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youlookkindadead · 2 days

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i've seen quite a bit of confusion about this, so let me attempt to clear things up :

empathy is the ability to feel somebody's emotions as though they are affecting you personally. for example, somebody tells you "my dog died last night!" -> you now feel as though you've lost a pet personally -> you feel grief and sadness just like the other person. not everyone has empathy. it's a trait some people develop and others don't. some have high empathy, some have low empathy, some (like me) have none.

sympathy is the ability to understand and care about somebody else's struggles, even if you don't feel them yourself. so, somebody tells you their dog died -> you realize how this affects them emotionally -> you care about this person, and are upset that they are suffering. not everyone has sympathy either! it's a scale, just like empathy.

compassion is doing something to relieve another person's suffering or make them feel better. somebody tells you their dog died -> you don't want them to remain upset -> you come up with ways to help them feel better, like offering comfort and distractions, or other forms of support. compassion is a learned trait, not something you can be born with like empathy or sympathy. anyone can learn to be compassionate, although some may struggle more with it than others; it's a skill, just like anything else.

however, none of these are required to be a good person. that's a choice you make on your own accord. i hope this clears things up!

#♡ muyang mewls #low empathy #no empathy #npd #aspd #actually antisocial #antisocial personality disorder #actually narcissistic #narcissistic personality disorder #actually npd #actually aspd #cluster b #empathy #sympathy #compassion

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caenid · 3 days

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hey btw u arent a mental health advocate if you use the term narcissist to describe people who were mean to you.

can narcs be abusers? yes.

can their symptoms be a driving force in their abusive behaviors? yes.

however it is absolutely unnacceptable and stigmatizing to further push the association that a TRAUMA disorder is inherently abusive.

i have worked so hard, and i am working so hard, to cope with my npd. i have improved a lot, and healed a lot, and still have a long way to go.

it hurts more than anything to hear my own friends call bad people narcissists solely because they're bad people.

#caenid.txt #actually npd #npd safe #npd #npd positivity #npd posting #narcissist #narcissism #narcissistic personality disorder #actually narcissistic #oh also “narcissist abuse” isnt a fucking thing.

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narcissisticpdcultureis · 2 days

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Npd culture is seeing all those ppl talk about “narc abuse” and “how to tell if ur dating a narcissist” bla bla bla and I’m like??? If I’m dating you I literally love you and think you’re literally so superior to everyone around u and I treasure you for being worthy of me???? I would not abuse or manipulate u ever bc ur amazing and I love you??? Anyone close to me I love with all my heart and would never intentionally hurt them????

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#npd culture is #npd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b

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divinenarc · 2 days

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yeah i get it bpd deserved to have a whole awareness month but we deserved to have only the day of despise and hate on our existence❤️ wow thanks i feel so valid and accepted (I FUCKING HATE YALL. KILL YOURSELVES I HOPE YOU DIE ON THIS "UNFORTUNATE" DAY)

#npd #actually narcissistic #cluster b #narcissistic personality disorder #npd safe #actually npd #narcissisticabuserecovery

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imnotherelmao · 2 days

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plushie dreadfuls are kinda fun but i don’t like their npd one a whole lot :/ not super egregious but not my favourite especially since the floppy eared ones are a lot cuter

so i decided to redesign it as one of the lop eared plushes to see how that would come out! and added some little changes of my own

original:

#idk how viable of a plushie this actually is #but also i don’t care cause it’s cute #maybe the crown has magnets or something? velcro?#or maybe it’s just fixed in place like the second image but the heart is still visible if you look behind it #npd #not imo creature #narcissistic personality disorder #npd safe #actually narcissistic #actually npd #plushie dreadfuls #plushie design #narcissistic traits #cluster b #cluster b safe

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your-favs-are-bpd4npd · 14 hours

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Timothy Rand and Kian Stone from JRWI: Blood in the Bayou are BPD4NPD

art credit: both by @/cryingwyvern on twitter

#timothy rand #kian stone #jrwi smokeshow #jrwi bitb #personal #bpd4npd #bpd #npd #borderline personality disorder #narcissistic personality disorder

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stalekisses · 2 days

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I am normal and can be trusted with the privilege of human connection

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radicallyfucked · 3 days

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Narcissists are hot, NPD actually stands for "Notoriously Pretty Disorder"

#actually narcissistic #npd safe #cluster b safe #cluster b #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #npd culture is #transharmful #narcissistic abuse isn’t real #npd positivity #actually npd #actually cluster b

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solitaryschizoid · 2 months

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neurotypicals will be like "you can't self diagnose" and then diagnose everyone they dislike as a narcissist

#actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #npd safe #actually narcissistic #narc abuse isn't real #npd abuse isnt real #npd

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kitten-forward · 6 months

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doomsdayradio · 1 year

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HELP THE TIKTOK ABLEISTS ARE SAYING NARCS EYES CAN STRAIGHT UP GO BLACK⁉️⁉️⁉️

bro they think we're mythical fucking demons im done😭😭😭

#npd #narcissistic personality disorder #actually npd #actually narcissistic #ableism tw #words words words !!#🧋❓

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kindnessoverperfection · 10 months

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Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND)#the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there'#no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD.#and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them.#again..... fun times

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thecatspasta · 2 months

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Inspired by @arrgh-whatever's post on helping ppl with BPD

Edit bc I forgot to add this: Being vulnerable means smth different for different ppl, something that could read as being vulnerable to you can read as just another Tuesday for someone else

[ID: a simply-drawn comic, narrated by a person coloured-in in pink.

Panel 1: The pink person narrates: "So there's a lot of "signs your ex is a narcissist and how to deal with them" and it's not very accurate. So here's how to actually "deal" with a narcissist from someone with narcissistic personality disorder."

Panel 2: This panel has the heading: "1. Supply." The pink person narrates: "People with NPD have very fragile self-esteem, and supply is what keeps us from having a mental breakdown. Supply can be many things, but often attention and praise are effective. Stuff like "Wow! That's super cool!!" can go a long way." A person is shown saying this to another person, who smiles.

Panel 3: This panel has the heading: "2. Criticism." The pink person narrates: "Oh boy. So narcissists take things as personal very easily. It's because if anyone contradicts our delusions that we have built our entire self-image on, it feels like you are attacking us as a person." There is an example shown, where one person says "hey, you were a bit too rude back there," but the other person hears "You're an awful dick no-one likes." The alternative manner of phrasing is suggested as "Hey, you were a bit too rude. You're cool, but some people took it poorly." The second person in this example thinks "I'm still a cool person. It's not my fault, but I can do things to be better." The narrator continues, "We don't really understand the concept of a harmless mistake."

Panel 4: This panel has the heading: "3. Boundaries." The pink person narrates: "With narcissists, setting down strict boundaries is very important. 1. Knowing we have hurt you because you didn't set down boundaries can really upset and annoy us because the delusions that we can do no wrong and know you best get broken. 2. If you let us break boundaries, it can lead us to see you as "weak" and devalue you. Communication is key."

Panel 5: This panel has the heading: "4. Anger." The pink person narrates: "So people with NPD tend to be prone to anger. This is a defense mechanism, because to us, it's either facing the inaccuracies of our delusions and having a mental breakdown, or blaming something else. We do not mean to lash out; we just don't have the skills to cope properly. You can help by: 1. Letting us express out emotions without judgement; 2. giving us praise or attention; and 3. Distracting us from what angered us." Each example of how to help is accompanied by a small cartoon.

Panel 6: This panel has the heading: "5. Other NPD things!" The pink person narrates: "'Love bomb, devalue, discard' is actually: we are genuinely obsessed with you and want you to recognize us as cool, we lose that obsession and move on, we feel threatened in some way and lash out. We can't really handle being seen as vulnerable. We take sympathy and empathy as pity and pity as you telling us we're weak. Not acknowledging we're being vulnerable and acting as if nothing is wrong can be helpful in these situations. People with NPD have a very warped view of reality. We do not mean to hurt you and often do not realise we have. Remember, this won't work for everyone, and talking is very important."

/end ID]

Ty to @aromanticsky for the id

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narcissisticpdcultureis · 3 days

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npd culture is eventually disliking every friend you make after they wrong you even a little bit

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#npd culture is #npd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b

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dollotron · 7 months

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the overuse of narcissist, psychopath/sociopath being used as an insult in media makes watching basically anything completely unenjoyable. At first it just made me roll my eyes because it negatively effects me, but now i just look at it as lazy and bad writing. Someone in that show is selfish? They're a narcissist. Someone acted aggressively or violently ? They're obviously a psychopath. It's getting really fucking old and boring

#cluster b #npd #aspd #hpd #bpd #narcissistic personality disorder #antisocial personality disorder

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fella-lovin-fella · 5 months

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hey i just wanted to give a shout out to people with personality disorders real quick. your disorder doesn't make you evil, it doesnt make you an abuser, and it doesnt make you unlovable. you're just as deserving of respect, care, and support as people without personality disorders. stay safe, i love you and i hope you have a happy holiday season. we're in this together <3

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