the haters aren’t gonna like this one but i’m right!

Narcissists are so beautiful and handsome and wonderful, they deserve to be proud for all that they have survived especially with such a distressing disorder

Gaslighting at its best. Be careful of these predators.

Survivors of domestic violence: narcissistic abuse is real.

Survivors of childhood violence: narcissistic abuse is real.

Survivors of emotional and psychological abuse: narcissistic abuse is real.

Loved ones of survivors: narcissistic abuse is real.

Therapists specialising in abuse recovery: narcissistic abuse is real.

Experts in abnormal psychology: narcissistic abuse is real.

People with CTPSD: narcissistic abuse is real.

Psychologists studying the effect of long term abuse on the brain: narcissistic abuse is real.

People with diagnosed cluster B disorders: narcissistic abuse is real.

Disabled people who are more likely to be abused than abled people: narcissistic abuse is real.

The therapy prescribed to people diagnosed with cluster B disorders: narcissistic abuse is real.

Self identified "narcissists" on tumblr: nuh-uh.

Bedtime thoughts:

I don’t follow your rules, you have something to say,

Your words poison, insults flying my way.

You shout and you scream, there is no peaceful place,

If I don’t give you what you want, my heart shatters and breaks. ⛈️

-whisper

I had to learn in the most devastating fashion that he didn’t know how to love, but he damn sure wanted all of the love I had to give. He made himself a victim of everything, and used that to gain my empathy. It was suppose to be a trap, but I escaped. I don’t care how he explains my escape. I don’t care how he villainize me. Just know that my mind is free and I finally have peace. This is going to be hard to hear. He will never love you, no matter what you do or how much you do it. Not because you don’t deserve love, he’s merely incapable. He doesn’t know how. But he’s not going to tell you that, because he loves all the ways that you love him. He loves how you pacify, make excuses and sacrifice yourself for him. He loves how hard you work to prove your love. He’s going to drain you in every capacity, and eventually you’re going to feel like nothing is ever enough. And you’re right, it never will be, because darling he’s empty. He’s an endless pit of darkness and he’s trying to drag you into the tunnel of nothingness with him. You are next in line for everything that he said about me and did to me. Sadly, it just might be worse for you. I wish I could rescue you, but right now you’re busy trying to prove that you’re different. He has projected all of his negative behavior onto me and you believe it. So unfortunately, you can’t be saved. You have to find out like the rest of us. Just remember that when you finally wake up to the man behind the mask, to give yourself some grace. He’s good at fooling people.

Treka L. House

— I pray for you often.🧎🏾‍♀️

repeating this from my twitter account because i wrote well lol.. was just really tired of seeing narc abuse twitter fucks..

"narcissists lack humanity"

just.. fuck you.... seriously.. if you say that then you dont even know what a narcissist really is. you cant just completely condemn people you dont like. empathy doesnt equal good person. you have a shitty opinion too and you probably have empathy.

The hardest thing about moving on from a narcissist is looking back and realizing nothing was real. The initial love bombing. Then spending months, jumping through hoops and chasing that initial connection. Only to realize you were chasing something that was impossible.

I used to do this all the time without realizing it until someone pointed it out to me.

How come when you’ve been gaslight for so long, and you are finally brave enough to mention it to others such as family members or friends it scares the ever living shit out of you.

I think that it’s the not knowing what their reactions are going to be, or if they are going to believe you or not. It’s a very scary situation and then you start to self doubt yourself over it.

The emotional trauma that you’ve been put through, causes you so much suffering and damage and you don’t know how to become yourself again.

Hell, at times in my marriage, I don’t know how to be myself because I’m scared that I will do permanent damage to us. I never know how to react, and I overreact a lot when we have an argument because I’m so used to having to try and defend myself.

Thankfully, I have a truly amazing husband who understands my trauma. But I don’t think he actually knows how deep it truly runs.

Meine inneren Werte hast du ausgesaugt und vernichtet. Und jetzt bin ich nichts mehr Wert

As a victim of this type of abuse, this is mentally draining, exhausting and it's gaslighting at its best.

Lorelai KNEW she KNEW Rory going to Yale would negatively impact her because of the automatic increased involvement of her parents she knew in her bones, in her gut even if it was the best school if her parents were involved IT WOULD BE BAD

She looks so defeated and hopeless it breaks my fucking heart 😭 she is HOPING Richard and Emily talked further to Rory about Yale after the surprise interview because if they didn’t that means Rory is starting to think like them and if that’s happening the ramifications of that are terrifying for her because she knows her parents are horrible people even if she’s internalized so much of their projection and tells herself she’s just being silly and sensitive and over dramatic - deep down she knows they’re the problem and if Rory is starting to think like them that is VERY BAD

But she knows she can’t say “Rory you can go literally anywhere just not Yale” she’ll be called crazy and spiteful and overly sensitive and that’s what narcissists do, they make it so you can either go along with what they want or be viciously attacked and ridiculed if you try and resist their will

She knows her parents and she knows Rory so when she learns Rory applied to Yale and DIDN’T tell her, it’s already over she knows Rory will being going to Yale in that moment because OF COURSE her parents are going to get their way, they always do unless you run away and cut them out completely like she did before Chilton.

She thought after Rory graduated high school she and Rory would be free of their control again and she’s just learned how wrong she was about that end date and she’s crushed because being around her parents ALWAYS hurts her. Rory and Lorelai struggle to have healthy stable relationships because of Richard and Emily and their constant belittling of Lorelai and putting SO MUCH PRESSURE on Rory to be the perfect child they never had to “redeem the sins of her mother” in their eyes or just straight up manipulative interference like with round 2 of Dean and practically forcing Logan onto Rory and all the shit they put Luke through.

I wish it was a surprise that I see so many people agree or defend Emily and Richard and blame Rory and Lorelai even though they both show 1 billion signs of abuse and gaslighting but we know how common victim blaming is in our very narcissistic society so unfortunately it makes perfect sense in a horrific sort of way but UGGGHHHH it’s heartbreaking for all the Lorelai’s and Rory’s out there who see characters they relate to be attacked and hated so viciously basically confirming everything their abusers have ever told them or made them feel about themselves and I just wanna scream DONT LISTEN TO THEM BB THEY DONT KNOW YOU OR YOUR HEART AND THEY FUCKING SUCK 😩😭💜💜💜