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roxsie · 1 year

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The autistic urge to not say goodbye when you leave work, to avoid some awkward socialization.

Only to be called out by your boss..

Fun fact this happened to me today and it's my birthday. Happy anxious birthday to me

#women with autism #actually autistic #autism #birthday #socialization with autism #autistic things #autistic girl #autistic problems #being autistic #social anxiety #autistic anxiety #anxious birthday #autistic life #autistic at work #autistic experiences

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neurotypicalabusesurvivor · 4 months

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This is a friendly reminder that none disabled people often do benefit from the same accommodations disabled people benefit from.

#mobility issues #leftism #mental illness #autism #medical model #mobility aid #social model of disability

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foldingfittedsheets · 3 months

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I think something a lot of other people can relate to is the way that you get so conditioned to discomfort that you stop registering it.

I remember sitting at the table with my family, eating dinner as a child. I’d try to eat, because of course I was hungry. But sometimes the flavor or texture was so repugnant that it moved into a category of Not Food.

“Two more bites before you can leave the table.”

“I can’t,” I’d say, trying to explain the impossibility.

But because I was a child they heard, “I won’t,” and made me sit at the table. I’d sit in dull agonized silence, bored and hungry for hours until bedtime when they’d give up. I’d hate myself for not eating and my parents for forcing me to sit there. The few forcefeeding moments ended in vomit.

They’d say, “If you don’t eat this you can’t eat a snack later,” and I moved past trying to communicate my discomfort into accepting that I’d just be hungry.

That state of affairs didn’t last, because my parents realized nothing could force me to eat so they catered to my palate, worrying they’d starve me. But the message stuck. If you can’t do anything about a situation, just accept the suffering.

A few years later my mother called me off the playground to ask, “Are you limping?”

I shrugged. My feet had hurt for a long time, but that was just the way things were now. My mom pulled my socks and shoes off and gasped. The soles of my feet were covered in huge painful planters warts.

“Why didn’t you say anything?!” She demanded but I could only shrug at her. I’d learned a long time ago that saying things about my discomfort didn’t matter, so now I had no words. Sometimes things hurt and sometimes they don’t. I simply accepted and did my best.

Now as an adult trying to learn to improve my own conditions can be hard. If I make food that I can’t eat I’ll force myself to sit at the counter still, full of guilt and self loathing, trying to will myself to eat it.

At first I needed my betrothed to gently take it away to present me with something I could eat. Now on my own I can usually admit that it’s not happening before too long and get something else, but I still feel guilty.

Laying in bed at night waiting for my betrothed to finish getting ready I let out a huge sigh of relief when they turned the lights off.

“Why didn’t you turn them off if they bothered you?” they asked the first time it happened.

“I didn’t even know it was bothering me until it was gone.”

Assessing my physical state now to see if I can improve it is something I’m still relearning but I’m relieved to finally have the space and support to do it.

#ramblies #autism #as an afab kid I didn’t get diagnosed but given my poor social skills and general vibes it’s astonishing I wasn’t #I didn’t learn to implement social masking until way later #also those warts too months to get rid of cause they were too big to burn off #they had to be scraped down slowly after baths

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millionmovieproject · 8 months

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It's a holiday. For children. Give them the candy, or fuck off.

#halloween #trick or treat #autism #developmental delay #sensory disorders #disability #disability awareness #nonverbal #fuck capitalism #capitalism kills #we live in hell #socialism now #abolish capitalism #peoples union

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risesthenight · 7 months

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neurotypicals will SWEAR they support you but the second you unmask they stare at you weirdly and question why you’re acting differently

thanks for supporting me! i feel so seen right now!! let me just put this back on…

#neurodivergent #autism #autistic experiences #autistic things #being autistic #adhd problems #neurodiverse stuff #neurodiversity #masking #social issues

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astraltrickster · 7 months

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ngl I'm not a fan of how the very necessary discussion of how autistic girls (and many poc for that matter, not that we usually remember this) often end up masking hard due to the pressure to "be ladylike" or "not be too angry" and therefore end up being seen as "very polite" and "mature for your age" and so on and so forth is morphing into being less about how social pressures may impact how autism presents and more about saying "so there's Girl Autism and there's Boy Autism and Girl Autism makes you nice and polite and pleasant but Boy Autism makes you gross and annoying and rude and offputting and no it's not ableist at all to say that being overly excitable or trying to get a turn to talk when you don't know when your turn is or struggling with arbitrary rules is rude and annoying because Girl Autism exists uwu"

#disability #actually autistic #serious tag #internet culture #especially because these are FAR from being hard and fast rules #i had Boy Autism despite being raised fully expected to be a girl #and no i do not find it remotely affirming to be called all the horrible things they said i was But In An Affirming Way This Time #knowing more of the different ways that different combinations of autistic traits and social pressures can present #is good for preventing people from slipping through the cracks #we don't need to be breaking open NEW cracks by assigning certain presentations to certain genders

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bisexualseraphim · 6 months

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How people think I am when I say I’m autistic: Hello foolish neurotypical! Would you like to— GET OUT OF MY CHAIR THAT’S MY CHAIR! Would you like to watch me instantly solve some calculus equations? :)

What I’m actually like: Hi! (Oh God why did I say that? Idiot. They probably think I’m so annoying now. Fuck, I never think before I speak. This is why I’ll never have any friends. I’m doomed.)

#autism #autistic #actually autistic #disability #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #neurodiverse #neurodivergence #social anxiety

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vroomvroomwee · 8 months

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Omg omg omg. It all makes so much more sense when you realise it's not social anxiety but a fear of being perceived.

Why do you feel more comfortable with a long coat and a mask as opposed to summer clothes?

Why do you DESPISE taking pictures? Especially if it's someone else and not you taking them.

Why do you feel like you have to stop doing whatever it was you were doing when someone passes by?

Why don't you want to tell anyone how leisurely you go about your day, taking a nap, going for a snack, sitting on your phone playing games etc. because you know they will comment on it and even though it's not negative or mockery it's still feels like you've been perceived?

Why can't you make eye contact? Why can you do it only if the other person is looking away but the second when they look at you you stop listening and when you're the one speaking you can't bear to look at them because you know their eyes are on you and they are perceiving you?

Why don't you want to dress excessively or wear nicer clothes? Because you will stand out

People mistake you for shy because you don't speak often, but it's really the fear of drawing attention to yourself more than it is the things you actually say, isn't it?

Why do you hate overpopulated areas even when no one is speaking? BUT you still feel more comfortable when more than one person is in the room (but not too many!) so that the burden of being perceived is directed on someone else and you can safely lay back just observing the scene.

It's all a defence mechanism

#autism #audhd #actually autistic #autistic things #actually audhd #adhd #actually adhd #adhd problems #neurodivergence #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #social anxiety #anxitey #fear of being perceived

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occaisonalshitposts · 9 months

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#autistic things #autistic life #autism #actually autistic #neurodivergent #neurospicy #funny memes #memes #social anxiety #adhd brain #adhd #adhd problems #funny

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roxsie · 1 year

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Honest question, did anyone with autism actually feel the butterflies when having a crush?

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steakout-05 · 5 months

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in love with how Data runs across the screen back to his station like a fucking cryptid in episode 24

#star trek #star trek tng #data star trek #data soong #william riker #he has been spotted #i get that he needed to get to his station quickly but why did he feel the need to sprint there like his life depended on it #he's so silly i love him #this is also the same episode where he laughs at geordi's anecdote with absolutely no expression too he's got so many sillyboy moments here #he's so weird and that is why he's my favourite #he's an autism android he's trying his best to understand human social cues

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my-autism-adhd-blog · 18 days

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Autistic Callum

#autism #actually autistic #autism awareness month #autism acceptence month #we need more rest than NTs #personally I find social interaction/parties and events are tiresome #I’m sure some of you can relate #neurodivergence #neurodiversity #actually neurodivergent #feel free to share/reblog #Autistic Callum (Facebook)

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manufacturedrainbows · 2 months

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My fellow fanfic authors, I'm begging on my hands and knees – and Ima hold your hand as I say this – you gotta respond to the readers that leave comments on your work.

I know social anxiety is the worst (trust, my autistic ass understands) but I promise you, nothing deters a reader from commenting more than seeing a comment section with no replies as you continue to post fanfics. Even if it's as simple as "thanks for reading!" or just some cute emojis, it'll show that you're actually engaging with your audience!

We work so hard on our writing, and those of us that post them online want it to be seen, right? Indulging in our little fandoms is how we build connections with people that feel the same way.

It might be hard or even scary, but I find the more you socialize with others (especially in a more controlled environment like a comment section), the easier it gets! 💕

#so go out there and respond to them comments!! you got this!! 🫶💖✨️#fanfic #fanfiction #ao3 #writing #writing community #fandom #comments #fanfic readers #fanfic authors #social anxiety #autism #neurodivergent #rambles #my writing

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ssavaart · 3 months

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Ever since my videos on Youtube and TikTok started getting popular, people would recognize me out in the wild and then realize that I am SO AWKWARD in person.

I LOVE meeting people... but I never know what to say and I always feel like I've disappointed them afterwards.

So, a few months ago... I printed up cards that I could give to people I meet that has an apology inside.