this is a coming out post

finding another aro person in the wild is so !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i am not alone in this world !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

the cupio identifying aroace experience is going from "FUCK YEAH IM IMMUNE TO YOUR PATHETIC THING OF LOVE" all the way to "I can't ever fulfill my one desire to love and be loved. I will never be able to give what they give, I will always be just a leech for romance. Nothing you give me will ever be reciprocated with genuine feelings." in the span of about an hour and it makes me so tired. Even if it's not true and I am more than capable of using my platonic love for someone it just isn't what I want. :(

My (cupio) aroace experience is watching everybody pass by. By having friends start pairing up, making me the third wheel. And it’s not like I mind not having a partner, but the loneliness that kind of connection around you carved me up. I want that connection, I’d love to be thought of as someone’s partner, their sole concern, but every time that thought barely glimpses into my reality, what that would realistically be, I can’t feel it.

I have been told be so many people, for so many years: “You’ll find the one.” “Maybe you need to get out more” “You haven’t had a crush?!”

Well maybe I won’t find the one, maybe it’s not that I prefer indoors to the bitter chill, maybe I haven’t had a crush. And what will anyone do about it? Nothing, because it’s just how I feel. I’m not going to be persuaded to hurt myself in a loveless relationship, or pretend to fit in.

I don’t feel that romance, and I’m okay with it, at least in the end.

i’m sorry to hear friends treat you as less important when in relationships, but i’m happy to hear that at the end of the day you’re happy with your identity!

Aspec!!

yall be nice i’m trying my best.

Enjoy<33

note: many flags because I wasn't quite sure of what I wanted!

DONT FORGET TO DO YOUR DAILY CLICK TO HELP PALESTINE.

୨୧ • Cuperos

tags: @orientation-archive

Alternative name for electio aroace! Can be used as a prefix or an identity by itself. (Ie, cuperobian, cuperodian, etc)

Cuperos individuals desire relationships despite not experiencing any type of attraction, or if even the attraction they experience doesn't play a role in the relationships they seek.

The symbol has an ace on it but it isn't ace exclusive, I just wanted an heart symbol that wasn't quite an heart.

PT. Cuperos. Alternative name for electio aroace! Can be used as a prefix or an identity by itself. (Ie, cuperobian, cuperodian, etc). Cuperos individuals desire relationships despite not experiencing any type of attraction, or if even the attraction they experience doesn't play a role in the relationships they seek. The symbol has an ace on it but it isn't ace exclusive, I just wanted an heart symbol that wasn't quite an heart. END OF PT.

Words cannot describe how necessary it was for me to read Loveless, the whole time I was like "oh my gosh someone put it into words" I related so hard to Georgia, I just wish I had this book when I was discovering my aroaceness but better late than never!

Today's LGBT+ Headcanon is;

Douma from Demon Slayer-Cupioaroace

Requested by Anon

Status: Deceased

The sunflower is the official symbol of hidden/invisible disabilities.

The cupioromantic and cupiosexual flags on sunflowers, for those cupios who also have invisible disabilities.

Feel free to use them and share them, I just ask that you credit me.

If there's a particular flag you'd like on a sunflower just let me know!

If any of you would like to get these sunflowers on pins, stickers, tote bags, clothes, home decor stuff, etc... these and other pride flags on sunflowers are all available in my shop.

Most of my stuff can be costumized, so let me know if you'd like a different background colour, something slightly changed on a design, a design placed differently on an object or available on something you can't find in my shop (as long as Redbubble carries it, of course).

Happy Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week!

Greycupio

Request by reddit user FruitfulMoon

Can be spelled greycupio/graycupio. This flag/term is for those who consider themselves cupiosexual/-romantic in a 'gray' way, or those who identify as graysexual/-romantic and cupiosexual/-romantic, or pretty much anyone who identifies both with gray- and cupio- labels! [id: a flag of equally sized horizontal colored stripes. The top two stripes are both light gray, though the outermost stripe is slightly more pale. Under the gray stripes there's a white stripe, then a desaturated blueish periwinkle, then a light coral, then an even paler coral, then a light pink. There's another white stripe under the middle colored stripes, then two more gray stripes at the bottom of the flag, with the slightly darker pale gray under the white, and the slightly lighter one on the bottom of the flag]

Me, after coming out as aro to my mom: I just worry. Since I mostly write romance and relationships but I don't experience those feelings, so I'm not sure if I even should be.

Mom: Well, there's blind artists, and deaf musicians.

Cupiorose Flag

I never found a solid cupio aroace (cupiorose) flag that I liked, only a few ideas tossed around. So I made one based on the cupiosexual and cupioromantic flags.

Cupioromantic | Cupiosexual | Cupioaroace

Aegoromantic | Aegosexual | Aegoaroace

Caedromantic | Caedsexual | Caedaroace

Villainpunk, also known as evilpunk, is a punk subculture dedicated to the reclamation of demonization, a rejection of the social norm of goodness, taking pride in identities that carry a stigma. It can be shortened to vilpunk.

SEASON 2 HEARTSTOPPER KINDA SPOILERS!! READ AT YOUR OWN RISK!!! :)

Isaac is so cupioromantic coded in this show and I as a cupioromantic person myself, have NEVER related to a character so specifically.

Cupioromanticism (for those who don’t know) are people that are on the aromantic spectrum (feel little to no romantic attraction) but these people have the want or desire for a romantic relationship. The idea of a romantic relationship is appealing to them, but they don’t feel the romantic attraction that supposedly comes with these relationships.

A tiny bit of backstory, I didn’t know about being cupioromantic until more recently. I’ve identified as aroace for a very long time, but often found myself questioning it. While I know i’ve never felt romantic or sexual attraction, the idea of a romantic relationship has always appealed to me. I desire to have that intense closeness and intimacy people only seem to get when they have a partner. I wondered if I were a lesbian for a very long time, but never pictured myself having sexual or romantic feelings for someone else, even another woman.

While doing research, I came across the terms “romance favorable” and “cupioromantic”. The concept of being cupioromantic resonated with me almost immediately. It’s as if everything I’d been feeling had been described in one singular word.

Cupioromanticism is something that not tons of people are aware of, from what I’ve noticed, especially since it is part of the aromantic spectrum (which also, is something that the world and even the queer community don’t always address)

Back to heartstopper, Isaac, exhibits so many cupioromantic traits, especially in season 2. Throughout the series you see him reading many queer books, and not only ones about asexuality. (Here’s a link to an article discussing all the books he’s read throughout the series so far)

From this and from his behaviors in season 2, it’s clear that he wants to be in love. He WANTS to have romantic feelings for James (the gay boy that has a crush on him) and Isaac goes as far as asking Charlie what it feels like to actually like someone.

When James kissed Isaac, he had anticipated for it to be magical, and fantastic, but it wasn’t. There weren’t any feelings involved on his end. When he talked to James about it later, he states that he’s been doing research so he’d know what it’s like to have feelings for another person. he wanted it to happen, he EXPECTED to have feelings for James. He genuinely thought the kiss they shared was going to be just as amazing as everyone said, but it wasn’t.

Later on, as Isaac looks at the art piece made to represent the aro/ace spectrum, he seems to relate to it a lot. As it’s been confirmed that he is on the aro/ace spec, they haven’t specified where. Regardless though, throughout the series it’s clear that Isaac does in fact have an interest in romantic relationships, he seemingly even wants to have one with James. He was excited about it, up until he realized he didn’t have the same romantic attraction James had for him.

Considering that cupioromanticism isn’t very well- known, I doubt they are going to explore the topic much. However, as a cupioromantic, I’ve decided this is some of the best representation for it that I’ve ever seen. whether it’s intentional or not, I relate to Isaac in a very cupioromantic way.

“s3x and love is what makes us human!!”

buddy- i’m not human

IMAGE IDS. 3 rectangular flags with 11 stripes. The first flags stripes are, in order: purple, neon pink, light pink, light dull yellow, greyish yellow, dark yellowish grey, greyish yellow, light dull yellow, light pink, neon pink, purple. The second flags stripes are, in order: dark turquoise, blueish purple, light purple, beige, pinkish dull purple, dark grey, pinkish dull purple, beige, light purple, blueish purple, dark turquoise. The last flags stripes are, in order: dark blue, turquoise, light turquoise, dull light green, greenish grey, dark greenish grey, greenish grey, dull light green, light turquoise, turquoise, dark blue. END OF IDS.

୨୧ • cupiosexual, cupiorose, cupioromantic (own take)

︵︵︵︵︵︵★ ꒱ explanations :

୨୧ • alternative flags for those who are cupiosexual, cupiorose or cupioromantic! Other versions:

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︵︵︵︵︵︵★ ꒱ meanings :

cupiosexual: the purple represents sex, the pink represents relationships, the light pink represents pride, the light pastel yellow represents lack of sexual attraction, the yellowish grey represents unique identity and the black represents the asexual spectrum!

cupioromantic: the blue represents romance, the turquoise represents relationships, the light turquoise represents pride, the dull light green represents lack of romantic attraction, the greenish grey represents unique identity and the black represents the aromantic spectrum!

cupiorose: the dark turquoise represents aromantism, the purple represents asexuality, the light purple represents relationships, the light beige represents lack of attraction, the greyish purple represents unique identity, the black represents the aroace spectrum!

PT. cupiosexual, cupiorose and cupioromantic alternative flags. explanations. alternative flags for those who are cupiosexual, cupiorose or cupioromantic. meanings. cupiosexual: the purple represents sex, the pink represents relationships, the light pink represents pride, the light pastel yellow represents lack of sexual attraction, the yellowish grey represents unique identity and the black represents the asexual spectrum. cupioromantic: the blue represents romance, the turquoise represents relationships, the light turquoise represents pride, the dull light green represents lack of romantic attraction, the greenish grey represents unique identity and the black represents the aromantic spectrum. cupiorose: the dark turquoise represents aromantism, the purple represents asexuality, the light purple represents relationships, the light beige represents lack of attraction, the greyish purple represents unique identity, the black represents the aroace spectrum. Other versions. [see first link] [see second link] [see third link] [see fourth link] END OF PT.