my abuser had brown hair im a victim of brunette abuse :(

i need to stop emotionally/mentally self-harming by going through the "narc(issistic) abuse" tags on various websites. it is deteriorating my already horrible mental health. it just makes me feel like a monster and that i'm bound to be a horrible person because of my trauma response. these people would probably love the fact that they're causing a pwNPD harm and i don't want to give them that, but for some reason i can't stop.

“actually narc abuse is real bc I’M cluster b and it actually DID make me abusive!”

um. that’s sounds like a you problem ngl…

oh my god shut up narc abuse isnt real

SOOOO tired of being called an abuser for fucking existing im just a silly little guy fuck off im not bothering you!!

im not invalidating your abuse or trauma but blame the abuser not the disorder PLEASE? like ill just be existing and whoops! i guess im an abuser now because i have a disorder! like pls, stfu, luv u!

;3

if u have an issue w that send me an ask i wont bite (hard)

I love talking about myself.

You ask me questions about myself? I could spend literal hours happily talking about me.

The thing is that if there was any positive resources for Personality Disorders, we would be able to get better. Instead, if we look up “narcissist help”, articles come up with “how to destroy a narcissist” and “they’re self absorbed, entitled and manipulative”. You look up your disorder and you just get things that articles on how other people can destroy your mental health, just because you have your condition, because of the trauma that caused you to have this personality disorder. It’s like they don’t want us to get better, they just want us to know how we’re horrible. They need people to demonise us, they want us to be destroyed. They make sure that everything hurts us. They expect us to recover then stigmatise the things we are trying to fix. That doesn’t convince us to get better, that convinces us to become the worst version of ourselves.

Narcissists absolutely rock. Hope you guys are ok and have a wonderful life. Sending love and high fives. Don’t let the stupid ableism get you down, you are all special and matter

People being upset that you’re saying bad things about them and their friends is not evidence that they’re bad people

reblog to kiss a narcissist on the mouth (with passion)

to all all the ‘narc abuse’ believers; NPD havers haven’t hurt you just by existing. someone’s npd didn’t abuse you, they did. try swapping out your words, ‘flu abuse’, ‘anxious abuse’. dosent work? does it. that’s because (say it with me) a disorder can’t hurt you, but a person can.

and to all my ‘mean scary narcs’; i love you. you’re not inherently abusive, you’re not a bad person because of a disorder that, let’s face it, was probably caused by trauma. you can be in healthy relationships and you deserve to be here.

when i say “narc abuse isn’t real” i mean the term and the term alone. your trauma is valid and your abuse was real, you’re just not calling it by the right name. that is all. describe the abuse, not the abuser.

Psychological abuse and emotional abuse are two words that have existed for forever to describe non-physical abuse. If you’re sooo convinced that you must label your abuse based on your partner valuing themself over you (which is like. present in nearly all types of abuse), even ‘self-centered abuse’ would be a better alternative. Y’all have so many options and yet you’re still confused when you get called ableist for choosing the ableist one.

in case you were wondering what bullshit the “narcissistic abuse” believers are on they now think being a people pleaser (yet another thing born from trauma just like pd’s are) is equivalent to being “manipulative.” cant wait to see them when they decide that being kind is inherently manipulative (spoiler alert: they genuinely already think this). they no longer understand what the words they are saying mean (if they ever did) and do nothing but cause more harm to abuse victims when they say things like this.

OMFG I JUST ENTERED TIKTOK AND I SWERA TO GOD THIS WOMAN LEGIT SAID “I dated someone who was possessed by a demon, AKA a narcissist 🤪”. Like. What the fuck.

Bro do they…. Do they like actually think we aren’t people? 💀

I’m so glad to be in class discussing mental health and abuse with a bunch of ableists it’s so wonderful /sar