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sleepii-freddie · 11 months

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tfw you're aro/ace (or one of the two) and can't stopping headcanoning characters or making your ocs aro/ace

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klugpuuo · 5 months

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loveless aros, heartless aros, aplatonic people, and anyone whose low empathy or entire lack of empathy influence their aspec-ness (or vice versa) are all amazing. giving yall a respectful nod and/or high five

#aspec positivity #aplatonic #arospec

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screampotato · 1 year

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Excuse me, aces, aros, aroaces and aspecs: you are being awesome today.

#asexual #ace #aromantic #aro #aspec #ace spectrum #asexual spectrum #ace spec #aromantic spectrum #aro spec #aroace #aroace spec #aspec positivity

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lgbtqtext · 15 days

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the-anemoi · 2 years

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hi hi hi happy asexual awareness week! especially to those who don't feel they fit quite right

as in. the demisexuals, the greysexuals, those who are questioning asexuality or those who identify as it but still feel unsure anyways. those who are sex positive or sex neutral. those who are sex-repulsed, or those who worry that they think they're not really ace, maybe just allo and sex-repulsed. those who think they'll grow out of it, and those who worry if they'll still identify as asexual later. those who experience intrusive thoughts, those who have other factors play into their identity, those who end up worrying about it because of these factors.

it's okay not to feel confident. it's okay to worry. just think of right now, this week. you're valid. this week is for you, too.

#little personal but. um.#also applies to aros too!!!!!!!! just focused on ace here because. im ace #asexual #asexual awareness #asexual awareness week #ace #graysexual #gray ace #demisexual #aceflux #aspec positivity #acespec #aspec #questioning aspec

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3scapethevoid · 2 months

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A dose of validation for a-spec identities!

You're valid if you're aplatonic and don't have friends!

You're valid if you're aplatonic and do have friends!

You're valid if you're afamilial and aren't close with your family and/or familial figures OR don't have any!

You're valid if you're afamilial and are close with your family and/or familial figures if you have any!

You're valid if you're aqueerplatonic and don't engage in queerplatonic relationships!

You're valid if you're aqueerplatonic and do engage in queerplatonic relationships!

You're valid if you're aromantic and don't engage in romantic relationships!

You're valid if you're aromantic and do engage in romantic relationships!

You're valid if you're asexual and don't engage in sexual relationships/intercourse!

You're valid if you're asexual and do engage in sexual relationships/intercourse!

You're valid if you're the 'stereotype' of your label!

You're valid if you have any label that 'contradicts' with your actions/feelings!

You're valid if you aren't a-spec or don't consider yourself a-spec or don't use labels but are still attraction-repulsed, ambivalent, or whatever!

You can't control what you do and don't feel and no one else should either, be proud of who you are, no matter how 'absurd' or 'unnatural' it is to others. You are all valid! <3

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agrebel18 · 10 months

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I just wanna send some love to aromantic/arospec people who HAVE experienced romantic attraction and/or feeling romantic attraction right now. this DOES NOT magically make you allo, since your form of feelings are Different from them, and you’re aspec enough <3

#arospec #arospike #aromantic #greyromantic #demiromantic #aspec positivity #aggie posts

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hoarder-of-stories-27 · 2 years

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Aspec people who use the label “queer”, you’re so important. I’m glad you exist.

Aspec people who would use the label but feel they can’t because of aphobia, I’m so sorry. I wish you safety and peace.

Aspec people in general, I hope you’re having a good day. You deserve a community that accepts you.

#queer positivity #aro positivity #ace positivity #aroace positivity #aspec positivity #demi positivity #demisexual positivity #demiromantic positivity #asexual positivity #aromantic positivity #acespec positivity #arospec positivity #encouragement #my posts #/aphobia mention

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intersexfairy · 2 years

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it's okay if the phrase "born this way" doesn't resonate with you. it doesn't have to. if you're trans and you were your assigned gender at some point, if your orientation is related to trauma, if you just don't care if you were born this way or not... etc. etc. that's all fine and good. we all have different stories and different ways of identifying ourselves. your queerness is just as meaningful and important and true as those who were born this way.

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caesthoffe · 1 year

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aromantic rep is so minimal that i am sitting in the library, silently celebrating the fact that we finally have our own wikipedia page instead of just being a subsection of the "romantic orientation" page

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arcadialedger · 11 months

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Porn bots love to find my blog and just… it’s giving aphobia.

#really? during pride month?#sex repulsed #asexual #sex repulsed asexual #ace #aspec #asexuality #aspec pride #ace pride #ace people are valid #ace problems #aspec positivity #the arcadia ledger

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support-ponies · 4 days

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pinkie pies with support for aspec people :0?

pinkie says your identity is worth celebrating! - mod applejack

#mod applejack #my little pony #positivity #ace positivity #aspec positivity #pinkie pie #mlp

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frost-faerie · 5 months

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I think being asexual and still liking sex is cool and valid. Its like. I don't mind fruit, and I don't really crave it. but eating fruit is fun and fulfilling regardless. You know?

#asexual #asexuality #aspec positivity #sex-favorable asexual #love you all ❤️

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wiste · 8 months

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Alloaces are valid.

Aroallos are valid.

Aroaces are valid.

Aplatonic aros are valid.

Cishet aspec people are valid.

Oriented aspec people are valid.

Sex or romance repulsed aspec people are valid.

Sex or romance neutral aspec people are valid.

Sex or romance favoured aspec people are valid.

It is not selfish to be in a relationship as an aspec person.

It is not selfish to have sex as an aspec person.

ASPEC PEOPLE ARE VALID.

No one has the right to put rules on our identities and dismiss how we feel. I’m sick of being called selfish or confused. It’s okay to be angry about how people treat you.

#aspec rage #aroace #lgbtqia+#aromantic #asexual #aspec #aspec positivity #YOU ARE VALID #aro positivity #ace positivity

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green-enby · 9 months

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Heyo! Have you watched Koisenu Futari (恋せぬふたり, Two people who can't fall in love) yet? It's a great series, just 8 episodes long! I binged it in one day :) [smiley]

It focuses on two aromantic asexual people living together. This is a little appreciation post, containing some thoughts that it evoked in me as an aroace.

If you don't want spoilers, please don't read!

It's so relatable how Sakuko keeps blaming herself all throughout the show… Insecurity stemming from societal expectations that dictate romance is for everyone, and that people who don't date are somehow "failing" in life; I think this affects allos as well.

When I broke off my romantic relationship, I too felt like it had been my fault, for not having been a good enough partner, for not being able to love them in the same way they loved me.

To finally learn that you are not "defective", that there's other people like you…! I love how the two MCs don't grieve their lack of attraction; Sakuko is perfectly happy discovering she's aroace. She and Takahashi are living their "best life" together.

Sure, many aroaces do wish they were allo, and that needs to be represented too, but this series to me really shined a light over why they want that: it's because amatonormativity is rampant in the world, not because lacking attraction is inherently sad. The main conflicts in the series stem from the clash between allo society and the aroace experience, after all. I think that's neat! It gave me a good dose of aroace joy—while still showing the hurts that come with it, realistically—and I really needed it.

I didn't expect her to come out to her family so soon, but whoa, that was intense. Her mother's negative reaction is what all people who exclude a-spec people from the LGBTQIA+ community should see, to understand that we face the same issues they do.

I haven't come out to my parents as aroace yet, and watching this made me realize how awful it actually feels to be in the closet. I somehow hadn't realized I am. I've always felt safe coming out to them as other things, as bisexual back in the day, and as trans non-binary.

It might be because my confidence disappeared when they reacted badly both times, but this coming out feels almost impossible.

Comparing it to coming out as bi, it's really not that different: if you're bi, you're promiscuous and date too many people; if you're aroace, you're a prude and cold-hearted. If you break away from the status quo, you're wrong either way.

But at least, most people do eventually understand the bi experience, if they understand same-gender attraction, and fuse it with straightness, even though it's a flawed method.

With aros and aces, instead, it's such an alien concept for an allo, which makes it way harder to come out and have to explain to them how to deconstruct allo-amatonormativity. It's exhausting. Thankfully, there's people like Kazu who are actually willing to learn about us. That gives me hope.

I feel like it's super eye-opening to find out the concept of romance didn't even exist in the past. Pretty sure that in Europe, it originated during the Middle Ages from the ideal of chivalry. So it's really just a social construct, and opting out of it shouldn't be so controversial!

It's just a set of pointless, annoying rules like having to kiss eachother, having to say "I love you", and doing it all a set amount of times, otherwise it's not good enough. What if we don't want to? What if it doesn't come natural to us? If it's just a social construct, fuck it, I'm not adhering to that! We do whatever makes us happy!

Even in the series itself, Sakuko too goes through a heartbreak, even if it's not the romantic kind: she valued her friendship and future cohabitation with Chizuru above all else, but Chizuru abandoned her, because of romantic love. It's not true that aroaces have it easy.

Like our MC, we have to deal with fear that we'll come off flirty when we're just being friendly, confusion over concepts that we feel we should understand, shame over the fact that we're different, fear of loneliness, frustration and pain that we'll always come second to our friends' romantic partners, or even trauma from a relationship or sexual encounter that we didn't really want. I could go on and on.

These last scenes really got to me. Especially the second one… I admit that I cried, when she had to turn her down, and it seemed like her aromanticism had ruined their relationship. It hurts that the way I am could seriously harm someone I care about. It hurts that most people work differently and that they can't help it, and that we can't help it either. I don't like being put in that position, to cause someone a heartbreak. I have with my ex, and had to watch them spiral down… It was horrible.

Still, I wouldn't change my orientation for the world. I'm confident in my identity, I love being aroace.

In the end, we can all reach our full potential, reach a point where we feel fulfilled and that we're living our best life, find ourselves a family if it's what we want, have our dream job and house. Being aroace doesn't condemn us to a life of unhappiness. That's what this series left me with by the end; it gave me so much hope for my future.

(I'm aware I'm coming off as a bit toxically positive here haha, sorry if I'm striking a bad chord; I'm just in a really good period right now, and riding this wave for as long as I can! Hopefully I can rub it off someone else as well.)

That said, I really loved this j-drama, it was funny and relatable and emotional, I wished it had lasted longer! It seems like the author isn't even aroace herself, so I'm amazed at how good the representation was! So much thought and research has gone into it, and it shows; the result is amazing.

Thanks for reading my scattered thoughts about this! 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

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fivetrench · 2 months

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Happy (early) Valentine’s Day to all aspec folks!

All aros & arospecs

All aces & acespecs

All aroaces, anywhere on the spectrum

All aroallos (you guys are magnificent btw)

All alloaces

All aphysical, aemotional, and atertiary folks

All anattractional folks

Whatever attraction you feel or don’t feel deserves to be acknowledged. Your identity does not make you lesser in any way.

Happy Valentine’s Day :) <3

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