my intentional morning routine:
-I wake up around 6 AM, instead of immediately getting on my phone like I used to. I lay in bed for a couple of minutes, allowing my body to realize the transition it is making.
-After that, I immediately drink a full bottle of water. This is pretty easy for me because when I wake up, I’m usually dehydrated even if I don’t realize it yet my body does. I’m able to do this quickly and easily by grabbing a water bottle the night before. By the time I wake up it’s usually warm, warm/hot liquids are actually very beneficial to your digestive system. This helps my digestive system get a head start on the day.
-I move onto making my bed. A step I never used to incorporate because I always felt it was unnecessary but once my bed is made I rarely want to ruin the work I’ve created which urges me to not get back in it.
-Tea. I always drink some type of tea in the morning, my go-tos being ginger or green. This is another thing that I do for my digestive system as well as overall calmness. Instead of doing another task while having my tea, I like to enjoy it and simply take gratitude in the drink.
-I then go into breath work, I do a Nadi Shodhana technique of alternate nostril breathing, as someone with severe anxiety breathing has become a big part of my journey in managing it. Even if I’m not feeling anxious I love to get a head start on it (something I learned from my therapist). I tend to do this practice for a few minutes and find my body in a completely calm state afterward.
*Sit in a comfortable position for me this is usually with my legs crossed.
*Place your ring finger on your left nostril and your thumb on the right.
*Cover your right nostril and breathe in through your left, cover your left nostril and exhale through your right nostril and repeat.
*When you are finally done with this practice exhale fully out of your left nostril.
-The next thing I like to do is engage in prayer and gratitude. I have created a specific prayer that I repeat every morning, although it changes when needed. I simply express gratitude by writing out everything that I am thankful for in that moment in my journal.
-I then move onto hygiene and breakfast which I’ll usually have a smoothie or oatmeal if I’m not fasting.
And that’s my intentional morning routine!
Private until it’s permanent.
Love. Career. Finances. All.
Private until it’s permanent.
I think one thing a lot of those “women, examine whether you really do [thing conventionally associated with femininity] For Yourself” posts would benefit from is the addition of:
“and if the answer is ‘yes,’ that’s okay”
examining why you do something voluntary re: your presentation, especially something as bogged down in societal expectations for women as wearing makeup, shaving body hair, etc., is important and can be very healing. I stopped wearing makeup after college because I have no real interest in it. I stopped shaving my legs, for the most part, because I realized that I actually hate doing it and don’t care if they’re hairy
...and I also realized I vastly prefer skirts to pants, I like my hair as long as it’ll grow, and I would dress like a Victorian vampire countess every day if I could
I reject some aspects of societally-approved femininity. I embrace others. I did the soul-searching and came out the other side with something that made me feel happiest and most comfortable in my skin- which should be the end goal for everyone, not coming up with the Correct Presentation by some online gatekeeper’s metric
sometimes you ARE Doing Femininity for yourself. and that’s okay
Talk like your higher self. Walk like your higher self. Remember she is you and you are her. She has been calling you, will you answer the call.
Lets Talk: Elegance
In todays society, true elegance is rare.
Women are now shying away from words like this because for some reason they believe it doesn't empower us. However, elegance is one of the most important attributes you must have if you truly want to succeed. NO DEBATES.
What is Elegance?
If anything, elegance is princess energy. Imagine yourself to be the daughter of a king. A royal. You walk with poise and grace. You are a prized possession. You are not stressed over men because you know the right prince will find you. . You befriend other princesses. You are polite and respectful to everyone regardless of status. You don't tolerate bad behavior from others. You are soft, gentle, optimistic, kind.
Why Should One Be Elegant?
In my opinion, money can only get you so far in life. The way people receive your energy is too important. Money cant conceal bad behavior. If you want to have a successful relationship with other people you need to master grace and elegance.