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cherichli · 4 months

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𝐅𝐈𝐂𝐊𝐋𝐄 𝐋𝐎𝐕𝐄,,; ₊˚⊹⋆ [Megumi drabble]

𝐬𝐲𝐩𝐧𝐨𝐬𝐢𝐬,,, °⋆.࿔*:･}} Based on my experience with a guy friend (but exaggerated and jujutsu-fied) because I'm in denial and this is the first time I've actually liked someone besides platonic or familial love. Anyways, he reminds me of Megumi (LIKE A LOT, LOT.) so, I decided to write this down to somehow express this searing sensation of 'crushing'

𝐖𝐀𝐑𝐍𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐒!!! [F] READER! ,,, self-indulgent ,,, slight-humor (I'm apathetic, stop this is so hard) ,,, overthinking ,,, wholesome ,,, pinch of angst ,,, insecurities ,,, bad grammar ,,, crushing! Megumi ,,, ehh I don't know anymoree

˚ ༘ ೀ⋆｡˚ ] YOU WEREN’T accustomed to love. It was a fickle thing; ephemeral; short–lived… it never concerned you to deal with boys who weren’t worth your time. They couldn’t even come close to the men you’ve liked in the fictional world— who are green flags, ones who don't even compare to real people— you’ve witnessed second–hand how absurd guys were: The prejudice against women was slowly shifting, leaving more room for women to enjoy their lives as they pleased. You weren’t an active feminist… nor bash guys on twitter to prove a point.

You were someone in–between.

Someone who was willing to listen to both sides yet, call out the other if it’s blatant ignorance or discrimination. And in this case… you’d call ‘sides’ with women… look, It wasn’t like you had a bias towards guys— or you do. Based on some uncomfortable experiences with some— you just… dislike them! Not that bad, right?

It wasn’t like the whole world would turn on you because of that.

…there could be a possibility. Maybe. It depends, really.

What can you say? You’d never shown that much concern for boys— heck! Ever since 10 years ago, you already had a type for green flags, who’d understand your current dilemma. Opting to provide a semblance of comfort and safety whenever you need it, without asking for it. So maybe, you’re heavily into fictional men who’d actually treat you right, and understand your lack of knowledge in the field of romance.

So maybe, you like the quiet guy– Megumi Fushiguro, the new student in your grade. He sat farther from you but you would never look past his dark spikey locks— ones that'll leave you questioning if it was real or fake— his emerald eyes glinting in boredom. His stupidly long lashes that makes your stomach churn whenever he’d flutter it your way. His marble–like face: clear, unlike yours: acne marks. Blemishes. Dull–sunken eyes. Frizzy, unkempt hair. Protruding bangs that stab your pores in every direction.

Imperfections, that hinders your full potential to be pretty.

The potential to be called pretty everyday— in–waking conscious and subconscious— the potential to be called pretty by Megumi Fushiguro .

So maybe, you fell in love. Or found a crush… with the guy next room (Eugh, as a 15 year old? Are you serious?) So! maybe, you finally liked someone after years of cringing and avoiding dance partners. Maybe you were actually compatible with a guy like him…? (WHAT ARE YOU SAYING?! YOU AREN’T READY FOR COMMITMENT!!!?) Orr, you're being delusional.

Stupidly and idiotically delusional. Yep, that would explain this tingle of emotion whenever you’d peer at Megumi, finding his gaze straight at you; or the burning ‘sation of his fingers brushing against yours; Megumi’s small smile at your squawking laughter— YUP. COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY DELUSIONAL. FEELING INFATUATED AND ONLY LIKING THE IDEA O–

“Is [name] here?” Speak of the devil and he shall appear.

You blink out of your reverie— [eye c.] flickering to him. Heart stuttering at the resting–pout you always display; your sunken eyes. Pale [lip c.] slightly–chapped and dry. Pinkish cheeks as little bumps curve around them. Bangs tipping up–sideways. Brows knitted, and oh, he wishes he could rub the space between them. Your figure warming his ivory cheeks— looking up to Megumi standing outside the classroom’s door, his jacket in–hand as he awkwardly stands there.

Standing up, you saunter over to Megumi. Smiling as you gently reach for his jacket— the material searing your skin in a strange sensation— thanking him and hugging it close to your chest. He nods calmly. Promptly leaving for homeroom, a few doors down.

NOBARA AND Yuuji watched— the brunette choking the boy’s neck. Trying to cease the burst of butterflies as she cheered silently. Yuuji grasped the door’s frame tightly, cracking the wood– crying in tears at Megumi’s ‘first’ move— “Thanks, Megumi.” [name] smiled, causing the male to visibly stiffen, silently nodding as he turned away: rosy cheeks as he sighs dreamily. Bubbles of warmth exploding in his guts. A smile on a normally scowling–Megumi.

CRACK!

“AAAA! YUUJI BROKE THE DOOR!?!” Megumi’s eyes widened, lips twitching in disdain “The fuck?! Does he have a Gorilla grip or su—”

“He can gorilla grip deez nu—”

“WAAAHH, FUSHIGUROOOO!!!!!!” The two exclaim. Dramatically crying as Megumi scowls. Irritated and annoyed at the prospect of those two idiots—

“Oi–” suddenly bombarded by the two breaching his boundary.

“WHEN'S THE WEDDING?”

“I’M THE BEST MAN, RIGHT?”

“I’M GONNA BE THE BEST AUNT!”

“W-wha—”

“HOW MANY KIDS?!!!”

“I need 5 children, which needs to be ALL GIRLS.”

“All girls?!?! WHAT ABOUT BOYS HUH, YOU MISANDRIST.”

“AT LEAST I’M NOT A PERVERT–”

“I'LL LET YOU KNOW. I'M A VERY RESPECTFUL AND KIN—”

“TO EVERY GIRL WHO ISNT JENNIFER LAWRENCE.”

“THIS IS SO UNFAIR! YOU KNOW DAMN WELL HOW HOT SHE IS.”

“My fucking god. Will you two ever stop screaming?” SMACK 2X

“OW!” “ABUSER!!”

SLAP!!!

PULLING THE clothing over your head, you check yourself over the mirror: jacket a denim color. Fitting snugly against your hips— Stomach fluttering as you catch the scent of sugared almond–vanilla; It wasn’t strong nor faint. Sweetly pleasant, too. Does he use Burberry Brit?

“Huh?” You freeze. Hiding your flushing face.

(What the hell are you thinking?!!? You aren’t even together, dumbass! You’re borrowing it because you asked— not because he willingly gave it…to you…)

And somehow. your stomach dulled; butterflies turning to flies as they buzz. Buzz, and buzz. You’d understand if he doesn’t feel the same– maybe, you were reading into this encounter a little. Little would be an understatement. Would it be possible to be anxious about a guy? Yes definitely. But! It's not like he’s done anything bad… he was just helping out! He’s a friend of yours, so get that in your head.

You’re just delusional. A hopeless romantic who never knew what it’s like to actually love someone— heck! This might be infatuation and not actually him doing a lot of stuff for you because he wants to—

didn’t you hear he loves someone else? (..really?)

You cringed. Dismissing your thoughts, “he’s not even mine. And this is how I think of him? God. This is embarrassing.” you sigh. You’re never gonna get accustomed to love, huh.

unedited,,; 997 words.

°⋆.࿔*:･}} I don't know man. Having a crush is so weird. Anyways!!! Hope you enjoyed this mess I wrote to express bits of emotions I felt :DD

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cosmerelists · 6 months

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Biggest Green Flags of Cosmere Villains

Last week I talked about the biggest red flags of various Cosmere characters. And while doing so, I realized that the Cosmere sure does have some walking red-flag factories! So let's take those characters whose red flags number in the hundreds and give them a chance: what are the biggest green flags of characters who don't have many to their name?

Note: I'm using "villain" loosely here--sure, some of these guys had heel face turns or may be more antihero than villain, but listen. They're all morally gray at least.

Szeth: Keeps his promises.

Denth: Good sense of humor.

Aesudan: Knows how to party.

Tarvangian: Only considered eugenics--no implementation!

Crow: Did NOT (successfully) sell a woman into slavery.

Lezian: Very goal-oriented.

Raboniel: Promotes women in science.

Iyatil: Can commit to the bit.

Mraize: Seems to care about his bird, I guess?

Moash: Anti-slavery. Anti-unlawful imprisonment. Gently moves aside a child before killing his father.

Miles: Wants to help the downtrodden. Should be friends with Moash.

Lord Ruler: Really good at naming things (@cosmere-cosmeme)

Hrathen: Sharp dresser.

Dilaf: Good public speaker.

Amaram: Good wages and benefits for any of his men that he's not murdering.

Ialai: Lots of spies friends.

Sadeas: Knows his wife's favorite place to have her back scratched.

Straff: Helpfully manages to be SO terrible that you can enjoy his death guilt-free. So generous!

#cosmere #cosmerelists #Szeth #Denth #Aesudan #Lezian #Raboniel #Iyatil #Mraize #Lord Ruler #Hrathen #Dilaf #Amaram #Ialai #Sadeas #Straff #Miles Hundredlives

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gothicprep · 1 year

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things i've learned on my travels, taken with the understanding that i don't always follow my own advice

yes means yes. no means no. maybe means no. you shouldn't be confused. the "if he wanted to he would" meme is real. men don't play hard to get. this is probably the most important piece of advice on this list.

when women like you, they're going to assume a lot of other people are pursuing you because she thinks they look at you the same way she does.

a lot of people are compulsive liars. don't let white lies slip, even if they're coming from a place of insecurity.

not having friends is a red flag.

you need varsity level patience to date addicts, and former addicts count here too.

convoluted dating advice is always a grift.

if you're constantly pursuing emotionally unavailable people, you're probably emotionally unavailable too.

predictable is good.

people who don't text you a bunch after a few hours or days of slow responses are a green flag. distance yourself if they start blowing your phone up outside of emergencies or heated arguments.

that said, double texting someone who likes you won't make them stop liking you. fifty? yeah. two? relax.

early in the relationship, pay attention to how they treat you when you're down. if they minimize your feelings, it's probably not worth sticking around.

people can only be fake for three months. that's why a lot of breakups happen at the three month mark.

you should only have weird sex because you're so into each other that you've run out of ways to say "i love you"

don't commit before you've seen them handle extreme amounts of stress.

"the candle that burns twice as bright burns half as long" is almost always true.

never date someone you wouldn't want to be seen in a restaurant with.

people say some bonkers shit during sex, including professions of love that they don’t necessarily mean. don’t hang onto it too tightly. that’s not a “receipt.”

they're not leaving their partner for you, and you don't want to be with them if they do.

you should like how they smell. no, really, it's extremely important.

hope is the last thing that dies.

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lexezombie · 3 months

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I realize I should post these on here since tumblr might like them more than twitter did

I wanna preface it first by saying: some of these were requested by my friends and were made back in 2020 + 2021 so some of these are outdated/other people have made the same thing - but I feel like showing them anyway

I made a whole twt thread about them in 2022 for pride month : )

SO NOW LETS LOOK AT SOME FLAGS!

Bambi Lesbian (ace lesbian) In the 80s there was a term for lesbians that were specifically ace: Bambi (stripes: butch, stem, femme, andro, nonbinary & trans) I'm not actually sure how true this is, but I remember seeing a post about it

2. Fem-Nonbinary (she/they) + Masc-Nonbinary (he/they)

These are basically outdated completely since other people have created very similar versions; if not the exact same thing

3. Queer Army

This one has a lot to explain. I am in no way a supporter of war, obviously- but I've noticed the closest thing gay-veterans have is the flag that's for an army kink; and that doesn't... feel right?

I felt it was needed since being queer in the military is discriminated against both while both in AND out of it-- so this one is for all of the gays, queers, etc that had to go into the military for any reason (to put themselves through school, to get benefits(?), draft, etc)

(each of the stripes in the background represents the branches of the military Light blue: Air-force, Pale blue: Marines, Pale cyan(?): Coast Guards, Dark blue: Navy, Green: Army)

4. Ambi

er... kinda? I made this before I knew about the term ambi (within the context of mono/poly) specifically for myself since I didn't feel 100% mono or 100% poly

tbh with the infinity sign and seeing it again myself its giving me autism vibes so ig younger me accidently made an autism-poly flag?? Has anyone made a QPR flag...?

5. Parsexual (masc) + Parsexual (fem)

This one is important to me: its one I made specifically for myself, as a label to use after people got angry at me just calling myself gay & I felt the labels I did have were long-winded to say & 'queer' didn't quite fit. The original one I made had symbols on it (heart and spade; heart for sexual/romantic & spade for ace/romantic)

the main difference between Masc + Fem is the colour swap The Masc one is sexual/romantic towards men/masc & ace/romantic towards women/fem; so the Fem is reversed

The name is a combo of partial & sexual (it made sense to my brain)

(Stripes: Colours: light blue - femme men, darker blue - andro men, purple - masc men, white - nonbinary/andro/fluid/etc, pink - femme women, orange - andro women, dark orange - masc women)

#pride #LGBT+#lgbtqia #lexart #kinda?#flag design #flag #queer #pride flags #nonbinary #lesbian #gay #asexual #polyamory #idk if ambi has a tag?#this is an anti terf post btw lmao #protrans acc sorry terfs #we also respect pronouns round here pardner

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somewillwin · 8 months

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Sorry I know this has nothing to do with art, which ur art is beautiful! I was just wondering if you had any facts about nico (your infamous oc) that you could share. I love their aesthetic. 👀

oof! do I have fact! ajsdjhdajh i think i made one of this a while ago but who cares i love nico.

-ok so first of all she's a mess. ajdkadj tho thats obvious.

-she uses glasses when she writes songs and contacts all the other times

-she has abandonment issues, I mean her parents where never there…. And then…. Seven. She basically thinks she’s the problem. I mean she’s the only constant in all the abandonment.

-she’s bisexual. Sometimes hides the seven tattoo with a bisexual flag wrist band

-she plays the piano, guitar, and had an harmonica phase hahahha

-she doesn’t think she’s as talented in those as Rowan or Iris. So she just uses them to help compose the melody of the songs.

-(this is a headcanon for now cause idk if it will come up in the book or not. I might change this later depending on what happens) she shut herself off from the band after what happened with the vote and the fallout with seven. She blamed them for a while, but then she went back to blaming herself.

-she started to fall into drugs in that period where she was shutting everyone out. That’s also when she shaved her head.

-she never dated after seven. Just flings and one night stands with men, cause she knows she will be comparing every women to seven.

-(this is another headcanon cause I don’t know if it will be addressed in the book) she hit rocked bottom from all the drugs and stuff. She OD once and got scared after so she got herself into rehab.

-I think there might have been a year she was clean, before the botb started and all the pressure kept mounting and she did a bit of cocaine in the bathroom before the audition.

-she misses Lucy everyday ofc. But she loves seven enough to respect her boundaries…. Even if it hurts her cause Lucy was also her mother figure. (I need to know Lucy POV of this whole issue with ex seven or im gonna die)

-she’s still madly in love with seven ofc. But she doesn’t think she’s good enough. I mean, if she wasn’t good enough then she’s def not good enough now.

-she blames herself for what happened between them…. Even if she doesn’t understand how it really happened. How did they get to that point.

-she regrets most of all losing her best friend tbh.

- she’s def jealous of avina…. But think they would make a good match. She just wants seven to be happy.

- she would fight for seven tho. Even if she’s not enough…. If seven shows even a silver lining of interest. She would fight everyone.

And lastly! No one figured out why she dyed her hair green hsjsjsjs so.

-green is her favorite color since it reminds her of seven’s eyes 💚

Oof! Those were a lot! A wip to add some art to the mess that it’s Nico.

Anyway! Play @infamous-if

#gabi answers things #infamous if #nico rose #infamous oc #seven x Mc #myart

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punamc · 2 months

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I've met a lot of guys in my life. Befriended many and hated a few. A common thing about all the guys that I've seen is that they change drastically after a certain age or a certain stage of their life. I've seen my childhood best friends become a "Sigma male" after growing up and change their overall personality. Some of my friends don't talk to me now because they have got their girlfriends. My favourite cousin became a totally different person after marriage. I've heard from my parents how their brothers changed due to certain circumstances.

But I'm not accusing any of them at all. Men are very different from women. They think differently, they do things differently, they process differently. It's good that they did what they wanted to. They did what they felt was the best. It brought them happiness. Moreover preference changes with time. If a person loves someone or something today, it may happen that the "love" will diminish with time and the "love" will eventually get transferred to someone or something else. It's just a human cycle. Yeah, it sounds rude and hurtful but it's a bitter truth.

But something different happened to me today.

There's this guy I met a year ago who's a very good friend of mine. We get along so well. He's so fun to be with. Moreover he is a very helpful person. Since I'm a very introverted person, I get nervous easily. There are times I felt nervous and uncomfortable in public and he comforted me. Once he even pointed out the good and bad people for me (as I'm an idiot maybe?) and said to be careful. He is like a comfort person to me. Talking to him freshens up my mind. He's so understanding and matured than most of the boys of his age. And he gives the right solution to a lot of my problems. All in all, he's a very good human being.

He has a girlfriend who is just as sweet as him. Both are literally green flags and are just so perfect for each other. I love their chemistry so much that sometimes I feel like I can go to any extent to save their relationship against some extreme situation. I don't know if I'm talking nonsense right now but I'm just letting my heart out.

So today we met and he was saying how he changed for good for his girlfriend. How he was a rowdy kind of a guy before with no aim in life but eventually changed when the right person came into his life and showered him all the love that he needed. He changed just because of her. Just because he realised how important he is to someone's life. Just because he noticed how bad she wanted to change him for good. And just because he wanted his future to be with her.

It is the star to every wand'ring bark Whose worth's unknown, although his height be taken.

~ William Shakespeare's Sonnet 116

It's a poem about love and these lines are perfect to describe their love story.

But you know what the best part is? It's not like his whole life is dedicated to his girlfriend now. It's not like he forgot everyone and everything good that existed in his life before just to be with his girlfriend. Instead he gives more importance to his career, friends and family than before. He chooses his friends wisely, is focused on his career and thinks about the well-being of his family. Not everyone can do this. A very few intelligent people can match the balance sheet of their life. He's successfully doing it and I'm sure that he'll continue to do it for the rest of his life.

Nowadays I just see men and women blaming each other in relationships and saying stuff like "These types of boys/girls don't exist anymore"; "Everyone nowadays is disloyal and cheat". But nobody wants to be the non-existent person that they want in their life. It's not just the responsibility of a boy to change himself for his girlfriend but also the responsibility of the girl to support her boyfriend in every bad situation, make him understand the goods and bads in life and help him to change, and vice versa. Only a good and positive influence can make a bad person good.

I'm glad to meet a person like the guy I talked about and make him my friend. I hope more people could be this understanding and matured so that the sweet old bondings would have never died.

~Punam

#relationship #love #humanity #self love #long reads #relatable #humanization #compassion #true devotion #human life #humility

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slowjamastan · 4 days

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hi, I like you and what you post but may I ask what your view is with trans folks? I genuinely just want to know, tbh it doesn’t matter to me your views but I am just curious because you don’t seem particularly judgy but a little more traditional

oh yeah fair question. i hope u dont mind if i expand on my life a bit, bcz my views make more sense w context i think. tldr at the end

so i identified as dif flavors of nonbinary/trans/queer for nearly a decade of my life. ive been on tumblr since 2010, i called myself "trans" since age 14. ages 18~20ish i went to art school. it was a Peak Woke environment if you will and i fit right in. i dropped out when i realized the artists life wasnt for me. I had no idea what to do next with my life, so i did a lot of serious introspection and among many things, made the conscious decision to consider points of view on trans people from places other than tumblr (there is a lot wrong with me), like, i found out that people who didn’t “get” the trans thing aren’t universally stupid and considered their concerns. crazy ik. later i conclude baby steps style "hey i think 'nonbinary' as an identity might make no sense, like at all" and officially moved my worldview away from "identify as whatever you want forever uwu"

my opinion on nonbinary genderqueer etc people is that it was made up online in the early 00s at best. “but other cultures have third genders—“ yeah you mean like when gay men aren’t considered real men? or when theres no male children in a family and a girl has to take on that role? nonbinary folx are either children or immature adults who can barely function in society. thats not a moral failing btw but it is hard to watch

from this point forward, assume im talking about binary trans people.

i dont believe gendered pronouns are a decision you get to make, theyre when someone looks at you and diagnoses your appearance as one of two things, and trans or not you dont get to decide how other people see you. trying is an easy way to drive yourself insane and get 500 plastic surgeries and do nothing but obsess over your appearance for your short time on earth. this isnt controversial right? we've all seen trashy reality stars with fucked up faces and botched boob jobs right? trans ppl look like that to me. again, not a moral failing, but def a red flag considering, for instance, the price tag and self centeredness transitioning implies. but anyway it feels ridiculous to handle random men in skirts or women with green hair with kiddie gloves in public yk so i just gender em as i see em. i dont give them any space in my brain bcz why should i. sorry if u dont pass and are going to angry tweet ab this interaction, its not my problem

i started identifying with truscum types (because i was never doing the trans thing “for fun” ive been uncomfortable in my body and had complicated feelings on being seen as female for most of my life), and committed to being a trans man full time age 21~22. started therapy soon after while weighing the risks of T on my health and safety and what exactly i wanted from it, even tho i WOULD be kicked out if i medically transitioned and i had no safety net nor any close friends to help me, so i kept putting it off. i was saving as much money as i could from my pt job (while going to community college for my ged) but mentally getting worse and worse. so i got a prescription for ssris.

in a few months, zoloft not only helped my overall mental state but also alleviated the fixation on my body parts being somehow wrong (or maybe it was all the same thing?). it took away my ability to mentally spiral about gender for hours at a time. i dont know if thats a normal effect, or i got placeboed out of wanting to transition somehow. but i experienced the hypothetical scenario "what if you woke up one day and didnt want to be trans anymore" after 10 years of trans identity and organizing my life around transition as a goal.

it was awful but mostly a huge relief. the dysphoria (or dysmorphia or whatever it was) had felt innate and had been with me my whole life and it was just gone, age 23ish. i felt genuinely neutral about myself and my body, and didnt feel like other peoples image of me being “wrong” would make me kms. could have had something to do with my brain maturing also. (as an aside: it felt like 1/3 of my brain had been dedicated to the gender musing pathways and then stopped all at once. my head genuinely hurt. it was a bizarre physical sensation, like a lobe removal, and it took a good year for that to go away)

ive since gone on and off then quit my meds for good, and the mental spiral patterns came back, but its not strictly about my body anymore. its an overthinking pattern that can latch on to anything. (my friend with ocd described a similar cycle she gets caught in. i dont have full blown ocd but i can relate)

i realize my experience isnt universal ofc. gender dysphoria could be a result of a lot of things, but i dont think its an innate hardwired thought pattern. my take is its a result of trauma / autism / mental issues / bi/homosexuality in whatever combination. this is a personal opinion subject to change given evidence, naturally.

anyway. after the dysphoria evaporated, i moved on quick. my ideas about gender were still all over the place. i tried to be more feminine for a while to "match" how i "felt inside". i forced it, didnt enjoy it, but it was fine i guess. i was still insecure about my gender presentation. i still do have body issues, but who doesnt. i wear a mix of clothing styles these days and often get theythemed on vibes alone. im beating the tradwife allegations i promise

this is the point in the average detrans 20-somethings life where she will call herself a TERF semi-ironically and be a shithead online, which is what i did for a while. you pick up new perspectives that feel freeing and suddenly youre above all that gender drama bullshit, like finally you get to look down on the people suffering and laugh because theyre too dumb to "get it." its cathartic after a decade of feeling insane and suddenly feeling capable of living without inherent suffering. i reached gender nirvana and im better than you :3

then you wake up from that and go wait, that was fucking stupid lol. truly terminally online behavior, but i dont have regrets really. the most evil terfily thing i did, if ur wondering, was co-run a blog that reblogged selfies posted in public tumblr mlm tags. i dont think we even added commentary, but we got soooo much hatemail lmaooo. rip straightgirlarchive 🙏

even at peak terf phase i had irl trans friends by the way, and male friends for that matter.

i think the best way i could describe my feelings on trans people now is like meeting someone with a face tattoo, who also treats that tat like a religious experience. they can feel like this represents to the world who they are and are very serious about the symbolism of this tattoo, and thats fine. its trendy in many circles to have face tats rn (wont be for long) but theyre built different, they always needed this face tattoo to be themselves. bro u just dont understand the inner journey like u wouldnt GET it.... and then they complain about not being employable or single or how their loved ones are struggling to get used to their new look...you see what im saying. you get it

i dont hate people like this. i dont think trans people are subhuman or anything. but i am so so SO glad im not one of yall anymore u are ANNOYINGGGGG. I WAS ANNOYING!!!!! in hindsight i sucked so much and was insufferable to be around if u werent on My Level Of Gender Understanding which was based on nothing but social media infographics, >10,000 hours of blind introspection, and Vibes

my god if i could go the rest of my life not having to hear or think about trans stuff ever again i would. ive done my time. ive gotten my trauma. i dont wanna deal with this anymore but it is inescapable online and irl.

and of course, as a lesbian, i personally dislike what T does to womens bodies, not even getting into the top surgery epidemic.... plus theres now biological men taking over or shutting down every lesbian space. i gotta say, existing as a gay woman has never been more suicide inducing than current year /lh

but the human condition generates all types and genuinely if youre an adult and are determined to transition or microdose T or whatever, its your choice. we live in a society. im not gonna berate an alcoholic for drinking or a fat person for overeating either. hating yourself isnt a crime and i can say i find transing cringe but thats subjective and no one asked me. im just chillin, truly, and we can be friends even if i disagree with your life choices. like. its on par with being friends with someone with 200k in college debt to me. you made a dumbass decision imo but maybe to you its worth it, and what are either of us gonna do about it now? im not arguing shit brother, live ur life. manage those consequences best u can. i love u

in conclusion i wasnt born destined to be trans, im a gender nonconforming lesbian with mental problems related to gender and social roles because of the lesbian thing. this is a normal experience that i overthought into body dysmorphia and identity delusions because of the culture around me... im definitely not a radical feminist. maybe call me gender crit but i dont care. i dont identify with any labels that strongly. labels are the mind killer.

TLDR:

-nonbinary isn’t a real thing outside of hyperonline exclusively-politically-left subcultures, which i personally find annoying since ive left it behind in the process of maturing. to each his own but im allowed to roll my eyes and not play along with larping teenagers and it doesn’t make me evil

-there are no major female / male brain differences. there are no gendered souls. gender dysphoria shouldn’t be treated with transition, because extreme body modification is a mental illness problem in every case. i can’t stop anyone with my opinions obviously but if i could talk to my younger self, id say wait until you’re 25 for the brain development, and in the meantime try less invasive/understudied treatments to improve quality of life.

final disclaimer: i am in my 20s. my views on life and social issues will continue to evolve as long as i live, but the cringe i feel when seeing visibly trans people will never truly go away due to personal traumas. and my trans exes, probably. im super over the queer scene, im a normie gay now. blessings peace love and light

#thanks 4 your patience i had a busy day yesterday. i wrote like 2 versions of this bc i wanted to get my feelings across so bad #its still all over the place but i think it came out better than last time i tried to articulate my feelings on the trans population #mail #post #i deleted a lot of tangents. i like talking ab myself. maybe i just need to write a biography

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gennianydots · 3 months

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Hi, what's your 30 favorite Asian BL characters from dramas or series you've watched? (unless you don't have that many)

Thanks.

30?!

Nonnie? Are you okay? Reblog if you’re okay. 30 is a lot! Alright. I’m going to try my best. Just for YOU. And because I love you so much, I have also given you my reasons WHY.

I also created parameters for myself, so this is the MEN. If you want to find out my top 30 WOMEN from Asian BL's/QL's, just ask!

1. Pran from Bad Buddy

He’s my son, my baby, the absolute love of my life. I would marry this man in a heartbeat, if he were not already betrothed to Pat.

2. Pat from Bad Buddy

He’s such a green flags guy, my clueless baby with horny-for-Pran-only/would-kill/die-for-him vibes. Don’t forget the man got shot!

3. Tinn from My School President

Need I say more? No. Tinn is goofy and cheesy and literally the best. He loves Gun so much he is willing to risk his school presidency just to get the chance to date Gun. I love him!

4. Gun from My School President

Is he smart? No. Is he clueless? Yes. Does he have a heart of gold and strong ambition? YES. He’s my full heart, empty-mind, music-loving, can’t-lose dork and he’s a close contender for #3 behind Tinn, an even bigger dork.

5. Tiw from My School President/Our Skyy 2

Oh boy. Mark Pakin is him, he is Mark Pakin- I loved him so much. I love his willingness to stay by his friend through high school crushes and that we got to see him dating Por in Our Skyy 2. Big feels. 😍

6. Heart and LiMing from Moonlight Chicken

You cannot make me choose. These two stole the whole show and gave zero fucks about it.

7. Kurosawa Yuichi from Cherry Magic JP

This man stole my heart in the first several minutes of the show. Love his attentive nature and softness.

8. Jang Jae Young from Semantic Error

This chaos gremlin motherfucker is my favorite. He pined HARD for his underclassmen and I adore him for it.

9. Wei Wuxian from Mo Dao Zu Shi/The Untamed

I haven’t seen the Untamed but have watched the animated series and read the story for Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation. I don’t think I’d be here if I hadn’t first fallen in love with this Bisexual Disaster. A true KING.

10. King from Bed Friend

Speaking of KINGS, King is the ultimate Green-Flags Doe-Eyes Fabio of my dreams.

11. Tinn’s Dad from My School President

The most Dad to ever Dad - ever.

12. Pi from Fish Upon the Sky

An autistic son of mine. Phuwin made me laugh when I needed it the most. This show was a disaster but I loved this character!

13. Yok from Not Me

First crushed it in this role and he made Yok incredibly sexy the amazing, diverse character we see on screen.

14. Porsche from KinnPorsche

I joined the BL fandom with the KP group! I love when Porsche throws himself off the boat to get away from Kinn, peeing in the Koi pond, the sacrifices he made to protect Chay and every moment before and after.

15. Kinn from KinnPorsche

Daddy. I don’t think I need to say anything else. 😈

16. Gao Shi De and Zhou Shu Yi from We Best Love

Holy hell, these men can act! They both really won me over in season 2, but I rooted for these boyfriends throughout the whole thing.

17. Akk and Ayan from The Eclipse

I can’t separate these two, either. I really loved First/Khaotung in these roles too. I can't picture anyone else who would have done them justice.

18. Team from Between Us

I just realized recently how much I enjoyed Between Us, and Team is so cute in this - I can't explain, I just like him a lot.

19. Win from Between Us

Team's boyfriend was also a highlight of Between Us for me.

20. Tsuge Masato from Cherry Magic JP

He made me laugh a lot. I loved him as the neurotic friend.

21. Gun from A Boss and a Babe

I love Force, Actually? He did a good job with playing an older role, even though he is younger than Book IRL.

22. Longtae from Tale of Thousand Stars

It was so CUTE seeing baby Khaotung in this role, and I cheered every time he was on screen. (I enjoyed Longtae more than Tian or Phupha - though I do think Mix did an excellent job as Tian the teacher).

23. Jedi from The Warp Effect

Does this count? It’s a very gay show. I say it counts. Again, a Mark Pakin role that he crushed.

24. Bosston from Until We Meet Again/Between Us

We are sticking with Green Flags only guys here. It was a tiny role but I loved it.

25. Klabkluen from Star and Sky: Star in My Mind

Have you seen Joong PINE over Dunk? He's the best PINER I've ever seen. This was mostly a fluff watch but I enjoyed Joong's performance.

26. Dew from 609 Bedtime Story

Well, this show was all over the place. I thoroughly enjoy time shenanigans in my shows so I stuck with it to the end, even if it ultimately made no sense. I have always thought Fluke Natouch was very talented though, and I found his performance here better than in Until We Meet Again, or Between Us. (He just "P'Dean"-ed all over the place and was too much of a blushing maiden for me).

27. Khondiao from Cutie Pie

I liked him better than the mains. 🤷‍♀️

28. Kim from KinnPorsche

My sad little meow-meow who ghosts a child. Also it's Jeff.

29. Ki Tae from Our Dating Sim

This show was so cute. I am a big fan of characters who pine for a long time before their crush finds out.

30. Payu from Love in the Air

Lots of controversy here as many folks didn't enjoy this show. I say credit where credit is due, Payu is the bisexual hottie I was looking for. The chemistry between Payu and Rain was also off the charts.

Thanks for reading!! Again, if you want my top 30 females you will have to ask me! Thank you to all the gif-makers who made the gifs I stole for this post. You are the true heroes of my heart. Muah Muah!

#bad buddy #my school president #asked and answered #asks #genni answers #hoo boy that was long #thai bl #korean bl #chinese bl #japan bl

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lordhelpme0-0 · 2 years

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Replaced Au

Me: *smiling creepily*

Lucifer: w-why do you look like that..?!

Mammon: I think the better question is why we’re all here…

Rielle: that is something I like to know.

Nobunaga: better question is who you all.

Me: better question if your all still complete d1cks?

Them: …

Me: let’s talk about replacing our BELOVED mcs~!!

Mitsunari: replacing what now??

Me: sweet somersault child, it means completely and disregarding MC for another.

Malleus: why would I do that to child of man?

Me: let’s call it…a possibility. Not to mention almost all of y’all have horrible sense of telling which woman is good or bad.

Azul: hey!

Me: I kinda wanna add Diabolik Lover dummies here but I scratch the idea by giving them nightmares or basically bloody letters of warnings since I kinda not in the fandom anymore but- that’s not the point.

Clavis: why would we replaced belle for that matter?

Arthur: yeah! I would have to agree with this bloke. Why on earth would I disregard MC for another woman?

Me: cause you can’t read the room and unintentionally make them feel insecure and jealous. Not to mention those flock of women and sometime not knowing it. If you do an uno reverse, you get what I mean you dense birds for brains.

Shingan: wait…so that’s why MC avoided all of us cause women were around?!

Me: yes! Why do you think Kichi and Sasuke got the assignment, they went with her to take it off her mind. Actually, why do we even adore y’all in the first place?! Oh wait— red flags. Yep. Why do I even bother…

Mitsuhide: you sound very similar to hideyoshi, M.I.

Me: I know I sound like hidemama.

Hideyoshi: I’m a man! Not a woman.

Me: yeah..yeah. Anyway. Here’s a warning. Break their hearts and use their kindness and help vainly and not being grateful. I’ll break your legs and cut off yo d1cks.

Epel: your sounding like Jiang Wanyin-sama…

M.I: I know. Don’t want what happen to Wen Chao on y’all do you?

Twst boys: *nod*

RSA: ?????

Wei Wuxian: WHO SUMMONED ME?!

Me: WTF-?! Aren’t you guys suppose to be in your world or the multi-mansion or at tthe ramshackle dorms?!

Wei Wuxian: nope! Whatcha doing~?

Me: threatening them to not break or use the MC kindness and helpfulness and disregarding them for another. Similar to how you do it for Jiang Yanli-Jie Jie.

Wei Wuxian: oh~! You mean them? Yeah, I’ve met them. Really remind me a lot like shijie. Now here a word, break their heart and replaced them. We both break you. *has scary green eyes*

Theo: first of all, where is this coming from?!

Me: blame the demons. *slaps the replaced Au and sad mc angst on the table*

Ikemen series boys: … *pissed*

Twst: *very pissed*

Obey me: …*feeling weirdly guilty cause of their alternative selves*

Me: to think…to think…you would do this to a poor INNOCENT LAMB!!! *being held back by Wei Wuxian and Vincent* YOU DESERVES PUNISHMENT!!!

Mammon: but it’s not us!!! Alright!!

Me: it could happen.

Chevalier: don’t worry, we don’t really open easily to others beside our belle. But if this were to happen. The sheep can stay with us.

Comte: or us. I’m sure it be a lovely editions.

Leona: for a mere sheep, I suppose Savanaclaw will welcome it.

Lucifer: why are you all looking at us like that.

Jean: why else. Madame MC and her friends do not deserves sinners and filth. *sheathes rapier*

Napoleon: Jean. Rapier down. Surely some of you can see this is idiocy right? *smiling not meet his eyes*

Simmon: of course. MC deserves better than that. The heavens will welcome.

13: seriously, men am I right M.I?

Solomon: when did you get here?!

Me: she was here long ago solo cup.

Solomon: …

Arthur: guess we’re not the only victims huh?

Solomon: shut it you 2 star rated writer.

Arthur: EX-cuse?!

Me: I’m sure you all understand the assignment correct?

Nobunaga: of course we do. Though, thank you for telling us about the jealousy part.

Me: go suck Kenshin d1ck.

Nobunaga: …

Kenshin: …

Shingan: kinky~!

Me: omg Shingan…WHY!!! NO! *sprays water on Shin-gone* BAD SHINS.

Yukimura: m’lord!!!

#mdzs #twisted wonderland #Ikemen Cybird #Ikemen series #ikemen prince #ikemen vampire #ikemen sengoku #obey me #crossover #replaced Au?#threatening

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pocket-size-cthulhu · 3 months

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Maybe a hot take but I think a big part of the reason why ✨ women ✨ are such a mystery to some men is because patriarchy is a mystery to them.

Or: How to Clear the Bar, an essay by me ✨

(I'm using "women" and "men/guys" here to generally refer to cishet, allo people)

To men who have never thought about how living in a patriarchal society affects women, the seemingly common unspoken standards, likes and dislikes will always be a mystery. The fact is, women aren't a monolith, but we do have many experiences in common, shaped by growing up in a patriarchal society, that tend to give us some similar preferences.

How does patriarchy harm women? Maybe the #1 way is through violence. Because of that, many women will be looking for a man who is gentle, considerate, in control of himself, capable of calming himself down.

Another thing is when men want a wife to baby them and take care of their every need, so a lot of women will appreciate a man who's competent at those types of tasks for himself (cooking, cleaning, personal hygiene etc), has standards for those things, and doesn't see himself as above them.

The patriarchy has a lot of men relying exclusively on one woman (usually his partner) to take care of all his emotional needs, and that's too much to put on one person. For that reason, having fulfilling hobbies and a network of friends is generally a green flag in a man.

Some guys feel the need to aggressively defend their masculinity by avoiding anything they perceive as weak or girly, but a lot of women see that as evidence that he has really bought into patriarchal beliefs. So it's attractive to see a man who's comfortable enough with himself not to have to exude macho every second of the day. A lot of women would appreciate a partner who could enjoy chick flicks, art museums, cute puppies, flowers, fashion etc with them. It's ok if it's not necessarily a man's "thing" (although it's a perk when he's willing to do it anyway, like she's expected to with things like sports), but it's obvious when it's something he feels threatened by.

And yeah there are gonna be some caveats, like some women will interpret your gym hobby as being potentially threatening since some guys who obsess over their physique come across as "might makes right" guys, and some women will be averse to a video game hobby because of anti-videogame propaganda from their childhood or whatever, but the general principle still stands (and some women will have no problem with these things).

Women also have to take into account how having a uterus affects their life. Not to get dark suddenly, but although women in the US are at maybe their most free and equal yet, almost every woman you know either has known, or has been, someone who has been controlled by their boyfriend or husband through constant pregnancy, forcing her to rely on him for everything. Choosing a long-term male partner, for many women, means choosing someone to trust to respect their consent for sex and pregnancy, someone to be with them in the vulnerable times that are pregnancy and postpartum, and someone to help raise their kids. That's a heavy responsibility.

Anyway.

I've been thinking about this since a few weeks ago when a friend of mine asked if I thought his collection of nerd paraphernalia on display in his house would somehow be a red flag for "women" and I was like ??? Why would your star wars novelizations be a problem for ✨ women ✨ generally?

I can't really blame him though. There's a lot of conflicting "women like/don't like" type of advice out there, and most of it is bull, because women 👏 aren't 👏 a 👏 monolith 👏. Nothing can be said for all of us without fail, and very little can be said for most of us. But I do think it's safe to say that the main thing most women want is for the person we share our home, bed, and life with not to be the living embodiment of harmful patriarchy.

The rest - whether women will appreciate your muscles, money, nerdy hobbies, etc - comes down to personal preference. After you clear the bar as a generally good person and not a patriarchy monster, your next task is finding someone you like as a person who also likes you as a person. You don't get a partner automatically for doing the bare minimum, you still have to find one that likes you for the person you are. Because women 👏 aren't 👏 a 👏 monolith 👏👏👏

#patriarchy #fuck the patriarchy #fun dating tip for all you cishet guys #the bar is in hell #but anyway here's how to clear it #go forth and be a decent human being

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luffyvace · 3 months

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Do you mind if I ask your top 10 favorite characters (can be male or female) from all of the media that you loved (can be anime/manga, books, movies or tv series)? And why do you love them? Sorry if you've answered this question before.....Thanks...

No I don’t mind at all!! I’ve never been asked this question before and it’s really interesting so of course I’ll answer! <3

Btw this is anime only bc I only watch anime/read manga :)

1: Feitan

I love Feitan honestly bc he’s cool, hot, strong and just generally awesome. I love his personality and how fearless he is. He’s number one even though they’re were many before him because I’m crazy about him and he’s just generally my all time fav. He isn’t a “phase” I love him all the time think about him all the time..FOR YEARS.

2: Aizawa

I found out about him way before Feitan and was the original number one..BUT I don’t love him any less. He’s honestly just so cool and I thought he was as soon as I saw him. He has such a calm yet self assured and strong demeanor to him. I admire him in a sense, he has morals and sticks to them. He’s also once again, strong. He cares for his loved ones and manages to be cool and a green flag- not something all anime guys can do.

3: Izuku

Izuku is under Aizawa bc I literally started loving him directly after lol. I love him with all my heart. He’s just so determined and realistic/relatable in a sense. He strives for his goals and doesn’t give up. It’s admirable. He has such a kind heart and is a green flag. Tsu should honestly be up here bc she’s the first ever anime character I found out a about but I love izuku more- osusndkjnsjd-

4: Luffy

If I knew him for longer he would be higher. I got into one piece just recently but I still love him very much. He’s such a cool and silly guy he does no harm and is selfishly selfless. What an odd balance of getting what you want and bringing happiness. Essentially what he wants is for people (specifically his loved ones) to be happy and will stop at nothing to bring that to them. Truly only has good intent. Also who doesn’t like freedom and liberation?? This guy literally stands for that!! He stand for those who don’t have a voice and that’s so cool to me! I’m so proud of him in that sense. I also love his silly goofy vibe despite the worlds cruel ways. It’s refreshing and makes one piece a less depressing place since in a sense we’re pretty much seeing one piece from his prospective. If we saw things how zoro or law sees it, it may be a lot more realistic, a bit more drab and plain in sight. That’s my take on it anyway.

5: Katsuki

katsuki’s character development is top tier. (Spoiler) I’m not talking about him dying. I’m talking about how he went from telling Izuku to ky$ and mistreating him and others to viewing people as equals/something more than competition, apologizing and atoning for his mistakes. He did something even most grown men/women can’t do these days..smh. He even did it better than endeavor. 😂 I also like how strong he is and how much he believes in himself. It’s only a problem because of the way he expresses that but if he was simply confident I feel he’d have less haters.

6: Fyodor

honestly he just freakin cool dude! Like he’s a genius, he’s attractive and he’s got a cool/mysterious power. I like when anime characters are a different race in Japan, it just makes things more fun. I love him for his imperfections too. I saw someone talk about how (spoiler) Fyodor wouldn’t have died if he just trusted his friends/allies more. I like that about him too. It makes space for character development and realization if he lives.

7: Atsushi

I first started watch bsd a long time ago. I remember loving the first ep so much. I really like how atsushi met dazai- lol. It was all really unique and there was no overused troupes. New, fresh, stuff you wouldn’t expect. I mean unless it’s mc hating on themselves..but I didn’t dislike atsushi for it or anything. Idk why I just didn’t, I’ve loved him since he first appeared on screen. I’ve always thought he deserved better. He’s such a kind hearted character and his mental and physical strength developed well. He doesn’t have any love interests either! It makes me happy when it’s straight plot and no canon romance in anime. Honestly I just love how sincere and genuine Atsushi is.

8: Nikolai

At first I both liked and disliked him at the same time. But then again I kinda simped for him so I did research (fandom, and when he got animated) and now i love em. I really love silly characters with inner problems that they project onto different things (emotions; for Niko). It gives they’re character deeper meaning than just being a silly guy. Yeah that’s fun but it gives you more to think about this way. I think his design is very cute and fun! At first I did expect to have a higher pitched voice but as time went on I realized two things. One: his voice actually fit him and I only didn’t like it at first because it didn’t meet my imaginary standard. Two: he’s a grown man, and while it’s possible, especially with anime logic, it’s more realistic this way and I’m glad his voice isn’t high pitched now.

9: Portgas D Ace

now I absolutely love Ace and while I he’s my number 2 in one piece, over all anime’s he ranks a little lower but he’s def still up there. Again I’m still in the impel down arc so his backstory n stuff is coming up for me, so when I say he needs more screen time I mean besides that. He’s an attractive man who worked on himself from a young age to be polite and respectful, he’s very friendly as well. I love and respect all that about him. He’s another silly guy but in a different way. Idk I honestly just like him, idk how to explain it this time. He’s just cool!!

10: Saiki k

I didn’t know whether to put brook or tokito here. I would’ve gone with tokito because I’ve been watching kny longer but I feel I like him more? Saiki k is a really interesting anime. It’s a comedy anime in a regular and relatable setting but with a spin; superpowers. This gives the anime more chances for funny moments and comedy. With saiki’s attitude of wanting to be normal as well? Perfect! Saiki is honestly still relatable even with powers and is not a simp. Which I really like about him, He probably wouldn’t be on this list if he got with someone. In fact he avoids what could be love interests and that makes it even more funny. I’m glad he doesn’t give in and give us the traditional wife, babies and sunset ending. 🤦‍♀️

brook isn’t on the list but top 10 is NOT easy to choose..I also wanted to add tokito but again top ten is so limiting </3😔

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noonecaresaboutmyreview · 1 year

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Love to Hate You - Kdrama Review

Finally finish this gem! It was a very fast watch with only 10 episodes. It was truly a great watch while grinning and blushing the whole time cause this show was so entertaining and funny.

Love to Hate You is about Yeo Mi-Ran (Kim Ok Vin) a lawyer at Gilmu who have dated countless men and Nam Kang Ho (Teo Yoo) a famous actor who has social anxiety towards women. They met because Nam Kang Ho is being represented by Yeo Mi-Ran for anything legal related. Due to some misunderstandings, Yeo Mi-Ran had a bad impression of Nam Kang Ho but he in turn gets curious of her odd behaviour and grows interested in her.

NOW LISTEN, PRAISE THE LORD FOR STRONG FEMALE LEAD ERA 2023! I love that Yeo Mi-Ran is portrayed as someone who can fight and is a justice vigilante. She doesn't allow herself to just watch injustice happen. She fights back and she is not your typical damsel in distress character. But she's also not overly reckless. She's professional at her job as a lawyer and isn't afraid to speak and show how she feels.

Nam Kang Ho at first appears to be this cold straight forward rude character but that doesn't last long. He becomes so soft with his long time friend and manager Do Won-Jun (Kim Ji Hoon) and when he is in love, he is soooo adorable. I can literally see the heart eyes he's giving Yeo Mi-Ran. I love that he is not unreasonably jealous and doesn't mind the fact that Yeo Mi-Ran have dated a lot of guys. He is not insecure of their relationship at all. AGAIN PRAISE THE LORD FOR GREEN FLAG MALE LEAD ERA 2023!

Mature relationships will be forever my favourite genre. They are much more healthy and so cute to watch. I love how both male and female leads break barriers and stereotype of their gender. Honestly, this topic could actually be cringe or unbalanced if not written properly but this drama did a good job at addressing it but also keeping it light.

There is also a 2nd couple in this drama that is just so cute and funny. Kinda wished Kim Ji Hoon had short hair tho but it's probably cause he was shooting this around the same time as Money Heist Korea.

Special mention to Teo Yoo cause he is 41 but still look so good. I remember watching his episode on Omniscient Interfering View (The Manager) and found out that he married Nikki S.Lee, a famous visual artist who have works being exhibited in New York City and Seoul. He is born in Germany and is fluent in both German and English. I heard him speak German and mans got even more attractive! He has been in many works but so glad that this drama made he even more popular to the general population.

Overall, if you're looking for a romantic comedy drama with the early 2000s vibe but with both green flag leads, this drama is for you.

Rating: 4.75/5

-- Fary

#love to hate you #teo yoo #kim ok vin #kim ji hoon #korean drama #kdrama #fary

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madamepestilence · 1 year

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Please block and report this terf: https://www.tumblr.com/terf-scorpion

They are hate-following me so that they can get their friends to harass me. In fact, they're doing it to a lot of users who support trans rights. To the TERFs: Thanks for proving my point that you're totally not a fascist hate cult. /sarcasm

already got'm blocked but dankeschon

I'll share some tips for TERF blockhunting on Tumblr

first things first - if you're on desktop, make sure your browser has the Shinigami Eyes extension as a first line of defense - this allows TERFs and trans-friendly people to be marked red and green, respectively, according to guidelines set by the plugin's site: i myself make a lot of contributions to who's marked

secondly, watch out for the following phrases:

radfem or radical feminist = TERF

febfem, or Female-Exclusive-Bisexual-Female isn't a direct marker, but the term itself is already sus and I keep finding accounts with that term being used DIRECTLY adjacent to TERF blogs, so it can serve as a pre-emptive warning

keep an eye out for the Labrys Lesbian Flag

This isn't an immediate marker of a TERF, but this flag was originally intended as a feminist lesbian flag, and has largely been overridden by TERFs

another flag to look out for is the Lipstick Lesbian Flag

again, this flag is not an immediate marker of a TERF, but this flag will genuinely be used by TERF lesbians alongside the Labrys Lesbian Flag, because this flag is not butch-inclusive, and was made by a biphobic and transphobic racist

this is an alt version of the lipstick lesbian flag, with the kiss removed to de-associate it with its original creator, but again this tends to be used by TERFs as trans-friendly lesbians will generally adopt the Sunset Lesbian Flag

this last flag (sunset lesbian) is generally an indicator that the user is NOT a TERF, but again, not an immediate green flag

gender critical = immediate red flag that they're a TERF

gender/sex separatist (someone who advocates for the segregation of sexes) is a sign of a shit person and generally a TERF, but not an immediate flag. BLOCK ANYWAYS.

misandrist/misandry (someone who hates men in the way that misogyny hates women) is a sign of a shit person and generally a TERF, but again not an immediate flag. BLOCK ANYWAYS.

and if you find a TERF account?

First, block their account. Second, go through Tumblr's "Blogs like this," section - open the first account marked Shinigami Red and block them. Repeat this process until you don't see any more "Blogs like this," marked Shinigami Red.

Secondly, just in case, take a peek at the blogs present in "Blogs like this," and see if they're unmarked TERFs. If they're unmarked, right click their username at the top of the block and mark it as Shinigami Red, and then block them.

Continue until you don't find anymore TERFs.

And remember comrades - people you've blocked can't see or interact with your posts, so the more TERFs you block, the less we have to deal with!

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