Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

you get it?

Aro/ace culture is not noticing the blatantly obvious signs that you are aro/ace all your life and later realising half the shit you thought was your personality is said blatantly obvious signs.

the way I explain that aros/aces aren't straight.

You can only be straight/hetero if you experience attraction (sexual/romantic) to the opposite gender. If you experience attraction to anyone else that does not fit that description, you are lgbt. this means aros/aces and all on those spectrums are not straight. because they don't feel attraction to the opposite gender.

of course, this doesn't mean you can't be hetero/ace or aro/hetero. you can still be one aspec identity and be hetero, it doesn't make you any less lgbtq!

(sorry if I explained weirdly)

An asexual conversation ✨be like✨

movie night

cuddle

pillow fight & jumping around on the bed

read to each other

ace culture is making the most heinous downbad sex jokes and not feeling shame because you clearly don't mean it

okay but how do i get me the kind of ace-coded intimacy that aziraphale and crowley have? the kind of queer relationship where you can feel close and share a bond through holding hands, sharing fine meals, and enjoying walks in the sunshine together? where you can spend hours in their presence doing nothing together, but still feel loved?

Gotta incorporate that into my belief system.

Reblog if purple is ace culture

guy in my english class looked at my ace ring and said “nice ring” looking at me w a suspicious look and i said “…yeah” and he just kept staring and went “does it mean something” and i just started to laugh nervously and mumbled “no…?” and he just went “okay…” but kept looking and when other people were talking louder i whispered “…maybe” and we both started laughing and i think he knows

gonna start saying "kinda hot" at completely random things like the allos do

ace culture is listening to a fun popular song and not relating to a single lyric

so I came out to two people yesterday: one told me asexuality doesn't exist and I'm just afraid of commitment, the other said "omg, haven't met anyone who's asexual, can you tell me more about your experience?"

guess who's gonna remain my friend

Ace culture is not really understanding why being called a virgin is an insult

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