Spiderman Noir from Spiderverse

Is a trauma caregiver!

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Many seem to forget that caregivers experience mental health issues themselves and oftentimes prioritize the wellbeing of those they care for over their own. These were designed as to spread awareness of that and encourage caregivers not to be ashamed of taking care of themselves.

I can totally see this in my family members who say emotionally abusive things to others at home and dismiss that they are being toxic at all. I think emotional immaturity and lack of self awareness does tend to cause people to say very toxic things and not realize or accept that what they are doing is wrong.

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The past few days have been very difficult for me. My mental health has been at an all time low leading me to stay in bed even during work hours. I realize how depressed or burnt out I have been but I also feel like I have 0 energy to get up and do anything I need to. Living in a negative and toxic environment really does bring down one's soul and energy down, to even try doing basic things to stay afloat.

Taking it 1 day at a time this week....

Common acting by emotionally unstable/immature parents:

they become defensive when you disagree and may attack back;

they are dismissive of your emotions/don't really try to connect with you;

they make everything about them and how they feel, especially your emotions/reactions: you have the power to make their mood;

they do not create a deep bond with their child: they don't know you deeply and it may make you feel lonely, but expect vulnerability and comfort from you even without asking for them;

they blame you for whatever reason (especially things they have done);

use parenting to boss around the child and show their power/that they own and command their child: you have no privacy or boundaries of sort;

may guilt or shame you into doing things for them;

have no tolerance for stress/get easily angered;

have a difficult time apologizing and may turn it into blame/go away;

are emotionally insensitive or misbehaving, or not constant in their responses/feedback;

they may also show more compassion towards people/situations outside the family.

Does vaggie get triggered or have panic attacks from trauma?

*Vaggie nods sadly, looking down. Carmilla pulls her close*

Carmilla: Being an exorcist has caused her a lot of pain. We work through it though, right Mija?

*Vaggie smiles slightly*

More Man In The Iron Mask! Having only just escaped from years of captivity with his face hidden from the world, Philippe panics under pressure, and tries to hide his face. Athos is there to calm him down.

Hear me out!!! Whumpee x Caregiver with bath time....

Whumpee thats afraid of getting into a shower or a bath for whatever reason.

Whumpee who gas a very patient caregiver but caregiver can't keep giving whumpee only sponge baths.

Caregiver who shows whumpee the bathtub and overs to fill it up just a little.

Caregiver who sits at the edge of the bath and puts just their feet in to show whumpee its safe.

Whumpee, who after some gentle coaxing, sits next to caregiver with their feet in the tub.

Caregiver who fills the bath little by little for whumpee, day by day.

Caregiver who fills the bath with bubbles and lights a candle and plays soft mysic for whumpee.

Whumpee who finally feels safe in the bath because of caregiver.

And eventually......

Whumpee who feels so safe in the bath thanks to caregiver that they pull caregiver into the bathroom to fill it up with bubbles for them.

Whumpee, who when they get overwhelmed, sits in the empty bathtub with their knees to their chest.

Caregiver who is looking for whumpee and doesn't think to look in the bathtub....until they do.

Caregiver who immediately understands and runs whumpee a warm bath.

Caregiver who gently scrubs whumpees hair until they relax again.

Whumpee who loves to take baths again all because of caregiver.

When children feel pervasively angry or guilty or are chronically frightened about being abandoned, they have come by such feelings honestly; that is because of experience. When children are filled with rage, it is due to rejection or harsh treatment. When children experience intense inner conflict regarding their angry feelings, this is likely because expressing them may be forbidden or even dangerous. When children must disown powerful experiences they have, this creates serious problems including ‘chronic distrust of other people, inhibition of curiosity, distrust of their own senses and the tendency to find everything unreal.’ The long term effects of brutalization and neglect in caregiving relationships are the body and brain experiencing PTSD.

From The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

i’m sorry but encanto did NOT need to hit so hard with the line “i’m pretty sure i’m worthless if i can’t be of service”. like what the actual FUCK get out of my head lin-manuel

Tanjiro Kamado from Demon Slayer

Is a trauma caregiver!

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Tw: mention of childhood trauma

Me: Oh boy, regression is so much fun! I'm revisiting the simpler mindset of childhood in a safe environment with a CG I trust and love! This is great!

Me: *sees a Pinterest pic of a stuffed animal that was super important to me that I lost in a house fire when I was like five*

Me: Oh God I hate it here

This is the stuffie, btw. My Dad struggled financially, so that trip to build a bear is burned into my mind to this day. It was so incredibly special to me, because I knew how hard it was for my Dad to treat my brother and I. I was devastated when I lost it in the house fire, to this day I wish I hadn't dropped it when my Dad woke me up that night.

i like how the american dad fandom collectively headcanons that roger had terrible, ab//sive parents back on his home planet

like take a look at this goofy alien guy: hes an alc//h//lic, he has traits of a multiple personality disorder, hes an addict, he has very clear abandonment issues and went on a family bender, he smokes; all those things right there are DEFINITELY trauma responses like he clearly has LOTS of trauma he isnt properly dealing with

he even keeps his dad in the smiths freezer and takes a bite of it every year on his bday for gods sake like he aint right in the head

When it comes to relationships, give yourself (and others) a chance. You can't be sure that others will leave or find you unlovable or "weird" the moment you'll start showing your true self unless you try (and even if they would, it doesn't mean they won't accept you. And if so, better people will come); and tbh even people pleasing won't save you: your mind might tell you otherwise, like "I'm always doing/saying what they want and therefore they need me/cannot hate me or leave", but the thruth is they can actually leave anyway. You cannot know if someone cares or not if you never ask for help/try to be vulnerable but try to do everything on your own (you know, trusting and vulnerability are a strenght sign, much more than being so independent); you cannot be sure that you'll be forever alone, unless you keep fearing to be abandoned, not be vulnerable and real (which is kinda needed in an healthy relationship, no matter what your emotionally immature/unstable caregivers have taught you in your childhood), and not putting yourself out there: you're the one blocking yourself. And if you feel like you cannot do it alone, you cannot sort this childhood trauma on your own, seek for help. Do it for yourself, and nobody else. You deserve to experience a good life and healthy relationships.

Prompt #822

'I don't want to remember them like this I don't want to remember I don't want to remember I don't want to remember them like this –'

The mantra repeated and twisted in Person A's mind, faster than the sobs they were choking out but just as broken as they felt. It wasn't just that Person B was gone, no, but Person B had left them so horribly, so terribly, that they alternated between not wanting to remember them at all and only wanting to remember the person they used to be. The version of Person B that was kind, that cared for them; that promised to help and never shied away from fulfilling that promise. Person A couldn't bring themself to wish that they had never met, but why did it have to end like this?!

Their face was a mess, they'd ended up making a similar mess of their room, and Person B was never, ever going to come back, because they couldn't. And that was a mess in itself.

'I don't want to remember I don't want to remember I want them I want them back I don't want to remember them like this I want them back I don't want to remember I don't want to remember I don't want to don't make me remember –!'

They would have screamed it, were their throat not raw from crying. But it was, and their head was hurting too, and their eyes, and their fists from where they'd banged them against the floor and their own body.

'I don't want to remember them like this I don't want it I don't want it I want them I want them back I don't want to remember I don't want to remember please please I don't want to remember them like this I don't want to remember I don't want to remember I don't I don't I don't I don't I don't –'

Something shifted. Something inside them gave and broke.

Something settled over Person A, not quite calm and not quite fear.

They opened their mouth for another sob and what came out was "It's okay; it's okay, Person A, I'm right here."

And suddenly, Person A couldn't remember why they were crying in the first place.

I love @regressionworldz art so much and admire them so I wanted to try do a cute little oodle doodle of em! It’s hard processing agere stuff but seeing their art helped me a lot like “woah! Cool people do it to?!” So um. Play date-! I really like legos! Lego Harry Potter is my safe space, and the concept of George Weasley ((Weasleys in general really)) as a care giver makes me feel soft and warm!