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aspeccharactersoftheday · 11 days

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Miles Hardaway from Just a Bit Dirty is questioning demisexual!

#miles hardaway #just a bit dirty #canon aspec #demisexual #questioning demisexual

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questioning-culture-is · 2 years

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Hello!

I'm having doubts about my sexual orientation, because frankly, I rarely ever find myself looking at someone and fantasizing about having sex with them. Most of the time, I'm just fascinated by how good they look or how great their personality is, and sometimes, I have this flash of thoughts, picturing me and the said person holding hands, kissing, getting married etc. There are also times when I look at someone and get turned on, but those happen rarely, and most of them don't include the fantasizing.

However, I did find myself imagining some romantic, even sexual scenarios with people I've known for a while and developed deep feelings for. The only sexual dream I've had included one of these people...all the other dreams that could've been going in that direction ended up with me somehow backing out.

I know I'm biromantic, but I've been also thinking I might be demisexual. At the same time though, I'm thinking that maybe I'm just scared and careful, as I do have a quite bit of trust issues.

Any kind of help with this would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you for being there for the people who need guidance in their identity, and I hope you have a great day! <3

this sounds like you're probably demisexual!! as to being less trusting, the ace community has always included people who are ace because of trauma or other specific reasons, demiace is no exception to this. therefore you can identify as demisexual whether it has to do with your trust issues or not.

#im always glad to help!!#questioning #not questioning culture #advice #mod t #orientation #questioning orientation #sexuality #questioning sexuality #demisexual #questioning demisexual

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the-anemoi · 2 years

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hi hi hi happy asexual awareness week! especially to those who don't feel they fit quite right

as in. the demisexuals, the greysexuals, those who are questioning asexuality or those who identify as it but still feel unsure anyways. those who are sex positive or sex neutral. those who are sex-repulsed, or those who worry that they think they're not really ace, maybe just allo and sex-repulsed. those who think they'll grow out of it, and those who worry if they'll still identify as asexual later. those who experience intrusive thoughts, those who have other factors play into their identity, those who end up worrying about it because of these factors.

it's okay not to feel confident. it's okay to worry. just think of right now, this week. you're valid. this week is for you, too.

#little personal but. um.#also applies to aros too!!!!!!!! just focused on ace here because. im ace #asexual #asexual awareness #asexual awareness week #ace #graysexual #gray ace #demisexual #aceflux #aspec positivity #acespec #aspec #questioning aspec

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penheadie · 10 months

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a comic based off a shitty headcanon that's sure to get me killed by the fandom

I'm not really one of those people who's waaay big into speculating what character's sexualities are because that's honestly the last thing on my mind, but I just really wanted to draw this before pride is over. I remember Zeddyzi mentioned something about once Stone maybe being demi and I hope to god it's true so that we get some more of us asexuals in the house, but also because I think it would be funny to add to the comedic element of making the most over-simped character in ramshackle be on the ace spectrum as part of the irony.

Ramshackle and it's characters belong to the lovely @zeddyzi

#sketch #doodle #ramshackle #comic #fanart #stone #skipp #vinnie #headcanon #asexual #demisexual #Vinnie would be asking as a serious question #vinnie can't make those certain stoner jokes anymore ig #extra headcanons Skipp is pan/ace and Vinnie is bi thank you #it's okay I swear if Stone doesn't turn out to be ace I don't have a problem with it #don't mind my spelling errors I'm just dumb as well as my humor

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our-aroace-experience · 5 months

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So years and years ago I remember seeing that different ace orientations were connected to ace playing cards. Alloro was the ace of hearts, but I don't remember anything else.

Is that still a thing?

i haven’t seen them around as much anymore but as far as i know they are still used sometimes!

for context, aspec people sometimes use playing cards to represent their identities, here are what the different cards mean

Ace of hearts- asexuals who feel romantic attraction

ace of spades- aroace people

ace of diamonds- demisexual and greysexual, or anyone who isn’t 100% ace or 100% allo

ace of clubs- questioning aspecs

the reason they aren’t used as much anymore is because not everyone who is aspec will fit into these 4 categories, but if you want to use them, feel free!

#our aroace experience #aroace asks #asexual #aromantic #aroace #ace pride #aro pride #ace #aro #questions #demisexual #greysexual #alloromantic #aspec

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gray-ace-space · 1 year

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mini-survey

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moostelid · 8 months

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Noble gases are demisexuals.

We thought they were asexual but turns out they can get attached sometimes.

Helium is the exception, being aro-ace.

#no questions please #lgbtqa #elements #chemistry #eight is the magic number..#asexual #aroace #demisexual #noble gases

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sanyu-thewitch05 · 8 months

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I’m sorry, but the bisexual to asexual(or aroace) train is wild.

More talk in the tags

#I can’t be the only one who’s experienced this #I was literally questioning if I was bisexual for like a couple of months #you could probably find some posts mentioning it #the train went from bisexual to demisexual to asexual to aromantic then to grayromantic #like that is a lot of stops #asexual #ace #aromantic #aro #arospec #acespec #man the pandemic times were wild #aroace

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chrissy-kaos · 2 months

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Would you cuddle with a older black man...

Absolutely. Why not? If a person is nice to me and I like them. I don’t care what race they are. Now age is something because I don’t want to be with a 50yld. I’m sorry. So honestly the there’s only few requirements. Good hygiene, be nice, around my age and be moderately sane.

#demisexual #I like everyone #cuddles #i need cuddles #cuddle me #trans #transgender #trans pride #transisbeautiful #mtf #transgirl #ask me please #ask me stuff #ask me questions #ask me things #anonymous

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thegyusorcerer · 2 years

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I think many people online (especially exclusionists) make it seem as if the lgbtqia+ community is going to come to your house and interrogate you to ask you +1000 questions to confirm you really are a _insert queer identity_ when you decide to use that label. I know it sounds like an exaggeration but many people do believe this is like something you have to be approved of. let me remind you today: you don't need anyone's permission to use a specific label! If you feel like X label fits you: GO AHEAD AND EMBRACE IT! maybe more than one label feel like you: PERFECT! use as many as you want. no labels feel right and queer is enough for now? ASTOUNDING! I promise you, you are more than welcome to use any, all and no labels. No one can decide what suits you better. Only yourself! This has been a psa...

#also a reminder to myself to be honest!!#please reblog for those who need to hear this reminder as well ❤#queer #lgbtqia+#lesbian #gay #bisexual #transgender #questioning #intersex #asexual #aromantic #non binary #demisexual #demiromantic #greyromantic #greysexual #etc #june's post ⭐

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queerism1969 · 4 months

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Your queerness is not defined by the potential for violence against you based on your gender presentation. Sadly, there are queers who believe the thing that makes them queer is the pain and horror they’ve been subjected to. No agency or choice, just violence.

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questioning-culture-is · 2 years

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um, hi.

so, i’ve always been back and forth with my sexuality, and eventually i settled on omniromantic asexual, but now im not sure.? i’ve never really felt sexually attracted to anyone, but today, i was in a dressing room with another girl and i just got this weird feeling? like, i see this kinda stuff online all the time, but when she changed in front of me, i was just kinda?? not processing?? but i dont think i have an emotional bond with her, i mean, we are friends, but we’re not like ghreat friends. i’ve thought about kissing her once, but i always thought that i only liked the idea of it, not actually doing it, but now??

so am i still asexyal? was that sexual attraction, or aesthetic attraction?

am i demisexual? what’s an emotional bond?

i dont know, and i really need help. thanks, and sorry for bothering y’all.

i don't think i can tell you what kind of attraction you experienced from that description, especially since everyone experiences attraction differently. Wanting to kiss someone could be sensual, sexual, or romantic attraction.

being casual friends with someone could absolutely count as an emotional bond. They don't have to be the most important person to you to qualify for that, so it's quite likely that you are demisexual.

#you are never bothering me #questioning #not questioning culture #advice #mod t #questioning sexuality #sexuality #questioning attraction #attraction #questioning asexual #asexual #questioning demisexual #demisexual

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aroacesafeplaceforall · 10 months

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hello, how can I deal with other queer people invalidating my demisexuality?

they keep saying that there is no such thing as an ace spectrum and this really hurt my feelings..

person saying that is a friend :(

Right, now, usually I don’t answer my inbox when tired/after 10pm because I don’t want to say something shitty by accident because I tend to rant when tired but I saw this and now I’m going to so apologies in advance.

This is gonna hurt but that person is not a friend. A friend is accepting and this person clearly isn’t. It doesn’t matter if you’ve known them since you were 2 or 13 or what ever the hell it is, they are not you friend.

Block them, cut them off, get support, talk to others, spread out, meet new people, live, grow, change and hope they do to but remember

It’s not your job to change them. It’s theirs. They got a problem with you? Sounds like a them problem.

Stay safe anon and remember you are always valid

Also I got a good “f u we’re not friend” playlist if anyone needs it

#ask #asks #questions #demisexual #advice #rant #asexual #ace

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grimalkinmessor · 1 year

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Hi welcome to my very tired rant

#sapiosexuality #sapiosexual #cognisexual #i am SO. TIRED.#idc if we get rep but i DO care if we get BAD rep im gonna bite hollywood's ankle and shake it in my teeth like a dog #lgbtq+#my art #grim rants #PSA #i didnt try very hard for the art because im better with words but also i know peeps pay more attention to doodles #so take a bunch of chibi grims have fun #i made this in an hour dont look at me #demisexual #personally im a panromantic sapiosexual #if you have questions plz ask them #i cant promise ill have all the answers bc everyone's experience is different but i will damn well do my best #clown on this post and i will block you so fucking fast your head will spin

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liamyalgia · 11 months

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is it still demisexuality if the “strong emotional bond” is hate, rage or some other insane shit?

#demisexuality #demisexual #genuine question #graysexual

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gray-ace-space · 2 months

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Kind of a mini rant for a second but I feel like that Chris Flemming "was anyone going to tell me?" meme in kind of a fuckton of ways since becoming more aware of just how much ace is in my grayace self

that most people find sex very actively appealing a very large amount of the time??? Like they're not just kinda neutral about it as a default???

That most of the times I've thought "I have a crush on this person" it's just been aesthetic attraction the whole damn time???? Like thinking "oooh pretty"/"Oh no, they're hot" is not usually where it stops for people 99% of the time???

That I don't have amazing self control regarding avoiding teenage pregnancy/ abstaining from sex because of a medication/ not cheating/ stupid sexual purity shit that I was adjacent to bc yay deep south, like my controller was apparently just never fucking plugged in, like it's pretty damn hard to loose a game you aren't playing

Most people find nudity very very very appealing? Like they don't neutral to negative about it??? Like not because I think anything inherently negative about their body I'm just less interested in it naked?? Is that even an ace thing or am I just weird???

Tbh I'm not even sure how gray of an ace I even am bc of all this, like I think there's some gray area, like I've felt some quick pangs of sexual attraction I think??? idk??? I thought the other parts were pretty standard before now so idk???

Like I'm sorry for semi ranting and I know everyone kinda has to figure themselves out for themselves and labels are there to help not define, but like do you have any advice for any of this?

my guy (gender neutral). you are ace as hell.

hahaha no but let me go through these point by point so we can compare notes.

"most people find sex very actively appealing a very large amount of the time" - is that true??? are we sure that's real??

"most of the times I've thought "I have a crush on this person" it's just been aesthetic attraction" - well i get very strong romantic crushes but. any time i say someone is hot i just mean they look cool and i wanna look at them a bunch. maybe some sensual attraction gets mixed in and i like, wanna touch them as well, non-sexually. so. definitely feel u on that

"I don't have amazing self control regarding..." - YEAH. THAT. YEAH. (i was not really deep in the purity culture stuff but as a young teen i was like. what the hell is wrong with everyone. can't they be normal like me)

"Most people find nudity very very very appealing?" - i honestly quite like nudity in a completely not sexual way, just like a body positivity way. maybe it's cause my mom raised me to not be weird about nudity, it's very chill to me and i think most people are beautiful. but i do not have a connection in my brain between nudity and sexual attraction. i do not care. not once in my life have i looked at someone i liked and thought "oh i would like to see them naked". so, is it an ace thing? probably yes

"I'm not even sure how gray of an ace I even am" - this is probably the one where we most diverge because i do actually feel strong enough sexual attraction that i can't mistake it for anything else. it's just that, i think i'm demisexual. so it's for like. 5 people. ever.

are you gray or not? who the hell knows. maybe ur dark gray ace, maybe i'm light gray ace. but i relate to a lot of what you said! it's fucking wild to unpack this stuff. i do not understand allos at all. i'm glad we can agree on that.

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