Lets create a house where yelling means we’re having fun. When you hear a door slam you know it was accidentally pulled with too much strength, not slammed out of anger. When there is silence, it is Contentment, not another passive aggressive fight. The dog is no longer barking to protect, he simply just wants the cats to play with him. Let’s create a safe, warm environment that makes you feel like you can breathe, not hold your breath. Let’s stomp on the eggshells we use to tip toe on. Together we will make this house into a home. And welcome all with open arms into this kind and loving space.

It's end of May, yall know what that means

reblog this if your account is a safe space for polyamorous and non-monag people or is owned by someone who is polyamorous or non-monogamous

op is a monogamous person who felt they haven't seen enough posts acknowledging this part of the queer community outside of non-monogamous circles and blogs

dyall. people. bitches. stop making a fuss over ppl's identities.

"but they have genderfluid and also mlm in their bio!"

fuckin. so what?????

"but they use it/its pronouns!"

doesnt affect you. shut the fuck up.

"but they use neos and emojis as pronouns!"

literally so what?? it's harmless!!!

"but they wont label themself for me!"

idgaf, not your business.

"but they say they're an animal!"

literally ok? how. does that affect you.

"but they think that theyre something that doesnt even exist!"

yes and that's very cool of them

"but they use animals and nouns as their pronouns!"

do i look like i care? no? that's because i dont.

"but they-!"

DOESNT FUCKING AFFECT YOU. OK. YOU HEAR ME??? IT. DOES. NOT. AFFECT. YOU.

YOU SHOULD NOT CARE SO MUCH ABOUT HOW SOMEONE EXPRESSES THEIR IDENTITY. IT LITERALLY DOES NOT TAKE A N Y T H I N G TO NOT BE AN ASSHOLE.

Here is a movement from a larger work advocating for increased inclusion and acceptance of LGBTQIA+ individuals in various Faith traditions; in particular, Christianity.

Well if your pronouns include “he” now, don’t you know you don’t need safe spaces? After all they give you full gender rights under misogyny, and you’re suddenly more likely to be violent sexual and queerphobic. I’m just affirming your gender after all, so I can’t be transphobic /s

Aro vs Ace

As someone who’s aroace i’ve noticed a very clear cultural distinction between people who are just ace and people who are aroace. One of the most commonly used phrases i’ve seen in the ace community is the classic “we’re still human, we still feel love” excuse. A phrase that throws every aromantic individual under the bus when certain aces try to defend their orientations to straight people.

If you grew up aroace, or just aromantic, you’ve most likely felt broken. Surrounded by love being broadcasted as a milestone, and forced upon everyone with romcoms , true loves kisses, and “there’s someone for everyone” type phrases. If you grew up ace, you felt broken too. Surrounded by first times, the purity of virginity, and the fantasies that everyone seemed to have. However, people are more likely to be accepting of aces, because they see it as a choice to stay celibate. While that’s not true, they have something to lean back on, something pre-existing that allows their “choice” to be accepted. But when people hear of someone who doesn’t experience love? That is much less likely to be accepted. You will be told that you are broken. You will still be believed to have made this as a choice, and people will try to convince you to rethink the decision. There is nothing to lean back on, because the idea of being loveless, will always going with being heartless. You’re suddenly a monster, you are not pure.

Over the past few years, asexual has becoming a growing label in the community. Asexual characters appear all over media, it’s actually a much more common label now. There is still discrimination, there is still hate, but there is more acceptance than there has ever been before. Aros are at a point where they’re still more likely to be shunned for their lack of attraction, all while watching their Ace friends be accepted. Because at least they still love, right? They’re not completely broken, unlike them. Because love is love. The very phrase that isolates us from the community. If love is love, where the hell do we go? What if there is no love?

For this reason, I always resonated more with the aromantic part of aroace. Whenever I scroll the ace tag, or talk with ace people, I’m still finding myself being outcasted, feeling as if the label shouldn’t even apply to me. To scroll the aro tag, I feel much more at home. They don’t hold messages with cruel undertones, there is no undermining of ace identities, just an embrace of our collective independence.

I’m aroace, but I hardly feel ace.

people have said "the girls and gays" so much that a lot of cishet women are under the impression that gay bars are spaces that should prioritize their comfort as well, even if they're not queer

Stop scrolling to save sites like ao3 and tumblr

Sign petitions stopping this bill, KOSA would allow the right to sue and take down websites like ao3 and tumblr for having queer content and being a safe space for queer people

louis, lestat, and their single bed as a motif louis puts into his own story, but refuses to explore, is literally one of the sexiest parts of the show. it speaks volumes about a level of fulfillment and freedom that louis feels by being with lestat that he rarely explicitly comments on when he's relaying his story to daniel, which feels extremely relevant to his overall reluctance to examine the parts of his relationship with lestat that he really enjoyed.

because louis is a character who's hyper aware of how he presents himself. he's lived his entire life projecting a certain masculine, heteronormative image, and he's aware of how deviating from that presentation has implications that impact how people view him - from enjoying the opera, to the presentation of his nails. the fact that he moves in with lestat and neither of them ever put a second bed into any room in the house as a level of plausible deniability is so huge and oversight by so cautious a character, it can only be read as deliberate - especially when the conspicuous lack of a second bed is pointed out to them by both antoinette and a literal police officer. in an existence where you don't sleep in a bed, the bed becomes a symbolic object more so than a practical one. it's louis choosing to deliberately transgress against the societal expectations he lives out when he leaves his house, a bit of presentation that actually amplifies his truth as a gay man living with his partner, rather than masking or hiding himself, like he does for the outside world.

Exclusionists will be blatantly bigoted and then turn around and claim that the pan lesbian they sent death threats to is the true danger to the community 💀

For all alterhuman and queer people

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Clifford Prince King, Safe Space, 2020

My dad is a punk, my mom is a punk, my uncles are punks, my godfathers are punks, my godmothers are punks, and you think I have an ounce of conformist blood in me? No. Elitists go fuck yourselves I'm gonna wear a fucking tail if I want to, I'm gonna wear a fucking basic fit if I wanna, I'm gonna wear 5 Chokers if I wanna, I'm gonna wear kandi if I wanna, I'm gonna mix subcultures (clothing) if I wanna, but I will ALWAYS be a punk, because my values, my music taste, and my safe space do not change. I love yall, and no matter who you are I'm proud of you for making it this far. Don't let elitists anywhere get to you, as long as you are genuinely trying to learn and be a part of ur community you are valid, and I love and support you.

-xoxo, ur local queer punk rock tortoise owner (/-\)

my arospec experience is being arospec but also supporting aplatonics so i feel really alienated from the aro community because a lot of it is really platonormative and uncomfortable and it's just really alienating for anyone who isnt aplphobic :/

:( yeah, it can be pretty bad for apls sometimes. Hopefully we can spread awareness and make our space more inclusive :)