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theartofmadeline · 2 years

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have a rootin’ tootin’ pride from this asexual cowboy

#asexual #asexuality #ace #pride #lgbtq #asexual art #ace art #cowboy #western #cowboy art #pride art #Character Design #illustration #artists on tumblr #reminder that the A is for aces aros and agender people #and happy pride my babes #you know i had to draw another ace bitch.....#and i think more pride stuff is in the works

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thefruitanditsmysteries · 2 years

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Megan: you can't fuck with us

Me: actually Megan,, I can't fuck with anyone. I'm asexual

#asexual #ace #lgbt #pride #sex repulsed #sex repulsed ace #ace memes #sex repulsed asexual #reminder that the a is for aces aros and agender people #and a reminder that this is not a universal asexual experience <3

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unionize-aromantically · 8 months

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this is a reminder that these wonderful websites exist:

aroworlds.org - aromantic stories and stuff, mostly by K A Cook. aroworlds is also on tumblr

digitaltransarchive.com - well, digital trans archives. yeah. you can read old documents, look at pictures of trans people from before. all the way to like 1700s. For example browsing by topic (they have a long list of them)

azejournal.com - aro/ace/agender multimedia journal. there are some interesting formats. but above all it's a nice way to read reflections about aspec people (do agender people usually get included in aspec? Uhm now they do I suppose).

alternativeto.com - it's just kinda neat. a useful website for finding alternatives to whatever website or app

I also have a decent list of coding related ones if anyone's interested (just send an ask or something)

and a decent list of Norwegian websites and apps. which yeah, send an ask or something.

#ink.post #websites #ablogging #aspec #aromatic #trans #asexual #archives #aromantic #ink navigates the interwebs #100 #150 #200 #250 #300 #500 #600 #400

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multiplicity-positivity · 9 months

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Here’s some positivity for arospec and acespec systems and headmates!

In today’s world, people on the aro/ace spectrum tend to be brushed under the rug or not acknowledged by the queer community. In fact, there are many who mistakenly believe that the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for allies, when it actually stands for asexual, aromantic, and agender people! Arospec and acespec have always been and will always be vital members of the queer community. This post is for all the systems and headmates who are on the asexual or aromantic spectrum!

🖤 Shoutout to arospec and aspec headmates in mostly allo systems!

🤍 Shoutout to arospec and acespec systems who are romance/sex positive or neutral, or who engage in romantic or sexual relationships for whatever reason!

💜 Shoutout to arospec and acespec systems who are gray, demi, or otherwise not “fully” acespec or arospec!

🖤 Shoutout to arospec and acespec systems who questioned for a long time or are still in the process of questioning their romantic and sexual orientations!

🤍 Shoutout to arospec and acespec systems who feel excluded from queer spaces, or who worry that they’re “not queer enough” (gentle reminder - yes you certainly are!)

💚 Shoutout to arospec and acespec systems who are also allo in some way, or who use the split attraction model to describe their attraction!

🖤 Shoutout to arospec and acespec systems who feel comfortable and at home in their sexuality and romantic orientation!

🤍 Shoutout to arospec and acespec systems who identify the way they do because of trauma!

💜 Shoutout to arospec and acespec systems who are advocates for aromantic and asexual rights!

🖤 Shoutout to arospec and acespec systems who are closeted about their sexuality or romantic orientation for whatever reason!

🤍 Shoutout to arospec and acespec systems who are out loud and proud!

💚 Shoutout to arospec and acespec systems who educate others and are vocal about asexuality and aromanticism!

Remember that you are an important and cherished member of both the plural community and the queer community just the way you are! Asexual and aromantic people have always been an important part of these communities, and they will continue to be integral to these spaces in the future. There is nothing wrong with feeling diminished or no sexual and/or romantic attraction!

Please remember to treat yourself and your system with gentle kindness, no matter your circumstances. Acespec and arospec folks may be ignored or misunderstood in many spaces, but rest assured that will never be the case here! You and your system are lovely and your lives have value just the way you are! We’re wishing you a future full of peace, happiness, and self acceptance!

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#multiplicity #pluralgang #plurality #actuallyplural #system positivity #plural positivity #plural pride #system pride #acespec #arospec #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aromanticism #asexual positivity #aromantic positivity

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vroomvroomwee · 5 months

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Friendly reminder that it's just as valid to headcanon Aziraphale and Crowley as gay as it is lesbian. It is just as valid to hc them as ace or aro just as it is bisexual. It is just as valid to hc Aziraphale as genderfluid and Crowley as agender as it is the opposite. It is just as valid to use she/her, they/them and neopronouns as it is he/him. It is just as valid to hc them as transgender, surgery and htr included, as it is cisgender.

But you must always remember to respect other people's headcanons too.

#nothings really canon #and i think thats wonderful #its for everyone #goodomens #good omens #crowley #aziraphale #ineffable husbands #aziracrow

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entropy-sea-system · 5 months

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I'm the kind of 'doesn't give a shit about nonrose relationships' person (bc I'm atertiary and repulsed by these relationships and have opted out of them!!) that allotertiary aspecs hate tbh... And I know they probably don't intend to be aphobic with this but it is literally aphobic towards atertiary people if you think not liking nonrose relationships is inherently evil.

You're allowed to be upset if people aren't valuing you in the nonrose ways you want them to, and you should ask them for what you want in your interactions(drops my 'communicate or break up' advice as an atertiary I guess) . But please don't malign people like me just bc we can't care about people in tertiary/nonrose ways, while you complain about this.

Just a reminder that, by the way, an allorose atertiary person or apl, afamilial, etc. person is just as aspec as you and belongs in the aspec community if they wish to. I'm just adding this because I see some of you acting like things like family or friendship are not seen as necessary and are not enforced as something everyone should have, even if in some places these may not be the most 'superior' relationship to society(reminder that some of us do live in places where friendship or family are seen as more required than romance though).

Even if larger society does not always conceptualise these as attraction, you cannot deny that people are expected to have meaningful interpersonal connections that are not romantic or sexual (see for example how people are expected to raise a family, have friends, etc.) . And besides, its not like people conceptualised of the concept of romantic attraction before the aspec community started talking about it. However, it is understood that romance was still expected of people back then. And its similar with nonrose / tertiary relationships and attractions.

Some exclusionists literally go out of their way to say that they think aros and aces are valid but think atertiary spectrum labels are bullshit. Don't think it benefits you to agree with them or to exclude atertiary people from the aspec community. Aspec includes atertiary and agender spectrums as well, not just aro and ace spectrums, so please actually meaningfully include us in aspec things.

#aspec #aromantic #asexual #crosstagging aro and ace bc you ppl have got to be normal about us #Im aro myself too but . wow other aros are not always normal abt atertiary ppl like me !!#atertiary #vent #aphobia #platonormativity #apothitertiary #nonfriending #nonfriending aplatonic #apl #aplatonic #nonfriending apl #aplphobia #relan #relationship anarchy #I started at relan and I guess Im here complaining about how aros and aces are not always supportive of aterspec ppl like me

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morsobaby · 1 year

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Reminder that gays and lesbians and all same gender attracted people are allowed to have a complex, weird, contradictory and nuanced relationship to their gender identity and nobody's allowed to argue about that. If another gay person doesn't fit your preference move on. Transmasc lesbians and Transfem gays aren't your enemy. Nonbinary lesbians are nonbinary, yes, even if that means bigender, Xenogender, agender, genderfluid. Yes, even if that means they sometimes identify as heteros, bisexuals pansexuals or other multisexuals due to their gender identity. These people are enjoying the full spectrum of the rainbow and you should rather admire them than throw rocks.

Oh, and yes, even if they AREN'T hetero, bi, Pan or other multi orientation where their gender is concerned. If a genderfluid lesbian is most comfortable labeling as a lesbian (regardless of their current gender status) that's none of your fucking business. They're entitled to their preferences the same as you are to yours. "I wouldn't date someone like that, it'd cause me dysphoria/discomfort/ect or make me feel invalidated" okay, that's completely okay. Don't invalidate or cause discomfort or dysphoria on those people then. If two people are comfortable in their identities and care for each other, it's not your place to police their relationship with each other. It's not hurting other gays if two people who identify as gay but have contradicting gender identities love each other. That is a good thing actually? People caring for each other despite or bc of their differences and finding solidarity and comfort in each other regardless of labels, whilst still acknowledging and identifying with them. People can (but don't have to) change their labels when they're dating someone. Wasn't the whole point to break down the barriers of who is and isn't allowed to date each other based on arbitrary standards or gender boundaries. This is about consenting adults who love each other.

People are allowed to exist as being simultaneously mlm and wlw, nonbinary and other gendered people can and do form relationships with heteros and that's okay. Someone can be gay in one aspect and straight in another. Dykes have been boyfriends to girls only for years. Fags have been girlfriends to other boys for years. Transmascs and lesbians have loved and supported each other for years. And yes, dated too.

When you say gender is complex, when you say sexuality and orientation is complex, do you mean it? Or are you just saying that with a side of "When it fits these boundaries obviously"?

I mean it. Questioning people, genderweird and dual people deserve the same respect as any other queer people.

This post includes aces and aros who date and form qprs, and this all also applies to them. It's people's own business what relationships they form in regards to their identities.

#My thoughts #Genderqueer #Genderfluid #Gender #Trans #Dyke #gay fag #D word #F word #transhet #inclusionism #Ace #Aro #queerplatonic #Transfem gay #Transmasc lesbian #Nonbinary lesbian

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styxthecaracal · 7 days

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Buy My Art; Support a Queer Artist!

Hey everyone! Just coming on here to remind everyone that I have a RedBubble shop that ya'll can check out! I have lots of pride designs up right now, but I'm working on some more. Here's some examples of the pride designs I have up:

(I have a few other flags, but I don't wanna post em' all here. On my shop I currently have: Ally, Progress, MLM, Lesbian, Bi, Pan, Omni, Trans, Genderfluid, NonBinary, Queer, Genderqueer, Aro, Ace, AroAce, Agender, AroAceAge, and Intersex. If you wanna see more flags, let me know which ones you wanna see next! All my pride dragons have a version with eyelashes, and a version without.)

I have other designs that aren't pride, but yeah. If you buy from me, you'll be supporting my savings towards things like: College, a chest binder, b-day gifts for my friend with transphobic parents (I'mma get him a chest binder, too :3), species affirming gear, and food (because I need to stop using my parent's money to by ice-cream every time I get my period).

So if you like what you see, check out my RedBubble shop here or here: https://www.redbubble.com/people/DanisaurStudios/shop?asc=u

Thanks again, and I hope you all have a great day!

Your local queer, alterhuman artist,

Cadence <3

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0w0tsuki · 1 month

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Trans woman: "Hey can you be normal about us for like five fucking seconds?"

Half the notes: "ABSOLUTELY NOT! 🤪😜🤯 When ever I see those GORGEOUS TGIRLS I start think about their lovely GOCKS my brain goes BAZONGA WOWZA and my eyes shoot out like in a cartoon!"

Discourse blogs: "Ummm 🧐 OP? I don't know if you are aware but the "normal" for trans women is transmisogyny so actually you're asking us to be bigoted towards you. What do you mean semantics?"

Queer Positivity blogs: "Absolutely agree! But also we shouldn't be forgetting anyone. So friendly reminder to also be normal about trans men, nonbinaries, lesbians, gay men, aces, aros, allos, gender fucks, agenders, and GNC cis people! #trans positivity #queer positivity #trans pride #pride #trans rights #trans unity"

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samiamack · 2 months

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Cale Rok Headcanons:

KRS is a pillow princess

Bulky/stronk sub

Ace → sex neutral

Willing to do it to fulfill partner

Can make him feel closer to Cale

Wants Cale to be happy

Cale will never engage unless he is certain that Rok Soo consents

Doesn’t enjoy the physical activity aspect

Tends to forget about it while having sex

Can enjoy the act occasionally

Enjoys cuddles after sex

He prefers to express his affection nonverbally

Cuddles

Hugs

Snuggling

Gifts

Acts of service

He loves Cale fiercely

Has a habit of listening to Cale’s heartbeat to remind him that Cale is alive

This habit stems from the trauma of everyone he’s ever loved dying

Cale is the top

Lean muscle dom

Ace → sex positive

Feels closer when and after doing it

Ensures he has consent

Will not engage in any sexual tension if he isn’t sober(almost never)

Enjoys sex

Prefers to express affection physically and verbally

Words of affirmation

Says i love you frequently

Flusters and comforts Rok Soo

Gives compliments frequently

Kisses

Any positive physical touch

Hugs

Snuggles

Arms on waist/shoulders

Gets really insecure about relationship at times and ends up in a spiral of thinking he doesn’t deserve Rok Soo

Rok Soo hates this and tries to help by showing his affection as often as possible

Rok Soo can be averse to touch and won't allow anyone to touch or get near him

Cale respects this and ensures that no one disturb him

Rok Soo likes it when Cale just talks with him during those moments

He also appreciates that Cale will always ask when he is going to go near Rok Soo

The two are the best parental units to their hordes of adopted(legally and emotionally) children.

Cale is genderfluid

Has different wardrobes for all their genders

Ron and Hans can somehow inherently tell which gender Cale is that day/ at the moment(much like Magnus in the Records of Ragnarok)

Deruth is jealous of this ability

KRS is agender but uses he/him pronouns

Due to his appearance people often just assume he is a boy

KRS doesn’t care about whatever pronouns people use for him he just uses he/him because it’s easiest to explain

He actually really likes it when people use anything other than he/him or use he/him but not in a way that seems to imply that they see him as solely a boy (I am 100% projecting here)

Cale catches onto this and will often use whatever random new pronoun he found today in his encyclopedia of neopronouns

Open communication is extremely important to the two so they practice it frequently(I know it’s OCC but in this essay I will-)

They keep almost no secrets from each other

Always inform the other of their plans and if they are injured

Respect keeping each other secrets as they respect each others privacy

Were both hurt by miscommunication in the past so they make sure to always inform the other

KRS is nonverbal

Cale learns sign language to better communicate with KRS first

Rest of the family learn as well

Order:

Kids

Ohn

Hong

Raon

Hans

Ron + Beacrox

Alberu + Rosalyn

Violan + Basen + Lilly

Deruth

Choi Han

Bud Illis

Toonka

Eruhaben already knew sign language

KRS likes to cook for Cale

Cale loves KRS’s cooking

Cale loves to dress KRS up

KRS is fine with whatever as long as it’s comfortable

Cale kisses all of KRS’s scars

KRS finds the scars to be shameful and scary so he gets flustered whenever cale does this

@aro-screams-into-the-void bestie pls opinions I need them!

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crown-jay · 1 year

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A (perhaps-not-so) Friendly Reminder!

Aspec does not mean: "Ace-spec and Aro-spec and that's it". And y'all need to stop saying it is. I know some of it may be unintentional, and that you might be uneducated, but here's the thing:

You can be Aspec with literally any and all forms of attraction.

That's right. If there is a form of attraction, there are people out there who don't experience it, or experience it differently from people who experience it in the "normal", Allo way. And those people are aspec. They might not identify as aspec. They might not even know what that is, but they are inherently aspec. Which means; by saying that aspec identities are just ones that fall under ace-spec and aro-spec, you are excluding a lot of people.

Let's take me for example:

Yes, I am aroace, but I am also:

Aplatonic

Asensual

Nonaesthetic

Analterous

Probably other aspec identities

I am aspec, but that's not just because of my aroace identity.

If you mean ace-spec, just say that. If you mean aro-spec, just say that. If you mean aroace-spec just say that. It is that easy. If you don't mean aspec, don't say aspec.

Edit (5/5/23): It has been brought to my attention that I forgot about Agender folks. My apologies, I had sort of tunnel visioned on attraction types. But yes, Agender people are also Aspec!

#aspec #asexual #aromantic #aroace #acespec #arospec #queer #lgbtq #a friendly reminder #aplatonic #nonaesthetic #asensual #analterous

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onlygayinthecomics · 9 months

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I been thinking about my turtle gender+sexuality headcanons (the ones I am reasonably familiar with)

To start, 2003:

Leonardo: I see him as transmasc, most likely coming out in early childhood by simply requesting that his family refer to him as a boy like his brothers, no fanfair. Probably gay, but I can swing bi/panromantic. I like him on the asexual spectrum. He seems most interested in people who can hold their own in a fight, as well as those with some kind of authority. Subby as fuck.

Raphael: Almost stereotypically masculine, you might think Raph is cis, but I see him more as bigender or a transwoman. She is unaware of this, and will never have any kind of egg moment on his own. Needs Donny to literally remind her that Leo transitioned when they were kids. Bi with heavy gay leaning. Wants a partner who can kick his ass.

Donatello: The rare cis turtle, demiromantic or aromantic pan. Sees sex more as a platonic bonding activity, would probably like a qpr.

Michelangelo: My boy hasn't seen a gender she doesn't like, whether that be for identity or dating. Very fluid in how they see both xirself and the world. I do prefer he/him for Mikey, but I also feel that he wouldn't give a fuck what pronouns are used.

2012 up next

Leonardo: I love transfem Leo with my heart and soul (big shock, I know), however this turtle is a veritable playground for identity headcanons. Leo can be read as transfem, transmasc, bigender, agender or really anything you can think of. Will be supremely insecure about this, even when no one else cares. Sexuality wise, Leo is into you as long as you're related to her able to kick her ass.

Raphael: Can be read as either transfem or transmasc, although I'm personally fond of masc. He'd prefer a woman who will kick his ass before pampering him, or a guy he can bully.

Donatello: Donatello desperately wants to be seen as "normal," to the point of refusing to acknowledge that he is both masc nonbinary and bi.

Michelangelo: Once again our pan king, Mikey will fall in love with most people within minutes of meeting them, even if that is very obviously a bad idea. Dtf whenever, but I actually think Mikey would see sex as just a fun thing to do, rather than something to be actively desired. Prefers a more masc identity, although whether that is as a cis guy or trans varies by the day.

Rise!

Leonardo: A gay transman, big shock I know. Like I don't even think that's a headcanon, I'm pretty sure that's just canon (fight me). I actually think this boy wants an authority figure more than any other Leo, and probably wants to be bullied and praised in equal amounts.

Raphael: I actually see him as cis, but I have seen the transfem art, and see the appeal. Pan as hell, with a preference for the cute and badass. Would probably also like an older partner who could kick his ass.

Donatello: Transmasc nonbinary and living it without shame. Bi, with preference for women.

Michelangelo: "Gender is optional, orange is not" quote stolen from rayshippouuchiha's Naruto Don't Gender Good au. I just think it fits him really well. Ace/aro, but loves the concept of love, just for other people. Arolovic.

I will do Mutant Mayhem after a few rewatches.

#Serialized Queer #tmnt #tmnt 2003 #tmnt 2012 #rottmnt #tmnt leonardo #tmnt raphael #tmnt michelangelo #tmnt donatello #tcest #(for filter)#headcanons #not gonna lose this again

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thefruitanditsmysteries · 2 years

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Guys this is a friendly reminder not to keep aces up your sleeves. We would be more comfortable if hidden under your treancoat instead

#ace pride #asexuality #ace #reminder that the a is for aces aros and agender people

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glowwormm · 2 years

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Happy pride reminder that the “A” stands for asexual, aromantic, aplatonic, and agender. (If I’m missing any please feel free to add on to this.)

It does NOT stand for ally and while allies are welcome and very much encouraged to show their support however they can, they are not inherently LGBTQIA+.

Exclusionists who say aro and ace people are not part of the LGBTQIA+ community just because we feel little to no romantic/sexual attraction are wrong and jealous because they’re not as cool as us.

We exist. We’re here, and we’re not going to be erased by some people who don’t know how to share. LGBTQIA+ is anyone whose sexuality/gender identity falls outside the norm, and that includes the identities I’ve listed.

That’s it. You don’t need to be discriminated against to be queer. And your identity is yours to discover and embrace. No one needs to approve of you in order to be part of a vibrant, diverse, safe community.

You are welcome no matter what.

#lgbt #lgbtqia+#happy pride #pride month #asexual #aromantic #aplatonic #agender #queer

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lord-of-plants · 1 year

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Just a reminder not to use AAA batteries. The living conditions of the aro/ace/agender people needed to make them are truly horrific. Go vegan and start using 9V batteries instead.

#aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #agender #lgbtqia #lgbt memes

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aroaceconfessions · 1 year

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cw not quite shipping, but fandom/headcanon discourse

so i recently saw a post with character headcanons for a series I like and it was super cool, op gave everyone diverse body shapes and skin tones that the canon content didn't have, and it listed queer headcanons for them too like 'cis male', 'trans male', 'agender', 'genderfluid', etc.... and it was kind of neat, and they did sexualities too, but it was always.... ''gay'' or ''bi'' or ''pan'' I think there was one single character they headcanoned as straight. and one asexual that I was actually surprised to see at all by that point. it seemed like they didn't really consider the SAM at all except to make the asexual character also gay. wasn't even specified if it was homoromantic or angled/oriented... idk. like I wanna be clear I'm not upset at seeing someone having fun making headcanons for characters they like, I don't think they should be ashamed or anything, and I'm glad they had fun making a thing even if I don't like it, it's just kind of disheartening and sad to see queer headcanon content and feel like headcanoning them as aro or ace is just kind of....an afterthought. and it wouldn't be so bad normally but like... a few of my aro and ace friends in this fandom reblogged this post so I guess I was kind of expecting more from it. it just kind of felt tokenish and reductive to just have the one alloace headcanon, I almost wish they had just all been allo because it felt like they didn't even want to fully commit to an ace headcanon (I'm alloace myself so I know very well that being alloromantic doesn't make you "less" ace, but in only having the one ace headcanon (out of like. 20 characters) it felt like they thought ace was ok to headcanon only if they could be gay as well. like that classic aphobic "it's ok at least you can still feel X type of love so you're not completely worthless!" comment is what I felt upon seeing it).

I don't even think I would call this aphobia?? but it definitely feels like aro/ace ignorance/unawareness at best, maybe internalized passive aphobia at worst, idk. really reminded me how much I treasure people that put aro and ace headcanons into fandoms. ......i think maybe i will go throw some of my own headcanons to the internet fandom void about this. if i feel this way i bet there are other aspecs in the fandom that do as well.

#fandom discourse #asexual #ace #aspec #acespec #representation #fandom

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