religious conservatives: no sex before marriage !!

asexuals: okay

religious conservatives: wait no, not like that.

Desexualized & Asexual are 2 different things

Recently read a take that Isaac in Heartstopper is bad fat rep because "the only fat character was made asexual which is a negative stereotype" & I am BEGGING folks to understand that desexualized & asexual are 2 different things. Plus fat Aces exist & fatness is often used to invalidate asexuality.

We thought that Isaac was just OK for ace rep. We talked about our feelings at length on episode 32 & episode 98 of our podcast. All in all, we just didn't think that his character was anything new or groundbreaking, but with how often aces in real life hear "you're not asexual, you're just fat", it's such a shame that folks out there don't understand that fat aces have their own unique challenges and also deserve rep.

It feels like shockingly similar to when people get mad at Disabled Aces because "disabled people don't have sex" is a negative stereotype. Yes, disabled people are often DESEXUALIZED against their will, which is harmful, but that doesn't mean that some of them aren't ASEXUAL.

Aces come in every flavor, because we're real people. And real people deserve to see aspects of their experience reflected in media without someone else implying that their very existence is inherently harmful.

im not even ace but seeing people erase alastors sexuality ONCE AGAIN is pissing me off

cmon its been 5 years can we not do this shit again

he is ace

you can ship him

do not make him sexual

he is ace and canonically appears sex repulsed

please validate this there is so little fucking ace representation

– Amanda DeWitt, Aces Wild: A Heist

I know we make this joke every time but seriously the Imperfects getting cancelled is my villain origin story. I'm so fucking tired of Netflix burying its small queer shows under bigger releases, doing fuck all to promote them, then shrugging and saying they underperformed so they gotta go. And of course this was one of like 7 shows with an asexual character and one of like two with an actual ace main character. God I am so FUCKING OVER IT.

Anyway, go stream Dead End: Paranormal Park, The Bastard Son and the Devil Himself, Young Royals and Warrior Nun to support more queer shows that Netflix has buried under Big Mouth, Manifest, From Scratch, Blockbuster, Love is Blind and whatever other shows they're actively promoting right now.

I want us to be friends.

Will McDonald & James Majoos as Cash Piggott & Darren Rivers "The Sheriff" — Heartbreak High (1.07)

diversity win!! the eshay giving you food and drugs is asexual!!

Happy Pride Month!!

Its been revealed in my webcomic recently that the lead romance will be an Asexual one <3

These two's story is based a lot on my own relationship, I wanted to celebrate it- being gay and ace was at first confusing, but in the end ever more rewarding 💖

I've been with my GF for almost 10 years now (And I fell in love with her before then!) But I still amazingly come across ppl who think we both 'could do better' due to our platonic relationship lol But Ace people can be in mature, loving, fulfilling realtionships 💜

I rly look forward to showing a Ace love story unfold, and make it romantic without relying on the many romance tropes/'markers' that never looked like my experience of romance. I hope readers enjoy it too and find it just as romantic as non-Ace love stories :3

The eternal struggle between wanting to read aroace rep but also loving romantic tension with the force of a thousand suns

So I have just finished Heartbreak High (for the first time - I’m already on episode 2 for a rewatch). I have lots of big feelings about Ca$h. I’m a newly out asexual person (in my 30s - thanks highly sexualised society for making me think I was just a prude) who is not also aromantic. Ca$h is one of the most relatable characters I have ever seen. Ever. 

A lot of teen and young adult relationships start with lust (or at least are shown to in the media). Watching Ca$h want to be in love with Darren was amazing. It was awkward and messy and Darren got lots of things wrong but it was still so heartwarming. Darren needs to do some learning - fast. But I think they will. And I think the (admittedly awful) things that Darren said are because of the damage that’s been done to them. That’s not to say I think they’re excusable. They’re not, and I’d like to think there’ll be lots of growth and hard work done to repair the damage. But I think Darren said the things they said because they see sex as a measure of how valuable they are. My personal experience is that when asexuality isn't understood well, it’s interpreted as a rejection of your romantic partner. Sex is a really easily interpreted sign of WANTING someone. And in our sexualised society is not easy to see all the other signs of being (or falling) in love.

I loved seeing Ca$h be able to communicate what he needed and wanted (and didn’t want) and Darren hear and understand that (if a little delayed). They made my little asexual heart sing and I will love them forever. 

(Now to try and convince my allosexual partner that they should watch it and not get grumpy about all the teen angst that they definitely think they're too old to have to deal with...)

Riz: got it. We don't have to talk about sex anymore, dad.

Pok: if you have any questions --

Riz: I actively don't want to talk about it.

Pok: the last time I was able to talk to you, you were nine years old. You've grown up a lot, kiddo. I really miss you.

Riz: I missed you too, dad.

Pok: this is ok to talk, for a father and a son. I missed all of puberty, maybe not all, but I missed a lot of it.

Riz: yea, I don't know, I just don't. It just isn't happenin' yet. Like not even just the act is not happening yet. Like me wanting to do it ... Is not happening yet. And my friends are all like super horny.

Pok: yea, that checks out. Well, kiddo, if it never happens that's also okay. There's a lot to life to enjoy, and I already know that you matter a lot to your friends and a lot to your family so if you never end up having those desires, that's completely okay bud.

Ally: ah, you're killing me in this episode

Pok: but if you, it's also okay if it doesn't happen for years, you know? That's also fine. You're your own person, it's gonna happen on your own time or not, and either way is a-okay bud. I won't lie, I know that me and your mom would love to see some grandkids, but that has nothing to do with procreation. That can happen a lot of other ways. Would love to have that Gukgak name continue. Gotta have another little young one scrambling around for blocks under the sofa.

i would love for this to happen

This is so important. I love this panel so much.

I honestly don’t have words to express how much this panel means to me bc I am so sleeeppyyy!!! So I’ll let someone else break these pages down bc some of yall are so good at it.

Happy Ace Week 2023!

I have long been wanting to make a little collection of comments to demonstrate the importance of asexual representation in fanfic, so here's one now (all snippets taken from my own ao3 inbox and out of context).

Ace rep matters - to aces and allos alike - so let's keep writing!

Welcome back to another post for the directory of fic recs on my blog! If you would like a specific theme or trope, let me know! As always, these are all fics I have read and loved, not all the fics out there. You can find more Asexual Character fics here, as well as Ace Louis and Ace Harry! **This post will be updated as I have more fics in this theme to recommend!**

Ace Drag Queen Louis Series || @musketrois || 16.6k Ace Louis, Make Up Artist Louis, Drag Queen Louis, New York City, Photographer Harry

balance between you and me || @beckydoesthings || 15.4k Omegaverse, Fluff and Humor, Courting Rituals, Demisexual Louis

in comes the rain || @starlitlou || 7.5k Omegaverse, Omega Louis, Omega Harry, Asexual Louis & Harry, Heats, Established Relationship

when we get intimate || rainblou || 6.5k Omegaverse, College AU, Ace Harry, Nesting

We Put Our Love First || @morethantonight || 4.3k Trans Harry, Ace Louis, Established Relationship

Peach Blossom Has Just Begun To Bloom || @chrysopon || 4k Pride Parade, Strangers to Lovers, Ace Harry

Talk with me, Walk with me || loulovehome || 3.6k Ace Louis, Drinking, Fluff

Change of Plans || @haztobegood || 2.8k Omegaverse, Non Traditional Omegaverse, Omega Harry, Beta Louis, Christmas, Asexual Harry, Queer Platonic Relationship

You’re Family || @neondiamond || 2k Ace Louis, Established Relationship, Christmas

I Trust You || @neondiamond || 1.8k  Established Relationship, Omegaverse, Ace Harry, Omega Harry, Alpha Louis

Baby, Don’t Apologize || @neondiamond || 1.8k Omegaverse, Established Relationship, Alpha Louis, Omega Harry, Asexual Harry

I have not read all these books nor do I recommend all of the ones I have read