hot take: there is no way that empathy is actually a real thing. you're telling me that when you see someone crying, your immediate reaction is to... feel the pain they're experiencing??? what kind of made up concept is this??? you don't only do 'good' things so people see you as a good person? you just. want to help??? this isn't a persona you put on?? you're just like this??? I am being 100% honest when I say that I thought empathy was a made up concept, and people just used it as a term for some made up mystical ability where you can feel others emotions and genuinely want to help, because it just sounds so fake to me

We love people with low and no empathy here!

Just a reminder that ableism against personality disorders, especially cluster b personality disorder, is alive and well.

Not having empathy doesn’t make someone evil. It doesn’t make them an abuser. In fact, people without empathy are better in certain vital positions. We’re better at being first responders, 911 operators, and other tasks that would overwhelm empaths. We work better in critical situations than empaths do.

Thinking that any disorder makes someone evil is ableist. And when you take into account the sexist bias in diagnosing women with BPD and the racist and classist bias in diagnosing POC and prison inmates with ASPD and NPD? It’s not only ableist, it’s all kinds of -ists. Plus, it’s really rich for someone who claims that empathy is what makes someone good to have so little empathy for people with disorders that are literally trauma-based.

So yeah if you see someone being a dick to people with PDs? Say something. Because they’re definitely not going to listen to us.

I don't know where this "if you don't feel love/empathy you're evil" idea comes from like if you can only be decent towards people if you love them/feel empathy towards them then I'm pretty sure I'm not the one mistreating more people of the two of us

“the way autistic people express empathy can seem strange to others, and they might be incorrectly seen as unempathetic when in reality, the problem is miscommunication” AND “many autistic people have low or no empathy, and talking about this does not promote stereotypes or make us bad people” can and should coexist.

“empathy” is not a synonym for “good person”. some of the kindest and most respectful people I know are low empathy. and lord knows there are high empathy dicks out there.

being a good person is a choice. the amount of empathy you have is not.

Anyways, support people with low/no empathy, sympathy, and/or compassion.

Those things are not required to be a good person, and nobody should feel like those things are a requirement in life.

Can we please normalize some people not having empathy, or having low empathy.

Sorry that the low to no empathy neurodivergent person doesn't understand why they should apologize for your dog dying. Sorry that they don't see how it's their fault. Maybe you should've asked to vent too, because I know your ass didn't.

If you ever want to say "everyone wants-" (sex, romance, friendship, something else), or (love, empathy, something else) "-is what makes us human", stop!

There is someone out there that doesn't want something most others do, or doesn't experience something that others do. Saying something like that is hurtful, and alienating. So don't.

can a character lack empathy without people being like “actually, they have TOO MUCH empathy”. like can we just have characters that don’t have empathy? is that really too much to ask for?

"ugh people with no/low empathy are heartless and evil" don't care + didn't ask + I'm having fun frolicking + you should start to see the inherent beauty in others, rather than your own warped perception of them + change your ways + why are you hating someone for having a literal mental illness that they can't control + you have the option to be a decent human and you choose to say shit like this??

i just think they’re nice

People really need to learn that feeling empathy doesn't make you an inherently "good" person. It's just like any other cognitive process. Feeling happy doesn't make you an inherently "good" person. Feeling sad doesn't make you an inherently "good" person. Feeling angry doesn't make you an inherently "good" person. Hell, having too much empathy can be harmful for people. I know hyperempaths that hate it.

A feeling isn't good or bad. It's a feeling. It's the most morally neutral thing that can possibly exist.

Empathy is morally neutral. It is not good. It is not bad. Stop using it as such.

- Sincerely, the low empathy sociopathic narc that's probably a better person than the last "empath" that read this.

This post is for the mentally ill and ND people who do harmful things. Those who struggle with anger, aggression, and violence. Those who are manipulative, who do and say things that hurt people. Those who do all these things and more - who don't get why it's harmful due to havig no empathy, sympathy, compassion, remorse, etc.

Doing things that are wrong doesn't make you any less deserving of a good, safe, and fulfilling life. It doesn't make you a monster. It doesn't mean you deserve pain or discrimination. It doesn't mean you deserve to be alone, ostracized, and discarded. It doesn't make your existence wrong.

You're still here with the rest of us. You still have needs, wants, and rights. Some of the things you do may not be good or excusable, but you are a whole person. You are a whole person, and you deserve better. And I hope you get that someday, whatever it means to you.

A really dumb vent but tbh you don't have to feel empathy, guilt, sympathy, compassion, remorse, etc. to be a good person. You can feel none of these and still decide to do the right thing. In fact people who DO feel those things and STILL continue to do horrible things are worse imo.