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creatingnikki · 12 hours
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notes to self: january 2023
don’t share everything you think, don’t be absolutely filterless. I know, I know okay. you want to connect with people in the most authentic way and be your most honest self but god. that is so stupid. filters and layers are so crucial for everything. just like skin! you have skin! so that your organs and muscles and bones aren’t directly exposed to this world. let that really sink in. you need to have filters and you don’t need to be so very bare with anybody and especially not when you have just met them.
just say no to buying urges. make an excel sheet titled “wish list” and every time you come across something you want to buy - a book, a jacket, kitchen items, etc. - add them to the list with their cost and source. then when you meet your monthly budget goals and have money left over after all your expenses and savings, you can use that money to buy something from your wish list. 
time blocking may not work for creative tasks but will for other things. okay so for writing time blocking is useless because you cannot schedule when you feel like writing but for more technical tasks like editing you can definitely use the time blocking technique of time management.  
when someone is holding something with fire and asks you to open your mouth, you don’t. simple, really. doing fire shots when having vodka only seems like a doable thing when you are drunk and there is an over enthusiastic friend who wants everyone more drunk. 
splitting is normal. assessing people, especially those new in your life, based on their actions is normal and sensible. so if they do one good thing and that registers as a yay and then they do a bad thing and that registers as a nay, it doesn’t mean you have BPD and you keep splitting between putting someone on a pedestal and then later devaluing them based on isolated actions. it simply means you are objectively assessing - you are in the decision-making phase and you have to make an informed decision. it’s only natural.
eat in bowls and plates and not directly out of the pan. living like a proper adult, right? I know that’s just more dishes to wash for you but you deserve to sit at the table and eat from proper crockery like a good damn human.
spend more time with people you laugh with. people who don’t bring drama and people with whom not every conversation is this heavy, emotionally-charged conversation. making them laugh and them making you laugh and things being light and fun with serious conversations when something really calls for that. 
don’t be ashamed to take. don’t be ashamed to take up space. don’t be overly grateful when someone does some little nice gesture. I don’t know why you feel the need to over compensate and what exactly are you overcorrecting for, but let’s be more mindful of this. 
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sadsoul555 · 1 day
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Stop being sad over shit you can’t control.
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selfhealingmoments · 11 days
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braindamaged007 · 4 months
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zippyzstuff · 11 months
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mbrainspaz · 10 months
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I keep coming back lately to how f*cked up it was that my dad never let me mess anything up. Oh no, don’t climb out the window and sit on the roof--you’ll damage the shingles. So I put out beach towels and was extra careful, and he still got mad. Some of my best childhood memories were sitting out on that roof with my brother or my friends. Man f*ck the shingles. We sold that house a year later anyway. I waited years for him to fix the toilet paper roll holder in an upstairs bathroom--then one day just broke down and fixed it myself. It took me 5 minutes. And he was mad because I didn’t use the right kind of screws. F*ck the right screws. It looked perfect and it worked just fine, at least until I moved out. Now I’ve been out here living with a bunch of rogue ranchers and old engineers and it’s given me a whole new perspective on life. The first day I moved onto this ranch the owner got out an electric saw and cut a hole straight through a sewer pipe. I nearly panicked! Like--YOU CAN JUST DO THAT?!?! Just break something?! It was a horrible job! But BAM--it was done! And that sh*t changed my whole worldview. Last week I helped remodel a bridge with some spare logs and a pickaxe. I’ve sawed open the roof of my house and glued it back together. I’ve torn wall fixtures off and burned them in a bonfire. 
GO AHEAD! BREAK IT. Wear down the shingles. Cut holes through the wall. Get mud on the sofa. Put stickers on your car. Break the world around you just a little instead of living in fear of losing resale value you rarely get back anyway. It’ll be fine. 
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The Golden Girls ~ Life Lessons
Dorothy has been feeling ill for a number of weeks, and is worried that there might be something seriously wrong with her health. But, after seeing numerous doctors and specialists, no one can give her an answer as to what the issue could be, and instead dismiss her concerns with claims that she’s simply depressed about being single or getting older. Dr. Budd, in particular, suggests that she ‘take a cruise’ or ‘change your hair colour’ to make herself feel better, as his own wife did. Dorothy begins to wonder if it’s all in her head, but the girls assure her that they know she’s sick because they know her. Finally, after her friend, Dr. Weston, recommends her to specialist Dr. Chang, Dorothy is diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS). Relieved and happy that she finally has a name for what’s wrong with her -- and that she’s not ‘crazy’ like the doctors originally made her believe -- she takes the girls out to a celebratory dinner and sees Dr. Budd in the restaurant, where she decides to confront him about his treatment of her.
(Watch it here.)
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expressionist-hira · 7 months
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People treat you exactly how they feel about you. Be blind if you want to.
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sk-lumen · 8 months
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The greatest strength is facing life's challenges and not letting yourself become bitter and hardening your heart until you turn into what hurt you. The greatest strength is becoming whatever would have saved you.
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sageexperience · 5 months
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chloeleigh68 · 3 months
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infpisme · 5 months
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Dead people receive more flowers than the living ones because regret is stronger than gratitude
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black-lake · 3 months
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You are allowed to change anytime, any day and any minute with no prior notice. Don’t feel guilty for changing because someone else, your family, your friends, or society is uncomfortable with it. You are your only green light and nothing else matters. No one owes you your past self, your past actions, or past way of being. The faster you improve yourself the easier you outgrow these people or things that are holding you back. As you look back at your life one day, you will be so proud of these incredible transformations. 
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selfhealingmoments · 3 months
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at the end of the day it’s just you and your silly little life. so go on, enjoy it, be the person you want to be.
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yojomisoqf · 20 days
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zippyzstuff · 2 months
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