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johnnyiscaged · 20 days

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something that has helped me disconnect from codependancy is realizing that married couples arent always together. they live together and spent time together but a lot of the time they just arent together but they still love eachother. they dont need to sleep in the same bed they dont need to constantly show eachother affection they can just coexist and still love eachother unconditionally. love isnt sacrificing every moment for someone, its having your life made better by their existence while you live

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lousydrawingsforgoodpeople · 2 years

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#they’re not your soul mate #hard truth #doodles #bad art #lousy drawings #doodle #positivity #self love #healing #codependent no more

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candy-fae · 2 months

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To either person in a codependent relationship- do it for yourself. You don’t need to please anybody, and if someone is guilting you into being their friend, you’re not their friend. They don’t care about you. They care about what you can do for them. And you’re not anything beyond that.

But you are, and you need to recognize why these relationships happen. And to people pleaser everywhere I LOVE YOU!!! but get some help! Let yourself take up space. Don’t be a pushover! TAKE UP SPACE! BE LOUD AND CAREFREE AND DONT LET PEOPLE SUCK UP ALL YOUR ENERGY!!

#codependency #recovering codependent #codependent no more #comic #vent #vent comic #vent art #doodles #my art #art #artists on tumblr #illustration

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vizthedatum · 6 months

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I will not excuse abuse or disregard for my feelings/boundaries.

I will not enable my insecure attachment to a person who consistently exhibits this behavior.

I understand that maintaining insecure attachments is not the same as maintaining a relationship.

I will not settle for the veil of safety.

I want real safety.

I want real relationships.

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irene2025 · 11 months

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Intimacy is not sex, although sex can be intimate. Intimacy means mutually honest, warm, caring, safe relationships-where the other person can be who he or she is and we can be who we are-and both people are valued. Melody Beattie The Language of Letting Go

#motivation #self care #quotes #self improvement #health #swimmimg #healthy eating #lifestyle #positivity #seperation #divorce #codependent no more #melody beattie

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veryslowreader · 8 months

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Codependent No More by Melody Beattie

Dead to Me: "I've Gotta Get Away"

#codependent no more #melody beattie #dead to me #linda cardellini #christina applegate

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ruth-t · 1 month

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Don’t wait for someone to put your shoes on for you, learn to tie your own shoe laces.

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zelphafrost · 1 year

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https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-set-boundaries-in-awkward-situations-with-strangers/

“Before we dive in, let’s get clear on five key principles for boundary-setting:

When we refuse to set a boundary, we prioritize other people’s comfort over our own needs. Setting boundaries is a courageous act of putting ourselves first. It’s a great way to break the people-pleasing habit and practice the art of self-care and verbal self-defense.

Difficult honesty is not unkindness. It’s not mean to stand up for yourself. It’s actually the most truthful and authentic way to interact with others.

You can manage your boundaries or manage other people’s feelings, but you can’t do both. The bottom line is, your boundaries might make people feel frustrated or resentful. That burden is not yours to bear. As the saying goes, “The only people who get upset about you setting boundaries are the ones who benefited from you having none.”

It’s not your job to protect people from feeling uncomfortable. Remember: the folks imposing on your space aren’t giving your comfort a second thought—so don’t twist yourself into knots trying to protect their feelings. As Registered Clinical Counselor Jordan Pickell says, “It makes sense for people to feel bad and weird when they have crossed a line.”

Safety first. If you ever feel unsafe or threatened, do whatever you need to do to get to safety. Don’t be a boundary-setting hero.

For consistency, the examples below use “Bob” as the generic name of our boundary-violator. However, folks of all genders, ages, races, etc., violate boundaries.

Certain suggested phrases are direct and firm. Others are lighter and playful. Experiment with the language to find the tone that works best for you.”

#healthy boundaries #setting boundaries #mental health #safety #tiny buddha #people pleaser #Codependent No More #codependant #you are not responsible for other people's feelings #protect your peace

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anjuli-symone · 1 year

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One of the hardest things you’ll ever do after being in a codependent or abusive relationship is choose YOU.

In these relationships you are constantly forced to put someone else’s needs or wants above your own and watch your own desires fade into “I don’t even know what I want”.

I encourage you to lean into that.

Take time to explore and meet yourself, whoever that may be.

Free yourself from the criticisms that you’re probably so used to hearing and let yourself just flow and play.

Whatever you do— you must choose you. Always. Every day. And never forget that.

#codependent #codependent relationships #codependency #codependent no more #self love #self improvement #self healing #self worth

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kingoftheu · 7 months

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Someone should check up on the actual meaning of the word codependent.

Maybe I'm wrong, but just feels like a word everyone is misusing badly to describe any relationship in media.

#codependency #codependent #fandom critical #fandom #shipping #pro shipping #percabeth #simon x betty #sashannarcy #codependent no more #what does it mean

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melblogsgfreethruptsd · 4 months

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#emotional abuse #aftermath #codependent no more #codependency #dysfunctional family #affirmations #respect #you deserve better #you deserve to be happy

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lousydrawingsforgoodpeople · 2 years

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#codependent no more #codependency #doodles #bad art #lousy drawings #doodle #positivity #self love #healing #recovery #standards #expectations

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notyourplayertwo · 11 months

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Look at this infographic on identifying and ending codependency I just whipped up. I’m quite proud of it! Since tumblr alt text works much different than what I’m used to, I’ll add alt text here.

How to END CODEPENDENCY

Ending a codependent relationship requires first identifying it:

GIVERS:

• feel lost or lonely when they're by themselves

• are afraid of being rejected or abandoned

• define their worth through another's eyes

• are unable to find their own worth or identity

• boost low self-esteem by comparing themselves to a dysfunctional partner

TAKERS:

• their poor functioning brings them much needed love, care, and concern

• an enabler's consistent support reduces the pressure to mature or advance their life skills or confidence

• they become highly dependent on the enabler to satisfy needs normally met by multiple close relationships

SIGNS YOU'RE IN A CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP

• Inability to find satisfaction in your life outside of a specific person

• Staying with a partner in spite of recognizing their unhealthy behaviors

• Giving support to your partner at the cost of your own mental, emotional, and physical health

HOW TO END A CODEPENDENT RELATIONSHIP

• take ownership and set boundaries

• Let go and detach from the problems of addiction

• Change your focus onto yourself

• Reach out for help and support

PRACTICE SELF CARE

Tune in to your body and mind so it can tell you what it needs, then do exactly that!

Self care charges your batteries; it isn't indulgent. It may be uncomfortable to focus on yourself at first. That’s okay! Practice makes perfect!

#codependency #codependant #codependent relationships #codependent no more #betrayal #life after infidelity #mental heath support #self love

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vizthedatum · 2 months

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Breaking out of my comfort zone as a codependent is really hard because, if I’m being honest, there was a comfort of being in relationships with those who took advantage.

The comfort came from self-abandoning my own sense of being so much that I yearned so much for love and validation from others. So when a particularly controlling parent, friend, teacher, or lover would give that to me (in the form of intense love-bombing), I felt SO GOOD - I was elated because “yes, I am loved and seen, finally.”

And then I worked hard to get that hit of love again, even when things I didn’t like happened (like abuse, overstepping my boundaries, things I simply didn’t like, control, etc.).

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I think I’m still yearning for someone to choose me when I’m only beginning to choose myself - some days it’s so hard to choose myself.

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It’s really foreign to accept that I’ll never be the center of someone’s world so much that they seek to control me - I’ve been looking for love in all the wrong places, it seems (I think I couldn’t help myself).

A calm relationship makes me look inwards and highlights all the ways I don’t love myself yet - because there’s nothing to drown out my self-talk or even the voids I created for myself (the voids I created to survive so long ago).

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I talk a lot on this blog about my desires to be loved and the things I will accept as love, but I also am figuring out how to fill myself up with genuine, unfiltered, self-love and self-acceptance.

When you’ve wanted to please other people for so long, it can be hard to even realize how much you don’t even know yourself to even know you like yourself - there are so many steps along the way: Who am I? What do I like? Omg this is at odds with what I thought was acceptable to like! Why am I like this? People don’t like me when I’m like this. But maybe people don’t have to like me? I do like this. I am gonna do it again. I like myself a little more. What else can I figure out about myself?

#codependency #recovering codependent #codependent no more #healing #neurodivergence #trauma #love #queer #self love #prose #PTSD #people pleaser #recovering people pleaser #healing journey #audhd #autistic #adhd #relationships

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irene2025 · 8 months

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“Some of my feelings have been stored so long they have freezer burn.” Beyond Codependency

This has been another healing week for me. Much of my pain, grief and emotions are coming out layer by layer.

This week I specifically felt such shame in how much time I’ve spent obsessively focusing on the negative. It’s time I can’t get back and half the stuff I thought was true & half was a figment of my overthinking. In neither case did I have control of actions only responsibility was for mine.

As I rebuild my life I just take things day by day. I allow whatever comes of a day to stand on its own.

Yes, I have plans for the future, hopes, dreams and desires. I know now one by one those things will come to fruition in my life when the time is ripe. I am grateful for the opportunities ahead of me.

#motivation #quotes #self care #self improvement #health #swimmimg #healthy eating #lifestyle #positivity #divorce #life after divorce #rebuilding #melody beattie #codependent no more

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luvhigher · 2 months

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whoever said (co)dependency is an addiction, they are so right. relationships can be your drug of choice which is why so many people remain in unhealthy connections (the intense high and lows really do something to your brain). relationships with high levels of dependency almost always wear down with time; no matter how intuitive you are, you can never 100% anticipate the needs of other people. consistently engaging in conflict over who gives and takes also wears down a relationship. it is so difficult to kick this pattern. so so difficult. feeling like i will actually never be free. never. ever.

#codependency #codependent #codependent no more

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