YOU BECOME WHAT YOU THINK

You know, you sometimes think yourself into unhappiness and depression. But did you know, you could also think yourself into happiness? By positive thinking, you will be well, you will prosper, and your dua's will be answered. Become the master of your thoughts. Stop thinking about how tough life is, stop thinking about the past, think about improving the present, and work towards your future and your akhirah. Don't think about what you don't have, think of all the blessings Allah has blessed you with, and express gratitude daily. You become what you think.

It's so hard going through what you had to go through I know, I feel you in every single way. But, there is no point in overthinking it and making it you number one priority to talk about with your friends, with your family or even to yourself. Instead of keeping getting flashbacks of what have you been suffering from, act like this event that bothered your inner peace did not exist. Act like a patient that is diagnosed with Alzheimer ! Yes thats the only wayto keep you out of those malicious thoughts. And just keep going ahead with your dreams and plans and don't let a toxic event bother you whole future. 

يأسرني اللطف بكل أشكاله، أحب ُ الكلمات اللطيفة والأشخاص اللطيفة والتصرفات اللطيفة..أجد أن أنجح العلاقات تواجدت عندما أُحيطت باللين وأسُست على اللطيفة.. فلا تبخلوا به على أنفسكم وذويكم وأحبابكم.

friend: don't you ever worry about men thinking you're high maintenance?

me: *in a silk bathrobe, on my 5th step of my PM skincare routine, trying to choose between 8 colors to paint my nails according to what best suits my mood and skintone, a cup of dandelion tea cools on the counter top, mixed with lemon, chia seeds, and raw honey* nah

˗ˏˋ Four rules for a disciplined life ´ˎ˗

• No zero days. 'What's a zero day? A zero day is when you don't do a single fucking thing towards whatever dream or goal or want or whatever that you got going on. No more zeros. I'm not saying you gotta bust an essay out everyday, that's not the point. The point I'm trying to make is that you have to make yourself, promise yourself, that the new SYSTEM you live in is a NON-ZERO system. Didn't do anything all fucking day and it's 11:58 PM? Write one sentence. One pushup. Read one page of that chapter. One. Because one is non zero.'

• Be grateful to the three yous. 'There's the past you, the present you, and the future you. If you wanna love someone and have someone love you back, you gotta learn to love yourself, and the 3 you's are the key. Be GRATEFUL to the past you for the positive things you've done. And do favours for the future you like you would for your best bro.'

• Forgive yourself. 'Maybe you got all the know-how, money, ability, strength and talent to do whatever is you wanna do. But lets say you still didn't do it. Now you're giving yourself shit for not doing what you need to, to be who you want to. Heads up champion, being disappointed in yourself causes you to be less productive. Tried your best to have a nonzero day yesterday and it failed? So what. I forgive you, previous self.

I forgive you. But today? Today is a nonzero masterpiece to the best of my ability for future self. This one's for you, future homes. Forgiveness man, use it. I forgive you. Say it out loud.'

• Exercise and books. 'Pretty standard advice but when you exercise daily you actually get smarter. When you exercise you get high from endorphins (thanks body). When you exercise you clear your mind. When you exercise you are doing your future self a huge favour. Exercise is a leg on a three legged stool. Feel me? As for books, almost every fucking thing we've all ever thought of, or felt, or gone through, or wanted, or wanted to know how to do, or whatever, has been figured out by someone else. Get some books.'

My Favorite Audrey Hepburn Quotes

I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe that happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles.

They say love is the best investment; the more you give,the more you get in return.

The most important thing is to enjoy your life, to be happy;it's all that matters.

Anyone who does not believe in miracles is not a realist.

For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others; for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness; and for poise, walk with the knowledge that you are never alone.

To plant a garden is to believe in tomorrow.

Just remember, That if they ever come back to you, doesn't mean that they care about you. It means that nobody cared about them as much as you did.

I'm not sure if everyone left me or I left everyone, but either way I needed it. Because, it showed me how much I needed to grow as an individual. I relied too heavily on others for happiness.

Affirmation Of The Day

‧⨯ .⁺₊ ⊹ ‧⨯ .⁺ I am forgiving ‧⨯ .⁺₊ ⊹ ‧⨯ .⁺

do not take things personal, as I understand that hateful behavior stems from projection or inner wounds within others. Self forgiveness is a gift of freedom to myself. Forgiving myself makes it easier to forgive others. I am worthy of healing. I did the best that I could with what I knew at the time.

Forgiveness is not a trait of weakness. It is a conscious choice to rise above all misery and experience freedom of the mind.

Winter literally ate and left no crumbs!!!!

Guidance on how to gain more confidence

I have been surrounded by girls who are always complaining about not being confident. To be honest, those girls don't do the most basic simple ways of life. They don't benefit themselves with education such as, reading a book. They don't have no skills. they never get out of their house, to interact with peaple and get their selves uncomfortable in order to get comfortable at the end of the day.

You wanna be confident? you're feelings should be off. Don't take it as an excuse that you don't feel like going to the gym, no one really feels like going to the gym, actually there are peaple who like going to the gym. Personally I don't like going to the gym. Although, I get up in the morning I automatically get myself ready and go to the gym without complaining about not feeling like going to the gym. Because, I know in the end I'm going to feel like a champ. I'm going to be proud of myself and of what I have accomplished in the end.

Get yourself uncomfortable in order to get comfortable. This quote is actually a life saver  everyone should consider this quote to develop their life skills/style to feel success in the end and of course confident. So if you're not comfortable with what you're doing then your body as will is not comfortable with it too. You want to do new stuff like going the the gym constantly five days a week, this is actually kind of impossible. Your body isn't used to going to the gym five days a week, in the end you will get fed up you will stop going to the gym and you're going to get back to zero. So instead of going to the gym five days a week, try to do small things but constantly. It's like going to the gym two days instead of five, then try three days, then four days. But make sure your body gets used to it. Because, once your body gets used to it, it can recognize it as something good as something comfortable.

Get out of your comfort zone. So it's like basically telling you to get out of your house and talk to people instead of setting alone in your room infront of four walls like a freak. As what everyone knows by far, being surrounded by four wals everyday 24/7 could cause severe mental health issues. Like, severe depression, severe anxiety and god knows what else this could cause more. For sure it's going to make you feel less confident day by day, so the solution is going out with friends, or maybe talk to new people. I know this could be hard for some peaple. and I understand that, but sometimes you just have to push yourself through to see new results at the end. You want to be confident, you have to interact with peaple you have to socialize. And most importantly deal with your emotions don't let the shy part take over you while being in a social interaction. Because, thats not what confident peaple does. You just have to be yourself, act like what you would act like.

And lastly when a girl falls in love with herself the whole world falls in love with her. Learn how to accept yourself, learn how to love yourself and mostly how to respect yourself. You don't settle for less you settle for more, no one could ever play you cause you don't let anyone disrespect you like that. Do stuff that brings out your inner child. maybe like, painting, doing make up, doing skin care. anything that brings out joy to you

I am slowly learning what it means to be human.

I am slowly learning how to forgive the past. How to accept that sometimes beautiful things end, that sometimes the timing isn't right, that sometimes the messiness of life gets in the way. I am slowly learning that endings aren't something to be upset about, but rather, I am slowly learning how to appreciate how damn lucky I was to experience something real and hopeful and light in a world that sometimes fails to be soft.

I am slowly learning how to be alone. I am slowly learning how to wake up in the middle of the bed. How to make just one cup of coffee in the mornings. How to hold my own heart, how to take up my own space. I am slowly learning how to stop filling voids with other human beings, and instead, I am slowly learning how to confront the void itself. How to heal it.

I am slowly learning what it means to be human.

What it means to make mistakes and learn from them.

What it means to be both happy and sad at the same time. I am slowly learning how to do the damn work.

How to stop running from what is heavy and uncomfortable in my life. How to take the easy route less and less. How to grow myself, how to be a better person.

Abundance mindset;

Mindset is so important because no matter how hard we try, we will always act out our true beliefs and intentions in the end.

So in order to act out any type of behavior consistently adopting the mindset that authentically produces it is key.

First and foremost, having an abundance mindset. When you have an abundance mindset in dating, you don't get attached to any outcome early on because, simply put, why would you?

; An abundance mindset says if it doesn't work out with this guy, there is always the next guy.

Now that doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't make an effort with the men you're take an interest in. It just means that when you do, it's not going to come from the perspective of lack. Because, when we are in lack, the effort we make comes from fear: fear is losing someone or scaring them off. Fear is that if it doesn't work out with this person, why would it work out with the next one? Or something like a fear we wouldn't meet someone like that again. Being afraid to lose someone you barely even know is not attractive to that person. And the effort you make for them quickly feels inauthentic.

Girls, please don't fall into a male trap. Giving them attention is all that they need from you so that when they're fed up from you they can easily break up with you like you weren't intimate with them, like you didn't do nothing to them and for them, like you didn't sacrifice specific things for them, they will never appreciate you in the first place, because you gave them the attention so that they will think that you're just so weak, emotionally and damaged inside and that you will give attention not just for them and boys after them. To make it short and understandable, they will treat you like an easy victim, and use you for their own damaged self-esteem.

Manifest Tips

Take the time to get crystal clear on exactly on what it is that you desire to manifest. Think through as many details as possible. When you kind of know what you want, you kind of get what you want. Remember, clear goals manifest clear outcomes.

Repeat after me…

I am the woman of my own dreams. I require no validations. My wish is my command. My life is my own, I let it be heard. I am relentless in my dedication to trusting myself. I am insatiable in my thirst for the extraordinary, and I do not settle for the mediocre.