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alexvals · 2 months

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whoever thought it's a great fucking idea to sit tf down and count hypothetical money quackity would make from streaming FREQUENTLY, laying it out with passive agressive comments on how this could save qsmp from the financial downfall - literally NOBODY FUCKING ASKED, GET A DAMN LIFE. i am once again aggressively tapping the sign saying no way fandom can get into every business thinking it is their sole right to fix things, presenting their opinion as the only correct one, moreover, trying to talk as if they are the expert on the subjet, MOREOVER, trying to speak like his damn BOSS. (spoiler: you are NOT). it's pure manager anti behaviour. whatever happenned wtih treating ccs like humans they are, amirite !!! i understand being disappointed and angry with him over how things turned out, but at this point some fuckers will not be satisfied with anything Q does, it's never going to be enough. (fuck these people sincerely, as well as their irrelevant ass takes). (in general, Q was never a long stream guy, at the beginning of the year he did mention he wants to stream more, doing things he likes, but then shit hit the fan, so. literally one of the recent streams he did, the one where he painted, he did because he felt sad and wanted to do smth nice. he is literally not your type of streamer who'd grind for money and subs, idk what to tell ya)

#qsmp fandom neg #qsmpblr neg #qsmp discourse #discourse #not to mention they compared q's stream hours with BBH. ARE YOU OKAY???#not to mention twitch has its own share from all the revenue and it just gets bigger with each year #idk shrugs im just tired of how weird ppl behave twrds q sometimes #this post IS about these people AND IN NO WAY I AM TRYING TO INVALIDATE WORKERS . THAT'S A WHOLE DIFFERENT SENTENCE.

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puppyeared · 29 days

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who up seeing their disorder in a fictional character but feel like its not their place to put a name on it

#id have to be waterboarded before i can talk abt how i see a lot of my adhd and personality in mitsumi iwakura let alone post it #idk how to talk abt this without feeling like im talking over or invalidating ppls experiences relating with a character #someone was talking abt how ppl tie laios' autism to special interest and social difficulties but not much else which kinda flattens it #and then went into a respectful in depth analysis of other autistic behaviour that laios exhibits and it wasnt phrased meanly #its fascinating and important to me to hear someone explain a little bit abt traits that they recognized and often go overlooked #because it does help me learn more about it. but i think thats also where hesitancy kicks in when it comes to depicting it accurately #like i have adhd and some of my adhd symptoms overlap with autism (time blindness and pattern seeking behaviour) but that only means #it feels familiar to me even without having autism. on top of that traits arent always cleanly determined as being /caused/ by #a disorder. to understand my environment i compare it to something unrelated but similar to make it more familiar and for the longest time #i thought that was a personality thing and not an information processing thing since i loved playing pretend in my head as a kid #so if you make a character who experiences that hoping to reach people that also experience that and tell them its not weird or #smth youre making up like. thats the goal. ppl who dont get it arent expected to it just means it doesnt cater to them but it helps them #become familiar to it yk? since i dont have autism myself i dont feel confident i can depict it properly or explain it in my own words #but that doesnt mean im trying to dismiss it or try and cut it out completely.. ill just leave the floor open to someone who /can/#a lot of issues around fanon depictions are when smth is baselessly popularized or a characters personality and behavior is flattened #especially to fit them into a trending meme. its harmless and its supposed to be for fun but it gets tricky when you drag things that #need to be carefully explained beforehand or else it gets lost in translation. like that tweet abt 'hyperfixating' on cooking pasta #once it becomes popular language usually the original meaning is left out for the sake of simplifying it for everyone that when it #circles back theres a sort of hesitancy like. am i using it the way it was intended or am i unknowingly using the popularized version of it #actually thats probably why i felt wrongfooted during diagnosis bc it felt like i was misusing the words i heard to describe what i felt #i /know/ i see a lot of myself in mitsumi because our minds are always somewhere else and we tend to put good faith first and for me #that personal connection is enough. but idk it feels like its always gonna have to be 'palatable' first before i can talk abt it openly #mad respect to writers and creators who stick to their story even if theres the looming fear of ppl misinterpreting it and letting them #have it.. its been almost 2 weeks and i am so close to deleting that m3 dunmeshi drawing bc ppl keep saying chilchuck wouldnt have 200 HP #IT LITERALLY SAYS I MADE IT WHILE WATCHING EP 1. I USED EARTHBOUND LOGIC AND I WASNT EVEN TAKING IT SERIOUSLY CHILL #yapping

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lochley · 1 month

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lyta sads while as usual trying to get a better grasp on writer intentions with certain things

thinking again about lyta not quite fitting into the telepath commune even though she may have felt like she did, because... to me i just think she'll never be able to fully relate to other humans, telepath or not, due to the vorlon stuff.

but idk! i've been going back through some behind the scenes materials to get a better grasp on it all because i feel like so much of that arc was hard to actually... pick intentions out of.

i do think a lot about that audio commentary where jms pointed out how after lyta and byron [redacted] byron got up and left her there alone because of the vorlon news, abandoning lyta as everyone else had (jms' wording not mine). (though i do think the script talking about how she finally feels an emotional release of getting to share that burden with someone... then getting contrasted with it turning into that, adds to matters.)

but rereading some scripts and how once he died, lyta is left "standing alone, as she has always stood alone, in the light of the fire" feels validating to the idea that she'd never felt at home in the community. it doesn't outright say a ton about her dynamic with byron of course - maybe she'd always been alone in that relationship, or maybe she did have someone to connect to and now she's alone again. but she does theoretically have the whole commune still right? or what's left of it? so she shouldn't be alone! and yet she is! so at the very least i'm putting it in my pocket for the idea that she was never really one of the group (be it through full feelings of acceptance or an agreement of their ideals).

i feel like that, and an instance of the commune welcoming her in being referred to as "love-bombing" in the script, show a level of disconnect, of not feeling genuine bonding with anyone where. and it makes sense she wouldn't, since she didn't let down her walls until she was fucking byron and that did not go great.

to focus more on byron then, because her not feeling like part of the group is one thing; her feelings on her individual relationship with him are another: i find it really interesting that her first meeting with him is referred to as a "circus" she has been to before (in terms of being fooled by manipulation i assume), that his recruitment attempts despite her disinterest are "almost a seduction", and that those attempts are outright referred to as cult recruitment tactics in an interview.

BUT i find it really interesting to see... she does have some self awareness? so even though overall she was still "falling" for cult recruitment tactics ("love-bombing" when she expressed not feeling part of the group; which does again point to her feeling like an outside with everyone besides byron), something did lead her over the bridge! and, while there is a possibility maybe byron started as a cult recruiter and then developed actual feelings, in regards to lyta i think it's the factual side of it.

she talked to zack about how byron is actually backing up his words with his actions, how zack may care about her but "talk is cheap". there is also an instance where when she's tending to byron, in her perspective at least, she realizes his compliments are a "statement of fact". or at least she thinks they are. it's framed through her perspective so who knows.

there is also just a LOT of words about byron being attractive, about them being attracted to each other, about lyta trying to pretend she isn't attracted to him, etc. and i think a lot of that was meant to hinge on the physical - casting byron as someone younger, someone intended to elicit those reactions. he is also referred to as charismatic quite often which i don't see personally; caring, maybe, charismatic? ehhhhhhh.

i think me personally not seeing any of that is why it does fall short for me (in addition to how byron's character had to bend to accommodate certain writing crunch issues), and why i don't typically see lyta getting all that much out of this beyond a responsibility to a cause that hardly concerns her. or if she did get something out of it, i'm not sure if that's balanced out by instances of manipulation/mistreatment: the chair scene, the love-bombing, how the vorlon thing got used, or how byron's interest in her seemed to grow as his recognition of her telekinesis did.

though maybe it wasn't the powers itself, but the fact she used them for him and believed in the cause, maybe he was touched by that, maybe it made her a more valuable asset while proving her loyalty, the world may never know. i wish i could get more direct answers on all that tbh, because that is still the sorta crossroads for me? did he actually value her as a person, for her looks (hence all the Attraction wording), as a tool, or all of the above. you can love someone and still hurt them i guess, you can love someone and have a warped version of love, etc, and i know it's kinda dumb to try and simplify it in the ways i'm maybe trying to.

i do think byron is just contradictory within himself at times as humans are and while that's helpful to understand... it still makes it hard to know what was intentional with him, or what just ended up being the result of messy writing, because it's hard to have an objective judgement on his character without knowing his own level of self awareness. i guess that really is my biggest issue that i probably won't ever find concrete answers to, since according to jms the whole reason people hated byron was because of goth discrimination and because he Got The Girl instead of zack... which gets talked about instead of a deeper take on byron's psyche and whether or not he felt the end representation of it was effective or otherwise.)

basically just being told she's into him and that he's changed her life etc is one thing, feeling like it was there on-screen is another. (see: the actors seeing each other more like siblings.) it is nice that she got to take the idea of deserving more, of understanding a taste of freedom and acceptance, and incorporate that into her belief system even if she did take a more violent approach. obviously peace wasn't going to. i am glad she gleaned enough from it to get somewhere. i see that part of it. i just think she should've proceeded with those values and go off to do her own thing and live her life without having to sacrifice herself for yet another cause because... without byron that cause means very little.

#og #s5 critical #sorta????#less critical and more trying to figure out what was going on but idk if i'm being mean about anything #someday i will do proper meta on it all to organize my thoughts #same with lennier stuff #bc i find it rly fun to look into stuff that is emotionally divisive vs. the factual intents of everyone behind #the scenes and how those emotional reactions either affirm or deny whether those intentions were successful #etc #but that all takes a lot of effort to do in a way that is tactful so rambly tumblr posts r all i am capable of for now #and yknow. replacing byron with an oc so i can control those narratives instead of having to go one way with it or another #but idk maybe i care enough to expand on the actual canon these days #in the past i just felt so uncomfortable with the whole storyline it was easier to only acknowledge it when necessary #whereas now im like. trying to understand FOR those oc purposes #how that oc would differ from byron #which means having to understand him more #which means having to find things about him to care about enough to do that work and maybe if i care #about him enough i can just let him stay #last disclaimer i find other people's interpretations on the situation interesting and i have different thoughts about byron depending on #which interpretation is on the table #so i also hope im not like invalidating anything i just have been perplexed by the writing of this arc for years #and trying to learn more about it to put those braincells at rest is enrichment for me #and also just helpful for me to actually be able to reference the situation in fanworks or use clips from it #instead of shying away from it altogether and basically #kneecapping those fanworks as a result lmfao

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jakei95 · 8 months

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Regarding some false accusations and targeted harassment by HopelessPeaches TW: Harassment, mentions of gr**ming, d**th threats, s*icide idealization

For the past months, HopelessPeaches (also known as ThatRebelRosie on twitter) have kept harassing me and my husband Nyx with fake and exaggerated arguments. Every day she makes a post spreading rumors about how we are p*dophiles or that I hide groomers on my discord server/community which are completely false.

Even since I cutoff contact with the people from the GTC and their skype group, I tried to focus on growing up as a person and thanks to that we were able to keep our Discord server and community a safe space for people of all ages, claiming otherwise is just invalidating all the hard work people like Crystal or Pingu have done to keep our community safe.

We always tried to help our mod team and offered our support, we never forced them or exposed them to situations they didn't want to handle. None of us were prepared for the sick people we have had to confront over the years, but together we were able to take actions against them.

HopelessPeaches is obsessed with us, claiming that every action we take is to hide something or that we are trying to silence her abuse (When it's the other way around, she completely ignores the abuse I had to endure). She has gone to the extent of saying I announced Underverse 0.7 Part 2 to hide something, when I had planned to announce the animation on my birthday months ago.

She has constantly made fun of my abuse and mental health, and has stayed completely silent about all the hate messages (Including death threats) that she and her community has sent my way over her false accusations.

As I already cleared with the people on my server, I am not ignoring what I might have done in the past, and I will always live with the remorse of not being a better person from the start, I will always live with that, but I have spent years trying to become a better person and fix my mistakes to never repeat them again, both with my close circles and my followers, but having someone that I don't know, exposing my mental health problems, making fun them, accuse me of suicide baiting (Everyone that knows me knows I have struggled with this since I was a teenager), and also accusing me of a crime that I have never committed, is affecting me physically and mentally.

She is doing the same thing to me that she suffered from years ago. This has to stop. I am not asking for the world to not hate me, I am asking for people to stop harassing us for things that we have already acknowledged and owned fully in the past. People can change for the better, we are not criminals.

We have no intentions to send hate to these people, but this has gone so public and we have gotten so many threats that I had to address it personally. HopelessPeaches , I don't know what exactly you want from me, or what do you expect is going to happen, but this is the last time I will ask you to stop harassing us. I don't care if you hate me or Nyx, if you want the Undertale community dies or whatever that's going on through your head. I am just asking you to leave us alone.

#jakei says something #hopeless peaches

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iamthat-iam · 3 months

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Validation 🎬🥇

Lamar has been in the LOA community for years. It has always been a magical experience to read everyone's success stories, and to share some of his own. Everytime he successfully "manifested" something, he felt like "HIM." He felt like That Guy.

He couldn't wait to run to social media to brag about getting his SP back, and them moving into a beach house together. He couldn't wait to talk about how he met his favorite rapper, J Cole, and was invited to a party after one of his concerts.

"Wow that's insane!" People commented. "Congrats man! That's crazy!"

He didn't know what felt better, actually "experiencing" his manifestations, or the validation he got from sharing his success stories. Either way, he felt pretty damn good all the time.

Then, one day, he came across some ND/AV posts on Twitter that humbled him in ways he didn't think were possible. "Everyone and everything is you," "There's no manifestion, it's just an imaginary concept to explain how reality works," "All experiences are the same. No difference between physical and imagination," are all quotes that stood out to him.

This made him question everything he thought he knew about his own life, how reality works, and manifestation. If everyone was him, that means his girlfriend is also him, and everyone in his life? He's just been sharing his success stories with himself? If all experiences are the same, what was the point of waiting for everything to show up in the 3D? What's the point of it all? He needed to find answers soon before he drove himself crazy.

He found a NDtwt account that was willing to take DMs and sent a lengthy message about his concerns.

"Hi Lamar, thanks for messaging me!" The ND 'teacher' greeted him. "The first thing I want to explain is how 'everyone is you.' Everyone is not the PERSON you think you are, everyone is not Lamar. However, your true nature, the awareness behind everything that appears, is everyone and everything. You may have labelled the phone in your hand a "phone", but in reality it's just you. Same thing with the objects in the room you are in. Same thing with anything you can think of."

"Okay so I am one with everything, that makes sense," Lamar typed. "What about all experiences being the same? This whole time I've been waiting for things to show up in the 3D for nothing? Is it pointless to share success stories?"

"You got your GF back, you're living in a beach house and you met J Cole, I completely understand why you'd want to share that with others," the ND 'teacher' began. "However, once you've collapsed the duality between physical and imagination, you won't need that validation anymore. You know your true nature, you know that everything is you, so you know that no experience is seperate from you. That's the difference between LOA and ND. In LOA, there's someone here in lack to get something. In ND, there's nothing to get. You simply experience whatever you want without labelling it 'physical', 'imagination', 'dreams' because there's no such thing. No one can validate or invalidate your experiences because seeming others are also part of the illusion."

"Okay, I kinda get it, could you give me an example?" Lamar inquired.

"Suppose you were aware of being a famous rapper, and you had tons of fans. Then you open your eyes and everything appears to be the same. You try telling your family that you are a famous rapper, they all look at you like you're crazy. What happened here was you were perfectly aware of being this famous rapper, then switched to an illusion where you are not a famous rapper, and tried to get validation from people in the illusion where you aren't a famous rapper. Do you see where I'm going with this?" The ND 'teacher' asked.

"So it would be pointless to tell them I'm a famous rapper if I already experienced it myself, and them looking at me crazy doesn't really mean anything," Lamar guessed.

"Correct!" The ND 'teacher' replied. "Also, when you were aware of being a famous rapper, the old life and old you did not exist. This is because there's no objective reality here. There's actually nothing here, only your awareness of being, or " ."

This made Lamar feel better about this whole situation. There's no need for validation from seeming others when everyone and everything is you. Your success story is your ability to appear as anything or anyone.

#non dualism #nondualism #consciousness #awareness #self #self realization #advaita vedanta #advaita vendata

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willalove75 · 4 months

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stop simping over women and pay attention to your husband. You clearly made your choice to be with a man and have his child rather than choose a woman. You bisexual women don’t get to exist in lesbian spaces when you lean towards men. Unless your husband lets to you step out on your marriage or lets you have delusional thoughts that any lesbian would want a woman knocked up by a man. You bisexual women who lean more towards men or are with men have no right to be in sapphic or lesbian spaces. And lady d is a lesbian so as if she would be with someone who let a man touch them let alone knock them up.

Oh, I'm sorry, did my husband tell you that I'm not giving him enough attention? Didn't think so.

Yes, I made a choice to be with him, because I fell in love with him. Because he's my best friend and my biggest supporter in everything I do (yes, he even supports my writing and fics and he tells me often how proud he is of me). I did not chose him because he's a man. Truthfully, his gender had absolutely nothing to do with why I married him. I just happened to fall in love with and marry a man, but that does NOT make me any less of a bisexual woman.

"You bisexual women..." and people question whether or not bi-erasure is a thing, meanwhile, this entire ask is such a great example of just that😒

"delusional thoughts that any lesbian would want a woman knocked up by a man." is truly offensive to not only every bi woman who has been with a man, but any woman who has. What about the lesbians that got pregnant by men?? Because this may come as a shock to you, but it does happen. It may not happen a lot or often, but it does. Does that mean that those women are "tainted" or "ruined" also??? No it fucking doesn't, you idiot.

It really makes me laugh when people try and use a fictional character to make a real life argument. You want to know why? BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT FUCKING REAL!!! So honestly, you have absolutely no idea if that's true or not because she's a fake fucking character from a video game. Are you also this upset at the fic writers who make her trans??? Or what about fic writers that make Alcina's partner trans??? Or are you just that much of biphobic person and this is the hill you're choosing to die on?? Either way, you're an actual bigot.

This post just SCREAMS biphobia and bi-erasure and it's fucking gross. You are so very obviously projecting your own issues and insecurities in this and honestly I would be embarrassed if I were you. Because not a single thing you said is true AT ALL or holds any merit.

Bisexual women who lean towards men or who are with men ABSOLUTELY do belong in those spaces. Just because a bisexual woman is married/with a man or leans towards men does not discredit or change their sexuality. No bi person automatically becomes straight if they date/marry the opposite gender or become gay/lesbian if they date/marry the same gender. It's called BIsexual. More than one gender. You do not get to invalidate every bi person with this shitty (and inherently wrong) opinion.

I know you wrote this trying to get a rise out of me, and congratulations because you succeeded. But I also know that people like you leave messages like this because they feel so broken and hurt and shitty that they want others to feel like that too. Unfortunately for you, I grew up in the era that birthed anonymous hate messages so you'll have to try harder next time. Not only that, but I am proud and confident in who I am and no pathetic anonymous (especially anonymous, you pussy) message is going to shake me.

I am a proud bisexual woman. I am proud to be married to my husband. I am proud that I will soon be the mother of a little boy who I will raise to be a much better person than you'll ever be. I am proud of what I've written and no, I will not stop.

#willalove75 #lady dimitrescu #alcina dimitrescu #bi erasure is real #tw #biphobia #bi erasure #fuck outta here with these shitty and wrong opinions #you picked the wrong bitch my guy

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giantkillerjack · 1 month

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Me: I don't like when shows queerbait me.

Other Fans: Well then just watch other shows, dummy!!!!

Me: 👍👍👍 wow what a tidy way to dismiss and invalidate a legitimate reaction to homophobic story tropes! 👍👍👍

The "just leave then" response to people wanting more inclusivity from the stories they love is not just emotionally invalidating - it is also one of the things that keeps storytellers from feeling that they need to improve in the future by making fans feel stupid for demanding better representation in the first place.

This kind of response doesn't just make you sound like a conservative (since this is a VERY popular response that conservatives have when confronted with leftist media criticism), it also fundamentally ignores the fact that there may not BE an equivalent story with good rep to go to after leaving the queerbait-y one behind.

Delicious in Dungeon is special and unique; that's why I genuinely love it. It is that love that makes me want it to do better.

When I see that Shuro is allowed to openly express romantic love for Falin, but Marcille/Falin is relegated to mere implication, it makes me really sad. It may not be a romance manga, but there ARE straight couples, and hetero desire IS on display - which makes the lack of open queerness all the more noticeable.

So when people say "just go watch something else" in response to my genuine sadness and irritation that a beloved story is excluding people like me..... Are you telling me there's a nearly identical queer show - with a similarly active fandom - all about found family learning to cook beautiful foods in a dungeon? Is my favorite-guy-ever Senshi going to be there? Is there actually a place for me to go to??

OR is there only one Delicious in Dungeon, and that's what makes it great?

I think actually folks who respond this way just want me to leave, and they don't really care where I go, so long as their favorite thing doesn't have to stand up to criticism.

Because I don't want lesbian media elsewhere. I want it here, with my friend Marcille. Here, where the seeds of queer romance were purposely planted to hook my attention. What's so wrong with being disappointed if those seeds never grow to bear fruit??

We can like good art and still demand it does better. And we can validate people who are sad it isn't doing better without getting defensive. Critical analysis is healthy and important. It's how good and bad stories are fully understood, and it's how better stories get made.

And while I will try to enjoy the plentiful delicious crumbs I am being served (since it is more than most shows give me), just because I CAN squish a bunch of crumbs together into the approximate shape of a muffin, that doesn't mean I've been served a meal.

More on this topic because I love a good analogy

My original post about queerbaiting in Dungeon Meshi (that inspired this one with the replies I got from it)

#original #i love the show i am loving the manga but this is queer baiting plain and simple. i don't want to leave i want better rep.#I know they're not going to give it to me but how about you don't invalidate me when I say that makes me sad and they should do better??#dunmeshi #dungeon meshi #falin x marcille #marcille x falin #marcille donato #falin touden #queerbait #queerbaiting #falin dungeon meshi #dunmeshi falin #marcille dungeon meshi #marcille dunmeshi #delicious in dungeon marcille #delicious in dungeon #listen i adore marcille and I'm angry on her behalf that she is not allowed to truly be the romantic heroine she is set up as #not without layers of obstrusion and vaguery.

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coinandcandle · 9 months

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Paradigm Time! - What is a Paradigm?

TL;DR: Paradigms are how you make sense of magic and how it fits into the world in your experiences. They aren't right or wrong and they often change!

Paradigm: a philosophical or theoretical framework of any kind

Note: There are a few different definitions of paradigm depending on the field you're talking about. In the case of magic, we are using the definition above.

Paradigms are essentially how you make sense of the world around you. In magic, these paradigms are ways in which someone understands magic, how it works, and how it is used in the world.

Other people have used words like “framework”, or “beliefs/belief system”. Whatever you call it is fine!

Paradigms can and often do change over time, maybe you used to believe “xyz”, but now you’re thinking more “abc”. This doesn't make everything that you did while you believed in “xyz” invalid, it just means you understand it differently now.

Since paradigms are basically belief systems, they are not factual and are not “right” or “wrong” they simply are. One person may disagree with another, who may disagree with someone else, who may have similar but slightly different experiences than another. More than anything else, paradigms are fluid.

Furthermore, paradigms are fluid not just within ourselves but within communities too!

Here’s an example:

Say everyone in x community generally agrees that crystals hold power. However, some may believe that crystals only hold power once charged, like how a cup can only hold water once filled. While others may believe there is an inherent power within the crystal. Others in turn might believe that some crystals hold power and others don’t. Yet they all still believe the paradigm that crystals hold power.

Now let’s take a few paradigms about correspondences as another example.

In one witch’s paradigm, they might be used as ingredients that hold inherent power. -> “I am using the magical properties inherent to basil to power my money jar.” In another, the correspondences are spirits that you petition to help power the magical working. -> “I am working with the spirit of basil and asking them to help with my money jar.” In another, the correspondences are offerings that you give to a spirit that you’re petitioning. -> “I am using basil as an offering to a spirit to help with my money jar.” In yet another the correspondences are spirits that you don’t even need to petition, their very presence influences the spell. -> “I’m using basil in this spell because the spirit of basil will help influence my money jar.”

Here are some other examples of paradigms:

Spirit-Working sorcery, where spirits are petitioned for aid, and the strength of workings tends to depend on the depth of the relationship developed with the spirit, and/or success in evoking them in that instance.

Thinking or focusing on your intent in your head is fine, writing it down is better, but speaking it aloud is best.

Energy is the battery of magic. Magic is the change caused by whatever you’re doing but energy is what powers that change, be it a spell, prayer, whatever.

Gods can be called upon and petitioned for help with a spell, but the relationship between the caster and the god will determine the strength of the spell or their willingness to help. Otherwise, you can try to appeal to them with offerings to make up for the lack of a relationship, though their help will still not be as strong as if there were a pre-existing relationship.

Inanimate objects do not have spirits, but animals, plants, fungi, and humans do.

Again, these are not universal paradigms, they are just examples. I honestly don't think there even is a universal paradigm when it comes to magic and witchcraft.

Thank you to @windvexer @friend-crow @stagkingswife and @rose-colored-tarot for your help in writing this post!

#witchblr #witchcraft 101 #beginner witchcraft #learning witchcraft #Coin's Notes

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hero-israel · 7 months

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I’ve been thinking about this for some time now and I was hesitant to post about it because I don’t want my voice muddying actual protests and testaments from people actually affected because I am not Jewish or Palestinian. And I don’t know if this is the right medium for this remark but I didn’t know where else to put it.

But as someone from South Africa, who grew up listening to first hand accounts of people, black and white, who lived through Apartheid, as someone who had to learn the horrific history of Apartheid and how sick and twisted that regime was. And even then I cannot claim to be an expert because even my school didn’t teach us every detail (which is sad because while it’s painful, it’s part of history and we must learn about it to never repeat it).

But knowing what I do know about Apartheid and seeing the after effects of it where I live… it really disturbs me to see the word Apartheid thrown around so carelessly to describe Israel. It’s not only untrue but trying to apply to Israel what the white minority government did in South Africa to harm and have power over people of colour in every aspect of life, feels like it only does a massive disservice to actual Apartheid victims. Real people were killed and tortured and suppressed in terms of marriage, to where they could live, who they could love, what they could learn in schools, having the right to vote, having curfews and time restrictions or else risk persecution and brutality…. It just leaves me speechless that people so easily want to wash away the real tragedy of Apartheid because it’s a big sounding buzzword. Calling Israel an Apartheid state, in my mind, does nothing except invalidate the real victims of that horrific regime and it makes me sick.

I’m sorry for ranting like that but I just cannot wrap my head around it at all. It shouldn’t take a rocket scientist to see that the Apartheid regime and Israel’s government are in no way the same.

This is an extremely important perspective, and it would be a great help if you would be willing to share it openly.

There have been many voices from South Africa rejecting the "apartheid" comparison. It is important to show would-be activists that they are appropriating and disrespecting other peoples' suffering.

#apartheid #israel #palestine #south africa #jumblr

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Lately I've seen a number of posts written by people who are frustrated by the expression of Jason Todd being female coded. And I feel like there's some misunderstandings here.

Honestly I'm assuming the anger about binary gender codings like "jason todd is female coded" is coming from people who are also queer. And I can see why people would feel frustrated by the simplification and what seems like unnecessary gendering of trauma. Hell, maybe it's even invalidating to your gender and your trauma. That's fair.

Personally I believe gender is a social construct. No emotion or situation belongs to any one gender. However. As a trans person. I've had to confront that my reality is shaped by the binary gender I am assigned. While I reject being "female coded", the situations I've been in and the trauma I've gone through has been severely influenced by being AFAB. Social constructs do shape our reality.

Me and my cis brother grew up with the same parents. But I faced more physical abuse from my father and higher expectations from my mother. He got an autism diagnosis and arguably faced and internalized ableism his whole life, I got told I make too much eyecontact to be autistic. Both of our lives and hardships have been shaped by the gender we were assigned.

To me the expression "jason todd is female coded" means that every attempt Jason has made to express his pain has been met by people trying to have a philosophical argument about the nature of man and second chances and justice like they are not literally talking to his reanimated body. That kind of blatant disregard of your pain and tonedeaf request to be reasonable, that pressure to return to the rules of your father and the rules of a patriarchal society despite how living under those systems put you in harm's way in the first place, the lack of concern about your feelings of safety. I think that's an experience you are thrust into when it gets decided for you that you're female. And personally, I use Jason Todd being female-coded as a way for me to reclaim my trauma while recognizing it doesn't affect my gender. Jason is a guy. I'm a guy.

#jason todd #jason todd is female coded #no one has to identify with this maybe it's just not for you #I've just been feeling hurt by the tone of some posts that are upset about this expression. it's something very personal to me #I don't like the way genderqueer people talking about gender is being met with derision from fellow genderqueers #Please be able to see that while you don't identify with something other trans people might and there's no right way to be transmasc #like let me have my feelings and perspective about how gender has affected me #rambling

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quoigenicfromhell · 1 month

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In a way, I find it slightly vindicating that a lot of the same people who have been trying to convince us that we shouldn't distrust people because they identify as antiendo are also seeing the bullshit currently happening in the tags. The abject hatred of us for being who we are is something we have to think about every day, even in irl spaces because this bullshit leaks offline. It leaks into fandom spaces. Every time I see a post talking about how someone is part of an unrelated server that has one single endo and that the anti-endo hopes all the singlets invalidate that poor son of a bitch just trying to engage in their hobbies, I shrink into myself just a little more. Now apparently we're grooming people by existing and talking about the way our systems work. We're scary and dangerous and everyone should eject us from every space we're a part of, all of our personal posts should be mocked so we are pushed further and further into the plural closet.

I'm not ashamed to be who I am. But every time I go into a space, I face a choice. Be honest about who I am and face someone calling me a faker or advocating for me to be kicked out, or lie and pretend to be something I'm not. It's getting tiring.

#syscourse #pro endo #endo safe

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ash-says · 2 months

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I think your page speaks volumes about the way you’ve perceived and endured life and I’m sorry you haven’t had the time or opportunity to soak up the good things that are all around you, I hope you develop skills that allow your success to be built off of things that are good and pure and not cheap manipulation tactics and lies

Devil may care: A guide on being unbothered.

Okay, and??

Sweetheart, I really appreciate your unwanted sympathies and illusionary sensitivity directed towards me. In our culture when someone is being sweet, kind and helpful (even if fake) we make sure that we pay them back with something valuable. Here's a small guide curated for you that will help you in being self secure so you won't feel threatened by other people's success and opinions.

1) Have a life:

Nothing screams idle to me more than this. Like you have time to be offended by someone's post and comments which you might just scroll by and ignore?? On top of that going above and beyond to let that person know. Okay, Sushma. Now log off and do the pending coursework.

2) Build genuine confidence:

Ladies, fake it till you make it can only go this far. You have to work on your underlying issues and address them. If you don't you are susceptible to triggering even by a mere stranger. Confident people don't need to go above and beyond to prove other people. They embody it.

3) Self awareness:

It's tiring to explain this. Just Google it at this point. This word is thrown like a football everywhere. You know it. Do the homework.

4) Practice self compassion and boundaries:

Negative feedback is part and parcel of life. Accept it, analyse and if it applies adopt or otherwise ignore. Boundaries are important to understand the difference between constructive criticism and disrespect.

If disrespected don't be afraid to put a bitch in place. Until then shut your mouth and concentrate on your goals.

5) Opinions are subjective:

Everyone has their own life experiences and opinions are formed based on those. Your Roman Empire might be different from your friends but does it mean it's invalid? No. Develop empathy and open-mindedness. Not everyone has the same views. It's okay.

6) Develop a thick skin:

You can't survive in this world if you are triggered by the tiniest of things. You have to be comfortable in being painted both as a hero and as a villain. Don't let others opinion get to your head. Owe to yourself that I will stand in my truth thou glory or disgrace.

7) Reflect a rbf stance:

When someone tries to belittle you, try to put you down, talk shit about you. Your body language should be cold and reserved with a rbf that screams intimidation but all you are going to say is Okay, and??

8) Master Sarcasm:

I have said this before and I will say it again. Revenge is a dish best served cold. Sarcasm is the ice in it. Ladies learn sarcasm. It's the one way ticket to put people in their place in a humorous way.

9) Be classy. Be polite. BE UNTOUCHABLE.

Who do you think will be named as the crazy one? The one who is screaming and belittling someone or the one who is still being polite but discreetly showing the person where they belong. Never resort to screaming and shouting. That's dumb. Second never go out of your way to prove how you are relevant. Take it or leave it mentality.

10) Seek professional help:

Even after all of this you are not able to practice being unbothered. I think a therapist is the best solution for you.

P.S. :Ladies, this is what I mean when I say leverage the fuck out of your connections and opportunities. This is how you turn a negative into a positive.

Plus I am petty enough to not let this disrespect slide but thought it would be a good content idea for my posts, isn't it??

That's all for today's show on ash-says. Stay tuned for more illegal tricks and explosive opinions.

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hotelcaliforniaenbydancer · 4 months

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You Need To Hear This. All Of You.

A lot of us here on Tumblr are different from the norms of society. Most of us are, in fact. And you know what? That is so beautiful.

And yet.... not everyone, especially irl, thinks that way. But, still.... I am just so SICK of the hate.

Most of us are either queer or neurodivergent. Both of those things are awesome. After all, I am both, haha.

But then you begin to see a problem. Even among people who are supportive, they seriously still think that it is acceptable to make "exceptions" to who they can include and support.

Whenever I see posts about how cishet aroallo men are not queer, it makes me angry. Because that is exclusion. And hate. You can feel it.

And then there is something that makes me even angrier. The angriest, in fact.

Seeing people who think that some neurodivergent people are valid, while completely invalidating others.

A post where someone says how much they love and are supportive of autistic people and people with ADHD and OCD.

But what happens when someone says that they have bipolar disorder or NPD?

Hate.

Hate is what happens.

And I HATE that kind of hate.

It has no basis, and no reason, other than people's unwarranted prejudice and discrimination.

BECAUSE YOU KNOW WHAT??!!

Those people, that are being hated on?

Yes, them, the so-called "dangerous" and "abusive" neurodivergents.... all because of some shitty social stigma?

THOSE ARE MY FRIENDS.

I am friends with such a wide variety of people, almost all of whom are neurodivergent.

That includes people who are bipolar.

That includes people who have NPD.

And then SOME OF YOU fuckers come along and try to say that those people, again, MY OWN FRIENDS, are "dangerous" or "abusive".

So stupid.

I am emotionally abused by a neurotypical.

Meanwhile the people that I know who are neurodivergent.

Every. Single. One of them.

Is kind, and sweet, and loving, and makes ME feel loved and accepted.

So, to EVERYONE out there who is DARING to say such horrible things about these nice, loving, and wonderful people that I know and love?

Fuck off.

You know nothing.

You do not know them like I do.

You do not see them for the true people that they are inside.

And unless you decide to let go of your STUPID hate, you never will.

And you are missing out on a lot of damn good friendships.

To all of my neurodivergent friends: I love you, and you know who you are.... almost all of you, lol.

Sending you hugs to protect you from the cruelty of this world, even if it is only a temporary comfort.

You guys are the best.... and I love you.

#long post #important rant #some of you guys NEED to hear this #and i am not about to hold my tongue

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thoughts on marvin's abuse, care's existence and paul's transness

taking a break from my usual bg3 posting to talk a little bit about my newer hyperfixation through the lens of queer allegory

necessary author's note: i am an afab transmasculine nonbinary person. obviously, while i do believe my transness does lend my opinion authenticity, at the same time, being trans myself does not mean i can't be transphobic -- so if any of the contents of this post set off alarm bells, please tell me.

trigger & content warnings: child abuse, kidnapping, torture, general petscop badness. obvious spoilers for petscop in its entirety, as well as references to the recent youtube deepdive by nexpo.

TL;DR -- perpetuating the idea that someone can force someone else to be a different gender than they are is harmful to trans people. however, all things involve considerable nuance. to pretend that marvin's actions could not have influenced paul's sense of self in the slightest discredits paul's lived experiences, and i believe a more trauma-informed dialogue about paul could be worth exploring as a community.

my preferred theory explaining petscop is that marvin tried to make care more like lina through abuse and "failed". after this, care would eventually end up in lina's home, and transition to paul.

(simply to make all of this less confusing, i'm going to call paul pretransition "care", though i will avoid pronouns. this is not me trying to invalidate paul, it's just so i don't have to keep saying "paul before he transitioned" or similar phrases.)

it is not a result of marvin's "failure" that care transitioned to paul. but i do believe there is a link between paul's perceptions of self and the trauma he endured pretransition -- and discussing these things gives us a deeper understanding of paul and his history.

obviously there is no "canon" answer to petscop. but im seeing this theory discussed a lot within the tags, and i personally agree with it -- i just feel some of those who are saying we cannot consider marvin's actions are not necessarily accurate, either.

what i am positing is that while marvin certainly did not make paul trans and i would never claim that he did, we understand that marvin's abuse of care -- his cruelty towards care, his warping of care's perception of appearance and self-worth -- is certainly a factor in how paul must see himself.

marvin's treatment of care was poor enough that paul struggles to recall that time of his life. he thinks they are different people -- and in a way, they certainly are (and i've seen DID theories for them which i also enjoy because of this) -- and has clearly repressed what it meant to be marvin's child.

marvin locked care in a basement for six months. that is no small amount of time, and it likely had no small amount of affect on paul. we can assume based on the implications of some school scenes that marvin was trying to convince care to be more like lina during this time. care escaped, and returned home -- though eventually, we know from belle's dialogue that paul would find his way to lina.

"do you remember the day you were born?"

paul's "birth" occurred after marvin's abuse, and though it was not a result of it, there is something almost poetic about following the thread of paul's life from care to his authentic self that plays as a foil to the heinous rebirthing practiced by marvin and rainer.

contrasted with what happened to belle (and seemingly others), paul chose (a form of) rebirth -- transition. marvin tried to make lina be reborn through care. instead, care resisted -- and he would eventually become paul, and that strikes me as so narratively compelling. it's not to spite marvin and please don't think i'm saying that, as care was naturally always paul -- it is simply self-discovery at its most raw and beautiful, and i love it.

the above is why i love petscop as a queer allegory. taking ownership of one's future and selfhood, even when others are trying to tell you who to be.

and that's why i think saying marvin made his afab child transition in rejection of martin's quest for lina -- or that marvin tried to make his amab child transition to care/lina, as nexpo posited -- is so wrong, and harmful.

yet, paul's trauma is real. it happened. and it's a part of him that should be able to be discussed for what it is.

as someone with extensive trauma history, i can tell you that my gender expression and personal identity are in some way connected to pieces of trauma, because those pieces are part of me. i am not trans because of my trauma, but my gender and my trauma are parts of me at the same time -- i am not each of my pieces, but a sum of my whole.

the point i'm trying to make here is that while i think nexpo genuinely missed the mark here with this whole "care never existed, marvin tried to make paul a girl" thing, i do think there needs to be room for a trauma-informed discussion around paul.

i hope that all made sense. if any of this is harmful/transphobic, please let me know. i genuinely love this game and i think it's so fascinating to discuss. /gen

#petscop #paul leskowitz #carrie mark #petscop paul #petscop care #paul is trans theory

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warlock-wizard-mage · 4 months

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The Fetishization Of MLM relationships

DISCLAIMERS:

1.) this post is not trying to be transphobic or mysoginistic in any way. That would be disgusting and if you are either one of those it will not be tolerated and i will flag and block you.

2.)This is not an attack onany artist specifficaly or ppl who headcanon Sirius as transfem.

Now, onto the actuall discussion...

So this started with my post about 99% of wolfstar fanart making Sirius look like a woman and how it is a gross fetishization of a queer relationship.

As a masc person who ships a lot of MLM myself, i have noticed that sometimes when i see a fanart of my fave mlm ship, one of the more femme one out of the couple gets portraied in a very femmine way, sometimes to a point of no recognition where it straight up almost feels like a gender swap fanart (and its not).

I usually kept it no mind as it wasnt that usuall and didnt really interest me (for example, i used to be a huge Loki fan a few years back and every time id see a hyperfeminized loki it would be a Thorki fanart, so i just ignored it cuz i dont ship thorki )

HOWEVER

recently i got into marauders and when i searched up wolfstar fanart for the first time ever, MAJORITY of it was portraying Sirius as a baby girl (hyper femme, to the point where it looked like a hetero fan art)

That is why i got fed up, bc before it was scarce but this fandom has a problem.( Like how is it a majority of fanart?? you ppl okay??)

SO, how is this a gross fetishization and queerphobic you ask?

Ive actually seen a lot of people talk about it back in 2020/21 and since then had a few conversations about it with my friends, bc im not the only one who noticed this.

There is this phenomenon of CIS and HETERO girls/women that obsess over gay relationships. They ship mlm characters, maybe desire a "gay bestie" (but not a lesbian one), or even would like to have a bi bf (with a perfrence for women ofc).

I noticed this but didnt know what it was. It wasnt until i heard other people talk about it and talk about some research and studies and so on, that i found out what it all was about.

It is because girls/women in this society and era strive to be seen as equal by their partner, want to be seen as an equal by their partner- emotionaly and physically and so on. And subconciously or conciously they know that they cannot get that from a cishet male partner, so they obsess over the fictive desirable world of a gay male love. (Male bc theyre not queer themselves and fantasizing about a sapphic relationship would be very fruity.)

And while all of that is understandable and valid and actually quite sad, it does not change anything about the fact that these people then go on and invade queer spaces, take away representation, selfproject onto one of the men in the ship to the point where they hyperfeminize him bc they dont actually want to see two men in love, they just crave what the gay couple has.

ps: if you do this and you do not identify as a woman/girl, i am very sorry if this made you feel invalidated and i need to say that this doesnt apply to you, queer ppl obsessing over queer ships is no problem at all and you are valid

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there-was-a-hole-here-itsgonenow · 1 year

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This post by mikesbasementbeets is still on my heart. I’ve been stuck on Mike trying to connect with El about being bullied—

—and he gets shut down with “No. You don’t.”

Mike didn’t defend his experiences.

El was hurting, yes, and for many good reasons (one being her failing relationship with Mike), but she did invalidate him. She was there in s1 to see some of the bullying Mike (and by extension Will, Dustin, and Lucas) went through and even took action when she recognized Troy and his friend were awful people. El humiliated Troy in the gymnasium, prevented Mike from falling off a cliff prompted by Troy, and even proceeded to break Troy’s arm afterward.

El didn’t understand what the bullying was about then, but she was well-aware that these ‘mouth-breathers’ weren’t good and opposed them. She knows what bullying is. The writers could’ve had El reference this, as Mike did with “you’ve seen it” because that was clearly meant to open a communicative door to relate. They could’ve had her say that she understands and knows Mike went through bullying that hurt him too (and put him in fatal danger) while also expressing her personal frustrations (‘From Mike’ and the way he views her included), but this didn’t happen. To push it further, she also says “I am different.” On one hand, yeah. She is different. She wasn’t the average little girl with an average living environment. She’s not at all the average teenager either. She’s trying to catch up and have normal experiences. More than understandably, it’s upsetting and frustrating for her that she isn’t.

But this invalidation—“No. You don’t.”—is feeding the part of Mike that tells him he is inferior/ lesser than. What does he say to Will in the van? That he’s worried El will realize he’s just some random nerd who got lucky that Superman got dropped on his doorstep. Mike belittled himself there. Him expressing this to Will obviously shows he feels comfortable confiding those insecurities in him. It shows the obvious contrast as to why Mike didn’t further comment about his own experiences with El too. It also shows Mike’s view on himself. El is still on a pedestal in his mind, and, to himself, he is far beneath her. He may have confided his insecurities to Will, but he is still belittling himself (and very heavily differentiating himself from El) at the same time. By doing so, by making himself insignificant in comparison to El, Mike is invalidating himself. In comparison, he thinks his own traumas are lesser than.

#photos are mikesbasementbeets’#not to mention… mike is ‘different’ too #he probably feels like he doesn’t belong either #mike wheeler #mike’s mental health #byler

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