Real event (And real sayings I've seen online and been told)

(Under the cut is a note about the comic and a picture of the best dog <3)

I've attributed this event as a sign of God's unconditional love towards my transidentity for two reasons: the fact that this happened after I've been told horrendous insults online, and the fact that it's Willie, my parents' oldest dog, that conforted to me.

Willie is an old, grumpy, cranky Papillon dog who's basically a cat with an unshakable loyalty to my mother. He sits on her like cats, he prepares his bed (my mother's) like one, he meows at her at any given inconvenience... He never leaves my mother's side either, she's his chosen human. That evening, he was watching TV with my mother, as he does everyday at 18h00. That moment is sacred to him, he doesn't bulge even with treats, promises of walks, whining from the other animals... He only moves if my mother dictates so.

And yet, he came to me. Specifically. In the middle of the episode. He was half-asleep before then... And he came to me... no, He came to me, to comfort me in time of need. And chose specifically the animal in the house that is the most on the fence between expected roles of dogs and cats. An unconventional dog to comfort an unconventional man.

My Lord, your unconditional love is the ramp I use to get up and reach to your divine light 💙🩷🩵🙏🌟

Bonus: the dog-cat in question <3

*sips tea*

Got called "Mentally Ill", my life reduced to an "ideology" like my situation is a matter of belief not fact, and diagnosed with a condition I don't have by someone who's not a medical professional and I've never had a therapy session with, all in the same ask. Really paints a clear picture what being transphobic is about at it's core.

I don't go around telling people to go kill themselves for being cisgender. I don't call them "mentally ill" for not being transgender. I don't ignore medical science and unbiased study to diagnose them with conditions they don't have. I don't target what I perceive as their insecurities to try and make them feel bad or upset and make the mental conditions they do suffer from get worse. I don't tell them the world is better off without them. I don't wish them to be murdered to their face.

Me being transgender is no more an ideology than anyone in the world being cisgender. It's just a fact about my life that I live with and deal with on my path to become a happier, kinder, compassionate, empathetic, and more helpful person. What -is- an ideology, is going around telling people like me, with a past history of suicide, to go die because you believe we're not natural, that we're somehow a threat to the world for being born the way we are, denying any aspect of our experiences and lives that give us credibility in the face of your hatred, harm, and cruelty; and thinking we don't deserve equal rights, respect, and access to healthcare.

I'm transgender. I'm human. I'm not the asshole trying to make people suffer. I fight for equality, a kinder world, a more accepting world of people who are harmless and weird. None of us are free until all of us are. All of us deserve to be equal.

You've been reported, but I know you'll just make a new account to harass me. But that's okay, because every time one of you comes to attack me, the world sees who the true villain is. I can weather the pain you try to cause me, because after 26 almost 27 years now of it, I've learned to get back up and fight harder. It's all I know how to do. Because at the end of the day, if I can't fight for myself, I can fight for those next to me, I can fight for their equality.

Fuck ugly ftm transitions. I’m handsome as fuck no matter what the TERFs say. When I grow up everyone is gonna look at me and say “oh HE’s that guy.” I am that guy. And I’m hotter than any transphobe will ever be.

Quick reminder that you don't need a solid sexuality! You can just be in love! Or not be in love! Or have a gender! Labels are a choice, not a requirement. All you need to do is be someone you like being! If labels help with that, great! But they are not required. You don't owe it to anyone, so don't feel pressured to choose labels if they aren't your thing!

KOSA AFFECTS US ALL

there will be no room to call for a free palestine, congo, sudan, or yemen when imperialists control what stays on the internet.

there will be no room for sharing queer joy, safe binding and tucking guides, or tutorials on how to safely navigate kink when queerphobes and puritans decide what kinda of relationships and identities are "acceptable".

there will be no room for anticapitalism, protest organizing, pirating, or sharing anti-establishment resources when the establishment can erase whatever ideas are too threatening to them to stay.

there will be no room to be someone who doesn't conform.

DOWNLOAD ALL THAT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU. CALL YOUR REPRESENTATIVES. PROTEST AS LOUDLY AS POSSIBLE. SIGN PETITIONS. BUILD ALTERNATIVE COMMUNICATIONS FOR YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS. AND DO IT NOW BEFORE IT'S TOO LATE.

Friendly reminder not to hurt yourself. We have an empire to run and we need to outlive our enemies.

Sometimes, it's not that we need to raise awareness, it's that we need to lower the ignorance.

Some variants, as well as some DIY art to recolour it to fit your story, are avaialble here.

I came out as a trans man to my entire family. Well minus my parents as they are deceased and one of my sisters as I no longer talk to her. But I did it! I was so scared and thought they would hate me. Turns out they are super chill about it and wanted to learn more about how the testosterone injections work! I finally feel free and uncaged. I never thought I would be able to do it.

Pride Puzzle Cube enamel pins and patches

Rainbow, non binary, transgender, bisexual and asexual/demi sexual variations available for the puzzle cube pins and patches. If there’s another flag you would be interested in seeing let me know! I’m hoping to do preorders for more options!

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When asked how Oklahoma leadership would deal with 2slgbtq+ hatecrimes in schools, in the context of a literal child being murdered in Owasso this month, one of our senators stated:

"I represent a constituency that doesn't want that filth in Oklahoma [...] We are a religious state and we are going to fight it to keep that filth out of the state of Oklahoma because we are a Christian state – we are a moral state."

To be clear the "filth" he is referring to is the 2slgbtq+ student who was murdered.

Shame on Oklahoma leadership and shame on everyone who supports them.

Unfriendly reminder that while you're busy mourning the loss of your childs old gender, claiming you need to mourn the death of your son/daughter, there's a group of boys/girls/enbies scrambling to take your kid clothes shopping, snatching up the chance to take those "first" experiences from you forever. Your sons first fishing trip is gonna be with his best bros, your daughters first makeover is going to be with her girl friends, your kids first camping trip out as themselves is gonna be with the besties. Good luck getting those bonding experiences back. While you're busy trying to guilt-trip your kid with your weird manufactured parental trauma, there's a whole community ready to take your place as the better family.

Your loss, someone elses gain.

Canada's intelligence agency is warning that extremists could "inspire and encourage" serious violence against the 2SLGBTQI+ community — a threat the Canadian Security Intelligence Service says almost certainly will continue over the coming year. CSIS's comments come as provincial policies on gender-affirming surgeries and pronoun preferences are being hotly debated across the country. "CSIS assesses that the violent threat posed by the anti-gender movement is almost certain to continue over the coming year and that violent actors may be inspired by the University of Waterloo attack to carry out their own extreme violence against the 2SLGBTQI+ community or against other targets they view as representing the gender ideology 'agenda,'" said CSIS spokesperson Eric Balsam in an email to CBC News.

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Looking for a queer friendly space to talk about Avatar: The Last Airbender, Legend of Korra, korrasami, rangshi, tyzula, kyalin and other sapphic ships from the Avatar world? Well join us on the Avatar: Legend of the Sapphics discord server! Just send me an ask to join! Before joining please be aware: ♡ you must be 18+ to join ♡ this server is inclusive of all 2SLGBTQIA+ identities ♡ this server is inclusive of all trans women, nonbinary folks, femme identities, and he/they, butch/stud, or masc lesbians

Straight up the worst thing about the trans rights readathon is getting all my books squared away but knowing I have to wait to read them.

That being said, my public library is coming in clutch with a lot of books! I've already got 3 books and got like 4 more coming. Plus, the digital copies Im borrowing from hoopla and libby!

My aim is to read more than I did last year and get donations from people who aren't my family. Last year I read like 15, so this year I'm going for 20.

So if you'd like to follow me and donate to South Dakota's own Transformation Project that would be great!

I'll use this blog to keep track of my books, my ratings and any pledges.

Thursday Thoughts: Microlabels

Almost ten years ago, when I first told someone who loved me that I was demisexual, he replied, “Do we really need all these labels?”

I don’t remember what I said back then, but my answer now is, “Well, I don’t know about we, but I need this one.”

Labels are the words we use to describe the world around us and our experience within it. Language is full of labels. Our earliest language-learning activities include sorting things into categories. This is the red block; this is the yellow block. Elephants and giraffes are zoo animals; horses and cows are farm animals; cats and dogs are pets. Toothbrushes and toothpaste are bathroom objects; forks and knives are kitchen objects.

Some of these distinctions are more important than others. It doesn’t really matter if you build a tower of red blocks or yellow blocks. However, leaving a knife in the bathroom is a bad idea, and so is attempting to keep an elephant in your house (not that I haven’t been tempted to try). You’ll also find that not all categories are universal. Is octopus an edible animal? Depends where you go in the world and who you ask!

The point is, it’s natural to use labels to define our place in the world and how we interact with it. I call myself a writer because I am someone who writes; this is important to me. Calling myself a writer explains something about who I am. It makes it easier for me to apply for writing jobs. When I hear other people call themselves writers, I know that we have something in common that we can connect over. I know that these are people I might be able to talk with or who might be interested in having write-ins or book clubs with me. In this way, labels help us find and create community.

Now, “writer” is a pretty broad category, so our experiences won’t be exactly the same. However, I can use a more specific label. I can call myself a fantasy fiction writer, a poetry writer, or a themed entertainment show writer, which helps me find people who identify with those more specific labels and have even more in common with me.

People who are not writers and are not interested in finding other writers don’t need the word “writer.” It doesn’t help them as much as it helps me. It’s not their label.

Demisexual is an asexual spectrum microlabel. Asexual describes someone who experiences little to no sexual attraction. It’s a broad label that covers a variety of experiences. Demisexual describes someone who only experiences sexual attraction towards someone after forming an emotional bond with them.

Before I read the word “demisexual” about ten years ago, I didn’t know that there were other people like me. I thought that there was something wrong with how I experienced attraction towards others. Knowing that there was a label not only made it possible for me to understand that there were other people like me, but also made it possible for me to find them and find community with them. Having words like ace and demi in my vocabulary make it easier for me to explain my experience to other people. People who aren’t demisexual don’t necessarily need this word. But I do.

When you hear a microlabel for the first time, especially if it’s one you do not identify with, it’s easy to dismiss it. It’s easy to think, “That’s not really a thing,” or, “Do we really need a word for that?”

The answer is, “Maybe you don’t need that word, since it doesn’t describe your experience, and that’s okay. But clearly someone needs it. We all have the right to put our experiences into words. We all deserve the chance to know that we are not broken and to find other people who are like us.”

i think there's something to be said about transandrophobia turning happily GNC trans men into trans men who are GNC by feeling of necessity. i'm a trans man who feels best when mixing masculine and feminine presentation. i like putting eyeliner on the same face as my growing moustache. i like wearing cute tank tops that show off the patch of chest fuzz i've got going on. i like being GNC. but the rising visibility of the insane amount of transandrophobia lately has made me feel trapped in that type of presentation. i feel like i Have to be the silly flamboyant effeminate gay guy with colorful outfits and long hair so that people will feel safe and i will be Allowed in queer spaces. and that makes me upset for my trans brothers who don't like presenting that way at all. that makes me upset because instead of it being something fun it's becoming something i do to stay nonthreatening. transandrophobia hurts every trans man in different ways.