felt like I was forgetting something about tomorrow but then I remembered oh yeah kind of a big day how could I forget

Happy Dracula eve!!!

Y'know, I didn't used to be like this, but ever since finding the ace and aro communies, my desire for cake and garlic bread has increased rapidly.

Must be those darn liberals.

I wish there was a dating app/site that focused on people on the aroace spectrum.

Like, not a full-on dating app.

Just somewhere where it'd be normal for me to come on and say "Hey, I'm demi-aroace, so I don't like you like that right away, but I'd love to meet new friends, and have a chance to develop deeper feelings while the other side is aware that it's a possibility and something I'm looking for!"

Somewhere for other aspec people to come to look for platonic/queer-platonic life partners.

Somewhere where it wouldn't be weird to look for purely platonic relationships with sex and relationships that are romantic but without the sexual aspect.

Somewhere where being open about being queer (with a focus on the aroace spectrum), being disabled, or any other thing that isn't "normal" and accepted in the typical dating pool, y'know?

Maybe we should all go back to making and being active in forums so it wouldn't be tied to someone having to work for hours to create a functional and marketable app :/

Yes, im aroace. Yes, its contagious. Yes, you better stay the fuck away from me if you think that being aroace is so terrible.

Figuring out I'm aroace has been simultaneously the most freeing and the most isolating experience I've had in quite a while

You know something I really don't like

Whenever I get random notifications from Tumblr from random blogs I don't really pay all that much attention to, but the notification says something like

"a new post from your crush ______, we know you like them"

Like wtf, no, quit. Stop making me uncomfortable, Tumblr notifications. >:(

💜 🖤 🤍

Yesterday was international asexuality day !!! Today it's another female V friday!!!

Today- I'm posting some cropped solo shots from the collection of photos I took!!

ace face paint and ace flag are by @pinkydude !!

are you telling me it's been confirmed this whole time??

i'm gonna cry

lmao someone flirted w/ me today (an aroace story time 🔵💙⚪️🟡🟠)

during lunch the last couple days a boy (lets just call him Jay) & his friend group kept just randomly sitting at mine & my groups table (weird cause normally "the boys" dont usually bother us, the guys sit on 1 end of the really long tabel and like 90+% of the other 2/3 of the tabel is gay, I originally didn't think too much of it cause I'm on the very end of the gay sector, it was weird tho cause they asked if they could sit there) anyway Jay & his group sit next to us, Jay specifically next to me each time they sit down w/ us, then get up and leave, then come back. Yesterday Jay didn't bother me much aside from asking what I was doing on my phone but today Jay kept poking me while im listening to music, which honestly didn't bug me much I was just kinda sitting there unamused. The final time Jay pokes me he asks... "are you from Tennessee?" *me not only misshearing it to be "are you with x boy in our grade" but also not getting it after i realize what he said* "... nno-?" "Cause your the only ten I see" then my imidiate responce was "I'm good thanks" 😂

I lost my shit for a good 15 minutes after lunch just cause my reflex responce lmao. It just feels weird tho lmao- like- just that someone would flirt w/ me i guess?? Ik that sounds self depricating in most contexts but for me its coming from genuine confusion?? Like why?? I think my logic is just "i get i look cute, just don't tell me that (unless like were really close friends)" & its weird too cause i cant even tell if they were being genuine lmao the, group was chuckling the whole time but i cant tell what tf was going on?? (I can't even understand whats going on at my table 90% of the time w/ the ppl ik let alone strangers)

Whats even better? I remember Jay from elementary school. we were never friends, barly talked ever, but I remember him cause my moms was friends with his uncle in highschool & they ran into eachother at the store ONCE ever.

All this leads me to thinking: what if someone actually asks me out? Cause ik for like 99% of ppl they'll mean it in a romantic way??

me, pointing to a character who wears tight and/or revealing clothing and swaggers around seductively: aroace

me, pointing to a character that has sex regularly: aroace

me, pointing to a character whose whole arc is centred on finding romantic love: aroace

me, pointing to a character that other characters, creators, and fandom find incredibly attractive: aroace

me, pointing to a character whose famous trait is sex appeal: aroace

me, pointing to characters who have ambiguous tension that people get annoyed isn't codified to be romantic: aroace qpp

me, pointing to narratives that try to explore the complexities and difficulties of navigating attraction and consent from a queer theoretical perspective: have you considered... some aroace

As an aroace person…

… I truly love the Ace of Spades card. I know some people doesn't like the symbology of "each label has a different suit" because of the uneven distribution of labels, but I love the Ace of Spades for aroace.

Please, tell me I'm not alone 🥺

Allo people are scary

Signs from when I was younger that maybe kinda sorta should've clued me in on that I'm maybe not as allo as many have anticipated (mayhaps):

• Despite my mother suggesting otherwise, I was able to 'choose' my crushes

• Despite *that,* any option in kiss, marry, kill (or any other variation of it) was just... Wrong

• Any talk of romance and sex outside of a fictional context, and especially if it involved me, felt like a survival scenario

• The sweet childhood memories of me trying to force myself to be attracted to fictional characters (and it 'working')

• The shock and horror I felt when a friend of mine called Scar from The Lion King hot (like, he's not even anthro?)

• The concept of marriage sounding like a survival scenario past the wedding party

•A survival scenario that I, in fact, would consider death over then to even bother actually participating in. Not outright choose it, but I wouldn't rule it out

• Legit cannot (and still can't) fathom what my ideal partner would be (I just listed traits I would want in a buddy ol' pal)

• The reasoning for identifying as pan ("all genders make me feel the same way, so that means I'm attracted to all genders")

• Before that I waited for my first crush to reveal my orientation like sexualities are some box opening

• I AM A CHILD OF GOD, AND THUS CANNOT COMMIT TO DISTRACTIONS FROM OUR LORD'S MESSAGE (exceptions may apply)/hj

Amatonormativity is OUT queerplatonic relationships are IN

I broke up with the person I've been dating for over two years today and I am sad because I could potentially lose them from my life forever, but I feel so much better addressing how I feel and going through with it. I feel like a huge weight just lifted off my shoulders and I'm just sorry I didn't realise I was aromantic and uncomfortable for that reason sooner.