my aro experience is so weird but so silly at the same time. like i constantly thought i was bi but anytime someone asked me “oh who do you like” or “do you have a crush on anyone” i’d just be like “hmmm who do i like?” like it was so in front of me that i wasn’t attracted to anyone but i was still so focused on figuring out who i liked that the thought straight didn’t pop up in my head (mainly bc i was usually asked by people who were insistent that I spill the “tea”) but then that was mainly bc i didn’t even know aromatics existed until i saw it on a list of sexualities and immediately related to the definition and finally went “oh shit i actually don’t have any attraction to anyone” but then figured out i still participate in things people usually classify as “romantic” (hugging, holding hands, etc) so i was like “wait maybe i’m not aro?” and then didn’t find out abt bellusromantic until like a few months later

tl;dr i’m a bellus that didn’t realize after MANY months of thinking i was bi

god am i indecisive, eh who cares i’m happy now

:) I’m so glad you’re happy!

I think I am closer to coming to terms with my aromanticism.

I am cupioromantic, 0 romantic attraction, and I am getting more comfy saying I'm aroace for example, and that it's ok that I don't feel romantic attraction. I am just happy :D

:D I’m so glad you are coming to terms with your identity!

i did it!! i ended a romantic relationship. the confrontation thingy was gonna make me sht and puke at once, idk why is that.

but it's gone now, god damn. finally.

REJOICEEE

my aroace experience is rejoicing in this kind of stuff when typically people weep. YEEEEHAWWW

:) good on you!

this has probably already been done, but it popped into my brain and I had to make it so here you go

+ aroallo, non-sam aro, and neu aro variants

➹DON'T TAG THIS AS ASEXUAL/ACE OR AROACE➹

an aro experience i have is seeing many other aro people get asked out and say they feel gross about it while for me i’ve never had someone interested in me like that so i don’t know what i’d feel like, i know i’m not into people romantically but maybe i would want to be in a relationship with someone? the thought of it doesn’t sound so appealing, but maybe i’m just confused?

Only you can decide what is best for you. Just do what feels right :)

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Learning that I'm aromantic (specifically cupioromantic aroflux) has genuinely been so comforting for me. All this time I thought I had romantic feelings quite frequently, but it turns out those were other types of feelings, and although I was surprised at first when I realized I'm aro, now I'm so happy that I know this is who I am :) 💛

I’m glad your happy with yourself :D

Hi so like i uh tw romantic relationship and someone called me a narc.

I really identify as Frayromantic and Akoiromantic no one is gonna change my mind and it kinda sucks because when i do get a partner i just... It really just disappears. I dont know why but once someone reciprocates the affection escapes my body. But i really genuinely cared for them before.

and the fact that I dont have what it takes to tell them that im not feeling it anymore makes this so much worse. So it really just goes bland real quick.

This time around my partner is pointing fingers at me and started calling me a narcissist and i wondered why.

I did some research and yeah, okay, fair enough. Lovebomb at first and fizzles out immediately, now im rethinking if im really just a narc using microlabels as a scapegoat. Im so sorry. I kinda feel like a dick, is this normal?

I don't think you're just using microlabels as an excuse, if the labels feel right to you. I'm not a professional though, so I really can't give you any helpful advice, sorry. Maybe anyone who has been in a similar situation can give some advice?

No matter what you decide, you are valid, and I hope things work out for you.

pretty :D

FINALLY GOT MYSELF AN ARO RING YIPPEE!!!

starting to think that i was so attached to the idea of having a romantic partner purely because it would mean that there was somebody who couldn’t leave me without seeming like a dick. wow that sounds really sad when i type it out

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allo ppl can be so confusing sometimes like wdym saying someone’s name a lot means you’re in love ?? (genuinely heard multiple ppl say that) i love names sm they’re so personal to people why wouldn’t i say my friends name in a convo ?? especially since some of my names have such pretty and fun names to say

:)

I wonder if the allos know you can be down bad platonically

Reblog to let people know that people identifying identities "cis-nazi" and "cis-zionist" are not welcome on your blog.

I shouldn't have to explain why this is a fucking stupid thing. Just... no. You don't "identify" as a nazi, you're just a raging fucking nazi/racist piece of shit.

my aro experience is playing minecraft modpacks, desperately wanting to find a village, and when finding one also finding out one of the mods literally made villages useless by making them about romance & offspring/procreation (iirc its called minecraft comes alive). the amount of disappointment i felt should count as pain /lh

:(

thanks to that one anon from a few months ago that said dnd was better than amatonormativity because that phrase has taken off

I don't know who needs to hear this, but:

It is absolutely fine to use a label, only to realise it doesn't suit you anymore. Labels aren't there to bind you to them. They serve as a way to better describe how one feels and what ones lived experience can be like.

I had two pipelines of relabeling myself simultaneously.

From bi to lesbian, and back to bi.

From asexual to demisexual (because I thought, that one day, maybe I feel this kind of attraction, as sex-ambivalent and oscillating were terms I related with, and still do), and back to being asexual.

Does that make me less sapphic or a-spec? Absolutely not.

And to be honest: I still haven't figured out if I'm demiromantic or aromantic. And that is perfectly fine. We don't own anyone an explanation, but ourselves.

If the label felt good at that time, but doesn't anymore, let it go and take the one that feels more fitting. ♡ We are human beings. We are allowed to grow. You are valid, no matter which label you choose.