I missed most Ace week it looks like. Since it’s the last day, I’ll try to make this brief.

Aces/Acepecs of any flavor belong in the LGBT+ community. The A in LGBTQIA stands for Aspec after all.

Fellow Aces, please be kind to each other. I have seen so much discourse and gatekeeping within our community for years, and it is very disheartening, especially as someone with a very complicated identity.

Also, I hope everyone had a good Ace Week this year.

(Note: Exlusionists DNI. Do not start lgbt+ discourse on my blog.)

currently thinking abt that one Jaiden Animations video where she says she felt detached from the LGBTQ+ community bc she was aroace

Everyone is all for sex positivity until aroallos want equality, huh?

Everyone is all for stopping the sexualization of women until they’re ace, hm?

Everyone is all for community and openness until cishet aces or aros want to be rightfully recognized as queer, right?

Stop the aphobic bullshit and take a step back. Look at your biases. Look at the language you use and realize how mean you’re being. Learn from your mistakes and become a kinder person.

I used to be aphobic. I didn’t understand how someone could feel little to no romantic attraction especially, and it was because I am very alloromantic. But that is exactly how homophobes look at the rest of the queer community. Since they don’t experience the attraction we do, the choose to believe it’s not real.

Just because you don’t fully understand what it’s like to be aspec doesn’t mean you should be hating aspec people. They are queer too. Fucking treat them as such.

I think i just need to express that the culture surrounding QPRs right now made me think that i couldn't have strong bonds with my friends. Society told me i cant have strong bonds with friends because that was only for romantic relationships. Then i went into aro spaces and this idea was reinforced using QPRs instead of romantic relationships. it was "You can still have strong bonds with people without romance! It can just be a QPR instead!" "QPRs are MORE than friendship so you can have STRONGER BONDS than you would with friends."

it made me think that the relationships i wanted with my friends HAD to be something other than friendship for it to be as strong as i wanted. If i wanted to be the first person in someones life i had to enter some sort of committed relationship. if I wanted someone to care about me as strongly as i did them then it would have to be a relationship that was "more" than friendship.

I thought I wanted a QPR because i was told the only way to get that care and security that I wanted was to enter into a relationship that was "more" than friendship. because friends didn't care that much. because friends didn't live together their entire lives. because friends were never the priority relationship wise. and it took me years to realize that i didn't want any partnership and i shouldn't have to be in one to want these things from a friend. these things CAN be something friends can do. but i found that out on my own. because the aro community kept saying "you want a QPR" when i just wanted a friend who finally saw me as a priority in their life.

here are some harmful aro stereotypes 💚🤍🩶🖤

there are probably so many more stereotypes, but those are the ones that i see more often! also i already posted same post about bisexuality, so check it out —> here.

aros are heartless — most people think that, because they assume aromantics do not love, they love. they can love their family, their friends, their pet or even themselves (this one is specifically for my afamilial & aplatonic folks). there is so much more complexity to love than romantic love and anyone who puts romantic love above all else is lame. like im sorry, but romantic love isn’t somehow better from self-love or love to your friends or family.

aro and ace are the same — this is also about asexuality, but aro ≠ ace. i see some people use the term asexual to describe both the aro & ace experience and to me it makes no sense since they’re completely different things. aro & ace can co-exist and one person can be on both spectrums, but that doesn’t mean all people are the same, not all aros are ace, not all aces are aro. so what is aro & ace? both are a spectrum. if you are aromantic you do not feel romantic attraction OR feel it under certain circumstances only (ex. when you know someone well, when someone likes you you like them back or until someone likes you back you like them). if you’re asexual that means you do not feel sexual attraction OR only feel it under certain circumstances.

aros can’t date — aros can in fact date, some people on the arospec experience attraction (rarely or under certain circumstances) so it makes sense they can date. there are also aros that do not experience romantic attraction, some date even though they do not experience the same feeling. they can like the person, care for them deeply and affectionately, but it is simply not romantic love, but they can chose to date the person. not all aros are loveless or romance repulsed.

i can ship xyz, aros can date — this is targeted tbh, i keep seeing people bring this up in Yelena Belova discourse about her aromanticism, while it is true aros can date, some chose not to, some are simply not interested in it and if a character in canon is showing no interest in romance or is repulsed by it, they don’t need to be fixed, they don’t need to be put in a relationship, they can just exist in peace. i especially dislike allos shipping aro/ace characters because they just see them as allo at that point, like im sorry, but they don’t give a shit about aros if they can’t listen to them explaining why you shouldn’t ship a specific aro character.

aros aren’t valid — bs. just bs. they are valid, whether you’re a man, a woman, a gender outside of the binary, whether you’re asexual as well or not, whether you want to date or not, you are valid as long as the definition applies to you!!! honestly here’s how i can explain being aro: if you are straight you are only attracted to opposite gender, so you don’t like same-sex, so just like you don’t like same-sex, aro’s don’t like same-sex & opposite gender.

Are you normal about aspec people or will you try to find ways to fit them into amatonormative standards regardless?

new and improved aro/ace poll

aros and poly ppl are allies. no further questions

Hey, guys! Happy aro awareness week!

From an aromantic individual,

PROTEST. STAND WITH PALESTINE.

I hate that these landed on the same week, but remember that Palestinian people are currently dying and suffering while we post aro memes. There is an on-going protest. We can push the week back, for them, right? And if not, KEEP TALKING ABOUT PALESTINE.

It's fine if we miss this year's aro week if it means we keep amplifying out voices for the people who are actively being slaughtered right now.

See you all next week. Protest. Free Gaza. Stand with Palestine.

For all those people who think the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for Ally...

How is being a descent human being queer??? How is not being a literal homophobe/transphobe/biphobe/intersexphobe/aphobe worthy of praise???

Congratulations, you're not an asshole. That does not mean you're part of the LGBTQIA+ community.

For anyone who wants to educate themselves about Palestine and the Palestinian struggle for freedom, as we all must, please check out Decolonize Palestine.

This is an essential primer, a resource created by two Palestinians from Ramallah, the West Bank.

It is unacceptable for us, especially those who live in the West to turn away in this moment because “it’s too complicated”.

If you don’t know enough about this critical issue, I urge you to educate yourself by listening to and reading from Palestinians.

Not knowing enough about a situation is an opportunity. To learn more. From the people who are directly affected.

There are so many resources and books out there.

Don’t stop with this one.

Keep learning.

And keep doing what you can.

We all must.

Friendly reminder that aplatonics are queer. It’s so disheartening to see so much aphobia be directed towards aplatonics. The A includes all aspecs.

hey btw to that anon who just sent me a hate ask about how nonshippers "had it coming" when theyre getting harassed

go fuck urself

u dont belong here

my blog is a safe space for shippers and nonshippers alike

THIS IS A SAFE SPACE FOR ASPEC PPL

if u think ppl deserve to be harassed just bc they ship or dont ship something pls block me and get a fucking life

ur fucking revolting

what if i ship these people as friends, then what fuckers. what if i ship them as enemies because i made up a scenario in my head, then what? you gonna be a coward about it??? what if i ship these people as this person loves romantically, and this person loves in this is my forever friend with tax benefits??? what if i ship these people in they live together because they just seem like they would be the good roommates??? what if i shipped them in the most unromantic unspecified multilayered queer way possible??? what if what if what if what if- i'll fucking do it

happy pride to all my fellow aspec peeps!!

a redraw of sorts from last year- unfortunately it looks like my hands aren’t gonna let me do multiple versions for different flags this time around but still I must take every opportunity to make ace & aro rep in the form of my silly lil creatures to whatever level I can it’s what I do :3

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Even if the a stood for ally(it does NOT) then I think All aspec people would be included anyways so please kindly shut the fuck up you stupid aphobes. You seem like the kind of people to open up a book and be surprised when there are words in it.