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aspecpplarebeautiful · 3 days

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Changing or adjusting your labels is a normal part of questioning. It's OK to not stick with a label. It's OK to try on a label you're not sure about and see how it feels.

#ace positivity #aro positivity #asexual #aromantic #actually asexual

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radios-universe · 2 days

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oh no… diagnosis is loneliness… my heart is breaking… i need a non-dating dating app to find aroace people in my area NOW STAT

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iceeericeee · 2 months

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"aros and aces can still love and have sex!" yeah but do you really mean that? can you accept the fact that some aroaces don’t want sex and dont do romance? or do you just want to use that as an excuse when you want two people to date despite one or both of them being actively repulsed by romance, or when you want two people to have sex despite one or both of them being actively sex repulsed? are you only saying that for your own benefit?

#in a mood rn #aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #aroace #aromantic asexual #actually aroace #actually aromantic #actually asexual #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+

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shitpostingkats · 9 months

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An Asexual's love letter to Good Omens 2

There's an infamous quote by Neil Gaiman going around, regarding the general vibe of season 2, and many people (I believe humorously) yelling that it could not be further from the truth. Particularly in the last episode, where that happens.

I disagree.

The final episode of season 2 was deeply, deeply comforting to me.

I am asexual. Have been my whole life. Even before I had the words to describe what that was, child-me had this feeling in their gut of being an outlier, that everyone was exaggerating, or in on some joke, that I wasn’t privy to. Because I was bombarded on all sides by shows and movies and books, telling the same story of love, again, and again, and AGAIN. It’s drilled into our brains with the same fervor as the days of the week, or the quadratic formula. Meet-cute -> misunderstanding ->declaration of feelings ->kiss. More or less steps can be added to account for runtime or complexity of narrative, but that’s the basic structure that a relationship follows. It MUST be, because that’s the formula every character who's ever been in a story goes through, often times when it even feels like an add-on, like it’s only there because this is a story, there HAS to be a romance. And it has to follow the steps.

For a long time, I felt love wasn’t for me, because if there’s only one way to be in love, I sure as hell wasn’t feeling it.

Instead, the relationship I ended up in looked a lot like what Beezlebub and Gabriel go through. Meeting someone routinely until it starts to feel comfortable. Getting to know them and slowly growing more attached. Eating chips and listening to music.

We like to joke whenever someone asks us how long we’ve been together, because the answer is we just sort of slowly fell into it, and we honestly don’t know when the line got blurred between ‘friends’ and ‘partners’. And, at least for me, a good deal of that confusion, that hesitancy to label, came from the fact that what I was feeling, what we were, couldn’t be love. It couldn’t be romantic.

We were just quiet and gentle.

And that wasn’t love.

Because it was slow, because it wasn’t physical, because there was no structure aside from consistency and companionship. Because it didn’t follow the Rules.

Then I found myself in stories, and it felt like a revelation.

Beelzebub and Gabriel aren’t the first time I’ve seen a love like I feel represented in a narrative, but it never stops feeling special. And I don’t know if I’ll ever stop celebrating it.

Throughout the sequence in the pub, I kept expecting them to “confirm” Gabriel and Beelzebub. A dramatic line, a kiss, a whatever. That’s what I’ve been taught to expect, after all, that’s the only way a relationship is “real”. Of course, this doesn't mean Crowley and Aziraphale sharing a dramatic kiss is wrong, or that I can’t see why it resonated with so many people, but for me. Those moments in the pub are worth so much more.The last scene might have been literally showstopping, but those handful of moments between the duke of hell and an archangel were the beating heart of the season for me. A simple love story in four scenes. No kisses. No ‘I love you’s. Not even any definition of what. The love Gabriel and Beelzebub have is strong enough for them to both want to shatter their worlds and flee their lives and it's just.

It's just that.

Two people in a pub, playing the other's favorite song, giving a little gift, buying a packet of crisps.

That sequence means far more to me than any kiss ever could.

Love isn’t only real when it's hot and sudden and ephemeral, it can also be

Quiet.

And gentle.

And still romantic.

Still real.

#I sometimes remember this sequence and just feel so light inside #good omens #good omens season 2 #good omens season 2 spoilers #good omens s2 #good omens s2 spoilers #asexual #ace #ace pride #actually asexual #asexual spectrum #essays #ineffable bureaucracy #lord beelzebub #archangel gabriel

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arofulboyfriend · 8 days

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for the millionth time, sex repulsion (aversion) is the PERSONAL feeling of ick when discussing, seeing, or thinking about sex

sex negativity is shaming OTHER people for their sex lives, kinks, and/or sexual history

stop saying sex repulsion/aversion when you mean sex negative and stop saying sex negative when you mean repulsion/aversion! thanks!!

#asexual #actually asexual #acespec #sex repulsed #sex repulsion #sex averse #sex aversion #actually ace #sex negativity #seren yaps #saw a blog that was like “sex repulsed people can interact but ur on thin fucking ice” like hello???#sex averse/repulsed ppl wouldnt interact with ur blog anyway weirdo

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papier-ciseaux · 2 years

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IT IS ACE WEEK!

So let's talk about asexuality! This is an introduction trying to cover as much as possible in a little format, so its mostly surface level stuff. You're gonna have to dig on your own :P

For more information, I recommend checking out aceweek.org or acesandaros.org ! You can also read up on ace history through the Asexual Manifesto by Lisa Orlando !

Edit: Here are some links for more information:

Aceweek

AcesAndAros

An article about the Asexual Manifesto that links you to a transcript

An article about Asexuality's history

#ace #ace week #asexual #asexuality #actually asexual #aspec #acespec #asexual spectrum #aromantic asexual #ace pride #split attraction model #autism #asexuality 101 #sex ed #i guess?#LBArt #i finally did something for ace week #i am so proud of myself #pap pap

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ace-disgrace-withamace · 1 year

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‘Why do you make sex jokes if you’re asexual? Doenst that mean you want sex’

Bestie I can make jokes about being impaled on a spike medieval torture style, doesn’t mean I want to

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day-heron · 6 months

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Aroace in a way that’s inseparable from relationship anarchy. Aroace in a “getting rid of the legal institution of marriage” way. Aroace in a “romantic/sexual attraction is irrelevant to me in the first place because I actively choose to deprioritize the romantic/sexual/nuclear family ideal of relationships in my life” way.

#our post #aro tag #aromantic #asexual #aroace #relationship anarchy #aro #ace #actually aromantic #actually asexual #actually aroace #anemone’s post

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amalgamezz · 4 months

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things that allos do that make aspecs accuse them of being aphobic:

mocking their labels and vocab

invalidating their existence

trivializing their experience

excluding them from the queer community

comparing them to paedophiles and MAP groups

comparing them to their oppressors

things that aspecs do that make allos accuse them of being homophobic/queerphobic:

existing

talking about their personal experience and headcanons

expressing their wish to be included in the queer community

#aphobia #aromantic #actually aromantic #asexual #actually asexual #the number of people accusing us of being queerphobic is wild lmfao #we r literally just existing #aspec communities r literally the most inclusive and anti-terf groups in the community. tbh idk wtf r yall even going at.

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cowboylikeghost · 7 months

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"i support aroace people!" "aroace people are queer!" How would you react if i told you that i'm aroace but non-partnering, even qpr are a big no, answer quickly.

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aspecpplarebeautiful · 4 months

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You're not missing out on experiences you wouldn't enjoy in the first place. It's OK to seek out a life and experiences that actually appeal to you.

#ace positivity #aro positivity #asexual #aromantic #actually asexual

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radios-universe · 5 months

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you’ve heard of girl maths…. now get ready for aroace maths:

every unnecessary purchase is justified because everyone my age is buying things like this for their s/os or even their Children. i have and will never have either…. sooooo i’m being cost effective and i’m allowed to spend this money on myself!

#work smarter not harder #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aromanticism #asexuality #aroace #aromantic asexual #actually aromanric #actually asexual

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bizarreaizen · 8 months

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religious conservatives: no sex before marriage !!

asexuals: okay

religious conservatives: wait no, not like that.

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lariej · 2 months

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laughing at the asexual ‘hook ups’ i had with this girl who was fully down for just coming round to mine after a night out, lying in bed with me, and cuddling, and that’s it

#there is the occasional making out #then the next morning she goes home #no we are not dating #it’s great rlly #cuddle hook ups #asexual #asexuality #acespec #ace pride #laz speaks #actually asexual

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proud-aroace · 1 year

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Sex repulsed aces are so cool.

Sex favourable aces are so cool.

Sex indifferent aces are so cool.

Romance repulsed aros are so cool.

Romance favourable aros are so cool.

Romance indifferent aros are so cool.

#aroace #acearo #aro #aromantic #asexual #actually asexual #ace #aro pride #aromantism #asexuality #so cool

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queerspectral · 5 months

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Shoutout to aspecs who have dated/had sex but don't want to do so again.

Whether you thought you wanted it but later realised you didn't...

Whether you knew at the time you were just giving in to societal pressures but tried it anyway...

Whether you genuinely did want it at the time but don't any more...

Whether it was a great experience at the time or a terrible one...

Whatever the reason, it's okay to just. Stop.

You can always, always change your mind about whether dating or sex are things you want in your life. Maybe they once were. Doesn't mean they have to be now.

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