the Hell Does One Wash Dishes? Asking for a Friend.
Ask the Bitches: Why Are Painted Mason Jars the Internet’s Only Solution to My Tiny Apartment Woes?
9 Essential Tools for Apartment-Dwellers (and 6 That Are Kinda Useless)
Ask the Bitches: How Can I Survive in an Apartment with No Heat?
How to Save Money on Your Beloved Pets
Bullshit Reasons Not to Buy a House: Refuted
How To Maintain Your Car When You’re Barely Driving It
25 Tricks to Stay Cool WITHOUT Air Conditioning
On feeding and caring for yourself:
You Should Learn To Cook. Here’s Why.
How to Shop for Groceries like a Boss
If You Don’t Eat Leftovers I Don’t Even Want to Know You
I Think I Need to Go the Emergency Room?
Ask the Bitches: Ugh, How Do I Build the Habit of Taking Meds?
On maintaining relationships:
Season 1, Episode 8: “My Mother Demands Information About My One-Night Stands.”
Season 1, Episode 3: “My Parents Have Bad Credit. Should I Help by Co-signing Their Mortgage?”
Ask the Bitches: How Do I Say “No” When a Loved One Asks for Money… Again?
Ask the Bitches: My Dad Sucks with Money. How Do I Make Him Change?
You Need to Talk to Your Parents About Their Retirement Plan
Season 2, Episode 1: “I’m Financially Stable, but My Friends Aren’t. The Guilt Is Crushing!”  
On starting your career:
22-Year-Olds Don’t Belong in Grad School
High School Students Have No Way of Knowing What Career to Choose. Why Do We Make Them Do It Anyway?
The Actually Helpful, Nuanced, Non-Bullshit Way to Choose a Future Career
Your College Major May Not Prepare You for Your Job—but It Can Prepare You for Life
The Ugly Truth About Unpaid Internships
Your School or Workplace Benefits Might Include Cool Free Stuff
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sarahmackattack · 27 days
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hello!! I'm a highschooler who's high-key OBSESSED with vampire squids and I really, really want to do research on them in the future if possible. Aside from the obvious things that I have to do (major in marine bio, get involved in as many lab/research projects as possible in undergrad, etc), what else can I do to ensure that I get the chance to study these dudes in the future? (I hope this question makes sense)
I pretty much want to dedicate my life to them because I love them so much. Also, you are one of my biggest inspirations for pursuing teuthology!! Thank you so much for everything you do!! The Ologies podcast episode that you featured in did wonders for my passion ❤️❤️❤️
This is amazing! I love this!
Ok so we got good news and medium news. Good news, there are lots of people working with cephalopods, and you can totally work with vampire squid if this is your calling. Medium news is that generally speaking people don't work on JUST vampire squid. In my personal experience, when it comes to working with animals like this, that we don't see very often, many scientists end up working on a bunch of animals INCLUDING that animal. Sometimes people will work on one animal their whole careers, especially those that are good for keeping in the lab. Deep sea critters are just... harder! So for example take Kat Bolstad at ALCES in New Zealand- her lab works on a whole bunch of deep sea cephalopods! A lot of this also depends on the KIND of science you're doing. Are you working on fossils? Molecular Biology? Behavior? Ecology? This also determines how specific the animals you'll work on will be.
Other than the things you mentioned, just being in conversation with other scientists online and reading as much of the literature as you can so you come in with an existing deep knowledge of the animal is great. This is also super useful because you'll learn about WHO is working on these animals that you'd need to meet. A lot of the squid biologists talking to each other happens on twitter. It helps when the scientists who might hire you already know you and social media helps with that!
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viridianriver · 9 months
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How to Get Into Engineering & Survive - Real-Ass Tips From an Aggressively Anticapitalist Queer Chick
I thought I'd share some of my engineering / tech job tips - especially since a few of my nerd posts blew up and it looks like so many of y'all in my notes are trying to get into the field.
As a queer woman, it can be a lot to navigate. Plus having parents with blue collar jobs? A whole nother level of having to figure shit out.
Honestly after writing this, I think this applies to more than just engineering. If you're the first one in your family to get a white collar job, I think this stuff applies too!
LOOKING FOR A FIRST JOB:
Don't worry if you don't get a dream job right outta college, it's OK to get something to just pay the bills while you interview look for something better. Don't worry about "company loyalty" - these companies will have no loyalty to you either.
Join mentorship organizations in college, it's a lifesaver to be able to get advice from experienced people. I totally recommend the Society of Women Engineers / Women In CS for us girls.
Go to career fairs and some internships in college. Getting a job is just as much about who you know as what you know. Sure, get the diploma, try and get good grades, but the connections you make interning will help you more than any personal project or 4.0 GPA. Especially if you're a first gen college student.
Don't take unpaid internships, they're such a scam and the companies offering them are not ones you want to touch with a 10-ft pole. But do interview for them, they're great mock-interviews and its fun to decline their offers.
LOOKING FOR A JOB IN GENERAL:
Apply for any job that looks interesting, even if you don't think you qualify. You realize after some time in the industry that these job postings are basically like "We're looking for a unicorn, with the budget for a donkey" I don't think I've ever gotten a job where I met more than half of the "requirements" on the job description when I was hired.
The best time to look for a new job is when you already have a job. (Real fuckin helpful, I know) So if you can help it, don't quit a job without lining another up.
Applying for a job through one of those online application forms? It's a pain in the ass and your resume is likely to get ignored. Instead, if you can, get a personal referral from an employee. But that's hard to do especially if you're trying to break into the industry.
So another approach is to look up the company on LinkedIn, look through their employees until you find someone with the job title "recruiter", and send them your resume with a polite note expressing interest in their company. Their whole job is to find people to hire and they use LinkedIn to do that. You'll basically cut the line.
Don't work with recruiters from external recruiting agencies. Agency recruiters take a commission, and most companies will reduce your salary offer to compensate for that commission. If you got a message from an external recruiter, and it's a job you want, see the above bullet point.
Make a LinkedIn and keep your status as open to work, constantly. Recruiters will come to you, especially after you've gotten a couple years of experience. And it's always nice to have an inbox full of choices even if you're not actively looking. This will also help you get an idea if you're underpaid at work, if you're being recruited for much higher paid positions.
If you can go into interviews with the mindset of needing to be convinced to work for a company rather than eager to start, you'll be shocked what they can find in the budget to convince you with. I like to take interviews occasionally, even if I like my job, just to see what companies will come up with to convince someone who loves their job to come work for them.
HOW TO DODGE A BULLET
I'm going to be blunt - a lot of engineering companies suck ass to work for. And not just regular ass, I'm talking hairy swamp ass. Especially if you're a woman, queer, or not white. It's like some of these companies mixed up the "protected classes" list and the "fun people to haze" list. Learning how to background check a company is important part of this career.
I like to try talk to ex-employees off the record before I have my first interview with a company. Ask around your professional mentorship groups, work friends, or even DM people on LinkedIn who have the company as a past job.
When you have these chats, don't do it in writing. That way you can ask the hard questions about harassment, bigotry, racism, pay and pay equity, etc that you won't get a straight answer about in a job interview. Try not to only talk to straight white guys, they're often blind to the issues that other people in the industry face.
Also, if you want to avoid doing military contract work, know that many employers with military contracts are not at all transparent about it, even in the job posting or during the interview process. You can end up at a job that was pitched as something else to you, and be told to do military work once you're there. Ask your interviewer how much of the company's revenue is coming from the commercial space versus the defense space, or learn how to read between the lines in job postings.
(Continued beyond the readmore since I don't want to create the ~do you love the colors of the sky~ of text posts
JOB INTERVIEW PREP
Of course you have to be technically qualified to land a job, but I'm not about to try and give a whole engineering degree in a tumblr.com post. So I'm going to assume you've got the degree and maybe some job experience, and focus on the rest.
Even though I said you don't need to meet every part of the job description, you do need to understand it. Take the job description and annotate each bullet point, with either how you are qualified, or if you're not qualified, what similar experience you have that you believe is transferable. That way you can argue you can do the job even if you don't meet every requirement.
Prepare! If you dig into a company like a damn investigative journalist beforehand, it's a lot easier to impress them. You shouldn't come to an interview pitching what you see as your top skills, you should get an idea what skills that the company needs, and focus your pitch around how you have those skills.
When you doing that digging, make a note of any questions. It will impress interviewers if you're asking them just as much as they're asking you - It shows your experienced, and in a position to choose who you want to work for. Don't shy away from hard or critical questions, just phrase them politely. Also, sometimes, after you ask some questions, you'll realize you don't want the job anymore.
If you're interviewing with execs or management types who are less technical, they love a story. Look on the company's website and find their mission statement. It's usually some corporate speak BS, that describes their values. Prepare a couple stories from your life that demonstrate these values.
JOB OFFER
Okay so you aced the interview, and they've given you an offer. You might think you're done - but no - that's just the first step.
Always try to speak to ex employees about salary, or even current employees, if you know anyone personally that you trust to be discreet. Also look up the salary on Glassdoor. If it looks like they're trying to underpay you, which is something I've run into plenty, negotiate based on those known comps, and don't accept an offer until it's equitable. (If you want salary negotiation tips that's probably a whole separate longpost lol)
Salary isn't the only thing that you can negotiate on, remote work, PTO, and benefits, are also on the table.
Any legitimate job will give you an employment contract as a part of your offer package. Never ever accept a job without going over it with a fine tooth comb, and if there's anything you don't understand, hire an attorney to do that for you. (Don't tell the job you're speaking with an attorney) Whatever you spend on the attorney will pay off 100-fold, I promise.
Make sure your employment contract includes any verbal agreements that you made, including benefits, start date, salary, job title, etc. If you don't, it's just words, and the company will probably conveniently forget what they promised you.
Know that you can negotiate anything in the contract, not just salary. Anytime that you don't like or think is unfair, you can mark it up and tell the company "I'm super excited to start but a few terms give me pause would you consider striking out (these)?"
Never ever sign an arbitration agreement! It takes away your ability to take your employer to court. Jobs that try to make you sign them are exactly the jobs that ought to be taken to court, and you'll end up in a sketchy job with less recourse or legal protection - as you have signed that away.
Never sign a non-complete clause, unless you have the savings to be out of work for that length of time, plus several more months. I've seen multiple engineers be forced into extended unemployment due to litigious companies preventing them from getting a new job after they were fired or quit.
Never take a job that makes you put money down to get the job, do the job, travel for the job, etc. That's not a job - that's a scam. Legitimate engineering companies will pay for the tools and training that you need. It's a really bad sign about a company's finances or ethics, if they rely on their employees to front them money.
If you're asked to sign a NDA, figure out why. Some are legit, like they don't want you sharing expensive research around. But if they don't have a good justification? Red flag.
Make sure the contract is clear on where professional liability falls. Is it on the company or the engineer? Get this in writing and understand the liability that you are taking on.
When signing the employment contract, talk to the company's HR representative with any questions you have. If they don't have HR, or they're HR doesn't understand labor law, that's the biggest and the reddest of red flags. Run.
LEAVING A JOB
Never tell your job you're leaving, until you've gotten a signed offer letter, signed by both yourself and the new employer. Stuff falls through sometimes.
Your old job might ask you if you consider a retention offer. Always say yes, to see the offer, but never accept the offer. You can use this offer to negotiate additional perks at your new job, But I would caution against accepting it since companies will often keep you for a few months to close out your work and then lay you off afterwards, since they do not want to continue paying the new higher salary.
Try to leave on good terms, even if you're fed up. It's a small world, especially if you're in a niche field, and not starting drama will pay off in the long run. I've been glad I didn't start shit even when I was mad, because my last two jobs keep begging to hire me back, and that's good to have for emergencies. The exception is if you're leaving because you were harassed, assaulted, or asked to do something unsafe or unethical. Then, fuck em and stay the fuck away from em.
Try and take a vacation between jobs, in the US at least, time off policies fuckin suck.
YOUR CURRENT JOB
When you start a job, try and grab drinks outside of the office and away from the bosses with the other women, queer people, people of color, etc. And get their mental list of harassers, bigots, etc. Out of the jobs I've had, my current one is sadly the only one where nobody had a long list to give me.
When you get older, try to mentor people when you can. It really pays off, and I think it's the biggest way we can change a pretty shitty industry. It's not like women don't get into engineering, it's mostly that we leave because once we get here it fuckin sucks. Being able to change that even in small ways is really fulfilling.
It's a little secret that I've heard executives laugh about, that how hard you work has fuckall to do with what you get paid. You got paid more if you provide more value to the company. Learn what the non-promotable tasks that often get pushed onto women are, And don't fucking do them.
Learn about labor rights, and the history of them. The culture around work in the US is honestly pretty exploitative, Even to people with a "good job" like engineering - and to be able to recognize early on when you and your peers are being treated inequitably will save you a lot of trouble.
Your job will do a yearly performance review. When they ask you to set goals, set ones you know you can achieve. And when you're going into one, prep all the things you have to brag about. It might feel like an exercise in box checking, but its what determines your salary. So check them boxes good.
If your job offers you a promotion, sometimes it's a real promotion, and sometimes they want you to do double the work for the same pay. Don't ever take a management role or promotion without fully understanding the additional responsibility, time commitment, and pay involved. If they try to push you to take on management responsibilities without having negotiated a new salary, withhold your labor. They will not pay you more if you show them that you will do the same work for free.
Talk about salary, and work collectively with your peers whenever you can. I've had several coworkers go to the bosses to argue for raises not just for themselves but also for the women on the team who were being paid less then the guys. This stuff doesn't happen if you don't talk about salary.
Working collectively with your peers is also important if there are safety concerns at your job. You might get brushed off if you bring a safety issue to management alone, especially as a younger employee. But when the whole team comes together and refuses to work on something until the safety issues are addressed? They get fixed fast.
Treat each job like a free education, try learn the skills you'd like to gain on company time. If you find yourself doing repetitive stuff at work without learning anything new, talk to your manager about it. I've been doing this for a few years, and that's how I landed a job where all peers have masters and doctorates, and I'm keeping up with just a bachelor's. Learning on the job is a lot cheaper than college tuition, and once you have a bachelor's, can usually get you the same jobs.
Take notes on shit. It's great for retaining knowledge, covering your ass, or bringing up at performance reviews or interviews. If a job ask you to turn in your notes when you quit, keep a personal copy. Unless you signed an NDA lol.
Figure out who the smartest people at your company are, and if they all start quitting you ought to quit like a rat off a sinking ship too.
Just like your job does a performance review of you each year, do a performance review of them. Maybe don't show them that, but do set goals for the work life balance, education, etc you want out of them. If they're not meeting them, it might be a sign to move on.
WORK BOUNDARIES / SAFETY TIPS
Don't use your personal phone for work, ever. Your company will try to dodge liability if anyone harasses you. But having a company provided line? You can much more easily force them to be responsible for anything inappropriate sent to it. Plus it's a little funny seeing the look on someone's face when they realize they sent their dick pic to the company phone.
If you're a woman, or a person of color, you'll notice real quick that the company loves to put you on the front of every piece of PR material to prove that they employ someone other than white dudes. It's super uncomfortable. Becoming "passionate about cyber security and privacy" is a good excuse to refuse having your photo taken.
You'll also probably get asked to do way more public facing / PR events than the guys. Ask your employer (in writing) why you're being assigned this work. If they say anything about wanting your "unique experience as a woman" or w/e remind them that assigning extra gender-based work is a violation of employment law, and request that the public facing work gets shared equally between the whole engineering team.
If you get harassed at work, or by coworkers outside of work, document it as thoroughly as possible. Start quietly recording on your phone immediately, (using 0.5 zoom lets you record someone without looking like you're pointing your phone at them) or if you can't do that, write up a detailed account and email it to yourself so it's timestamped. It's hard for a company to claim "he said she said" if you send them a video. Also back that stuff up off of your work accounts and computers, in case "it goes missing".
If you have to you go to HR about harassment or discrimination, study employment law, or consult with an attorney first. HR works for the company, not you, but if you bring something to them that demonstrates company liability, and legal knowledge, you can get them to work for you. The EEOC and ACLU are great resources.
Also if you have to go to HR, they like to have off the record spoken conversations to dodge liability. Take notes in the meeting. After the meeting, immediately write an email summarizing the meeting, attach your notes, and send it to HR.
If your employer asks you to commit fraud, like falsifying timesheets, financial paperwork, signing off on things that you don't have the knowledge or authority to, signing off on things that you did not read, etc. Don't. You are more likely to be held personally legally liable than your employer if that fraud is discovered. Businesses that commit fraud have their low level employees do it deliberately, to direct liability away from the corporation as a whole.
Don't stay at a company that expects you to put yourself or others in danger. OSHA is a great resource for workplace safety issues.
If you're an engineer in the US, and your employer is pushing you to create something that you don't find safe, unfortunately there isn't always someone to report it to. Outside of specific industries with specific regulatory bodies, (like aviation) the legal system is our main recourse. So your best bet is to document it so thoroughly and leave such a paper trail (including making sure that the hazard is put in the HTS) so that your employer would be screwed in court if they hurt or kill someone. That will incentivize them to fix it. Then leave because you don't want to be there.
Remember your job is just your job. Don't tie your own self worth into the success or failure of any one company - there will always be another.
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sreegs · 8 months
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trying to get a promotion and i was shown how my corporate overlords make the decision via rubric, and the best way to do it is to just hype up what you did by using the language of the rubric. my manager suggested just writing down what i did that week once a week so when it comes time to put together a "case" for my promotion i have a bunch of examples of how i fit the criteria
anyways since i started doing this, writing down things i did in a positive language, i've had less work-related anxiety and now i realize i've been fucking TRICKED into JOURNALING!!!!! fucking CBT!!
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izicodes · 2 months
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Sunday 21st January 2024
>> I made a post yesterday of me mini-ranting about how I don't have any proper career goals because the ones I made years ago I've achieved now, so I'm questioning myself "What now? 🙃".
Then I remembered I have a recruiter mate and I emailed him asking for help and he gave me a long list of what I could do now to get better from my position. And I like sharing help so here's what he said + my own notes of what I understood from them~!
Hope this helps you too~!
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🩶 Assess Current Skills and Set Goals
Identify your strengths and weaknesses.
Set clear goals for technical and leadership skill development.
My notes: I am good at some languages/technologies whilst I am a complete noob in others. Yes, I use them but I am not confident in them and always have to Google what is going on. I need to make a list of all the languages I am good at and those I am not so good at. Maybe even list why I'm not good at them. The same goes for non-technical skills. Got to make plans/goals on how I will improve them and get out of my comfort bubble on my comfort technologies and expand! Leadership skills would probably improve when I get solo projects given/have to present at Team meetings on my own in front of everyone~!
🩶 Technical Skill Enhancement
Deepen your proficiency in current programming languages.
Explore new technologies and frameworks relevant to your field.
My notes: I already answered this in the top one, but I shouldn't neglect my current skills to be able to learn the new ones. With the languages I am good and confident in, I still feel as though I haven't reached the more advanced stuff of that language. OOP stuff skill scares me in any programming language so I need to face my fears and learn it. From time to time, check what's popular in the market in terms of technology used and see which one aligns with my dream tech stack to use in the future and make plans to learn and develop myself~!
🩶 Project Leadership and Collaboration
Volunteer to lead small projects or take on more responsibility in current projects.
Collaborate with cross-functional teams to understand different aspects of project development.
My notes: At work, I eventually (since I'm still new) should ask to be the lead on some projects just like my higher-up developer is to me. Lead my own projects, without having to report to someone unless in dire need or when the project is complete for testing, etc. The team is small so I should talk to the non-developers in the team and see from their POV how the project is. Understand different types of people in the team and communicate effectively. All of this can be transferred to non-work projects like an online group project on an Open-Source project on GitHub for example - lead projects and taking more responsibilities. Being able to talk to people with different skillsets as we work on a group project~!
🩶 Attend Workshops and Networking Events
Attend workshops, conferences, and networking events to expand your knowledge and connections.
Seek mentorship from experienced professionals, including CTOs.
My notes: My gosh, I dread this honestly. I'm still a relatively shy person so going to workshops and events still brings small anxiety but that's something I do want to break~! I will never know what I will learn, who I will meet etc if I don't go to one! I want to aim that this year I would like to go to one, preferably in or near my city. I always love the idea of having a mentor, honestly, I was going to pay someone to help mentor me on that part ( >> loads of cites offer mentorships for programming!!! ) but I feel like my manager right now is that person so I will keep working with him to develop more~!
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In conclusion, self-improvement as a programmer is both challenging and super hard to get started BUT rewarding in the end~!
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femmefatalevibe · 6 months
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Femme Fatale Guide: 15 Essential Business Skills Everyone Should Master
Articulate, confident communication
Crafting effective, compelling pitches
Operating and communicating through a solution-oriented framework
Research of all types (Google, market research, studies, polls, interpersonal conversations, etc.)
Learning how to streamline, edit, and organize information in a clear and logical way
Accumulating high-level working knowledge/proficiency in all tools and programs directly related to your type of work/industry
Budgeting and financial optimization (investment, tax benefits, etc.)
Reading and interpreting legal contracts/documents
Setting rates, boundaries, and learning when/how to delegate
Good posture, direct eye contact, and a firm handshake
Building streamlined systems for onboarding, different repeat project scopes/workflows, and KPI measuring
The art of following up, listening to (potential) clients' needs, asking thoughtful questions, and benefit-oriented salesmanship
Consistently reading, learning, and studying current events/cultural platforms/industry and field-related knowledge
How to spot customer/client/business partner red flags
Self-management, task/project prioritization, and optimization of your personal energy clock + levels
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blissfullyecho · 1 year
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Do you have any tips on becoming more eloquent, or a better communicator? I often struggle to find the right words or express myself clearly to others, especially in a work setting. Thank you!
how to become more eloquent + become a better communicator (workplace edition)
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reading
try to read more if you don’t read as much or at all— it doesn’t matter if it’s nonfiction or fiction, but if you practice reading, you practice saying thoughts/words/sentences/etc. in your mind as you read which is clear and concise because that’s how the author wrote the book/article in the first place. authors don’t write “like” and “um” and “uh” when they are communicating to the reader, unless of course a character said those words but again, a character isn’t talking to you (the reader), but to another character. like i said, when an author writes, it’s to convey a clear and concise message to you, the reader. when you start reading more, you begin to pick up on also being more clear and concise when you not only read, but also write.
practice common workplace questions and answers.
for example, if you work customer service, what are the common questions you get asked that require a good answer from your employer, coworkers, and clients/customers/patients? think about what you normally have to talk about or answer in the workplace, write an answer down, and practice that answer so you have a quick, clear, and concise answer to that common question.
if you say “like”, “um”, and “uh” — or any other filler word, try to take a breath and slow down when you talk
you don’t have to be quick on your feet all the time and answer in .2 seconds. take a quick moment to gather your thoughts, smile, and then speak. it’s not as awkward as it may feel the first few times you do so. waiting 3 seconds is not that big of a deal. try to catch yourself the next time you are about to use a filler word and just take a short pause.
develop your vocabulary
you don’t have to use diction from shakespeare times, but simple changes such as using words like “ostracized” instead of saying that you’re feeling “left out” or “inquire” instead of “ask” could help make you seem more eloquent. i believe dictionary.com still does the “word of the day” where they give you a vocabulary word, definition, and pronunciation. also, reading helps a lot (once again)!
practice public speaking tips + techniques
even if you aren’t a public speaker, practicing the skills and techniques public speakers use when they talk to an audience would help tremendously if you’re just talking to one person. purchase books on public speaking and search up public speaking advice on youtube for free.
practice on being a better (enter your job title here)
i don’t know what you do for work, but take on training for your profession. go to seminars, networking events, purchase a course online, buy books from those in your industry, or again, go on youtube for free. you have to train to become better :)
spend time with more professionals or people who can speak eloquently
you pick up habits and traits from those you spend your time with so be careful with who you spend a lot of time with.
i hope i helped!
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frezyastrology · 4 months
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Astro Observations: Career Astrology👩🏼‍💻
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How should we choose our career? How should we proceed?
If we are curious about the career field, we need to shine the light on the MC line (10th House) in astrology. The zodiac signs, planets and their angles show us in which direction we will move and what kind of potential we have.
Gentle reminder that my readings are open for a limited time again. Career & Love reading is $15 for now. You can book a reading by clicking here or message me!
It also shows our place in society and how we rise to a higher level as a result of our personal efforts. If we research the MC sign and the planets and interpret them correctly, you can get information about how you should progress in your career.
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MC: ARIES
They are fast and efficient, enjoy working alone and seek excitement and adventure in everything they do. (Also check the house and aspects of Mars.)
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MC: TAURUS
They enjoy working in a reliable and reliable manner and can be patient in everything they do. (Also check the house and angles where Venus is located)
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MC: GEMINI
They may have more than one different profession. Communication plays a big role in the field they work in. (Also check the house and angles where Mercury is located)
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MC: CANCER
They help their colleagues stand out by helping them, and by behaving in this way, they can be noticed and revealed later. They make an emotional connection to the place they work. (Also check the house and angles of the moon)
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MC: LEO
They may not enjoy monotony, they may make a name for themselves with their career life and be sympathetic and cheerful. (Also check the house and angles where the sun is located)
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MC: VIRGO
May have a neat and tidy working style, loves details. Can work with a focus on service and correction (also check the house and angles where Mercury is located)
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MC: LIBRA
They seek and create harmony and balance in the environment they work in. They want everyone to be equal. It gives them the motivation to act according to the situation (Check the house and angles where Venus is located).
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MC: SCORPIO
Their goals are clear. They may act scandalously in their workplace or institution. They can be ambitious about their career. (Check also the house and angles of Mars and Pluto)
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MC: SAGITTARIUS They like to improve themselves, respect different ideas, and may not delve too deeply into the subject while working. We can say that learning while working belongs to the mc sag group. (Also check the house and angles where Jupiter is located)
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MC: CAPRICORN
Being at work can make them feel good about working too hard. They may want to be in the top position in their current position and they will be (Check the house and angles where Saturn is located).
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MC: AQUARIUS
They can show their own unique, unusual and different working methods in their environment. They may have problems with the rules. (Also check the house and angles where Saturn-Uranus is located)
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MC: PISCES They may have difficulty adjusting to the work environment. They may be the most sensitive person in the company. They can isolate themselves from others in the company they work for (also check the house angles where Neptune-Jupiter is located)
•.¸♡ 𝑩𝒐𝒐𝒌 𝑨 𝑹𝒆𝒂𝒅𝒊𝒏𝒈 ♡¸.•
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hopeful-engineer · 6 months
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Friendly reminder that your current job being too mundane, boring or below your aspirations are valid reasnons to look for a new job. Remember, that this is part of caring for your mental wellbeing, too. A job below your knowledge, skills and experience level may lead to burnout and low self-confidence. It doesn't have to be only because they don't pay you enough. You're not ungrateful. You deserve to be ambitious.
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xiabablog · 5 months
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do you have any tips for speaking to/reaching out to recruiters? i'm looking for new grad roles and ppl keep telling me to but i don't even know where to start or find any and all the articles online are so intimidating
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Hiya 💗
The people are right, it's one of the best ways to put yourself out there! Oh, this is going to be a long one~!
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I'll share tips from my own experience, this might help you, this might because I did it any other way but this:
I applied to a bunch of jobs: like for 5 days straight I was just apply just for the sake of it. The more jobs, the more recruiters have my CV/Resume in their database. I recommend LinkedIn the most as it's super easy to drop a message to the recruiter.
Applied to jobs that I had 50%+ chance of getting a call to: Obviously this means apply to jobs where you have the skills and the experience (work or in building projects etc). I say this because say they do call you but they ask you if you have this certain tech stack and you say no... end of call really. So, for me, I had like 2 or 3 things they were asking for in a candidate so I got through to the calling stage!
LinkedIn is actually your friend, don't be afraid: During my random job searching and whilst I was in my job, I had recruiters message me about job opportunities. Why? Because of my profile. You need to have your LinkedIn vamped up, check mine out for reference (click the LinkedIn icon). But make sure to have your skills e.g. About > Top skills, your work experience (paid or volunteer) and any certificates you have! If you're brave, not like me, start posting on there for a while.
LinkedIn again but Connections: Oh my days please follow people, even if you don't know them personally. I have 300+ connections (not to brag) but I only know like two handful of the people, the rest are of people who connect with people who I follow, I have met like 5 recruiters through this way.
Actually message the recruiters???: Okay so you followed the people, your CV/Resume is done and dusted and now you're ready to message those recruiters! In my case, I had more recruiters message me than the other way round only because I'm shy hehe so I wait for them to make the first move. They would probably send a whole message about the new job that have posted and see if you're interested and then, if you like the job, you can say "Yes please" or whatever is the appropriate reply is, and then they will send further information or arrange a phone call! If you want to message them first, I would find them more after applying for a job on LinkedIn, they usually add the recruiter in the job posting as a way for people to message them.
DO NOT FEEL AFRAID IN MESSAGING RECRUITERS: I say this because a) imagine 100 people apply for the job, only 5 would message the recruiter (I don't know if the stats are right, I just remembered that from bootcamp-) because everyone else is too afraid to do it! Missed opportunity! b) recruiters actually want people to message them. Now in terms of what to write to them? I don't know really. I would always go for the classic "don't repeat what's on your resume", they're going to read it anyways, so just talk a bit about your experience and skills A BIT like
"Hello/Hi, my name is [name]. I hope this message finds you well. I wanted to express my strong interest in the [Job Title] position at [Company Name], for which I recently submitted my application. I'm enthusiastic about the opportunity to join [Company Name] and contribute to [mention something specific you find appealing about the company or role, if possible]. I believe my skills and experience align well with the requirements of the position. Thank you for considering my application, and I look forward to the possibility of discussing my qualifications in more detail. Best regards, [name]
No hire, don't be sad: Even if they don't hire you, or go through the next stages, keep in touch by even asking questions about what's on the market/what's new, how you could do better for other jobs you want to apply to that were similar to the ones you failed at. They could point you to the right direction! One recruiter said she wanted me to have more projects I was passionate about online like on GitHub or GitLab, even if they were "silly" projects - at the time, I didn't have much projects online so it made sense! See, I took that advice and now I'm a project making machine (a bit)! Advice they give sticks forever!
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Remember, reaching out to recruiters and applying for jobs is a numbers game. The more applications you submit, the better your chances of landing interviews. I really hope this helps and I didn't make too many spelling mistakes! This is all of the things I could note down from the top of my head!
I've made other posts on on my coding blog about career advices:
🌐 Tips for Landing Your First Entry-Level Developer Job
🌐 Career Services For Web Dev (could be useful to you too!)
🌐 The Talent Cloud Community: Careers Workshop
Good luck with your job search!
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