something something neurotypical society portrays/views autistic men as creepy/perverted something something ryoko kui acknowledges this in relation to how other dunmeshi characters view laios and depicts how harmful that stereotype is
hiii its lesbian visibility week and autism acceptance month and wouldnt you know it, im a black autistic dyke from the caribbean who could use some help! i wont bore you with the details, but we had a family emergency that necessitated travel when we already werent in a great place financially, and when i in particular wasnt in a great place so i could use some help.
heres my personal paypal (@dilsdoes or [email protected]) i also have a personal ko-fi if you prefer that for whatever reason. i cant use cashapp zelle or venmo because im not in the states.
heres the store for my art business @dilsdesigns if you prefer to exchange your money for goods
heres my ko-fi for my art if you end up really liking it and wanna support it long term.
Why do you think neurotypical people mistake neurodivergent people for be really sarcastic?
Possibly because we tend to be super direct whereas neurotypicals usually dance around the point a lot more. So when we say something bluntly, they get all confused because that's not how they would communicate it, so they assume sarcasm. Probably also our tone - a lot of autistic people struggle to control their tone or naturally have a 'flat-affect' which can come across as sarcastic.
It's annoying to be misinterpreted constantly, but also sometimes people think I'm being incredibly funny for stating something obvious so 🤷♀️
So the other day I was talking to a friend about the autism creature and I accidentally called it the "autism monster". And I thought about the concept and I thought it was hilarious.
So I thought I'd actually draw it, and here's what came out of it lol
15 year old google psychologist on tiktok: you HAVE to be PROFESSIONALLY DIAGNOSED WITH AUTISM or else youre a FAKER whos STEALING RESOURCES from ACTUAL PEOPLE WITH AUTISM
psychiatrist: you dont act autistic. ok well i guess you acted autistic as a kid but not now so clearly something changed. whats masking?
psychiatrist: you experience a lot of traits of autism but you made eye contact with me for a bit so you cant be autistic
psychiatrist: you cant be autistic because youre too smart
psychiatrist: well you experience profound symptoms of autism but your brothers already diagnosed with autism and thats not possible for you both to be
psychiatrist: ok you seem autistic however youre a teenage girl. have you considered you might have borderline personality disorder/bipolar disorder instead?
*also when you get diagnosed*
psychiatrist: i cant advocate for your disabling ptsd to the government, i can only do autism. yes i know your autism isnt the actual problem here but have you considered that youre just being autistic about it?
psychiatrist: i cant write a letter of recommendation for gender affirming care because youre autistic. yes i know you work a full time job and live independently but youre not capable of making these decisions
psychiatrist: *doesnt try to treat/talk about anything but the autism*
the 15 year old again: i know you SAID youre diagnosed with autism but i dont believe you because anyone can say that, so im going to continue to harrass you about it anyway
Imagine you and a friend both watch someone toss a ball into the air. You're like, "Oh, it's going to come down here, so we'd better move," and your friend says, "Tch, clearly it's not coming down AT ALL," and just stands there.
Then, when the ball hits them, they're either mystified at how you figured it out, or they chalk it up to luck.
Either way, the NEXT time someone tosses a ball in the air and you tell them where it's going to fall, they're absolutely CERTAIN you're wrong THIS time, and assure you that THIS time the ball is going to stay in the air. So you get out of the way while your friend gets beaned again.
This is what it's like having autistic pattern recognition and not being taken seriously.
PSA: If you are one of the few autistic people who work in an office (this would probably help ADHD people too), get yourself one of these in addition to your office chair. It is amazing for stimming at the desk while I'm doing work and it is socially acceptable at most workplaces.
Autism as a concept has lived in the pathology paradigm from the very beginning. That’s about a hundred years of seeing Autistic people as “broken” and in need of fixing. It is officially diagnosed as a “disorder,” and the diagnostic criteria are full of pathologizing language. So for most of society, negative language and attitudes around autism are “normal.”
To someone in the medical or mental health field, pathologizing language is also “normal.” Same goes for people in education, particularly special education. It’s just how they talk about patients and students, they don’t mean anything by it, you HAVE to talk about a person’s deficits/symptoms in order to get them help. It’s just…normal.
But sometimes, when something negative is normalized enough, people can mistake it for being “neutral.” Which leads to people arguing that the word “disorder” is neutral, and that the actually neutral language of neurodiversity is “overly positive.”
That’s all incorrect, though. The word “disorder” is not and was never intended to be neutral. The language used to diagnose autism as a medical/mental health condition is not and never has been neutral. And “normalized” is not the same as “neutral.”
And so, here’s a handy dandy (and slightly snarky) graphic for anyone out there whose frame of reference could use some re-centering.
NOTE: Genuine questions are fine. Attempts to argue that pathologizing medical language is neutral OR that autism is a disorder are not. If you are uncomfortable in the realization that the language you’ve been using contributes to negative attitudes towards Autistic people, that’s a sign that you have some stuff to learn, not an invitation to get defensive in my comments section.
ALSO NOTE: Nowhere have I told anyone how to refer to or think of *themselves,* so don’t come at me with that one either.
ALSO ALSO NOTE: I don’t actually endorse anything in the “positive” column either. It is strictly to demonstrate that there is a difference between neutral and positive language, and all of it is meant tongue-in-cheek. Toxic positivity and supremacy don’t help anyone.