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people fixate on bi-lesbians as being problematic despite bi-gay men existing (as well as any and every combination of sexuality and romantic attraction you can think of) because terfs and radfems deliberately don't want bi women to associate with lesbians and are deeply invested with framing attraction to men As Bad. a sentiment which has invaded queer culture inside and out, intentionally And incidentally.
people fixate on straight cis aromantic men when straight cis aromantic women exist because framing aromantic people as inherently predatory and dangerous by the simple nature of existing is easier to do when you intentionally force the association with predatory dangerous behavior displayed by (and associated with) misogynistic men.
people are still bigoted against bi-gay men and woman aromatics (and any flavor of trans within these groups), but pay attention to the way these conversations are Framed and it's clear the way gender essentialism is being used as a tool to control the narrative.
radfems' gender essentialism says you're supposed to think men are inherently scary, inherently take advantage of women, so Naturally (it is assumed) a man who is sexually attracted to women but not romantically attracted them Must Inherently be predatory and scary. and now you're being asked to take that feeling of unease you've been manipulated into feeling and associate it with the entirety of a sexuality.
bi-lesbians are threatening to radfems because they want to draw inherent lines between these two groups. insist that attraction to and with a man is inherently dirty and dangerous. the same reason why "gold star lesbian" is a radfem concept. if it turns out that the lines between sexualities, between identity as a whole, is blurrier than they want it to be then that Must be framed as inherently dangerous.
if a single Kind of a marginalized group is being singled out to convince you that this group is dangerous or that they don't belong It's For A Reason. they're trying to manipulate you based on Biases (their biases and the ones they hope you have). the reaction to this isn't to abandon the type of person they're convinced are the worst of these groups, it's in solidarity.
aromantics who are men aren't any different from aromantics who are women, bi-lesbians deserve to live in peace just as much as bi-gay men. don't let people control the narrative Either by cutting down vast array of experiences that exist within any given identity, Or by convincing you that particular kinds of people within your communities are lesser than.
#discourse#long post#gender essentialism#sexism#transphobia#aphobia#trans unity#queer unity#inclusionism
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Image description: a photograph taken at a Dyke March. The photo centers on two participants who are in the front right. The person on the left with brown hair and a striped tank top is holding a large handmade sign in rainbow font which reads "Cis-dykes for trans inclusion" and someone next to them holding their hand holds a handmade sign which reads "slut is a social construct."
#dyke march#dyke#lesbian#butch dyke#wlw#nonbinary dyke#nonbinary lesbian#enby lesbian#transbian#trans lesbian#trans wlw#trans woman#trans women#trans pride#transgender#queer#pride#inclusionism#inclusive#photos#photography#queer history
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#s&b art#max squawks#exclusionism#queer discourse#discourse#critinclus#inclusionism#inclusionist#anti transmed#anti bab#anti exclusionist#anti exclus#aphobia#panphobia#enbyphobia#exorsexism#mspec lesbian#lesboy
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lesbigay / bigayles flag
for people who use the labels bi, gay, and lesbian to pin down their complex attraction/identity!!
higher quality + more versions on my twitter
#inclusionist#lgbtq#bi lesbian#bisexual#bisexual lesbian#bi gay#bisexual gay#gaybian#lesbigay#gaybiles#pro mspec#mspec lesbian#mspec gay#mspec mono#mspec friendly#mspec safe#mspec pride#inclusionism#rad inclus#queer inclusivity#queer inclusion#inclus#mogai friendly#mogai#pride flag#mogai coining#mogai safe#flag coining#weird queer#kaz's flags 🏳️🌈🫂
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A WARNING FOR PICREW USERS
There's a picrew called RADCREW and it features stuff like pro- pedophilia, transid, zoophilia, incest, necrophilia, etc..it's very gross and claims being a "critinclus" is being an exclu which it isnt? Anyways just watch out for them. They're gross. Also they're a pro-shipper! Disgusting
#picrew#anti exclusionist#anti map#anti radqueer#real radinclus#inclusionist#inclusionism#inclus#radical inclusion#tw radqueer#tw proship#fuck proshippers#anti ship#tw zoophile mention#tw trace#tw transx#tw transid
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Butch. Sweet, protective, hot, needs met, desire contained and loose all at once, conflicted and simple, heart beating, swishing, sweaty, solid, dirty, right there in the tightly knit pocket of my goddamn fluttering gut, my deepest connection, and only home. Where did i start to get over the hotness and start feeling shame for the connection? When did that shame become more important than the truth? Where did my truth go that a person of any bodily configuration can be butch? How have cissexism, transphobia, and ableism caused me to doubt and judge myself as a butch? Butch, which, despite what anyone else may have to say on the matter, if i just gave it half a chance, could certainly contain this fucked up broken-ass disabled trans body, right? This body that feels so […]
from “Home/Sickness: Self-Diagnosis” by romham padraig gallacher
published in Persistence: All Ways Butch & Femme, ed. Ivan E. Coyote & Zena Sharman (2011)
#romham padraig gallacher#butch#disabled butch#quotes#persistence: all ways butch & femme#image described#mac’s bookshelf#they are our stigmata#inclusionism
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Reminder that gays and lesbians and all same gender attracted people are allowed to have a complex, weird, contradictory and nuanced relationship to their gender identity and nobody's allowed to argue about that. If another gay person doesn't fit your preference move on. Transmasc lesbians and Transfem gays aren't your enemy. Nonbinary lesbians are nonbinary, yes, even if that means bigender, Xenogender, agender, genderfluid. Yes, even if that means they sometimes identify as heteros, bisexuals pansexuals or other multisexuals due to their gender identity. These people are enjoying the full spectrum of the rainbow and you should rather admire them than throw rocks.
Oh, and yes, even if they AREN'T hetero, bi, Pan or other multi orientation where their gender is concerned. If a genderfluid lesbian is most comfortable labeling as a lesbian (regardless of their current gender status) that's none of your fucking business. They're entitled to their preferences the same as you are to yours. "I wouldn't date someone like that, it'd cause me dysphoria/discomfort/ect or make me feel invalidated" okay, that's completely okay. Don't invalidate or cause discomfort or dysphoria on those people then. If two people are comfortable in their identities and care for each other, it's not your place to police their relationship with each other. It's not hurting other gays if two people who identify as gay but have contradicting gender identities love each other. That is a good thing actually? People caring for each other despite or bc of their differences and finding solidarity and comfort in each other regardless of labels, whilst still acknowledging and identifying with them. People can (but don't have to) change their labels when they're dating someone. Wasn't the whole point to break down the barriers of who is and isn't allowed to date each other based on arbitrary standards or gender boundaries. This is about consenting adults who love each other.
People are allowed to exist as being simultaneously mlm and wlw, nonbinary and other gendered people can and do form relationships with heteros and that's okay. Someone can be gay in one aspect and straight in another. Dykes have been boyfriends to girls only for years. Fags have been girlfriends to other boys for years. Transmascs and lesbians have loved and supported each other for years. And yes, dated too.
When you say gender is complex, when you say sexuality and orientation is complex, do you mean it? Or are you just saying that with a side of "When it fits these boundaries obviously"?
I mean it. Questioning people, genderweird and dual people deserve the same respect as any other queer people.
This post includes aces and aros who date and form qprs, and this all also applies to them. It's people's own business what relationships they form in regards to their identities.
#My thoughts#Genderqueer#Genderfluid#Gender#Trans#Dyke#gay fag#D word#F word#transhet#inclusionism#Ace#Aro#queerplatonic#Transfem gay#Transmasc lesbian#Nonbinary lesbian
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thinking about people being so mean to my friends abt their more unusual queer identities and its like? why do u feel the need to get so angry abt someone happy in their identity simply bc u don’t understand it? My 55 year old cishet dad had a coworker that used it/it’s pronouns and even though he didn’t get it, and even when that coworker gave him grief, he still tried to respect its identity and pronouns!!! a man who only uses the internet to order shit for work and read comic strips was more caring and tolerant than some of y’all young queers who call urselves “progressive!!” What happened to “live and let live” or “cringe culture is dead” and why is it a controversial opinion to say that you shouldn’t attack people for being comfortable in their own skin in a way you don’t understand? you will never get anything done by targeting your own community, and we can only stop our oppressors if we put aside our differences and band together. To anyone with an unconventional or controversial queer identity, I love you and and respect you!! Keep on keeping on 💝
Any deranged hate I get for this post will be ridiculed by me and my friends :]
#actual sugar post#exclusionists get BLOCKED#izzy.txt#rambles#blabbering#sugars opinions#queer discourse#queer#lgbt stuff#lgbtqplus#queer stuff#inclusionist#anti exclusionist#anti exclus#inclus#exclus dni#fuck exclusionists#inclusionism
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love how i’ve literally never met a single lesboy who was binary cis yet exclusbians are out here whining that “cishet men can be lesbians now i guess” like almost every lesboy i’ve met has a complex, queer gender, almost all nonbinary, all trans except for one cis lesboy i’ve met, it’s almost like hatred of lesboys is just flat out transphobia. anyways if you’re a lesboy, i know i’ve said it a million times but you’re fucking amazing gosh i hope you know that. gender non-conformity is literally the backbone of the lesbian community like it always has been. ESPECIALLY if you’re a lesboy of color, your identity is one you deserve to have fierce pride in, i know i’m proud of you!!! i’m just in my feels rn about inclusionism and queerness and i just love you all and ahhhhhhhh <333333
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identity fluctuates because the human experience fluctuates. identity is (predominantly) about how you relate to the world and how the world relates to you, and both of those things change quite regularly. so of course your identity isn’t going to be this perfectly stable thing
this is why I’ve always seen my labels as approximations more than anything else. the label is there to:
help describe my feelings to others
help me to bond with other people who have similar feelings
allow me to only investigate my feelings as much as I want to
if a label doesn’t serve me anymore, I discard it. if a label still serves me even though my identity has shifted slightly, I keep it. it’s as easy as that. and if no label is serving you in the way you need it to, then it is perfectly okay to live in an unlabelled space
it can feel scary and uncomfortable when you feel like you’re not the same version of yourself as you used to be, and that’s okay! but it can also be an exciting new adventure, and that’s cool too
anyway — your identity is yours and your labels are yours, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise
#this is a massive ramble because I am tired#but I hope it makes sense#pride#inclusionism#queer#queer stuff#queer pride#identity
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There is a very simple solution to "is [insert combination of identities labels that you feel describes your experience] a thing?" and it is of course it's a thing because you're experiencing it. If you feel using a combination of labels, even if they're seemingly contradictory, is an apt way of describing your experience then it is more than okay to do so
#there are obvious caveats around words that can't be used by everyone for cultural reasons#or words that are just plain not okay and not in good faith. e.g. the appropriation of transrace#queer#lgbtq+#inclusionism#panda's post
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made a little inclusionist graphic ^v^
#inclus#inclusivity#inclusionism#critinclus#contradictory labels#asexual#pansexual#mspec mono#lgbtqiap#lgbtq#lgbt#queer#mogai#s&b art#< not rlly art but i’m putting it here anyways#my banners#yea i’ll put it there too
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Honestly, I find it also quite telling that it is always demanded of mspec lesbians to historically prove their right to exist as their identity. I just feel like, with all the stuff about "transgenderism is a modern trend" and "xenogenders & neopronouns are a modern trend", and all of us always needing to prove with history that we exist, it becomes quite obvious what lesbian exclusionism and lesbian separatism is: just another form of denying people their identities.
The moment you demand someone to prove their identity based on whether it is "new" and "modern" or actually historically documented, you are a shithead, because
1) no one has to prove their identity to you
2) no one's identity has to be around for a longer time to be valid
3) a lot of queer history has been erased, so there's that
4) a lot of queer history is very normative and focused on binarist views on queerness
I am radically inclusionist, because I am convinced that it helps no one if we exclude people based on prescriptivist definitions of labels. The "radical" has been assigned to me by people who wanted the good sound of "inclusionist", but didn't feel like committing to actually including everyone. Yet still, I will take that term with pride, because in our anti-queer society as well as a very policing queer community, yes, it seems to be a radical act to not exclude.
And that is also why those going against me hate the idea of "including all good-faith identities", because it is a pure principle that you can either commit to, or not. The moment you start making exceptions is when you betray that principle. Which is also why there are no "inclusionists" who exclude mspec lesbians. Because they are, as result of their exclusionist stance, exclusionists.
Even less surprising then is the entire force that is used against the word "queer". Its usage as liberating term exceeds by far the use it allegedly found as a "slur". Heck, people use "gay" ten times more as a slur, especially nowadays, and I don't see people going against the reclamation of that term. No, the people taking issue with "queer" that I have encountered so far were, by majority... too young to even have experienced the alleged great usage of it as a "slur". They take issue with the word, because unlike acronyms like LGBTQIA+, it also conveys a stance - that we are weird, yes. By which is meant, yes, we go against norms. We go against regulations of a gendered heteronormative patriarchal society. Our identities may fall in line with their views here and there, but we don't adhere to them, because we are who we are without bending ourselves to what others want us to be. This spirit goes against everything exclusionists and separatists try to do. This spirit is much more common here on tumblr, so no wonder Twitter exclusionists don't feel welcome here at all (and they shouldn't!).
The only reason why history is brought into this entire matter in the first place is that they've tried to use history against us. They've tried to use revisionist radfem history to exclude us just like lesbian separatism has done in the past. Only for them to be proven wrong by those who managed to dig deep enough into the history of the lesbian label. And yet, still, we don't need that history to prove our validity. Because we are here, we are queer, and proud of all that we are, not giving up any of our identities to please others.
#queer#radinclus#inclus#inclusionism#lgbt#lgbtq#lgbtq+#lgbtqia+#lesbian#bi lesbian#mspec#mspec lesbian#this ended up way longer than intended#queerness#gay#monosexism
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Introducing...THE REAL
FOXQUEER/VULPSQUEER 🏳️🌈🦊🏳️⚧️
Foxqueer flag by @julystruck !!
(No ID yet, will try TwT)
Scared of showing your support to all (good faith) identities? Maybe you have x-phobic friends or family members or you're in a place and you just CANT openly express your pride and support. Well, you can be FOXQUEER (epic guitar riff)
Foxqueer is part of the Queer Stance category. Starting with Radqueer (🤮) and uh...yeah it's kinda a mess right now. Anyways.
Foxqueer portrays the way foxes are sneaky. Showing your pride in secret and stuff!
Foxqueer supports:
All queer identities (YES THIS INCLUDES MSPEC LESBIANS/GAYS AND SHIT SO STFU)
Systems of all origin! (No, not transplural and NO ENDO OR WILLOWGENIC IS NOT TRANSPLURAL I WILL S U E YOU!!)
Otherkins! Alterhumans! Therians!
Furries! Fuck you, cringe culture!
Anyone and everyone who needs that support.
FOXQUEER DOES NOT SUPPORT
Radqueer or its other types
Transids
Pro-contact non-consensual paraphilias
People who make Genders relating to harmful paras (ex: pedogender)
Any harmful identitiesterm...
SO SOME TRANSID ASSHOLE TRIED TO RECLAIM MY TERM, WELL FUCK YOU. YOU CANT TAKE THIS FROM ME. THIS IS THE REAL FOXQUEER.
#Queer Stance Umbrella#QSU#actually radinclus#inclusionist#inclusionism#inclus#fuck exclusionists#exclus dni#radical inclusion#radinclus#foxqueer#anti radqueer#anti transid#anti transx#need flag
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when i was about five, i was having a conversation with my parent. presumably, my point wasn’t coming out right and i was frustrated. i said this:
“Sometimes, I take a deep breath in, and I find a word that would be grateful to land in my sentence. But then I realize it wasn't the word I was looking for, and I let my breath out again, and I sigh.”
my parent found that quote poetic, so he wrote it down, noting that the date was june 30th. now, on that day years later, i am also fascinated by it. i think it speaks to a lot of things.
i love the way it’s phrased. it so perfectly encapsulates the emotion it’s trying to convey. that emotion is one that i’m rather familiar with. words seem to mean a lot to me. i strive to use them deliberately. when a word communicates exactly what i want it to, i feel at ease. it’s like a weight gets taken off of my shoulders. i think that it is indeed a sense of gratitude. and it’s so upsetting when a word does not snap smoothly into place within my sentence. i do often sigh in exasperation. it feels dirty, in a way. like the edges of the object i’m touching are rough, scratching up my skin, depositing a sticky residue on my hands in the process. it feels like i must have done something wrong.
i’ve struggled to recognize this particular aspect of my hyperverbality. even as i’m writing this, i’m uncomfortable: “what if i’m exaggerating? i don’t want people to think that i’m something that i’m not.”
in that sense, my five-year-old self knew things about me that my current self has had to fight to relearn. it took rediscovering that quote for me to realize that i’ve actually always experienced this linguistic precision.
a common debate is over whether your traits are fluid and changeable, or if you’re “born-this-way”. after reading that quote, i’m starting to think that it can be both. for me personally, i would say that it’s not like the person i am has changed all that much, but the way in which i’ve described - and therefore contextualized - my experiences has.
“do i like words because i’m ‘mature’? i’m mature because i have nvld! or maybe i’m queer! i’m definitely queer! wait, i’m not the same kind of queer that i thought i was. oh, i guess it’s autism… maybe i learned it from social media? do i even have autism? what do any of these words even mean?!”
the point is, i think there’s a lot of value in approaching yourself from different dialectical perspectives. we are constantly filtering all of our input through our senses, and it’s impossible to be truly objective about anything. so how does your perception of your own experience change when you try thinking about it in different ways?
#k says words#k gets political#k’s identity hoard#long post#hyperverbal#autism#nvld#neurodivergent#neuroqueer#queer#inclusionism#poetry
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Pan Lesbian Tidal Terms
okay you know what this is by now, if not check the tidal terms tag. Flags based on Kenochoric's pan lesbian flag!
#1: Full-Moon Springtide Pan Lesbian
[Image ID: A 5 striped flag modeled after the pan lesbian flag by kenochoric. The top stripe is a dark red; the second one down is a dark, dusty orange; the middle stripe is white; the second to last stripe is a bright sea foam green; the bottom stripe is aqua blue. The flag on the left has a fade between the top two stripes and bottom two stripes, and the middle stripe is glowing. Both flags have turquoise full moons.]
Meaning: Someone who considers themselves a pan lesbian because they're attracted to all genders that could be considered part of lesbian attraction, usually equally! Ex: wlw and everyone who could be considered wlnb.
#2: First-Quarter Neaptide Pan Lesbian
[Image ID: A 5 striped flag modeled after the pan lesbian flag by kenochoric. The top stripe is a dark red; the second one down is a reddish oranhe; the middle stripe is a bright yellow; the second to last stripe is a deep aqua green. The bottom stripe is teal. The flag on the left has a fade between the top two stripes and bottom two stripes, and thw middle stripe is glowing. Both flags have turquoise half moons, with the left half being obscured by shadow.]
Meaning: Someone who considers themselves a pan lesbian because they are pan, but either a) their attraction to genders considered part of lesbian attraction is much greater than their attraction to other genders, and as such they feel somewhere in between pan and lesbian, or b) they're only comfortable having relationships with people who would normally fall under lesbian attraction.
#3: New-Moon Springtide Pan Lesbian
[Image ID: A 5 striped flag modeled after the pan lesbian flag by kenochoric. The top stripe is a deep, very dark red; the second one down is a dark, dusty reddish orange; the middle stripe is a slightly desaturated yellow; the second to last stripe is a bright aqua green. The bottom stripe is between teal and blue. The flag on the left has a fade between the top two stripes and bottom two stripes, and the middle stripe is glowing. Both flags have turquoise new moons.]
Meaning: Someone who considers themselves a pan lesbian because they use the split attraction model, and are lesbian in one form of attraction and pan in another.
#4: Third-Quarter Neaptide Pan Lesbian
[Image ID: A 5 striped flag modeled after the pan lesbian flag by kenochoric. The top stripe is a deep, dark, slightly pinkish red; the second one down is a slightly lighter, more orange shade; the middle stripe is a very pale yellow; the second to last stripe is a dark color between teal and green. The bottom stripe is an even darker color between teal and blue. The flag on the left has a fade between the top two stripes and bottom two stripes, and the middle stripe is glowing. Both flags have turquoise half moons, with the right half being obscured by shadow.]
Meaning: Someone who considers themselves a pan lesbian because they are pan, and are reclaiming the historical definition of lesbian!
#5: Tidalphasic Pan Lesbian
[Image ID: The original pan lesbian flag by kenochoric with its slightly dark, pinkish red top stripe, orange second stripe, pale greenish yellow middle stripe, bring aqua green second to last stripe, and bottom aqua blue stripe, with an overlay of 4 turquoise moons in a small arc. From left to right, they are a full moon, a half moon with left side shadow, a new moon, and a half moon with right side shadow. The left flag also has a fade between the top two stripes and bottom two stripes, and the middle stripe is glowing]
Meaning: Someone who's reason for identifying as a pan lesbian is fluid and changes. They go through the many phases of possibilities just like the moon and tide!
#6: Midtide Pan Lesbian
[Image ID: A 5 striped flag modeled after the pan lesbian flag by kenochoric. The top stripe is a dusty red; the second one down is a bright orange; the middle stripe is a pale yellow; the second to last stripe is a light, slightly bluish green; the bottom stripe is a slightly desaturated aqua blue. The flag on the left has a fade between the top two stripes and bottom two stripes, and the middle stripe is glowing. Both flags have turquoise crescent moons.]
Meaning: A pan lesbian who's experience was not covered by this post, or a pan lesbian who's experience is a mix of the labels here. You are all valid pans/lesbians but I don't know every way to be a pan lesbian! Just like the tide, lesbian experiences aren't rigid and there are times you are in between two.
Please feel free to coin your own tidal labels! And thanks for checking out the blog
[Image ID: A reddish brown image bordered with the aurora lesbian, lunian, bi lesbian, and omni lesbian flags. There's an illustration of a calico cat and text that reads "PLEASE: •Check my pinned before following •DNI: Pedos, zoos, people seeking discourse, solicitors, and anyone seeking a relationship with me." End ID.]
#pan lesbian#mspec lesbian#mspec lesbian safe#bi lesbian#pan lesbian safe#tidal labels#lgbt#lgbtq#mogai coining#mogai#mogai identity#mogai orientation#orientation coining#inclusionist#inclusionism#inclus
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