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theambitiouswoman · 1 year

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Traits Happy People Don't Embody

Happy people tend to exhibit positive traits and behaviors that contribute to their overall sense of well-being and satisfaction with life. Behaviors that contribute to their own happiness as well as the happiness of those around them. Ways happy people do not act:

Aggressiveness: Happy people tend to be more relaxed and peaceful in their interactions with others. They don't feel the need to assert their dominance or control in social situations.

Rudeness: Happy people tend to be respectful and considerate of others. They don't belittle or insult others to make themselves feel better.

Negativity: Happy people tend to focus on the positive aspects of life and look for the good in situations. They don't dwell on negative thoughts or feelings.

Selfishness: Happy people tend to be generous and compassionate towards others. They don't prioritize their own needs and desires at the expense of others.

Hostility: Happy people tend to be open and welcoming towards others. They don't feel threatened or defensive in social situations.

Envy: Happy people tend to be content with what they have and appreciate the successes of others. They don't feel jealous or envious of others' achievements or possessions.

Perfectionism: Happy people tend to have realistic expectations of themselves and others. They don't strive for unattainable perfection or constantly criticize themselves or others for not meeting impossibly high standards.

Pessimism: Happy people tend to be optimistic and hopeful about the future. They don't dwell on negative outcomes or anticipate the worst possible scenarios.

Impulsivity: Happy people tend to make thoughtful and deliberate decisions. They don't act impulsively or make rash decisions that may have negative consequences.

Arrogance: Happy people tend to be humble and grateful for what they have. They don't feel entitled or superior to others based on their accomplishments or status.

Defensiveness: When someone is defensive, they may feel threatened or attacked, which can lead to them being guarded or closed off in social situations. This can make it difficult for them to form meaningful connections with others and can lead to feelings of isolation or loneliness. Happy people tend to be more open and accepting of others, which allows them to form strong bonds and cultivate positive relationships.

Sabotage: Sabotaging others is a negative behavior that can cause harm to others and damage relationships. Happy people tend to be supportive and encouraging of others, which helps them build strong, positive relationships based on trust and mutual respect.

Jealousy: Jealousy is a negative emotion that can lead to feelings of resentment, anger, and bitterness. Happy people tend to be content with their own lives and accomplishments, which allows them to appreciate the success of others without feeling envious or resentful.

If you find yourself feeling these emotions, stop, and try to uncover the root before you choose to immediately act on it. By understanding positive and negative feelings, we can not only become better individuals; we can also gain more of an understanding of ourselves and others.

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pleaseeeimjustagirl · 4 months

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Shifting Your Mindset From Scarcity To Abundance

Your mindset can be the reason you're not reaching your goals or living the life you want. Philosophers say the way that you think is exactly the way you will live. A lot of people live with a scarcity mindset believing the things they want are unattainable and out of reach. And if you struggle with this way of thinking it's time to shift your mindset to an abundance mindset. Your goals are achievable and the life you want is achievable.

What is a scarcity mindset?

A scarcity mindset is an outlook on life that focuses on the lack of resources it's like putting blinders on limiting what you notice that can benefit you in the world. For example, you don't think there are any more good men in the world so you settle for a guy who doesn't meet your standards. Another example is wanting to start a business and assuming you won't be successful because there are others in the same niche as you. Even comparing your beauty to the next woman. Living in this cycle can create a lot of anxiety, anger, and resentment towards others and their achievements.

Signs you have a scarcity mindset

♡ Perfectionism. You assume that anything less than perfect isn't good enough. This will only lead to procrastination and fear of risk-taking and the cycle will continue.

♡ You hate to see others succeed. Instead of celebrating the accomplishments of others you feel threatened by them. Thinking that their success takes away your chances of being successful or that they are outshining you. You feel that for your situation to get better others must fail so you can win.

♡ Competing with others. You might compare yourself to others and that can lead to competing and trying to outdo the next person. Some people will be in hard financial times and instead of being financially responsible, they will try to keep up with the Jones buying designer and so many other items that don't benefit them at that time.

♡ You blame others for your problems. We all know someone who didn't put in the effort to do something and when asked what happened they blame the world, economy, or anything unrelated to why they didn't achieve their goal. They lack accountability for their actions leading to their failures.

♡Being pessimistic. We will all have bad days and see things negatively we are human but always being pessimistic about all the things in your life is a terrible way to live.

♡ Negative self-talk. You find yourself saying “I can't do that”, “this will never happen to me”, or “This isn't realistic for someone like me.” Your mind believes only what you feed it and if you feed your mind sentences like these you will always live with a scarcity mindset.

If you resonate with any of these signs now its time to change babes<3

What is an abundance mindset?

An abundance mindset is believing that the world is filled with enough resources and time for you to accomplish any goals you have. You optimistically see life and don't hold on to negativity. You let go and let things be. You trust yourself and pour into yourself and the world around you. Seeing the glass as half full.

Signs you have an abundance mindset

♡ You are an optimist. Like I said above you tend to the glass as half full. Negative things may happen to you but instead of thinking why me? You think what can I learn from this experience?

♡ High level of self-awareness. You're able to have a balanced self-image and can recognize the negative traits that you need to fix. You praise and optimize your positive traits.

♡ Being present. You focus on the now you don't get caught up in the past on what could have been or stress yourself on the future on what could be. You focus on the things you can control.

♡ You celebrate people. You want to see others achieve their goals even if they are similar to your own. You think there is enough room for everyone to be successful and happy.

♡ You are open to change. You believe the sky is the limit! And there is always room for new hobbies, careers, and so on. You take advantage of new opportunities that come your way.

♡ Generosity. You don't mind giving your time, money, and resources to others because you believe that these things are endless and always flowing into your life.

♡ Personal development. Instead of focusing on the shortcomings of others you focus on your personal growth and work on becoming the best version of yourself.

How do you cultivate an abundance mindset?

♡ Gratitude journaling. Make time during your day to journal the stuff that you are grateful for. Reflect on the small things in your life that bring you happiness, peace, and hope. Gratitude journaling can help improve your mental health, increase self-esteem, and reduce stress.

♡ Practice being mindful. Practice awareness in the present moment through breath work, sensory activation, and meditation

♡ Positive affirmations. Start speaking positively to yourself and focus on showing love to the things you can’t change about yourself and the things you love about yourself. Making positive statements combat limiting beliefs. This will increase your self-esteem.

♡ Surround yourself with people who have an abundance mindset. We don't realize but the people around us do slowly have an impact on us. Make friends with people who have an abundance mindset instead of those who think negatively with a scarcity mindset.

Going into 2024 we need to kick these scarcity mindsets and sit with abundance affirming that we can achieve our goals. If you have any other tips you’d like to share please comment below and share them with our other girliesss<3

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simpforrooster · 2 years

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kissin' strangers.

Jake 'Hangman' Seresin x F!Reader

request for @acupnoodle

t/w: none, I don't think? some angst. happy ending.

a/n: sorry there has been a lull between fics. I haven't been feeling too inspired lately, and my perfectionism is setting in! I want to keep giving y'all fics, but I'm afraid I won't live up to expectations. anyhoosles, I hope y'all enjoy!

Your stomach turns as you watch Hangman flirt with the pretty blonde at the bar. She gives him a wide smile, and you know he is feeding her every line in the book.

Every line he used to feed you. Every line that used to turn you into putty in his hands. He'd pin you against the wall of the bar. One hand in his pocket, the other against the wall. You'd smile stupidly up at him, not being able to hide the fact that all those silly pick up lines worked.

You'd agree to meet him for dinner.

A dinner you never made it too.

A girl you taught asked if you could stay behind after the bell and help her with her essay. Naturally, you couldn't say no. Who are you to stand in the way of a child's ambition?

After tutoring, you made your way home. Working through your Friday evening routine, the dinner with Jake never crossed your mind. As you slide into the bath full of bubbles and a fresh bath bomb, it hits you.

You couldn't climb out of the tub fast enough. Throwing on some clothes, you sprinted out of your house. Forgoing your car, you ran down the sidewalk to the restaurant. Jake chose a cute diner downtown, and you didn't live far.

When you made it, you bumped into his hard chest as he was coming out of the restaurant. You could read the feelings on his face like a book. You glanced down at your watch.

He'd been waiting for over an hour.

"Jake--" you tried.

"Save it." He didn't even look at you. Jake stepped around your frazzled body, and walked to his truck. He didn't look your way as he cranked the truck and backed out.

That was about two months ago, and you still haven't been able to explain yourself. Every time you approach him, he gives you a small smile and a nod, then he sidesteps you.

He ignores your calls, your texts. You've even sent Phoenix over to him with a frickin note trying to explain yourself. He won't hear it. And now you get to spend your nights out watching him flirt with other girls.

You always head out before he does. You can't bare to watch him leave with any of them. Can't bare to imagine him kissing any of them. Not when you'd give anything for him to kiss you.

The blonde throws her head back, laughing at something Jake tells her, pulling you from your thoughts.

"Still nothing?" Phoenix asks. You answer her with a sigh. This time, the tears that always threaten behind you eyes fall. Feeling embarrassed at the public showing of emotion, you quickly wipe your tears and flag Penny down.

"I'm going to head out. I can't watch this anymore," you tell Phoenix. When Penny finally makes her way to you, you close out your tab. You can feel Jake's eyes on you as you make you way out the bar.

"Y/n! Wait!" a southern voice calls out. You stop, but don't turn.

"What is it, Jake?" He ignores you for months and now he wants to talk?

"You stood me up," he says, like you need reminding. You whirl around on your heels, and you're pretty sure smoke is coming out your ears.

"No. I. Didn't. And you would know that if you would have let me explain!"

"Y/n, how do you think I felt? Sitting there like an idiot, wondering where you were. I knew it was too good to be true when you agreed to the date."

You can't hide your confusion. "What?" you ask him, cocking your head to the side like your puppy.

"Oh come on, honey." His drawl pulls you in just like it did the first time you heard it. "You're an angel and I am a cocky asshole. I didn't think I had a chance. Then you stood me up."

Anger pulls you out of the 'Jake Trance.'

You close the gap between the two of you, poking your finger into his chest.

"Listen to me, you cocky asshole," you say, using his words against him. "I did not stand you up. I got caught up at school, helping one of my students. It just slipped my mind, Jake."

Jake's green eyes stare into yours, processing your words.

"Believe me, I had every intention of making that date." Your words are soft, and pink falls across your cheeks at your confession.

Jake's features soften, and his signature smirk falls on his face. "Is that so?"

"Yeah," you breathe. He’s standing so close to you, it’s throwing off any coherent thought. Having him freeze you out for months really did it’s number.

“Why did you decide to stop ignoring me?” You ask.

Jake lets out a little chuckle. “Maybe I’m just tired of kissin’ strangers and pretendin’ they’re you.”

Before you can process those words, his strong arms encircle your waist. Pulling you against his body, he brings his lips to yours. His fingers dig into your hips, and you forget how to breathe.

“You gonna stand me up again if I ask you to dinner?” He whispers against your lips.

“If standing you up gets you to kiss me like that, I’m going to do it every time.”

Jake smirks, pulling you back in for another kiss.

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#jake hangman x reader #top gun maverick #top gun maverick fic #hangman fic #hangman imagine #hangman x reader #jake seresin x reader #top gun #jake seresin x you #jake seresin x oc #jake seresin #hangman x you #hangman x oc

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sapphiretanto · 10 months

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Okay, as much as I love the positive Rise x 2012 crossover comics/drawings and fanfics where Rise helps 2012 with their problems, there is no way the boys would start crying or talking about their physical and mental scars upon the first meeting. They wouldn’t be open for hugs (maybe Mikey, but that’s the only one I can see). 2012 went through the ringer and no amount of Dr. Feelings/Dr. Delicate Touch is gonna help that. Here’s what Rise would have to help 2012 work through both individually and altogether:

**Please look at the “Altogether” section before notifying me if I forgot one; Otherwise, I may have genuinely forgot… this was all from what I can remember

**This is NOT bashing the fics, art, Rottmnt.

Leonardo

Possessed/Controlled (Parasitica, Buried Secrets, China Town Ghost Story)

Burdened with being the leader/eldest/Sensei

Right knee is fucked

Dislocated shoulder and arms (both causes of his arms being Super Shredder)

Weakened heart from when he died in space and was resuscitated

Has fallen off multiple high points (elevator shafts, rooftops, fire escapes)

Hands are most likely damaged from holding onto the chains that were wrapped around Kraang prime

Was in a 3-month coma

Throat was ruined

Was bitten by Armaggon

Hit by a blast meant to take out Hiidrala (The Cosmic Ocean)

Deal with having slain Shredder

Captured

Was thrown through a second story window

Cracked shell

Training/Battle injuries: hits on the head, kicks to the plastron or carapace, thrown into buildings or debris, pressure pointed

Under way too much pressure

Almost cut up by swords (Fourfold Trap)

Struggles with perfectionism; he’ll often feel at fault or like he failed for things out of his control (i.e. when Karai fell into the mutagen)

Frustrated as he doesn’t always get a lot of respect (particularly in the earlier seasons)

Took some bad advice from Splinter to heart— most of the time it added to the burden he carried as the leader

Betrayed by Karai

Raphael

Possessed/Controlled (Parasitica, brain worm, vampire, Chinatown Ghost Story)

Has watched those he cared about fallen from high places (Spike/Slash, Splinter, Zog, Leo)

Had to deal with his phobia (Cockroach Terminator, Insecta Trifecta)

Switched bodies

Lightning bolt plastron crack

Captured (and tortured - Clash of the Mutanimals, Within the Woods)

Betrayed by his girlfriend

Electrocuted

Nearly cooked to death (Fourfold Trap)

Swallowed squirrelanoids

Lost Spike to mutation

Nearly had to give away Chompy

Fell from various high heights (ravines)

Anger issues

Felt unfavored compared to Leo

Training/Battle injuries: hits on the head, kicks to the plastron or carapace, thrown into buildings or debris, pressure pointed

Watched Splinter be thrown into a sewer drain and nearly drown

Watched Spike/Slash, Zog, and Splinter fall off/be thrown off the rooftops

Donatello

Possessed/controlled (Parasitica, Buried Secrets, a car)

Electrocuted

Captured

Nearly cut up by Vizioso’s goons

Watched Splinter be thrown into a sewer drain and nearly drown

Lost metalhead

Under too much pressure

Burdened by being the only tech/science guy

Struggles sometimes with the fact that he’s a mutant

Struggles with his weapon— not handling, but that it is very simplistic compared to some of the more high tech things they deal with

Has his experiments ruined or messed with

Became mindless

Training/Battle injuries: hits on the head, kicks to the plastron or carapace, thrown into buildings or debris, pressure pointed

Has to change his jargon so his family can understand what he’s saying

Michelangelo

Captured

Tortured by Triceratons

Frustrated as he’s not always taken seriously

Mind invaded by neutrinos

Possessed/Contolled (Chinatown Ghost Story, Buried Secrets)

Struggles sometimes with accepting that he’s a mutant (earlier seasons— wanted various human friends besides April and Casey)

Swallowed by Mega Shredder

Burned his ass on a geyser (Eyes of the Chimera)

Betrayed by Bradford

Watched Splinter be thrown into a sewer drain and nearly drown

Training/Battle injuries: hits on the head (is hit a lot more than the others on the head in combat), kicks to the plastron or carapace, thrown into buildings or debris, pressure pointed

Was alone in Dimension X for an unknown amount of time

Nearly drowned (Invasion of the Squirrelanoids)

Knowingly/unknowingly and sometimes unwillingly made the bait or drew the short straw

Separated from Leatherhead

Altogether

Saw Master Splinter die (twice)

Watched their dad fall into the abyss (The Super Shredder/Darkest Plight)

Saw their world be destroyed

Survived multiple invasions (Kraang, Triceratons, Kavaxas, Dregg)

Saw their sister fall into mutagen

Fought various horrifying/disgusting mutants (Mom Thing, Squirrelanoids, The Creep, Parasitica, Dregg’s bugs, mutated cockroach, Snakeweed, Muckman, Rat King, mutated fungi, Don Vizioso, April clones/April Derp etc)

Witnessed each other’s deaths: Raph drained of mutagen in Within the Woods; Donnie - reduced to molecules in The Power Inside Her; Leo - died in space in Earth’s Last Stand; Mikey - vaporized by K’Vathrak/The Newtralizer in When Worlds Collide

Witnessed various other deaths: Bradford/Rahzar/Dog Pound, Tang Shen, Hattori Tatsu

Have had their minds taken over

Poisoned by Karai

Electrocuted

Nearly froze to death (Moons of Thalos 3)

Inhaled hallucinogenic toxins

Survived various explosions

Survivor’s guilt

Have been fighting in multiple rigged or burning buildings

Almost burned up entering the atmosphere (Battle for New York)

Had a “nightmare”— courtesy of Jei—where they were the last ones standing after their brothers had been killed

Witnessed the undead (Shredder, Rahzar, various spirits)

Possessed/controlled by Jei; dream beavers

Dimensional and Time travel

Had to fight each other or their friends unwillingly

Went no contact with April after having a hand in accidentally mutating her dad

Severe injuries from various opponents (Slash, Tiger Claw, Newtralizer, Super Shredder, footbots/chrome domes)

#tmnt #tmnt 2012 #tmnt 2012 leo #tmnt 2012 raph #tmnt 2012 mikey #tmnt 2012 donnie #rottmnt #mari rambles #not bashing just an observation #I’m sure the comics and fics are in jest #but some of them that are more serious… yeah 2012 has tons of shit #and I swear if someone asks or says the word ‘abuse’ I will block your ass

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bubblewater · 2 months

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I remember watching a video of a snow leopard couple cuddling each other while they sleep and now I can’t stop thinking about Tai Lung leaving the spirit realm to do some soul searching to get a grip on his rage and struggles with perfectionism

To his surprise, he meets another snow leopard on his journey. And she’s just as recluse as he is, if not more so (snow leopards are pretty solitary creatures). She’s a cautious cat, a hermit, but has a deep kindness towards others.

Shenanigans ensue, and they begin to bond through their adventures together. And he sees how difficult it can be to be kind instead of being angry. Anger towards others, and himself. The anger that comes from needing to prove his worth.

And during their time together, he sees subtle displays of empathy, of kindness from her. A kindness that he can’t help but try to emulate, because she seems so certain of herself, with nothing to prove. She lives life for the joy of living, and it baffles him that he never thought that was an option. So he takes a page from her book, and tries to live for the sake of living. They part ways, and his heart pangs at the thought that he might not see her again.

Although Kung Fu is an art in its own right, it never felt quite cathartic for Tai Lung. There was always the push to be better, to stay the best. Getting to the point that ‘never enough’ was engrained in his brain. The anger grew from there, and the martial arts became an avenue for his rage.

He begins to try something different. He pursues another art form: painting. The limitless colors and shapes that he can make with his own paws, or with a paintbrush. The rush of joy that surges through him through creation, rather than the destruction that used to come from his (mal)practice of the martial arts.

It’s not something he’s a natural at, but it’s something that brings a smile to his face. Eventually, he gets better at it. The glee towards his painting progress feels much more rewarding than when he’d master multiple Kung Fu techniques. The snow leopard with a penchant for painting.

His artwork brings in the eye of a few potential customers. He sets up shop in a small town, doing a few commissions that earn him a name that isn’t spoken with fear: Tai Lung, the painter. The artist whose paintings feel alive.

Word travels, and the peaceful painter meets the kind hermit again. The hermit who happened to inspire him to live for himself.

She notices that he seems different, lighter. Content. He’s still grumpy, but the rough edges don’t cut. She smiles, telling him that painting suits him. The question that arises is: what happened?. Tai Lung has a simple answer for that. He wanted to be strong, like her.

That prompts a distinct eyebrow raise. Bewildered, she tells him that he was always strong, just scared. There was a fear to his anger.

She says, ”You don’t seem as scared anymore,” gently placing his hand in hers.

Tai Lung gives her a gentle smile. “Still sharp as ever, I see.”

That prompts a loud laugh out of her, and his smile grows in the little art shop.

#kung fu panda #tai lung #Tai Lung x Therapy AU #tai lung headcanon #fanfic #tai lung gets therapy au #tai lung does soul searching #snow leopard lady #idk her name yet #headcannon #the hermit and the painter #I just know that she’s kind but stern at the same time #she likes to enjoy life and she doesn’t take shit #and he also gets a baddie #that’s like a bonus #lady leopard x tai lung

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kewltie · 10 days

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bkdk au where katsuki is a burnt out superstar spiraling out of control and izuku his v good at managing disaster & when ppl are the worst, he's at his BEST so he's tasked to help katsuki regain his crown except an hour within meeting each other katsuki already fired him THREE TIMES.

izuku is soft spoken, detail orientated, and weirdly clumsy but sincere. he's the opposite of a corporate shill trying to squeeze whatever money is left out of katsuki's fame and fortune. he actually cares and wants the best for katsuki and KATSUKI CANT EVEN BULLY HIM TO QUIT. katsuki grew up in the limelight. both his parents are famous designers so he used to be a child model, then a child star, and then A SUPERSTAR and his face was plastered everywhere. he been in the spotlight all his life and it’s searing.

katsuki's vice isn't drinking or smoking etc bc he's not fucking stupid enough to touch that shit but it's his volatile temper and his inability to work under and with ppl. he's his worst critic bc he holds himself to ridiculous high standards and expect everyone to be the same. he would set filming back for hours, DAYS even, just for retakes but he's unhappy with his performance or his partner. he'll fight with the director and coworkers bc their vision doesnt align so ppl start accusing him of making it a toxic work environment, his violent tantrums, and how he's impossible to WORK with and how he mistreats his coworkers and the other staff members. someone even leaked to the gossip rags that katsuki threw an equipment at a staff once in anger.

which led to a floodgate of BAKUGOU KATSUKI'S STORIES how he is so difficult to work with, how toxic he is, and how nobody want to work with him even after the story about him throwing stuff at a staff was proven false but damaged to his reputation was done. he was ostracized.

katsuki just brushed it off that he doesnt care even though acting is all he ever wanted and even though many the stories were lies, HE WAS AN ASSHOLE and difficult and hold ppl to ridiculous high standards and loses his temper so easily so yea he fell in to a rut until izuku who is v v v good at being his best when ppl are at the worst which means he's great at cleaning up messes and somehow amidst the thunderous and violent storm of that katsuki rages, izuku always find his peace and can juggle katsuki's anger and his anal perfectionism with ease.

katsuki has anger issues and even though he's going to therapy for it, he has a hard time controlling his outburst and that's scary for most ppl bc they think he's capable of much violence from what they heard even though there's never been a proven story that he ever HIT anyone. izuku is mild-manner and v sweet. he's polite to everyone he interacts with and is very kind to the employees but he's also reckless to the point of stupid sometimes that he has no qualm snapping back at katsuki bc he knows in his heart that katsuki's bark is worse than his bite.

izuku has watched katsuki's grow up on screen & news. he seen all his movies & dramas. bought all his magazine covers. he knows a star when he sees one. katsuki was made for the screen, to be up the among the stars, shinning brighter than everyone but he got to fix himself first. even though katsuki has all the talent and skill but it doesnt mean he can get away with treating ppl like shit and his loner only-i-can-do-it is not helping him gaining any friends and allies in the industry. being talented is no excuse for being a piece of shit to others.

izuku admires katsuki deeply and sees so much potential in him but katsuki has to turn his attitude around first and out of katsuki's own volition. izuku can encourage him but he cant force him to change for the better. this is something katsuki has to realize on his own. izuku didn't single-handedly make katsuki a better person, he's the initial kickstart that made it possible but all the effort is on katsuki he wants to do better, to be better. to fixed all his broken relationships and repair his mistakes bc he wants to prove everyone wrong. but more importantly he wants to go be good to prove it to himself that he's worthy to stand at the top and be the person who is worthy of izuku's love and admiration all the while the world hyper scrutinizing his every move and ready to tear him him apart if he make one slip up.

like katsuki doesnt being an ASSHOLE lol he's still brisk and blunt with ppl but when he feels like he's going to lose it, he takes a step back, breathes and immediately look for izuku. izuku will smile encouragingly at him and suddenly all the loud noises in his head quiet down.

izuku becomes his emotional crutch. he always there on every set of every commercials shoots, TV, and films. it becomes known that you cant hire katsuki w/o izuku there watching over him. they call izuku his tamer/wrangler as thought katsuki is a wild animal and izuku hates it. bc he knows katsuki is trying his best & he has his mood and temper but he making a lot of effort to not fall back into the horrible person he was once so yea, izuku isn't TAMING katsuki one bit but ppl like that narrative better then the thought of katsuki being a change person.

it's not like katsuki less of an asshole tho. he still fight w ppl and say asshole things like firing izuku five times this month bc they couldnt agree on his schedule and bc izuku refused to give katsuki a key to his apartment even though izuku has his phone AND key to his house. izuku can freely go in/out of katsuki's house and izuku has access his phone bc they have nothing to hide. izuku go wherever katsuki go and when they answer someone request it's always "we do this" or "we'll think about it" bc they're one unit and are married w/o marriage part.

it's kinda codependent how much their life are intertwined with each other that katsuki cant work w/o izuku there and izuku spend literally every part of his day with katsuki no day off; no vacation; no life outside of katsuki. their name and life are so bound, it's... unhealthy. even when katsuki is one his way to the pinnacle of his career again and he's the new comeback king, izuku feels uneasy bc he feels like he's holding katsuki back bc bc ppl are like YOU CHANGED HIM, YOU MADE HIM BETTER, YOU DID THIS, oh what would bakugou be w/o you there to help, completely dismissing katsuki's efforts bc izuku can schedule all the appts he want w katsuki's therapist and try to get him there but it's katsuki who has to actually SHOW UP and actually work with the therapist to improve his temper and behavior and try to be the better person.

he also realizes that katsuki relies on him too much that as his emotional crutch and that izuku felt good to be needed like that, that izuku has issues to work on that his sense of self worth is tied up in how much he can do for katsuki and how much katsuki needs him. this is why izuku likes this kind of manager job bc in the midst of all this chaos, izuku can find his calm and feels a sense of value to himself when he can solve and fix things for others. that he's only good when he can do something FOR THEM not bc he himself is worthy.

so when during at the height of katsuki's career, izuku packed up and completely disapepar one day, while leaving katsuki with a new manager, new and very good jobs opportunities with the best director and scripts, and planed out literally a year of schedule ahead for katsuki. izuku go on his long waited vacation that he rightfully deserved after working for katsuki W NO DAY OFF for literally almost 3yrs. he traveled the world, sight sees, learn about new cultures and himself and rediscover the person he can and is without the attachment of Katsuki. while katsuki ages bc izuku is gone and it was fucking rough for him that first month w/o katsuki and it's like he fell back to dark time where his emotions cant be contain and he lashes out but with the help of his friends and family, katsuki slowly gets a grip of himself. w pure spite like he's trying to prove something to the world that he CAN LIVE W/O IZUKU, he can be this better version of himself w/o izuku handholding him and HE CAN!!! his career shoots off and he's improving and doing so much better and ppl stop bringing izuku up around him.

katsuki is thriving and living his life w/o izuku there. his career is doing amazing and his reputation is nearly salvagable now but even when he's doing perfectly w/o izuku and prove to everyone and himself that DOESN'T NEED IZUKU, he realizes that he WANTS IZUKU rather. he doesn't need izuku to fix him, to make him better, but he want izuku as a part of his life bc he loves izuku and wants him there in every space that he occupied. he wants izuku deeply and profoundly in a way that all the fame, trophies, awards, and money can't ever give him.

so instead of searching for izuku and force him to come back to him, he make izuku COME TO HIM out of his own free will by making a movie w izuku's favorite director and picking izuku's favorite script and making a fucking film dedicated TO IZUKU that only izuku can see. he finds a way to get the movie premier ticket to izuku's hand and izuku stares at the invitation and doesnt know if he should or how to answer it. like all these past months w/o him there, he saw katsuki's career took off and how he able to stand on his own two feet w/o izuku. he doesnt need izuku anymore. maybe he never needed izuku in the first place and it's heartbreaking bc it like katsuki is moving on w/o him but here is this invitation and it's calling him to come back. he doesnt know if he should but izuku always put his job first, others first.

so maybe it's time to be a little selfish and get what he wants because through traveling the world, izuku finds there's so much to see and experience but everytime he turn around and want to point out something amazing, he calls out katsuki name and realizes he's not there. izuku is content with himself but he NOT HAPPY bc katsuki isn't there with him bc being with katsuki makes him stupidly and ridiculously happy even though when it wasnt healthy that time, he misses katsuki so deeply it hurts. he wants katsuki to be there with him to exp life. so even when he knows katsuki is better off w/o him, izuku decides to be selfish once in his life and takes that invitation and go see katsuki in his new movie except when he arrives at the theater; there's nobody else but him. it's like this place is rented out just for him.

he watches the movie; it a short film that he and katsuki had seen a hundred times bc it's by their favorite actor turned director toshinori yagi. katsuki is monologuing izuku's favorite scene from the movie and it always make him teary and katuski made fun of him for it lol. but now katsuki is acting out his favorite scene and izuku IS CRYING AGAIN but nobody is there to tease him. he's WEEPING EVEN HARDER bc katsuki on screen is so, so fucking good delivering the lines like a fucking punch in the heart and-and he cant believe he stupidly walk AWAY.

"i-i miss you so much, kacchan," izuku mumbles to the screen and suddenly a familiar voice enters his ear.

"say that to my fucking face, stupid," katsuki says, appearing out of the darkness and nearly scaring izuku to shit but omfg izuku being honest with himself FOR ONCE.

katsuki is like be selfish with me, tell me what you want and izuku weeps and chokes up as he confess i want you. KATSUKI breathes a sigh of relieve bc fuck he wants this more badly than he wants anything else in the world and now they're FINALLY agreeing on something.

"i want you to work for me," katsuki says because he's an asshole and just as izuku about to shoot him a glare bc he's NOT WORKING for katsuki. they're not going down that road again. "as my boyfriend, dumbass," he scolds him bc he's also a dumbass who is bad w/ words lmao

izuku hiccups and smiles through tears. "what would you pay me with then?"

"my body," he grumbles and izuku goes red bc they're dumb and in love and now izuku can be katsuki's bf w/o worrying about unhealthy work dynamic that comes with their deep attachment to each other.

it started with izuku being katsuki's emotional crutch and his sense of self worth being tied to how much katsuki's need him, and them realizing it's FUCKING unhealthy so they separate, grow independent and realizing they're ok w/o each other but are more HAPPY TOGETHER.

#bakudeku #not!fic

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lyralit · 1 year

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I posted 412 times in 2022

That's 412 more posts than 2021!

269 posts created (65%)

143 posts reblogged (35%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@lyralit

@mr-writes

@thelatinlibrarian

@annarts05

@riverselkiesing

I tagged 363 of my posts in 2022

Only 12% of my posts had no tags

#lyralit - 162 posts

#writerblr - 156 posts

#creative writing - 146 posts

#writers - 138 posts

#writing - 130 posts

#writblr - 128 posts

#writers block - 123 posts

#writing prompts - 117 posts

#writing ideas - 109 posts

#lovely person <3 - 96 posts

Longest Tag: 100 characters

#the streets of beijing spilled over with wandering crowds at one of their dynasty’s first victories.

My Top Posts in 2022:

traits turned sour

honest - insensitive

persuasive - manipulative

caring - overprotective

confidence - arrogance

fearless - cocky

loyalty - an excuse

devotion - obsession

agreeable - lazy

perfectionism - insatisfaction

reserved - aloof

cautious - skeptical

self loved - selfish

available - distractible

emotional - dramatic

humble - attention-seeking

diligent - imposing

dutiful - submissive

assertive - bossy

strategic - calculated

truthful - cruel

11,626 notes - Posted November 20, 2022

ingrid sundberg's colour dictionary - writing help

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13,656 notes - Posted May 7, 2022

switch up your verbs (part one) ~

walked - hiked - moved - shuffled - toddled - sauntered - ambled - tiptoed - meandered - strolled

laughed - chortled - chuckled - giggled - snorted - guffawed - howled - snickered - shrieked

wanted - ached for - wished - craved - coveted - fancied - pined - aspired

ran - sprinted - galloped - scampered - bolted - trotted - dashed - raced - jogged

jumped - bounced - hopped - leapt - hurtled - vaulted - barged - bounded

14,902 notes - Posted June 24, 2022

ꜱʜᴏᴡ, ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴛᴇʟʟ (ɪɪ)

fear - open mouth - backing away - fake smiles - hugging themselves - long / dragged breaths - rocking

jealousy - snide remarks - darting looks - self-deprication - visible judging - folded arms - arguing a fair point

hurt - steadying breaths - overly bobbing head - teary - anger - trembling - pressed lips - insisting everything is 'fine'

lying (ticks) - picking at nails - touching hair - licking lips - laughing too loud - avoids subjects - won't meet eyes

worry - reaching out physically - pursing lips - looking to others - reassuring smiles - looking you up and down - tilted head - sympathetic nod

shame - will not meet eyes - feet turned away - teary - desperate - fidgeting - begging

humiliation - lashes back - cheeks flush - palms turn sweaty - face frowns -> brows scrunch, lips pull back - teary

love - looks for approval - blushing / turning red - clammy palms - nervous around certain people - laughs hard - turning clumsy - slip of thought

15,491 notes - Posted July 8, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

show, don't tell:

anticipation - bouncing legs - darting eyes - breathing deeply - useless / mindless tasks - eyes on the clock - checking and re-checking

frustration - grumbling - heavy footsteps - hot flush - narrowed eyes - pointing fingers - pacing / stomping

sadness - eyes filling up with tears - blinking quickly - hiccuped breaths - face turned away - red / burning cheeks - short sentences with gulps

happiness - smiling / cheeks hurting - animated - chest hurts from laughing - rapid movements - eye contact - quick speaking

boredom - complaining - sighing - grumbling - pacing - leg bouncing - picking at nails

fear - quick heartbeat - shaking / clammy hands - pinching self - tuck away - closing eyes - clenched hands

disappointment - no eye contact - hard swallow - clenched hands - tears, occasionally - mhm-hmm

tiredness - spacing out - eyes closing - nodding head absently - long sighs - no eye contact - grim smile

confidence - prolonged eye contact - appreciates instead of apologizing - active listening - shoulders back - micro reactions

38,932 notes - Posted June 20, 2022

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#tumblr2022 #year in review #my 2022 tumblr year in review #your tumblr year in review #<33 #lyralit #hoping to post more in December but lately it's been dry

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boundvirgo · 1 month

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mohammadali saffari, homosexual, cisman + he/him, support «—◦—→ well met, arya soltani! the godling born child of asteria. it’s been twenty-seven years and now they have answered the song in their veins. can he change the course of history with his organization, straightforwardness, and his independence? or will his perfectionism, high expectations, and stubbornness hinder him? only time will tell before this godling’s name is sung into myth and legend! updated: 04/10/2024

── DEMOGRAPHICS

full name: shaharyar 'arya' soltani

name meaning: noble king

gender: cisman

pronouns: he/him

age: twenty7

birthday: september 14

place of birth: houston, tx

class: support

── APPEARANCE

fc: @mosaffari

height: 6'1

weight: 198

eyes: brown

hair: dark brown mussed

body type: mesomorph

mods: lobes pierced, no tattoos

style: business casual

scent: tom ford - tobacco vanille

── PERSONALITY

temperament: choleric

element alignment: water

big 3: virgo sun, gemini moon, taurus rising

── BACKSTORY

'Be better than me.'

The guilt laden words of a pitiful man ring in his ear. They always do around this time…

Vinay Soltani's birthday usually hits on or around Nowruz. Lately, he spends a lot of his time in silence, breeding grounds for looking back at his life and wondering how he went from bringing in the new year explosively with joy and family to feeling like all he can contribute to his existence is constant brainrot.

Every time he looks at his son, he imagines her standing behind him. They have the same eyes. It's the darkest, most midnight looking brown, and if you look closely enough, you can see the stars in their gazes.

With her in his life, Vinay felt vibrant, he felt like he meant something, he felt vindicated, like standing in her presence was the universe's confirmation that he was right to move to Houston and follow his heart despite his family's warnings. When she was gone, he was completely lost. It's as if his guiding light was extinguished, leaving him to be the guiding light for their son, and he knew he couldn't do it alone.

Arya knew it too.

Things inside the Soltani household were bare minimum and nothing else. As a kid, visiting his friends houses with their parents was always a completely different dynamic, and while he couldn't put words to it, it always made him reluctant to go back home. This unknown feeling that something had always been missing kept him up at night sometimes, guiding him to sneak into his father's bedroom and unlock his phone to find a completely different man in the camera roll. Someone who grinned from ear to ear at everything, who drunkenly ran through sprinklers with all of his friends, and was always laughing. He found photos of his dad kissing on a beautiful woman with eyes like his own.

Some days he got peeks of that joyous, loving man. The best way to get his dad to smile was with good grades, so nothing on this planet was more important than bringing home those report cards. His dad was always busy working during soccer games and track meets, but when he brought home trophies, the grin made it more than worth it. Arya didn't find out that his dad never graduated college until he told him he'd be attending Rice University in the fall and the man broke down in tears for the first time Arya had ever seen.

Kids tend to lash out when they're not getting the right attention by their parents, but Arya was a late bloomer. His anger came retrospectively, it came with understanding. All this time, Arya just felt tolerated. After seeing all those photos and listening in on the rare times his father would reminisce with friends, he'd been led to one single conclusion. Vinay's dark, sulking depression was all his fault. So he 'just tolerated' his father when he called to check up or came to visit him on campus. He graduated with honors and with resentment sewn into his heart. He was doing what his father would always tell him. 'Be better than me.'

His MBA wasn't just a degree, it was license to do everything his pitiful father came home after work every night and sat there wishing he'd done. Arya focused on his numbers, his impact, and his research. They were all the things that earned Arya a short lived smile from his father back then. The difference is that Vinay could only give short smiles. His professional life gives him promotions and salary renegotiations and suddenly he's made partner at such a young age.

Arya considers calling his father for his birthday. They'd only spoken every 4 or 5 months for the last 6 years. It's late, so he'll probably be asleep, but it's worth a try. When Vinay picks up, his voice is rough. He sounds like he's been crying. "Shaharyar. Son. We need to talk."

Just as he goes to agree, Arya feels his very existence being called on. The force so strong it nearly forces his body into auto pilot, muscle memory taking him somewhere he's never been before. "I… I have to go. Happy birthday, dad."

#godlingintros

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thepeacefulgarden · 2 years

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What do you need to let go of in order to be happy? * Attachments to material things? * Things you don't need and don't use, or that you're holding onto "just in case?" * A grudge or a resentment? * A toxic relationship? * A bad habit? * A job or career you aren't happy in? * Lingering feelings for an ex? * Pride or stubbornness that's holding you back? * Shame and self-loathing? * An addiction? * Destructive anger? * The expectation that someone will change? * The expectation that someone will be able to meet your needs without you ever voicing them? * People-pleasing behavior? * Codependency? * Jealousy or envy? * Insecurity? * A mindset of scarcity rather than abundance? * Old beliefs that aren't serving you? * Unhealthy competition? * The idea that you don't matter? * The idea that you don't deserve happiness? * Perfectionism?

#letting go #detachment #acceptance #starting over #happiness #you deserve happiness #forgiveness #self forgiveness #self compassion #self care #self love #mental health #self respect #codependency #boundaries #people pleasing #fawning

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astrolovecosmos · 2 years

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Mars in Virgo vs...

This series focuses on conflict and the Mars Signs “against” each other. Because of this the series will explore some more negative topics and themes. Mars also covers a lot more than conflict such as attraction, energy levels, will, ambition, physical intimacy, competition, etc.

Virgo vs. Virgo

These two are going to complain, point fingers at each other, and there may be a lot of criticism or maybe condescending comments. To outsiders they may seem very similar but to the two Mars in Virgos battling they could think they are very different from each other. They may recognize and relate to each other’s intellect, practicality, high standards, or steady energy. But both can be high-strung, highly organized or particular, and judgmental or critical. They can annoy each other easily even when they love one another. In general compatibility I’ve described two Virgos as being one of the most understanding and smooth pairings. Both meeting each other’s needs and standards. When it comes to Mars they may not have a lot of drama rather small fights or repeated pet peeves. But they can easily put too much pressure on each other, and they may treat each other very differently than they treat everyone else - good or bad. Each other’s dependability and practicality may be key to solving issues or keeping the peace. They can convince the other with logic and reasoning. Something to watch out for is the nervous energy, they may easily overwhelm each other not from intensity and anger but stress and worry. They can find each other’s quirks, routine, and precise, active energy to be too much. Larger, more dramatic fights may be played like battleship, there may be an attempt to be strategic but both can be keen and flexible. Also both may be too focused on a certain detail that they are blinded to the other’s “board”. When at their best they are appreciative of each other and can get a lot done!

Virgo vs. Libra

Here we have two easygoing influences but their fights may start out in the intellectual realm and then get personal fast. They may start bickering about differences of opinion and then Virgo lets out a harsh criticism of Libra’s character OR Libra makes a snide comment that sets Virgo off. Both can be shocked by the other when things get heated. Libra can be curious by Virgo’s analytical and savvy mind. Virgo can embrace Libra’s serenity or level-headedness. But both always have a surprise for each other - Virgo usually through bluntness and Libra when they start showing their more unbalanced moments. Libra can admire Virgo’s cleverness even when in a fight. Virgo can admire Libra’s persuasive side but also easily be tricked or annoyed by it. Both can be patient in conflict or be more on the laidback side, possibly believing karma will get the other and no action is needed. Making amends may not seem hard on the surface but both will need to work on expressing heated or deep feelings to truly heal after an issue.

Virgo vs. Scorpio

Virgo can easily be hurt or hypnotized by Scorpio, but Virgo is not afraid to stand up to them. Virgo is mentally quick, logical, and honest and this can help them fight against intense Scorpio. There can be a lot of admiration in this relationship. Mars in Scorpio admires Virgo’s intelligence and even perfectionism. Mars in Virgo admires Scorpio’s emotional strength, their courage, and passion. When they team up they become dangerous, together they are observational, perceptive, intuitive, practical, private or guarded, intelligent, and self-assured. Mars in Virgo can grow impatient or frustrated with Scorpio’s secretive side or their hypersensitivity. Mars in Scorpio can find Virgo to be snobby, rigid, or unapproachable. Mars in Scorpio can easily guilt trip Virgo or plays off their worries and hard to catch scatteredness. Mars in Virgo uses “common sense”, flexibility, their knowledge or skills, or maybe badgering in a fight. While Virgo is associated with traits like adaptability, reserved, quiet, or modest, they have a bluntness or cold pragmatism that can deeply wound Scorpio. They can also easily deceive one another - Virgo with a clever or even sharp tongue and Scorpio with emotional insight and manipulation. Their apologies or forgiveness only happens when both are sincere. Virgo can learn a lot about emotional expression from Scorpio, Scorpio can embrace patience and slow change or improvements with Virgo’s help. They are good at keeping each other’s secrets and at their best will always understand where the other is coming from or at least try to.

Virgo vs. Sagittarius

Mars in Virgo might not stand Mars in Sagittarius’s recklessness. Mars in Sagittarius can feel judged or smothered by Virgo. Mars in Virgo wants routine and stability, Mars in Sagittarius wants to party, indulge, or compete - they want lightning, fire, and adrenaline. Both can insult and get on each other’s nerves with shared bluntness. Misunderstandings could be common. Sagittarius may find Virgo’s realism to be negativity. Virgo can find Sagittarius’s extreme optimism to be foolish, naive, or immature. They can balance each other in this area - Virgo finding Sagittarius inspiring and Sagittarius benefiting from Virgo’s practicality. Their fights can contain bickering and many attempts to one up each other. Apologies can be few as both will believe they are always right. To keep the peace Mars in Virgo may need to try being more risk taking or open to new ideas. Mars in Sagittarius may need to give more tact or sensitivity to Virgo or try slowing down from time to time. They can connect through mental quickness, humor, and honesty. Because both are mutable signs who can think, express, and change easily, fights likely won’t last too long.

Virgo vs. Capricorn

Just because someone has Mars in Capricorn does not mean they are going to win every fight. In fact a recent famous Mars in Virgo/Capricorn battle happened in the public sphere, and the Mars in Capricorn certainly did not win. 👀 👀 💩 But I am not the type to analyze and talk about celebrity or politician charts so, I digress. In general these two can create a reliable pair whose fights may exist in the material realm on many levels but usually isn’t known for getting too heated. Mars in Capricorn can be controlling and hard-headed. They can easily push Virgo around. But Mars in Virgo can be too critical, always on edge, and at times they can outsmart Capricorn or is good at convincing Capricorn of things, good or bad. Together they can get stuck in a loop of negativity. This typically manifests with a negative outlook towards each other, the relationship, or their future. It is important they learn to relax together and focus more on encouragement and raw emotional sharing. Both Mars signs can be overly practical in their overall drive and will. It is easy for them to forget the importance of comfort, reassurance, softer feelings or things. They can help each other reach a lot of different goals. They can also be protective over each other. Mars in Virgo can be caring, with time and self-awareness tap into powerful intuition, and is supportive. Mars in Capricorn can be providing or giving, they are enduring, ambitious, and responsible. Both can be patient and stable and should tap into these traits to keep each other level-headed.

Virgo vs. Aquarius

They can connect mentally and may find each other interesting. However Mars in Virgo can feel uncomfortable with Aquarius’s rebel tendencies or unpredictable side. Mars in Aquarius can find Virgo to be too anxious or cautious. Aquarius’s opinionated nature may clash with Virgo’s uptight energy or their specific standards and expectations. Their fights are usually very vocal with occasional cold shoulders. Both can be condescending or harsh. Aquarius is independent, accepting, and always looking towards the future. Virgo is considerate, always open to improvements, and as long as they feel prepared - open to change. When they fight both may believe they are truly doing what is best for themselves or each other. Because Aquarius is always forward thinking and Virgo down for learning, change, essentially bounding towards perfection they may relate most when focusing on self-improvement and growth together. Through Virgo’s flexibility and Aquarius’s willingness to be cooperative, social, or work as a team there can be long periods of calmness. Not being on the same page may be the most common trigger to conflict. Apologies may actually be frequent, but are they sincere, is the question? Sometimes they could stress or confuse each other so much they just apologize to shut down the issue. Making sure they really understand and tolerate each other is a must. Both can be communicative, yet they may find sharing with each other to be hard. They need to talk about feelings and problems openly.

Virgo vs. Pisces

These two may seem like they have all the patience, kindness, or forgiveness in the world. But there’s a storm that can brew between them slowly but fiercely. Pisces can easily confuse Virgo. Pisces can get angry at Virgo’s critical nature or any possible shallowness. There can be a lot of worry, guilt, and regret in this pairing. They could get stuck always criticizing each other much like two Virgos. The communication can be open but not always understanding. Virgo can find Pisces to be overly emotional, impractical, lethargic, or manipulative. Pisces may believe Virgo has their 🗣️ stuck in their 🍑 via their willingness to always complain, point out what is wrong, or if they go on long-winded rants. There can be an underlying feeling of selfishness or trickery between them. There can also be a lot of attraction, fascination, and an opportunity to balance each other or learn. Virgo gives Pisces logic, security, and structure. Pisces helps Virgo to explore their feelings and imagination. Both can heal each other if they tap into their desire to help and care. Even if their fights get nasty there can be a lot of room for change, growth, and forgiveness. When working together they heighten each other’s receptivity, intuition, healing insights, and maybe competency.

Here are Aries, Taurus, Gemini, Cancer, Leo.

#mars #mars sign #mars in virgo #virgo #zodiac #astrology #libra #scorpio #sagittarius #capricorn #aquarius #pisces

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autisticlifelessons · 7 months

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Autistic Tips for Dealing with Constructive Criticism

Criticism is what helps us improve, but that doesn't mean it's easy for an autistic person to deal with. It has always been something I've struggled with, even if it's constructive and put in the nicest way possible. I get intense feelings of shame, sadness, even anger. I don't often experience meltdowns or shutdowns, but criticism is definitely a trigger for me. However, over time I have learned some strategies for dealing with it, so here are my top tips.

Where possible, give people the heads up criticism is something that is hard for you to take - if you know you take things really literally or if even the slightest criticism is going to put you in a poor frame of mind for the rest of the day, letting relevant people know about this can be enough for them to be a bit more mindful about what they say to you and when they say it. Communication really is key, folks (there can be big pay offs from putting up with some initial discomfort and awkwardness).

2. Talk through things with someone objective to the situation - if you are able to, get someone who cares about you (like a friend or family member) to go over the criticism with you. It gives you a chance to share you feelings and having someone more objective to the situation can help you identify what actions you need to take, as if you are feeling upset you aren't going to be at your most rational.

3. Give it time - don't set yourself up for more feelings of failure by expecting to make drastic improvements overnight. This is not realistic and puts you under a lot of pressure, which is almost never the intention of the person giving you the criticism. They should support you to identify small steps you can take, and to review this periodically to monitor progress and make any adjustments.

4. Ask for accommodations - if the criticism you have received is directly related to your autistic traits, that could be a sign for you to ask for reasonable adjustments to be made to help you. For example, if your boss has put in your performance review that they want you to speak more during meetings, but this is something you struggle with, that could be an ideal time to disclose your autism diagnosis if you haven't already. This is not always possible (there are pros and cons to disclosing), but it gives you the opportunity to suggest solutions, such as having the agenda ahead of time you so can write down your thoughts before the meeting takes place, or request that you have time to think about what you want to say. It's scary, but it can make a huge difference to how comfortable you feel.

5. Maintain perspective - If you are feeling angry or upset, now is NOT the time to start taking action. I once stayed up to 3am tinkering with a lesson plan because my mentor wanted to see certain improvements. I met the required standard but I was exhausted and disillusioned and my confidence was in tatters. I also tend to see things in extremes, which coupled with perfectionism means I often need a second opinion to ensure I have a rational response to something. Communicating how you are feeling with the person who gave the criticism gives them a chance to rectify what they said and clarify their meaning, as the chances are they did not intend to make you feel so awful (obviously in cases where they are being totally unreasonable or you are the target of bullying, this does not apply, and instead you would need to find someone to raise it with).

I am very, very aware that for many reasons, these tips may not be appropriate for you. However, I really hope that you can find something that will help you regulate yourself the next time you receive some constructive criticism. I learned too late that the purpose of constructive criticism is to help you improve, not make you feel like a failure and send you into extreme emotional distress. Remember that we are always learning - it is perfectly ok to make mistakes, to not know something or to need help. Remember too that if you are neurodivergent, you are already dealing with additional challenges to what a neurotypical person faces, but you also have many strengths and unique contributions to make. You got this!

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#actually autistic #autism #autistic adult #autistic #life advice #asd #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #neurodiverse #anxiety #constructive criticism #disability accommodations

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gortash · 8 months

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tagged by @gwynbleidd to do these two uquizzes for my ocs, ty <3

idk who's done this so. tagging @necroticpetals @shadowshearts @flymmcargo @halsin @feypacts @totentnz & anyone reading this hey lol *twirls hair* (no pressure ofc)

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ZARALI CALDWELL

tarot card pair + enver gortash the devil + the emperor

there's only one religion for the two of you, and that religion is the other. you two are very nearly unhealthily obsessed with one another, and that's just how you like it. when they touch you, they can feel the blood pumping under the surface of your skin. your hearts beat for one another. when the day comes that one stops, the other will soon after. until then, you both will live out your lives in perfect, gothy paradise.

which part holds their soul? legs

you're always onto what's vital, what's essential, whatever's the most pivotal thing in your life. survival, stability, ambition, and self-sufficiency. you may find that others instinctively trust you to make the important decisions. at your worst, you're ungrounded. you lack ambition, you lack purpose, and you become more frustrated with life. at your best, you're the glue that holds it all together. your soul is the essence of holding the door open for as many people as possible. you are an extra umbrella in the downpour. the lighthouse guiding ships through a foggy sea. you're as dependable as anyone will ever be.

JAIME HAWKE

tarot card pair + merrill the two of cups + the star

your romance is a wish granted. finally, finally, they're here. finally, *it's* here! the time where you don't have to feel lonely anymore - you'll never feel that way ever again. laughter, joy, sweetness, kisses - be at ease. all of these are things you have found someone to share with. your love is a dreamy fantasy of love and devotion and miracles. at first, your chest gets too tight when they're around - until they become as natural as the air in your lungs.

which part holds their soul? arms

hold. you hold on tight. you hold so tight that you may break. your grip is so strong that others are concerned, but you can't stop because you're the one holding it together. the "organized" in "organized chaos". the calm that exists within the eye of the hurricane. a level of order that is required of detectives during a true crime murder investigation. the wearied satisfaction of a life sentence. you manifest in emotions like ego, anger, and aggression. you might struggle with depression, lack of self-esteem, anger, and perfectionism. your hold is suffocating, but it has reason. you hold not only for yourself, but for everyone you love

MARY ROOK

tarot card pair + john seed the tower + the lovers

meeting this person shook your whole world. crumbling down is everything you thought you knew about life and love. their warmth, their generosity, their naivete, their knowing...! you don't know how anything made sense before them. all you know is that nothing will make sense afterwards.

which part holds their soul? head / mind

close. you want to be so close that you can hear the heavens sing. but this is not a road taken by those of little faith. you worked hard for the relationship with your faith that you have today. it is your faith that brings you the strength that you need during the darkest of days. some people cannot understand that. but your efforts will not go unnoticed. your efforts are what is most important in the end. spirituality, enlightenment, and dynamic thought and energy. the inward flow of wisdom and brings the gift of cosmic consciousness. at a low, you might suffer from a constant sense of frustration, melancholy and destructive feelings. the light of what you believe guides you to what you know is right. there is only one answer, and it is the light. it is your faith

#the fucking tarot card one #bite maim kill etc etc #etxt #ch: zarali #ch: jaime hawke #ch: mary rook

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bishicat · 8 months

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I was tagged by the fantastic @totentnz to do these two quizzes (1,2) from Viv's POV. Thanks Sammy 🩷!!!

Pairing: SilverV

1. What romantic tarot card pair are you?

the tower + the lovers

2. Which part of you holds your soul?

Arms

No-pressure tagging everyone who wants to try this (I think everyone I know has already been directly tagged lol)

#bruh we got the same results im... 💀#i feel like the arm is very fitting though cause gorilla arms are very much a part of viv's core personality #and the tarot cards... woof... if that aint accurate idk what is #this was super fun to try :) highly recommended #thank you again for tagging me buddy #tag games

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I've been reading a handful of your analyses and I've got a sorta hypothetical question. You mentioned that we're sorta in a stage with WxS as a group where, Tsukasa won't be relying on them for anything personal/not-show-related because of The Wall of Perfectionism (and the fact that Tsukasa is somehow genuinely happy meeting expectations, both others' and his own), and that it's up to the rest of the unit to make that first step of reaching out. If that's the case, knowing what you know about these 4, what would you imagine would be a fitting way for them to do that? Some sorta starting incident of some kind?

Hoo boy, to tell the truth, this is kinda hard to predict and probably bordering on fanfic/headcanon level lol. But because you ask about how I imagine it would be, I guess it's fitting. This is kinda long too, so sorry for the length.

First, let's see how Tsukasa deal with any conflicts that brought him emotional distress so far in the stories.

Tsukasa's anger breaking up WxS? He managed to pull himself together with Miku's and Kaito's help and took responsibility for it in the main story.

Tsukasa fighting with Saki? He didn't even rely on Toya who knew his side of the story in Hinamatsuri.

Tsukasa's goal clashing with WxS wish? He prioritized Emu and WxS while lowkey still nursing his disappointment in WMS.

Tsukasa losing confidence in his ability? He already had a goal in mind on what he needed to do but not the how, and even with WxS, Toya's, and Saki's help he reached the answer by himself without confiding in anyone on how he did that in Dazzling Stage.

Tsukasa feeling lonely, hurt, and frustrated in his childhood and middle school days? He tried to ignore those feelings and buried them without telling anyone--and he still has the same coping mechanism in the present if Dazzling Stage is any indication.

All those issues aren't enough to crack him. Heck, we know how much shows and Saki are important to him and he's still able to keep his composure (relatively speaking). Tsukasa is super resilient so as long as it's a problem that he could work out by himself he wouldn't share his emotional turmoil to others. So what would make him show his vulnerabilities to WxS?

For the inciting incident, I think Island Panic kind of hinted towards another Tsukasa's emotional conflict if only briefly. When Shosuke made them realized that they would have to go their separate ways to chase their dreams (more Nene's and Tsukasa's dreams), all members of WxS were upset. Rui, Emu, and Nene voiced their worries out, but Tsukasa only agreed with Emu about how it would be lonely not doing shows together as WxS. But Nene also delivered a rousing speech about how she would cherish her times with WxS, and again Tsukasa basically only backed her up by agreeing with her.

Not only that, while Rui and Emu showed visible confusion and surprise at Nene's words, Tsukasa was... pondering something. He also took some time to say his encouragement after Nene was done, so there was something that made him hesitate. And as the narrative was in Nene's perspective for Island Panic, we never knew what he was thinking when he heard Nene said they could do so many things because they're WxS. He probably mulled over Nene's words, but why? He was the one who trusted in WxS abilities by saying that they could do the impossible even as far back as Smile of Dreamer, so what was he thinking about? It's hard to pin down because for how loud and obnoxious Tsukasa is, he's also secretive and realistic.

I think, for the first time, Tsukasa found people who he wanted to be with--Emu, Rui, and Nene--and the realization that his goal as a worldwide show star would clash with his wish to be with them rendered him speechless--basically the same worry that Nene had. Heck, he couldn't even step up as their leader--Nene had to be the one to alleviate their worries first. I didn't know if the thought has crossed his mind before, but he was definitely torn about it, just not outwardly shown in the story. We know Tsukasa is serious in chasing his dream by taking various show-related part-time jobs, but we also know he's also serious in protecting WxS smiles as their leader. There's also underlying tones about how Tsukasa thought he couldn't make people smile by himself, and also the fact that he only recently realized that he was lonely when Saki was hospitalized in Dazzling Stage only added the fact that he had to reconcile with loneliness again--this time with WxS. There's so many ways this could go, but I think it could be summed up as "Tsukasa feels lonely without WxS, but he knows he needs to leave them to grow as a show star, plus he's the leader and future star so he has to be the supporting pillar and shouldn't feel lonely and troubled about it". There, that can be the motive of the inciting incident.

As for the event itself, It should be noted that the stories always point out the changes (both the appearance of a new VS and items' significance) in SEKAI as 'a big deal'--except for Wonderland SEKAI which treated the VS and items in it as mysteries. Rui is curious about SEKAI and yet he has less information about it compared to other characters in other groups. Not only that, the VS in Wonderland SEKAI also showed suspicious deflecting behavior when prodded about Wonderland SEKAI. Miku refusing to answer what she did in her spare time? MEIKO being vague with answering Rui's question about Luka's sleeping habit? KAITO gushing about Tsukasa in being able to create Wonderland SEKAI without explaining why? Heck, even Empty SEKAI is more forward in telling the readers and Niigo about SEKAI lore.

So what if there's an addition in SEKAI that sticks out like a sore thumb? Maybe... a field with no singing flowers and speaking trees, or a mute plushie? Or better yet, now that Tsukasa has admitted to feeling lonely and hurt, a deteriorating, abandoned house like in Sekai Hasn't Started Yet lyrics appears in Wonderland SEKAI, just like the marionette in Empty SEKAI once Mafuyu realized she's just like her mom's puppet? Miku talked about how the number of flowers increased in Wonderland SEKAI, and Len also thought there's a new attraction (even though it's only MEIKO throwing Miku to the air), so hints of Wonderland SEKAI evolving/expanding is already in the game too.

You know, I think it'll be interesting if the event sequence is kinda like a reverse of the main story. Tsukasa's anxiety and turmoil made him lash out at Nene (or Rui or Emu, but I prefer Nene for continuity's sake, especially if it's related about one of them leaving WxS to chase their dream--or maybe Rui for asking too much about the new addition in SEKAI). However, rather than getting angry or upset with him like they did in the main story, they became worried for him. Nene wouldn't run away in tears, but would stand up for herself and try to understand him. Emu wouldn't passively be the peacemaker, but would actively encouraged him to trust them by using Tsukasa's own words. Rui wouldn't scorn Tsukasa and leave, but would relentlessly ask him to confide in them even if Tsukasa pushed them away.

Or, another (most likely) scenario, Tsukasa was quietly upset like he did in Pop in My Heart, but rather than just looking from afar like before, Rui would confront him about it. In Dazzling Stage, he kinda implied that he regretted being passive about Tsukasa's worries so there's a likely chance that he wouldn't stay silent if he saw Tsukasa being troubled by himself again. However, in this type of confrontation, I didn't think Nene and Emu would play a big role. They probably trusted Tsukasa to come to them when was ready or even trusted him to solve his problem by himself just like in Dazzling Stage. On the other hand, Rui had advantages of being Tsukasa's peer--boys of the same age who work together in the planning stage of the shows together. Whichever scenarios, it would leave Tsukasa being backed into a corner.

However, Tsukasa would probably only clam up even more. Cue Rui becoming frustrated yet still persistent in climbing Tsukasa's wall, Emu grounding Tsukasa and everyone by not giving up, and Nene delivering the decisive line that would make Tsukasa waver. Then the three of them would show them their true feelings with a show, with Rui once again asking Tsukasa to be vulnerable with them. The ending to that scenario, however, is up in the air.

Personally, I think it wouldn't happen like these scenarios and they wouldn't even work lol. Like I said before, Tsukasa got even more resilient due to his character development throughout the story, so I couldn't see him lashing out at WxS again and threading the same plotline. Plus, they're basically asking Tsukasa to change his way of life, of course just one try wouldn't be enough for him to do that. Not only that, the 8-chapter format of the event story is really limiting, unless they made it a slow burn like Mafuyu's plotline. However, as Proseka is an uplifting coming-of-age story, these scenario would likely end with Tsukasa fully trusting WxS with his vulnerable side (I actually like this one better rather than a drawn-out conflict lol). It might be a work in progress, but at least it was a step forward.

p.s: I remember Niigo discussing the lonely atmosphere of ID Smile lyrics and Mizuki deflecting them by saying it's fine because the music is cute in the Secret Distance aftershow, so it's kinda funny how Sekai Hasn't Started Yet has lyrics like that but none of them question it even though the story KAITO and Miku explicitly said in front of WxS that it's Tsukasa's song alone (just like Composing the Future is Mafuyu's). Guess WxS is also in gang 'it's fine as long as it's cute' lol.

#pjsekai #proseka #project sekai #hatsune miku colorful stage #tenma tsukasa #tsukasa tenma #wonderlands x showtime #ask #analysis #headcanon #fic ideas #kinda?#the mafuyu tsukasa ask from a few days ago is still in my mind if it's not obvious already lol

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a-luran · 2 months

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Hi! I just wanted to tell you that I think you're amazing at writing and I have loved your stories so much!

I was going through your writing asks, (because I consider you a huge inspiration), and wanted to ask how you manage your descriptions with your story's flow? I'm pretty descriptive when I write, overly descriptive really, and I can never seem to keep the story moving how I'd like it to. Your works just seem so effortless in keeping the pace and relevancy of the details. It feels like a moving story. Mine are just too choppy and it leaves me rewriting my sentences over and over again, never being able to move on and only making it to around 100 words a day. Just super blocked up with my own perfectionism.

Thanks for your time and sorry for the long rambling. And don't feel pressured at all to answer this! If you are to take anything from this long and drawn out enquiry, I just sincerely want you to know that I admire you very much and consider you one of the better if not the best writer I follow. I will always be excited to read what you put out there!

Hello anon! I'm sorry it took me so long to reply. You are very kind and if you ever want to come chat about writing please do! I don't think your words are a long rambling, they made me think consciously of something I usually do intuitively so i am very grateful.

Since you are, dear anon, anonymous, I could not say whether you writing is choppy but I doubt it. I really doubt it! I know a lot of people throw digs at descriptive writing but I like how the style and detail of a writer's descriptions give you a glimpse of how they look at the world. The way I use description, for example, is based on what I notice when I walk into a room depending on what I am feeling at one particular moment or another. I'll write a few examples from my perspective, which your question made me think about, and I hope it might help break down some of my process for you.

Anger blurs a space and calls to recklessness. Grief-shock also blurs a space the effect it has on the body and the way it focuses your attention is different. When writing a scene, the first thing I do is think about what is at the core of a character's focus. I think that Sean (Ire) is someone who judges character and intention by reading cues other might overlook: the cuff's of a person's shirt or coat, the tilt of their speech patterns, their body language. I also don't think he does this as a step-by-step process, he's a character that reads intentions and backgrounds intuitively. This all leads to the following (this is a bit of a spoiler for a chapter of one of my wips but bear with me):

In and the love that i hold for him , Sean is the first person Arthur calls when his husband is in hospital, and the first to arrive. He is laden with some guilt about leaving Arthur without much support when they were younger, feels out of place coming back into his life, but is also a doctor in this AU and a good one at that. He's coming into the scene as an estranged brother as much as he is a professional, so when he meets Arthur in the hospital, what does he notice first? The state of him; the wear of age and stress on his face, the torn edges of his nails where he has been picking at them (a habit from their shared youth). He notices Arthur hasn't changed his clothes and they look lived in and worn, but he is also aware that he's walking into a private hospital. Despite the tension in the scene, Sean inevitably will wonder how Arthur or his husband are able to afford this, whether they have a private medical insurance, if the reason they invested in it is because Arthur's husband is older, with a medical history that reflects the life he led before he married Arthur. Who is this man, really, that he is here to see? Who is Arthur now after all of these years?

The conversation they have in this scene does not allude to any of these questions. Sean immediately jumps into asking Arthur about the situation, not his life. And Arthur is just as awkward, if tinged with desperation. Sean's curiosity latches onto the seemingly minor details Arthur shares about his husband's accident, his health circumstances, and quickly starts drawing conclusions. That makes for a very busy scene, in terms of exposition (Sean's introduction, his perception of Arthur, his feelings about the situation they're in) so I break up the paragraphs on thoughts and the dialogue with action prompts. If I feel like the reader might need a break, i slow down the exposition and focus on their body language, bringing the scene to a pause. And when I introduce these pauses I add in covert exposition-- I'll write about the ring on Arthur's finger and the way he plays with it. I write about the way Sean puts his hands in his pockets. By this point, I don't feel like i need to explain to the reader that Arthur is already coming to realise that he is about to lose his husband, or that playing with his wedding band is something that comforts him. I don't need to tell the reader that Sean ten years ago would have grasped Arthur's shoulder, and that he feels out of place the moment they stop talking about medical charts and expectations. The actions are doing that for me, and he small details about their body language give the scene an emotional texture different than what I could accomplish if I spelled out their thoughts. These are two men with a complicated past, who have never been emotionally close. In this scene, Arthur made a stilted call and Sean rearranged his life and schedule to be there. They both know this, and the scene which starts sharply, almost anxiously, uses different kinds of descriptive language and tools to wind it down into this final, awkward scene. What's helping me structure it from beginning to end is the way Sean interacts with the world and what his priorities and focus is.

I don't know if this makes sense! I wish i could take a published scene and use coloured markings to break it down. i think that would be a more effective way of explaining what i mean. But if this is of any use at all please let me know and come talk about writing any time! I love it.

#freagradh #writing about writing

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