qp crush culture is joking about being their spouse and then wanting to be in a qpr with them but being worried they won't realize you're /srs

-

I'm not pro in montages, but I tried to finish faster. I love this song and he suit for them

Queerbaiting sucks... but

I find it so affirming as a person who struggles with their romantic orientatation. I just live for that state of not quite friends/not quite lovers.

Like yes, they are partners, yes, they live and die for eachother, yes, every other relationship they have loses all meaning compared to them. But also no, they haven't kissed, and they don't want to kiss, and yet, somehow, every single word, every single glance, every single touch carries so much meaning and conveys so much love because this amount of platonic love is usually unheard of and they don't want the other to misunderstand. And I just- aaah, it gives me so much hope and reminds me that romantic love isn’t the only type of love worth experiencing and showing on screen/paper.

I do wish it was done intentionally and wasn’t just a product of homophobia and capitalism. Like I really, really hate the reason I get this representation. Like, it also leaves a somewhat sour taste in my mouth, because I can see that if the world was more accepting, it would probably be a romantic relationship.

(I sometimes see people calling queercoding queerbaiting, and just to make it clear, that isn't what i'm talking about)

having a queer platonic crush on someone is so strange. like, no, i can't stomach the thought of anyone else kissing you, but i dont want to kiss you. i want to tuck your hair behind your ear while you focus on something else. i want to hold your hand. you're my best friend. i love you, as a friend, but also so much more. i dont want to marry you. i want to spend the rest of my life with you. i love you. i know you on such a deep level. i feel like you really know me. you say you're afraid of love, and i agree, but my heart breaks because i'm not afraid of our love. i love you, do you love me? just as friends, or as something more? i love you as a Friend. i think about the plans we made in year 7 all the time. i'm sorry i'm not the right kind of love. i love you, but i dont Love you. is that enough?

do any of my friends know the love I carry in every word i say to them. When I add too many words, drag on a joke that’s over, when I message them despite the fact the conversation barely ended five minutes ago? every word i speak is an intimacy that’s laced with outright adoration for them as people and all the little details that make them who they are. Do you know I love you? Do y’all know how much of you I try to commit to memory? How much I try to make you smile? do y’all know the love I feel for you?

How does one find a QPP? Asking for a sad aroace friend who just wants someone to go on adventures with, and talk to after a long day of work, and cuddle on the couch with, and tell stories to, and infodump with, but who very much does not want a romantic or sexual relationship. (The friend is me).

feeling real strong queerplatonic feelings in the studio tonight

Everyone: You two are so close, are you a couple?

Sirius: Alas, no.

James: We are, tragically, not attracted to each other.

I wish there was a dating app/site that focused on people on the aroace spectrum.

Like, not a full-on dating app.

Just somewhere where it'd be normal for me to come on and say "Hey, I'm demi-aroace, so I don't like you like that right away, but I'd love to meet new friends, and have a chance to develop deeper feelings while the other side is aware that it's a possibility and something I'm looking for!"

Somewhere for other aspec people to come to look for platonic/queer-platonic life partners.

Somewhere where it wouldn't be weird to look for purely platonic relationships with sex and relationships that are romantic but without the sexual aspect.

Somewhere where being open about being queer (with a focus on the aroace spectrum), being disabled, or any other thing that isn't "normal" and accepted in the typical dating pool, y'know?

Maybe we should all go back to making and being active in forums so it wouldn't be tied to someone having to work for hours to create a functional and marketable app :/

I want a QPR (queer platonic relationship) so bad.

I wanna love someone beyond romance. I want someone to stay by my side forever. I want someone to be my lover but mainly my best friend. I want us to be best friends in love. Gimme some QPR please 😭

qpr culture is this:

(not quite sure if I should tag them on this or not seeing I got the photo off Pinterest)

I think a good way to describe a qpr is by using my Guinea pigs as an example.

My Guinea pigs very close with each other and do not like being apart. They are bonded to each other and hopefully they will be together for the rest of their lives but that doesn’t mean what they have is romantic. They are simply lifelong companions and that’s all.

Kill them with hammers pls!!! :D

Amatonormativity is OUT queerplatonic relationships are IN

oh to have someone's head in my lap while I read a book out loud to them