plural + NPD culture is not having oc's because you cant find interest in creating something that isn't about you, so you use yourself and your headmates as oc's
also im a fictive! so some people think im doing a fanart when I'm actually drawing myself, and some of them end up saying hwo they like my drawing but hate the character and I'm like "I'm literally here ermm... should i even say thank you???" cuz yea, i take it personally.
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NPD + fictive culture is getting mad when people say you/your source are/is just like them. No, I pertain to nothing except myself. YOU are like ME. Not the other way around.
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I think the thing we've lost sight of with the concept of "good faith" identities is that, crucially, you do not get to decide that someone is identifying as something in bad faith.
I've seen anti-mspec monos, anti-transmasc/male lesbians, anti-endos, anti-SAM users, anti-transfemmasc, anti-afab transfem and amab transmasc, anti-nondisordered system, anti-kin, anti-agere (even nonsexual), anti-sexual littles, anti-NPD and anti-ASPD, anti-self-dx, and so many more say "all good faith identities are welcome".
If you have "all good faith identities are welcome" followed immediately by "but x identities do not interact", you are not safe for all good faith identities. Full stop, period, no exceptions.
To take some more "controversial" identities, I know kin blogs that welcome "all good faith identities" but not endels because it's "unhealthily encouraging delusions". I know trauma-focused servers for littles that rather than saying "we are not equipped to handle sexual content" call sexual littles and their systems BOTH predators and child molestors for allowing littles to express autonomy as members of adult-bodied and adult-brained systems.
I know plural spaces that draw the line at identifying as a different internal identity than the body, especially when it comes to disability as one example. I know plural spaces that say headmates that have never once in their life been able to speak, while fronting and in headspace, are not allowed to call themselves nonverbal. I know plural spaces that say that fictives and soulbonds are appropriating from their own cultures and past lives if they keep their NAMES, even when the body is not even white!
You are not capable of determining if someone is identifying as something in good faith, because all good faith means is that they GENUINELY feel that is who they are. That's it.
If you think identities that someone genuinely feels like they are, are somehow harmful or morally wrong, say it with your whole chest. Don't hide behind nice-sounding politically correct words to say that you believe any identity that someone really feels is true is fine, EXCEPT those evilbad ones that are ACTUALLY really harmful and bigoted and bad and actually oppressing REAL women*/lesbians or gay men/trans people/systems/etc/etc/fucking etc.
And quite frankly, some of y'all need to remember that only actions can be moral, and bodily autonomy is a fundamental human right that is never immoral to exercise. Identity cannot be harmful because it is a feeling, not an action, and changing your body to affirm an identity cannot be harmful because it is exercising bodily autonomy. It doesn't matter if someone is getting plastic surgery to look like a doll or having a limb removed to help with their BIID or saying "I am x" because that is what their internal identity is.
You respect it even if you don't understand, or you're a bigot who is fundamentally anti-autonomy and therefore dangerous. Period.
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(*Note: I only name women because it's incredibly rare for anyone to claim that people are oppressed "real men" outside of the context of marginalized men who are actually oppressed, and then the claim isn't "real men" but "marginalized men". Even in the rare exceptions, such as te/rfs claiming trans men prey on gay cis men, they are still claiming it's about the marginalization of "homophobia", but it is a common tactic of te/rfs to claim "real women" are being oppressed by trans people. If you see the word woman but not man in this specific context and blacked out and screamed misogyny at me, I really can't help you and don't think anyone can. I've also been on the internet long enough to know this disclaimer is worth making.)
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NPD & ASPD & DID fictive culture is thinking you are the most “accurate” to your source. Thinking you are the best “double” and the most “real”. You see yourself as above all the other “doubles” and “actually you”. You feel oddly dysphoric and jealous when seeing other “doubles” because you are the “only one/best one”. Do you know that doubles technically aren’t actually a thing and that they are their own people? Yes. Do you still feel connected to your source and want to be the “best”? Yes. Would you ever be mean to “doubles” or intentionally reality check them? No. Maybe you do see “doubles” as below you in a way, but you would never let yourself do anything antagonistic to them out of envy.
You can control how you act, but not how you feel. Perhaps your thoughts are not pure and perfect, and people will judge you for that. What gives them the right to judge you for something you have no control over, though? Doesn’t that make them hypocrites? How are they supposedly so perfect then? Your actions are the biggest thing that defines you because it’s what affects others. Just because you do a good deed with resentment doesn’t make you a terrible person. We all have imperfections, and of course it’s painful and hard to admit to that. If you’re so busy obsessing over purifying your own thoughts then you will always face misery. The brain cares not for moral perfection, it cares for survival; sometimes the things brains do for survival is not always in other people’s best interest. You are not a good person, but you’re a bad person neither. You are just a person. With thoughts, flaws, and feelings. And that’s how you should be treated, as another person deserving of respect and love.
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