for those who need it💘

how do I stop thinking about the person who's broken my heart? I stare at his pictures and listen to old voicemails. I miss him so much. idk what to do anymore.

Well. There isn't any perfect solution to this problem. I have the same problem with my ex. I ended up taking away the option to contact him entirely. I deleted his number, all of his texts, emails, call logs. I put all of the photos into a .rar file with a password created by Google Authenticator. I deleted him from Facebook, changed my relationship status, deleted him from Discord, left the servers we were in together, changed my Discord settings so no one outside of my contact list can send messages to me. I wiped him completely from my life. The clothes I bought because he said I would be beautiful wearing them, I burned in a bonfire. Now there's no way to contact him at all. I never memorized his number or email address. Everything is gone.

That might be too extreme for you personally, but it really did help. I've always been a fan of the "Out of Sight; Out of Mind" approach. Otherwise, you run the risk of mourning forever and missing something good if it comes along. Like that meme, "Sometimes you have to throw the whole man away."

I hope this helps you. Good luck!

-M

dear man i once loved,

by the time you read this letter, you will be completely devoid of my heart. however in the moment im writing this (november 2nd, 2023) you still have a place in my heart, unfortunately. i wish i could say i dont love you anymore. im not at that point yet. you dont know this but even before we had gotten together that id loved you for a year and a half, unconditionally and more. i was willing to put so much of my heart into you, and before i knew it, i already had. you know its bad when im frustrated and upset at you yet i still love you so much that i wanted to start this letter with “im sorry.” isnt that ridiculous? you break my heart unintentionally and yet still, IM the one who wants to apologize. because it feels as though im not enough to be somebody you could love irrationally. i know i can be overwhelming because my love is gigantic. perhaps even unattractive. maybe this is why i wasn’t worth fighting for. i hate that i still love you. i know you probably dont love me more than friends, hell maybe its just “like”. its just a shame that i had invested so much of my emotion into something you most likely never had your entire heart in. i know you tried your best, you had done as much as you believed you could for me. knowing the person that you are, even all the little things you had done for me counted tenfold more in my heart than they shouldve. youre not an emotional guy, youre like a robot. which is why it surprised me so much with what you gave me. for others its the bare minimum but me and our friends know that youre not the type to do anything like that at all. so i truly believed in my heart that you loved me. im grateful that i was plenty of your firsts. first girlfriend, first girl youd held hands with, first girl whod ever laid in your arms, first girl whos heard those words come out of your mouth. it was, and still is so incredibly special to me. in my head and in my heart we were the perfect match. our values aligned, you made me laugh like crazy, your faith and character made me instantly fall in love. you reminded me of a man who id want to father my future kids. somebody who i knew anyone would be lucky to have. and i was lucky enough to have you even if it were just a season of my life. whoever your next girlfriend is will be one lucky girl. i just wish i could get over you faster. my heart still makes my eyes follow you in a room. even after all ive tried looking away its like my heart is looking at you but my eyes arent. it still waits to see you in between classes. it was and still is so willing to do just about everything for you. everything for us. it hurts. it hurts when your heart is completely and utterly in love with someone. and it all crumbles in a matter of weeks. im sure you just don’t understand how i feel. but love is completely irrational sometimes. it makes you do crazy, stupid things. and i was stupid enough to put so much of my heart out only for it to be set to the side. thats how much i loved you. and i want to say i dont feel that way anymore but i know if you came back that id give my heart back to you in… a heartbeat lol. still, thank you for everything. as much as it hurts to love you, im glad i did. and im grateful for all that youve done for me. the friendship, the temporary “love” we shared, and all the memories.

love,

me

No one else made sense until you and now- nothing makes sense after you

Getting over you by Leslie B

Kisses

Kissing his neck felt so good.

It was warm, like a safe place.

I knew it was safe because he didn't try to make me go away.

He also embraced me closer to him while I was staining his skin with my breath.

Our bodies fitting together like puzzle pieces.

The warmth of his feelings.

My heartbeat above his.

His arms around my torso.

I'm not ready to let it all go.

Tear stains on my hardwood floor Covered up with a piece of carpet Your shadow on my bedroom door It flew away, just like a rocket Ain't that bad getting over your goodbye And what's that say, boy It's my party and I don't have to cry And I'm okay that... You, you left me so low And I, I couldn't let go But yeah, I'm beating that heart attack Don't have to worry about where you at Cuz, no, I don't even want you back I used to care but now I'm cool with it Cool with it, cool with it I used to care but now I'm cool with it Cool with it, cool with it Used to sleep with the TV on Just to hear somebody talking Now I dream with the world turned off I ain't waiting for nobody to call and... Ain't that bad getting over your goodbye And what's that say, boy It's my party and I don't have to cry And I'm okay that... You, you left me so low And I, I couldn't let go But yeah, I'm beating that heart attack Don't have to worry about where you at Cuz, no, don't even want you back I used to care but now I'm cool with it Cool with it, cool with it I used to care but now I'm cool with it Cool with it, cool with it I've been down but now I'm on my way up I've been down but now I'm on my way up I've been down but now I'm on my way up My way up, my way up You, you left me so low And I, I couldn't let go But yeah, I'm beating that heart attack Don't have to worry about where you at Cuz, no, don't even want you back I used to care but now I'm cool with it Cool with it, cool with it I used to care but now I'm cool with it Cool with it, cool with it I used to care but now I'm cool with it Cool with it, cool with it I used to care but now I'm cool with it Cool with it, cool with it

♡ "getting over him" affirmations ♡

I am over him.

His absence means nothing to me anymore.

I do not care about him anymore.

I am healing each second and every breath I take.

I am moving on.

I am embracing the new version of me.

I am beginning a new chapter of my life without him with ease.

I am better off without him.

I am not attracted by him.

I am finally over him.

I am loving myself more and more.

I know my worth.

I know that I deserve someone better.

I am focused on myself and my grades above anything else.

I'm so sick of waiting for you to give effort. I have to much to offer, and your not the person I want to offer it to.

Me.

The way we went from full paragraphs and long conversations to short answers and cold texts <<

Last night I dreamed that you messaged me and asked to meet

Silly me. I can’t get rid of the idea that you may miss me. Why would I think that?

If you were missing me, you would’ve done something but you literally didn’t move a finger, so why the fuck am I still waiting for your messages?

You will never come back, I know that and I want it to be true, I don’t want you back, but somehow I am still waiting.

I can’t wait for the day I will finally be free of you. Can’t wait to remember how my mind was like before it was all you.

I’m in london with my bestie and until today I’ve been crying because of the mf but I’m starting to blossom again into a new person🥰

Why is it when you’re finally getting someone out of your head they text you?🙄 Fam let me move on in peace

i am not the problem. i never was.

Didn't know I need you like this, don't want to need you like this. It took me a moment to realize and it will take a lot more moments for it to be over

Getting over you by Leslie B

# 001- Welcome

Here at Stop-Thinking-Of-Him, I post daily to motivate my readers to channel their energy into better projects, whilst hopefully straying away from the drab nature of some Blogs and Podcasts.

This is a safe space and everyone is welcome, this podcast will not be focusing on trying to chase after a man or trying to wish him back into your life but rather stopping the the waste of time that occurs when you spend hours of the day thinking about a fellow human being who lacks the mutual care for you.

We will be incorporating new activities into your daily life,whilst allowing time to reflect and meditate on the root cause of our feelings and obsessions.

You are not,and never will be alone.

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STOH