#spoiled girlfriend
harusclass · 2 days ago
Subtle ways to change how people view you:
Lean in slightly to appear more interested in the conversation
Speak slower and softer if you wish to seem like a dream / at peace
Keep your bag organized, when you reach to grab things out of it you’ll seem more put together if there’s little to no struggle to find things
Using a fragrance oil on your wrist and under your ears will seem more Sophisticated than spraying yourself with perfume
Read poetry, keep a select few favorites in your mind. When people ask what you enjoy, say poetry and provide an example. You’ll appear more emotionally intelligent
If you’re going to fake smile, move the muscles under your eyes so that your cheeks raises enough to halfway squint. It seems more genuine that way.
Walk with your head up everywhere. And I mean everywhere.
Stop messing with your little imperfections only you notice. There’s no need to straighten your shirt, rub your hand down your pants etc. Leave it be and you will appear more confident.
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itsroxie · a day ago
POV: Night time routine 💫
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(Pics are not mine) ❣️
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baddie-drip · a day ago
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napqueenkae · a day ago
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I am enough just as I am ✨️
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bbltheque · 2 months ago
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urtoospoiled · a month ago
Private until it’s permanent.
Love. Career. Finances. All.
Private until it’s permanent.
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soft-black-princess · 4 months ago
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thesapphireprincess · 4 months ago
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pinkrenaissance · 2 months ago
classic, refined, feminine, warm and inviting, casual glamour, fun and loving, kind and generous, charming, charismatic, educated, confident, graceful, gentle, and polite.
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leveledupmindset · 4 months ago
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tomb-of-ligeia · a month ago
3 bits of advice? 🤍
You need to learn how to market yourself.
Every woman needs to know how to market herself, the way you market yourself and your personal branding are two major things that heavily factor into the way that you’re perceived and knowing how to market yourself, choosing what niche you’d like to appeal to, and having a clear idea of what you’re doing are major. I didn’t wake up one day and randomly choose to totally change myself, I made lists of my skills and qualities, I made lists of the things that I enjoyed and the things that I gravitated towards the most, I made lists of the opportunities that I’d like to have, I factored in the place I was living and the places where I’d one day want to live or travel to, I added my degrees into the mix and made sure to leave room for continued education, and I started to craft an image of the woman I wanted to be and the things I wanted to have and to have accomplished before I turn 30.
All of the things I listed down and all of the things that I had already and planned to accomplish are parts of the way that I market myself both in friendships and in relationships, I wear a variety of different hats and I use all of the interesting things I’ve experienced and lived through to make myself a better candidate for everything. I applied to Princeton for graduate school, I got into Princeton for graduate school, and I chose not to attend Princeton because I got a much better offer from a grad school that I view as more prestigious but the point is that I was accepted into Princeton. I’ve dated a lot of Yale graduates, I use the way I market myself to men and my sorority experience to interact with them and I use pieces of the mannerisms that I’ve brought over from home to help me, and I’ve always had a lot of success. Marketing is everything and it needs to be learned for any sort of decent personal, professional, or romantic success. It’s just a fact.
You need to figure out what you want from your life.
I’ve been on many a rant about the posts I’ve read from women who don’t know the value of the dollar, who haven’t been outside of their computers, and who don’t seem to understand that handsome, six figure making, young men aren’t found that often. There’s not a billionaire out there for every woman and the vast majority of women on hypergamy/levelling up tumblr aren’t going to have the opportunity to interact with these mystery men or they’re going to meet them and abruptly realise that all of the stories they’ve read about handsome millionaires throwing away their status and brushing off the criticisms of society to be with women who don’t fit into their lives or into their world are just pretty lies made up by delusional girls to give insecure women hope when they shouldn’t bother.
You need to figure out what you want and you need to be realistic about it. If you’re a high school graduate with no connections, no career to speak of, and no friends then you need to either get planning for your future or stay where you are, it’s all up to you. I took a long hard look at myself and my choices and I decided to be rather blunt with what I wanted, what I needed, what was most realistic for my past and present life, and what I wanted to have and be able to do and I decided that I should probably start to focus more on my homeland and what I needed to be truly satisfied on more than a mental level. My sister’s been joking that I’ve rejected my former Caucasian ways and returned to my Asian roots and she’s right, I’ve started working on myself and planning out my return to the version of myself that made me the most happy.
You need to pull it together, be honest with yourself, and think about the sort of partner and lifestyle that you’d like one day. I talk all the time about having boundaries with my friends and with my romantic partners but I’ve really neglected the boundaries that I should have with myself and I’ve been working hard to put them back up and work on my self worth and self esteem. You need to be able to look at yourself and give yourself legitimate criticisms with legitimate solutions. It’s not productive to look at thinspo all day, criticise yourself in the mirror, starve for one week and then binge and purge the next but it is productive to be able to recognise that maybe you do need to lose weight and make a healthy and not extreme diet and exercise plan that you slowly begin to follow. Sit down, set boundaries for yourself, and start figuring out what you need to do, what niche of partner you’d like to market yourself towards, where you want to go in this world and in your own world, and what you want out of life. Things will be so much easier if you have a solid idea of what you want and what you’re working toward.
You need to put it all into action as soon as you can.
All good plans include action, you can sit online and grow for as long as you want and still end up with nothing because you were unable to actually put any of your plans into action. I’m a very action oriented woman and most of my life has involved leaping into action when necessary and letting myself be uncomfortable even when I’m terrified to put myself out there because I know that I won’t achieve anything or be worth anything if I don’t step out of my comfort zone. I was always shy growing up, I didn’t talk to many people and I was very attached to my sister, and then one day she was the one who got sick and I had to do all of the talking and work for both of us because I knew that she’d be unable to carry us forever. I was forced to become an individual and be independent without my social crutch and it’s been a major help to me for years, I’ve been able to speak to people without fear of rejection and really work on my social skills, I went to foreign schools and acclimated to all of my new environments just fine, and I’ve done a lot of hard work to make my life feel worthwhile and feel exotic.
You need to be willing to either take action and leap into life or settle with never being satisfied. If you legitimately think that you’re going to marry a millionaire and live a pampered life, that’s great, whatever, the cold fact of the matter is that the women who’ve achieved what you want haven’t done it online or sat on their asses without ever making a move and you’re not going to be the exception to that rule. You’re not special and you’re not above doing hard work, people will look down at you if you have no work ethic and if you take no initiative in your own life and you’ll waste time that you don’t have by procrastinating. You don’t need binders, you don’t need manifestation journals, and you don’t need unlimited resources, you need to get off of your ass and figure out how to make what you have work for you and market the hell out of yourself so that you actually start to know what success is. Life isn’t easy for young women, it never has been and it never will be and you don’t need to make it harder on yourself, cast all of your stay at home girlfriend day dreams away and put in the work to become someone who gets what she wants and who can be proud of her accomplishments, that’s the easiest way to win and to settle down rather quickly.
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harusclass · 2 days ago
A large part of the process to meeting goals is failing repeatedly and trying different methods until one works.
Often you see the process presented as a systematic approach that looks something akin to: Have a goal → work hard → reach goal ! Repeat
When in reality, it is much more...
Have goal → find steps to meet goal → try steps → do not meet goal → find steps → do not meet goal → lose motivation → take break → gain traction → find steps → rinse and repeat → meet goal !
This process can sometimes take months to years to be finished. There's often a lengthy amount of time where you plateau.
A wonderful example of this is myself. If you ever take the time to look through my blog you'll see varying challenges I've put myself to, goals, and plenty of failure and success.
A personal goal of mine was to be three months ahead on as many bills as I could. But I wasn't making enough money, I burnt out, and for MONTHS I thought I'd never reach the goal I had set. There was always something in the way.
Eventually I came to the conclusion that I was part of the plateau. I would lose motivation and traction and stop all together. My planning wasn't good enough, not detailed enough to keep me stable. I had the idea, I had the determination but I was MISSING details to my plans.
So I recalibrated.
It has been maybe a month and a half. I have almost every bill (except electricity & rent) paid off until JANUARY.
You reap what you sow. What you put into the universe will meet you head on eventually if you trust yourself and try.
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teighlorrenee · 4 months ago
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Green divinity
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baddie-drip · 7 months ago
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affluentmelanin · 22 days ago
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bbltheque · a month ago
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requested by @neges 💗
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urtoospoiled · 7 months ago
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Ok, I’m not playing any(more) games with myself. I’m buckling down and finalizing a body upgrade plan that I can bring into 3D fruition.
Im going to write down whatever resonates with the temple itself.
Mind. Body. Soul.
Reprogrammed thoughts
Ability to still the mind
Negative talk towards self is immediately dismissed by positive reassurance
Subliminal music
Visualizing current reality
Yoga infused with womb healing/divine feminine meditation
Cosmetic surgery upgrades
Practice intimacy magic (IYKYK)
Regular workout routine
Thorough body skin care routine (including waxes, exfoliating, healing habits, etc.)
Communicating with inner voice
Actively attracting soon reality of desired body by writing, visualizing & researching.
Breast massages with proper herbs and oils
Commit to self education of spiritual research, dating back to African royalty
Live life moving based on faith & trust
Daily gratitude
Music more (lyrical/favorite artists/instrumental)
Healing inner child
Deep shadow work
Reading, rereading and annotating
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