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halleehalfgallon · 2 years

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I'm so glad to have found your blog. I love love love homemaking, gardening, and want to be a mother one day, but nearly every blog on here like that is a tradwife blog. It's great to see somebody like me.

💗💗💗 I really wish there was a way to get together with all of you, because I have felt very unsure of myself until posting my pinned post and having so many sweet messages sent my way. thank you for being the way you are and for reaching out, it means the word!

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queerism1969 · 8 months

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womenstruation · 4 days

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One of the biggest ways young girls are exploited in the global South is via the “house girl” culture. I’m speaking on how it works in Nigeria as that is my experience but I know it happens all around the world.

“House girls” are domestic servants, usually late teens though I have seen girls as young as six or seven, employed by middle and upper class families. They do everything from cooking and cleaning to caring for the elderly and young children and get very little wages. Most times these girls never see a penny of their wages- it’s all sent to their families. In Nigeria, these girls tend to come from very impoverished families living in border towns and often times do not speak the language before being sent to these families that exploit them.

Due to their young age, lack of any family nearby or money, poor education, and Nigeria’s legal system, these girls are overwhelmingly subject to sexual abuse at the hands of their male employers. In fact there is a common trope in media of the “husband cheating with the house girl and replacing the “madam” of the house. And when these men impregnate these girls, they are sent back to their villages in shame while the cycle continues.

They also face lots of other abuse. One of my mother’s friends was a “house girl” in the 70s when she was just thirteen and she was only given mouldy food and left overs to eat for most of her childhood. she once told me of a time where she was so thirsty, she drank the dirty water her abusers had used to wash their hands. I have also seen “house girls” physically beaten by their abusers and subject to horrific punishments- once as a child I saw a very young girl forced to ride in the boot of a car while all the employers children threw their imported backpacks at her.

There have also been situations in which families immigrate and arrange to bring their house girls with them. They continue to abuse them and when these girls manage to break free, they face deportation and further exploitation.

Of course such experiences are usually less common but the hiring of house girls is not viewed as the exploitation it is. Some people, my parents included, seem to view themselves as saving these girls from their lives in the village where they would get married young and live in poverty with lots of children. But how is it saving them to deprive them of education and enslave them? It is said that it is easy to recognise a house girl: shaven heads, old and dirty clothes and a scarily small stature. They look nothing like girls who have been saved.

#radblr #radfem #feminism #radical feminist #radical feminists do interact #radical feminism #radfems please interact #radical feminist safe #this is one of the biggest arguments I have with my mother #she agrees with a lot of rad fem principles but refuses to see this as the slavery that it is #these girls are robbed of futures exploited by their parents and their supposed employers #I often ask my mum that if their life is not bad would she want the same for us #and we all know the answer to that

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nakanx · 8 months

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this is why it’s so important for feminists to talk about motherhood as well, instead of just saying “everyone should be child free” and leaving it at that. this is a HORRIBLE double standard that i’ve even noticed with my parents (my mom works during the day and dad stays home). when my mom is sick, she still does what needs done. my dad, however, hides in his room and ignores all responsibilities. it has nothing to do with who does the majority of the household duties and everything to do with male vs. female socialization.

#male socialization #female socialization #parenting #motherhood #radical feminists please interact #radical feminism #radical misandrist #radical feminist community #radical feminists please touch #radical feminst #radblr #radical feminists do interact #radical feminist safe #radfem #radfems do touch

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neuroticboyfriend · 1 year

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abusiveness and predation is not unique to men. abusive women (and the abuse of men for that matter) are much, much more common than you think. if your support for abuse survivors only extends to women or people who were abused by men, you don't actually support survivors.

so to all the survivors who aren't women, and the survivors whose abusers weren't men: i believe you, and i see you. you deserve to be safe and supported. you are not alone. your pain and suffering matters just as much as others' does. what happened to you is just as awful, and i'm wishing you so much healing and happiness.

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nothing0fnothing · 3 months

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As a young girl in the church I was taught to "respect myself."

We were told it from every angle. Our teachers, our preachers, our parents. "As a woman you have to respect yourselves." "How can men respect you if you're not respectful of yourself?"

I'm not sure why an 11 year old girl needed tips on how to make men respect her, but they felt it was important nonetheless.

So I educated myself and spoke my mind. I wanted to be respected for how clever I was. I asked questions that were thoughtful and well reasoned, I corrected elders when they were wrong and I focused on knowing as much as I could.

They didn't like that.

So I put all that aside, and instead I learned about feminism. I decided I should be respected for how firm I was. I said no loudly and clearly. I made my boundaries known and I reacted loudly when they were crossed.

They didn't mean like that either.

So instead, I put myself in therapy. I wanted to be respected for how self assured I was. I started caring for myself and putting me first. I healed from my trauma and learned how to not repeat old cycles, and everyone who I could, I brought them up with me.

They didn't like that at all.

No, apparently the type of self respect they wanted me to learn was the type where I beleived lies at face value, said nothing to those who crossed my boundaries and wallowed in depression and toxic cycles. But also like, while keeping my shoulders covered or something.

Silly me.

#religious trauma #anti religion #vent post #toxic parents #childhood trauma #feminist #intersectional feminism #radical feminism #feminism #feminism is for everyone

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mandyfem · 22 days

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uhhh I'm not very informed on DIY HRT but from what I've read,it sounds risky and illegal af.

Are they recommending it to minors too? Enlighten me plz

#radical feminism #gender critical #terfblr #trans madness #radblr #radical feminist safe #gender ideology #I saw gendies say that it's ok for minors to secretly take diy hrt and hide it from their parents...

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fromtheseventhhell · 5 months

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Imagine being 9 years old and asking your dad about the things you're interested in doing when you grow up and he's like "No ❤️! But you can get married, have babies, and then maybe your sons can do those things ☺️🫶 "

#arya stark #one of those /wtf Ned/ moments #then people act like she invented misogyny cause she was like /uuuhhhhh no thanks that's not me/#/Arya is masculine/ and she's literally just a child who has interests outside of her patriarchy-assigned role #the way people read this and then demonize Arya for not silently conforming like people expect her to...#that's the ingrained misogyny from being socialized in a patriarchal society speaking babes 😭#cannot stress enough how Arya is just an average little girl and what makes her behavior stand out is their society's strict gender norms #her life + learning almost entirely revolves around the fact that she is being raised to be a wife and people resent her for wanting more :#she is NINE in AGoT and her parents are discussing her refinement because /In a few years she will be of an age to marry/#the way misogyny is explored in Arya's story is actually so brilliant and well-written (+ underappreciated) though #we feel the full weight of how restrictive their society is through her POV and get the experiences of lower-class women too #which is why it's so significant that George wrote her based on feminists who realized they wanted more than becoming wives/housewives #she's one of his key characters who will /change the world/ but people think he's sticking her on a boat bc she isn't feminine enough 😭#thank god he's writing the books and not any of these reductive hacks who thinks misogyny is subversive 🙏🏾#sidenote: would've loved to see this from her POV to get her feelings when he said this cause I'm sure it doesn't match Ned's perception #considering he views her main issues as being stubborn/difficult while we know about the self-esteem issues she has

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liberaljane · 5 months

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💜 Let’s talk about young parent stigma - the idea that those expecting or parenting under the age of 25 are inferior or unworthy of our support & resources. Pregnant & parenting young people are often seen as society’s “failures,” or “unfit caregivers” - which is just not true.

Digital illustration of a large diverse group of young people with their children and pets. Among the crowd is a father wearing a shirt that reads, 'we deserve to thrive and not just survive' with his child on his shoulders. In the center is a young person and their baby holding a sign that reads, 'Center the voices of expectant and parenting youth.'

#art #feminism #feminist #illustration #young parents #stigma #reproductive health #reproductive rights #parents #new parents #young parent stigma

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halleehalfgallon · 2 years

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Hello ☺️ I hope you’re doing alright. Are you okay with lgbt+ folks interacting with you?

Sorry to have to ask this, I know you’re not a tradfem but I couldn’t find anything and I don’t want to be jumpscared down the line, or make you uncomfortable.

oh goodness, absolutely okay with it! I’d have to cut ties with many a loved one if not! I am very much pro-lgbt+, which is one of the many reasons I am so ✨ infuriated ✨ to be lumped in with tradfems/tradwives. I’m sorry it isn’t more obvious — admittedly I don’t actually talk about that much on my blog besides what I’m up to, clothes, and ADHD 😅 — but yes, a million times yes.

#ask #anon #anonymous #not a tradwife #progressive homemaker #feminist homemaker #feminism #cottagecore feminist #not a tradfem #feminist parent #old fashioned #the old ways #apron style #cottagecore #prochoice homemaker #prochoice parent #ally

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samwisethewitch · 24 days

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Something I've been thinking about lately: In conversations about being intentionally child-free, I see a lot of people talk about how much they resent constantly being told that they'll change their minds someday. And yeah, that sucks. When you tell someone that they'll regret their choices or go back on them someday, you're telling them you don't trust them to make their own decisions. And that's a dick move.

But what I see left out of a lot of these conversations is the fact that some people do change their minds about kids, and that is also okay.

People change. Our priorities and our values change. Someone identifying as child-free at 20 and then realizing at 30 that they actually do want to be a parent doesn't invalidate other people's decision not to have kids. It doesn't even invalidate that person's previous decision. They're growing. They're changing, and that's okay. Healthy even.

When I was 18, I felt very strongly that I would never marry and never have children. For me, this was a reaction to growing up in a religious environment where women were second-class citizens, and what little autonomy/independence single women had immediately went away when they got married. And once you had kids? Well, once you had kids, your personal life was officially over and your identity now started and ended with being so-and-so's mother.

If your only model of marriage and parenthood is a nuclear family where the husband is in charge and makes all of the decisions while his wife does all of the housework and childcare and not much else, OF COURSE you wouldn't want to get married or have kids! My thought process at 18 was basically, "Well, I want to have my own money and make my own choices and have an identity outside of being a mom, so clearly the family life isn't for me."

I'm 25 now. I'm married. My husband and I both kept our own last names, and we maintain separate bank accounts. I have a job that I'm good at, and a lot of people know me from my work. I still have my own money, make my own choices, and have my own identity. None of that went away when I got married. All that's changed is that I have a partner and best friend that I decided to do life with, and we had a ceremony and signed a piece of paper to make it official. We're not quite at the having kids stage yet, but it is something we both want someday.

Me wanting marriage and kids now doesn't invalidate my decision at 18. When I was 18, focusing on my education and career was absolutely the right choice for me. I needed to be able to focus on myself without considering how it would affect a spouse or kids. Eventually, I realized marriage and parenthood can look a lot of different ways. I realized I can decide what they look like for me. I don't have to follow the model I grew up with. And I realized I do want raising kids to be part of my life, just in a way that looks different from what others might expect.

This is a process a lot of people go through, especially women and femmes. If you're in the middle of it right now, just know that you're allowed to change.

And of course, a lot of people don't change their minds. A lot of people who identify as child-free at 20 still don't want kids at 30, 40, or 50. I've met people in their 80s and 90s who never had kids and don't regret that decision. My point here is that some people changing their minds about something doesn't mean it's not a good option for other people.

(And, let's be real, unfortunately a lot of people go the other way: they think they want kids until they have them. That's way more complicated because now there's a whole human person involved who is dependent on them for care and this definitely deserves its own post, but the best advice I can give is if you're young, you need to give yourself time to figure out what you want before committing to anything.)

#rambles #child free #childless by choice #married life #feminism #feminist #trans inclusive radical feminism #trans inclusive feminism #terfs fuck off #terfs dni #religious trauma #ex christian #exmormon #exmo #exmo stuff #ex catholic #mine #parenting

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radykalny-feminizm · 2 months

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#all options are perfectly valid #i get why you might want to be totally a crypto #i mean we get death and rape threats here on a daily basis so #as for me my parents and siblings are not familiar with the term but they know im a feminist #my friends know and we agree on most things #and even when we don't agree we're normal about this #when i meet new people I'm not exactly talking about radical feminism right away #it depends if they're die hard TRAs or normies #but I don't meet a lot new people anyway lol #and I work from home so I don't talk with my colleagues that much and we dk about each other's views #radfem #radical feminism #radfem safe #radblr #radfems do interact #feminism #radfems do touch #poll #tumblr poll #radfems please touch #radfem poll #ask radfem #question to radfems #terfblr #terf safe #crypto radfem #rad and proud #radfems please interact

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tradgirlmom · 2 months

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Being a Trad Wife is probably the best thing you can be for your children.

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If you want to create a better place, start with raising better people, and protect them as much as possible.

#tradfem #feminine #mumblr #sahm #girl mom #traditional femininity #housewife #loves #motherhood #feminist #pro women #pro children #parenting #controversial #unpopular opinion #trad wife #a lot take it for granted

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suchacomet · 9 months

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“the locked tomb is about love vs. freedom” “the locked tomb is about death” “the locked tomb is about the dangers of codependent relationships” “the locked tomb is about climate change” “the locked tomb is about identity with regards to the soul” yeah sure but above all else. the locked tomb is about bodily autonomy

#idk just thinking about alecto and the parallel tamsyn muir draws between fighting climate change #and the body autonomy fight of the feminist movement #the patriarchal control and harm john exerts on the earth in a paternal patronizing attempt to save it #the byproduct of john eating the earth being an eve-like creation of alecto in the model of the pinnacle of white femininity #the way that necromancers keep their body when becoming lyctors except for their cavaliers’ eyes and consumed soul #the difference between ianthe fucking with harrow’s hair glands vs. harrow growing ianthe a new arm #the resistance’s plan to take down john being contingent on nonconsensual sex. wake despising carrying gideon for nine months.#the creation of paul being implied to create a new body #nona being able to read all body language and understanding people best through how they physically are #john making kiriona’s body ‘perfect’ by making it impenetrable (untouchable) and heartless #harrow puppeting her dead parents’ bodies for years. john raising ulysses and titania as dead puppets as his first act of necromancy #nona being able to speak with varun and empathize with his grief and anger #idk. bodies and planets and personhood and the violation of all #the locked tomb #blah.txt

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lettucedloophole · 7 months

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good theory is not good because it sounds like it makes sense or could be the case in some world, it's good because it accurately describes the material reality of oppression. i feel reactionaries like terfs sometimes forget this going on their bigoted tangents-- the statistics don't back their arguments, and they never have.

#feminist theory #radical feminism #trans inclusive radical feminism #ex-terf #ex terf #tirf #anecdotes also don't cancel out the broader narrative socially #for ex. while one parent might prefer their kid was trans instead of gay– this doesn't mean the disproportionate backlash against trans peo #suddenly doesn't exist #context is crucial too. could be wrong i've heard malta has better laws in place for trans people than women atm #but this doesn't erase the places where trans people have worse legislation against them.#and legislation =/= perfect conditions

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feminist-fog · 2 years

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TW: child abuse, manipulation, brainwashing, misgendering, suicide mention, cult mentality, etc.

You can see how unhappy and forced their smile is. Their “mother” (i use that term loosely since a true mother wouldn’t do this to their kid) is stalking them and monitoring their every move.

I hope they manage to escape this. I remember how unhappy and suicidal I was when dealing with my internalized queerphobia.

This is why the trans suicide rate is so high. This is why we need more resources for trans youth. This is why we need to talk more about trans kids.

This kid is going to either grow up to escape the terfcult or is going to commit suicide. It’s a sad but true reality that needs to be talked about more.

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